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my bf and i were going to have sex and it was going fine until about 2 minutes in when i realized he wasnt hard anymore. got him hard again, same thing happened. he says hes not nervous sooo what other reason could this be besides him thinking im gross and ugly
forgot to include he's a virgin
>>17262317
He might be lying. Or he thinks you're gross. The only way to know for sure is to talk to him and post nudes to verify your ugliness.
more background: ive had sex with a lot of guys but i dont think im that intimidating in bed. i was his first everything, hes really awkward. i can really see this lack of sex ruining our relationship in the future
/Adv/, what's up with women in their 20s and egotistical behavior? For the past few months, so many girls I met and had interest in at that specific age range had a huge ass ego about things and kept showing subtle signs of interest, and when I started texting them they back away and then expect me to do things for them on the side to boost their popularity and reputation on Facebook and crap. How do you get them to reveal their true intentions and stop asking you to like their photos and stuff?
Not all girls are like that. A lot of them are, true, but not all of them. Just look for the ones that aren't, it's almost impossible to make someone realize they're not the center of the universe when they already believe they are.
>>17262334
True, true. How can I assert my dominance over text (without coming off as a dick) then to let her know that she doesn't always have to be the center of everything?
>>17262316
Its bait, they just want to use you, ignore them
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How can I be less embarrassed at summer day camp? I am a first-year counselor almost done with my first week and I still can't bring myself to be silly and goofy and all that stuff unless one of my other staff members starts it off. I'm also fairly socially awkward around the kids.
My supervisor has tried to encourage me, but it still isn't happening and I worry I'll be branded a lost cause sometime soon. At this point I'd say I'm clearly in the wrong line of work, but it's late enough into the season I want to at least make through...
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just be all the counselor you can be.
in the Army
>>17262329
I appreciate the effort, but I'm looking for some specifics.
How do I deal with the fact that while I don't really enjoy other people's company I still want to cared for? Does anybody else feel this way? For example, I'm feeling lonely so I make an account with a dating site and start looking through profiles. Literally nobody interests me, I cannot see myself enjoying an evening with any of them. The only ones that I find somewhat interesting are those that I share hobbies with but everything else about them I find uninteresting, I might as well just enjoy the hobby by myself. Wtf is wrong with me?
So basically you are me.
I have 2 people I can tolerate and one will be moving soon so I will have to meet new friends. It's so difficult for me to make any new meaningful relationships.
>>17262284
So how do I fix this? It's making me miserable.
I have three very close friends. One's a bro who I talk about guy stuff with, another is a female-to-male trans who i discuss deep emotional shit with, and the last is a heterosexual female who i disturb the peace with because we're both introverts until we feed off of eachother's presence.
Honestly, thats all I need. This triumvirate even makes romantic relationships pale in comparison.
tl;dr keep a close circle of friends who you're joined at the hip with.
Hello /adv/,
My boyfriend gets extremely upset at me when I tell him that he doesn't love me and that I don't really trust him when he says that. Since I have autism, I don't really understand why it hurts him so much. Can anyone explain why?
>>17262201
>Can anyone explain why?
because telling people what they do or don't feel is condescending and belittling.
>>17262201
>when I tell him that he doesn't love me and that I don't really trust him when he says that
so when your boyfriend does say he loves you you're pissed
>I coerce bf into saying he loves me
>I'm mad when he does
It's like he must be crazy to be mad about emotional blackmail.
>I have autism
yes, yes you do
>>17262209
This. Don't presume to know what someone else is feeling.
That's insulting under any circumstances, but this is even more painful, because you're telling him that whatever he is doing or saying to convey his love for you isn't reaching you. This second part isn't your fault, but it should explain why it hurts him so.
Why do people think it's okay to ghost their bf/gf/friend?
Like, why are people such pussies that they can't just say to the person "I don't want to be with you/be friends with you any more.
I've seen this happen a few times in my recent months on this board and it just happened to me.
>Why would someone see it as okay to do this, and how does the person on the receiving end appropriately react to this bullshit?
>>17262192
>Why do people think it's okay to ghost their bf/gf/friend?
because they're immature, and they don't want to deal with it, so they don't.
>how does the person on the receiving end appropriately react to this bullshit?
react? just let it go.
>>17262192
There usually isn't an acceptable reason for it. The only hypothetical situation I could think of that could justify it would be me finding out my boyfriend cheated, so I cut contact, but even then it's a bit shitty to just drop the person like that
The person who reacts should be more mature and just move on from the cunt. If the person doing the ghosting is that immature and cowardly, they're not good enough for the receiver anyway.
>>17262220
>Just let it go.
Not OP, but wouldn't that make them feel more compelled to do it again because it verifies that it works? Idk what you could do to react that wouldn't make you just as childish as the ghoster tho
Why do psycho couples always manipulate people and how to spot one before your xbox is ripped off?
So, how old are you?
>>17262173
What happened OP??
Recently it seems as if my gf is trying to encourage me to hook up with other women.
She often jokes about me having other girl friends and that other women want me. She's even said to me she wouldn't care about one time flings. She would only hate it if it's some I see regularly.
Based on the above you might think she just wants me to stray so she has an excuse to do the same, or even leave, but she's super into me. Always wants to fool around and is generally glued to me 24/7.
I don't understand. Please shed some light on this....
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Crazy chicks are crazy? You got 2 choices... Wait and see or fuck her sister.
Maybe its a fetish of sorts.
"Jokingly" ask her "Do you want me to cheat on you?" or something like that next time she does it.
OP, i'm in the same predicament. Not sure what to do, especially when she mentions she wants a friend of hers to suck me off. I get the feeling we're fringing on open relationship territory, but i'm not sure i want to go there.
What is the most effective way to talk to your room mate about cleaning up after themselves and to not be a fucking slob.
My other room mate and I have decided this guy has either gotta clean up or fuck off. He's leaving pots+pans in the sink for days and the bathroom sink is full of his damn hair. Not to mention other issues like leaving a broken down car of his in the car port taking up a parking space "cuz he's fixing it".
Obviously I can't get angry, and I don't want to go down to his level and become childish and threaten to tell...
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Hey anon. Is the guy prone to bouts of anger? Any mental illness? Autism?
Its very relevant.
>>17262202
No, he's a chubby little fellow. Haven't seen him get worked up about anything. Regardless, i've got about a foot in height on him anyway.
>>17262137
It only takes one person to ruin a share house.
Kick him out or move out.
He won't change, slobs never learn.
>inb4 gaslighting
>inb4 argument from stone or other fallacies
PART 1
I'm 33 years old and I spend most of my time trying to figure out why I was violently attacked, falsely accused, called inferior, victim blamed, taunted and labeled with a brain disease.
My family violently attacked me, telling me it proved their superiority.
They kept telling me I didn't have common sense because I questioned their presumptions, which were always ideas they picked up from tv and other fictional media,...
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PART 2
My therapists laughed at me, waved their hands with their eyes closed, called me a liar, stating they KNEW I was just a clueless stereotype. They would accuse me, write down their accusations, and then point to them stating that proved I said something, completely confabulating the entire time.
The nurses and other staff would burst out laughing at me while cycling in fallacies and accusations, laughing at me when I disagreed with their allegations and their claims that their ideas were the only possible answers. They made notes on my medical files that lead...
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PART 3
Foster care -> Bullied -> Labeled A.D.D. -> Held Back/Segregated/Drugged -> Labeled with Anxiety/Depression -> Labeled with Bipolar I and II -> Labeled Paranoid -> Labeled PTSD -> Institutionalized where they lied all over my paperwork
What's your question?
My girlfriend of a year and a half acts up whenever she thinks I might be talking to one of my good friends who happens to be a girl.
My friend and I both are in committed relationships, and both live in with our SO's.
I don't even try to hide anything, my message notification has a lengthy preview.
What happened today was after work (I work 7a-5p) I was exhausted, so I went to the bed and passed out. She comes home soon after from work, and then begins telling me about her day and everything. My phone buzzes with a notification, and I ask her to look...
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>>17262078
girlfriend, yet living with her.
Get engaged you muppet or stop leading the poor girl on.
>moving in with a girl like that
>dating a girl like that at all
Talk to her and be up front. Lay down the rules and expectations. If she can't handle you having your way, bugger off.
I met this wonderful girl on tinder about a week ago. She messaged me first and we kind of hit it off. She said I sweet, we would flirt back and forth, say encouraging things to one another, have banter with one another, it was bliss. We had our first date last Tuesday walking around downtown. We ate, walked, talked, played around. I think we both had a great time, or at least I hope she did.
While waiting at the bus stop, I think I made a mistake by saying I would love spend time with her again soon and offered to go on a second date with one another. She ask what I...
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>>17262036
Next day, I didn't want to come off as annoying by texting her too much while she is at her internship, so I sent here an encouraging messages like "Hope you are having a good day!" and shit like that. She has started an accounting internship about a week ago, so it is taking a ton of her time already I believe. No reply back, or anything like so until about 8 hours later. I didn't try to think so much of it, but I just sent one other message the next day, today, saying 'keep up the good...
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You've gone on one date.
You have not even kissed her yet and you are sending her encouraging messages throughout her day?
That is the reason in my opinion.
>>17262111
I thought more on this. I should be giving her more space and i'm only just being selfish.
Maybe some people don't want to kiss on the first date out of respect? And i'm just trying to be nice, that's all.
I think I fucked up, my parents found a bunch of gay pictures on my phone and are flipping out about it what should I do?
Time to come out of the closet, I guess. They'll have to accept what you are at this point. No place to hide anymore.
"accidentally" leave a bunch of straight porn lying around for them to find
or get a beard
>>17261969
>I think I fucked up, my parents found a bunch of gay pictures on my phone and are flipping out about it what should I do?
What's one piece of advice, for life in general, that you would like to pass on to the rest of this board and whoever stumbles upon it?
Everything in pic related.
no one is forever.
>>17261952
I get where this guy is coming from in #5 and 6 but how does that actually help someone that is depressed? All I can really gather is you should be ashamed for not "manning up."
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So I went on a first date with this girl, and it went really great. I asked her out for a second, because she said she found me refreshing her interest in dating
and she came clean and told me she's in a LDR, but they're in an "open relationship" and still wants to see me.
I really like this girl and felt a pretty good connection, but I'm not sure what to do here. First of all, being a cuck isn't very appealing, but also I sincerely like this girl after a date and a few weeks of texting, I feel pretty good about her. I also would feel...
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>>17261892
If you're doing the cucking, I don't see the problem.
Technically he's the cuck op. He was already in the relationship, and then you come along and make him a cuckold. All because he wanted and open relationship, he's a beta cuck
What really gets in the way is jealousy and ego. Open relationships can be great and people can be super comfortable with them if you do it right. Worrying about who is 'cucking' just fucks it all up with ego shit. Just enjoy it and deal with the fact you are sharing her.
