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Should I live in a big city with little to no friends and support? Or move back to a small town with a lot of friends and family?
Big city has a lot of opportunities for me, but my life is in shambles right now due to ending a serious LTR.
Feeling really alone. Starting a temporary job in big city, living with roommates I don't know who don't speak English and are just generally fucking gross and annoying.
What do?
Why not?
Try it.
>>17264573
Try what? Looking to make a decision one way or the other.
I've lived in the big city for around two years now. Feeling really burned out and wondering if it's worth it to stay here right now.
Big city with no support will test your fucking soul. If you are ambitious and don't let anything get in the way of your goals, you will prosper.
If not, you will just become one of the sad and lonely souls trawling the dark corners of the Internet until 3am every night wondering why you don't just put a bullet in your skull because no one loves you and it wouldn't make a difference.
>Cute co-worker gets moved to my shift
>I've always seen her around, but never really had the guts to talk to her before
>Notice she's reading some manga, strike up a conversation
>We get along for a few days
>Eventually the topic about good places to eat is brought up
>She finds out I don't go out much because I don't know the best eateries
>She...
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>>17264463
Do not ask her out!!! Don't you realise strongest relationships start as a friendship? Be cool and be patient. Play her game, go places she wants you to take. Find out what type of person she is, what she wants in guys. Be the guy she wants to date but dont show her toyr attraction. At one point she will fall for you but that comes with time. As long as you're not showing even the slightest sign that you want to date her.
She must fall for you and only then you can go for the kill
>>17264502
How to become a beta orbiter: the post
>>17264534
I've infiltrated vagina's by being her friend for a good while. I've fucked girls who were friends before.
Just don't let the moment pass you.
How do I get a traditional wife?
>>17264454
Cosplay conventions.
>>17264454
Go to an agriculture school in the middle of nowhere.
>>17264471
Those are the opposite you faggot.
>brother's a cunt
>mom's a cunt that always takes brother's side
>"Anon you should totally come on a vacation with us!"
>turns into a shitstorm, fights and a gigantic headache, basically a repetition of every time I've been with these faggots on vacations before
Feels bad not having a decent family you can rely on and actually respect.
>>17264451
Oh yeah I forgot to mention how my shitheel brother cancels plans last minute after I already took time off for his dumb ass and paid for the hotel. I know you're supposed to "love your family" and all that but mine are truly cucks and horrible beings.
>>17264451
You sound like fun
Op, you missed that you're a cunt too. Must be genetic.
Seriously, someone tell me an example of an interaction that landed them smashing that perfect girl. I can pull 7's without issue, and even 8's on occasion, but elite-tier girls are not something I've experimented with yet.
Is the style of conversation almost the same, or do you have to play your words in a different manner? Please give any success stories you lads have had or general advice!
>>17264380
You can't tame a 9-10/10 its just plain impossible. You need to wait until they turn 30 to actually try to get her as your gf. They know they have the upper hand in rhe game and are going out for as many dicks as possible. I had one and she was one out of million but she had to go back to Cyprus so the only chance I had to tame a 10/10 faded away. Shit happens man, just date 7-8/10's for now...
>>17264380
They're just girls--as insecure, self-doubting, and desperate for validation as any others.
>>17264415
This, kind of. They're people too - they just get treated differently because of how they look. If you treat them exactly the same way as you treat the "7's and 8's" you'll eventually see success
t. someone who seduced and dated one using the method described
I have a girlfriend from Japan and she is very strict against smoking weed. I'm not a stoner, I do it like three or four times a year. However, she suggests to stop because it "changes my brain" and what not. Everytime I try to tell her that it is not that bad if you don't smoke everyday or every week she just blocks away and changes the topic. How can I convince her that weed is not a hell of a drug and less dangerous than alcohol?
>>17264303
Mate I smoke weeds occasionally and nothing's wrong with me
why do you care to convince her?
Why not just stop smoking weed?
No, I mean really ruined.
5 years ago I was in a car with some friends who were smoking weed, no big deal. Naturally, we were pulled over and all charged, it's just the way of things.
I went on a STET docket, which essentially means the judge thinks it's a waste of time to sentence me, I don't plead guilty, he just says "don't get in trouble."
And for 5 years, I haven't, but, to this day, that black mark still costs me job interviews.
How the fuck can I ever fix this?
>>17264278
How the fuck does a misdeameanor stop you from getting jobs? It literally can't. There's something else stopping you
>>17264413
This. Also, even if that was the reason you aren't getting a job, you're being melodramatic as fuck. People have come back from wayyy worse than that. You didn't "ruin your life" - at worst you just caused yourself an inconvenience
>>17264278
I once got plastered and sexually assaulted my sister because I hated myself and wanted to die but I wanted to get laid before I died.
But I ended up I felt bad as she screamed when I tried to pull her pants off so I stopped.
I got kicked out of my house.
I have a mental evaluation in a few hours to determine if I should still be receiving SSI. I'm worried they won't think I'm mentally ill "enough" because I'm "smart" and "well-spoken".
The problem is, I spend most of my days pulling myself together as much as possible and trying to seem as normal as possible. I get deeply embarrassed and ashamed of my depression, anxiety, inability to focus and think, and OCD. I haven't been on medication for years because I went to a psychiatrist who made consistent rude comments...
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Take some meds and be a productive member of society, holy shit.
Or if you're so "smart" work from home or something.
you should be on meds. take your meds, they help
>>17264256
I didn't say I was smart, I said people cal me that.
I already know I'm mentally ill and need to be on medication. I'm asking for advice, not for someone to state the obvious.
So /adv/ I was showing my gf a meme and when I went to my memes folder on my phone I forgot I had just moved some random pic of this blonde chick with her tits out last night. Deleted now so don't ask. What do?
>>17264191
What exactly is the problem?
>>17264191
Think nothing of it, because clearly it seems like she don't give a shit.
Case closed.
>showing memes to anyone outside of here
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>>17264195
OP here, so essentially she saw it and left my house to go pick up her sister, as she got into her car I said "something is up", and she said "yeah it is, I need time to think about it"
My girlfriend is making me choose between she and my best friend who is a girl, we broke up recently and I started making out with my best friend and now my (ex) girlfriend wants to come back and so do I but ahe told me to stop talking to her
Wat to do m8s
Don't go for your girlfriend. You broke up for a reason and there's a risk she wants to come crawling back now that she's heard you're messing around with your friend.
Make your friend into a girlfriend or friend with benefits or stop hanging out with her if you want another relationship. No sane person is going to be cool with you being friends with a girl you fooled around with - would you be cool dating a girl with a good male friend she kissed?
>>17264148
>someone you broke up with once already
>your best friend
Sounds like a no-brainer to me. Personally, I'd take an ultimatum like that as an insult.
>>17264198
I mean I know but she was my best friend too and I know her for 4 years
Is online dating a waste of time? Been messaging for weeks now. Got a single message back. Go to message average girls abd sometimes their inbox is full.. FULL!
Why is online dating so shitty if you are a guy? I can't even get that confidence boost that women get knowing dudes are after them.
Is online dating even worth it if you are a guy?
No it isn't worth it
>Spend zero time learning how to talk to girls
>Wonder why you suck at a medium where that's all you can do
Gee whiz
A friend of mine in his 30's got several matches, though he was using like 10 sites. I believe he met a few irl. Crazy bithces according to him.
I'll definitely try online dating when I can be fucked to take a selfie etc.
Be aware though that 95%+ of the users are men. Don't pay for the sites
I want to open a shared bank account with my fiance. We live in different countries and were not married yet. What's the best way to do this?
If it's not a bank and just some site that might be better.
>I want to empty my bank account to a scammer, and then keep doing it over and over
It's probably easiest to just keep sending "her" money orders.
Ugh, no. It's a guy, I'm a girl. We've met already and I met his parents and lived with them. He's not a scammer.
>>17264041
Why would you want to do that if you are not married or don't even live in the same country?
So the fiance and I have been considering kids for some time now. Problem is, she's Asian and I'm white.
We've agreed that we both at least want a daughter or two, but on the issue of sons, we both don't think that this might not be the best idea. As you can see from places like /r/hapas (i dont browse reddit but i know this) White male Asian female sons usually tend to have major problems with identity which can manifest adversely throughout their lives.
Given that I intend on continuing my family name, how can i convince her to use a surrogate...
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>>17263964
Talk to her about adoption. Can't have your cake and eat it too faggot
>>17263964
> that photo
vomit.jpeg
what an abomination
>>17263967
I don't think I'm the type to raise someone else's kids, that's just not who I am
I fully intend on having the whole cake, and eating it, faggot.
Except I have never considered myself gay/bi. I'm a 26yo male, she's a 26yo female, I met her online. She wants the one guy in the group to meet me/determine if I would work/inspect my penis with his mouth. What the fuck am I supposed to do? This girl is too attractive and I'm interested in this group she has going on but it's very possible testosterone (aka my penis) is clouding my judgement. I know that to do this I will have to kiss this guy..at least haha. Fk I need opinions quick though.. Who would do this, who wouldn't? Why? Has anyone here explored...
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I like group sex, but im not gay/bi so i'd Tell right away the girl that im not interested in getting my dick sucked by a guy.
Bumping for intetest
If you're nowhere on the bisexual/gay gradient, then kissing a dude and getting blown by one is just going to be a turnoff for you and you'll probably not be able to get hard. Just tell the girl that you're only interested in fucking her - you don't have to compromise your sexual preferences just because she's hot. If she's not down for that then too bad for them.
I want to be less autistic. I am currently quitting anime and videogames, or at least reducing them very much. This implies stoping everything related to them, like listening to OSTs or related humor, figurines, etc.
I was planning to focus on literature, movies and movie soundtracks, regular music, lifting, sports, arts and craftmanship, dancing, and social activities. What should I do in order to become less autistic? What hobbies should I take? What behavior should I learn, what face patterns, what else?
>>17263622
Listen to Radiohead and death grips :D
You should stop denying yourself your hobbies to impress other people. No one likes a fake. Unless it's detrimental to your life, I.e. you're neglecting other things, then it's not an obsession or a bad hobby to have.
If you wanna try other hobbies, that's great. But quitting something you enjoy that's not harmful is dumb imo. Especially if it's done to appease other people.
>>17263632
This, OP. There's nothing wrong with delving into new interests, but giving up what you enjoy sin't going to change anything in your regard.
If the goal for you is to become "less autistic", then what you should do is surround yourself with people you perceive as "less autistic", regardless of the activity. People adapt the behavior of those around them to some extent, so try to find people with traits you admire and put yourself in situations where you can bond and interact with them.
