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>be acquiantance with someone
>hang out couple of times
>find out we have a lot of things in common
>become bros
>hang out everyday
>one day, feel the friend distancing himself
>mfw i annoyed the friend with my friendship
>no more friends
this has happened with couple of my ex-friends. Why does it keep happening? whats the root cause?
I dont think the people have as much in common with you as you think.
are you an autist? I have lots of things in common with autists but my goodness i cant ever befriend the same people who share my same hobby in wh40k.
>>17263268
Not the op, but why? Surely as long as you can talk about other things besides warhammer you could share friends who share the hobby.
>>17263304
i absolutely cannot survive the amount of memes that they literally talk about in real life.
or all the anime references they do. or how they are lol so randum.
they are prisoners to the owner of the tabletop store. they come in weekly and spend +50 on toys from their mothers allowance at 30 years old.
they are literally the physical manifestation of social rejects. id rather not befriend them for more than a boardgame or two.
I walked out of my job during break, with no intention of coming back and I come to /adv/ to ask you what are things to do before I kill myself? I fucked my first hooker tonight and that was over rated and I'm factory resetting SD cards and shit what else is there to do?
>>17263225
Don't forget to solve the Riemann Hypothesis on your way out
>>17263225
Really decide if you want out, or if your just trying to survive. There is a difference you know, and as much as it may feel like you just want to die, you might just be looking for a desire to live.
Seems like you've started adventuring through life experiances though, so maybe it times to commit social suicide.
have you considered going on a walk about?
>>17263225
>factory resetting sd cards
for a refund? gonna go for a second round of hookers and blow? nice.
A friend of mine did some stuff over time that I, instead of confronting them about it, I repressed. That is until several months ago when they something that set me over the edge...
Long story short, I snapped and said some pretty nasty things. Our conversation got real heated real quick and we haven't talked since. I know that we both are prideful enough to take this to the grave, but I'm trying to work on that part of myself.
I think this apology would be a leap forward for changing who I am, but also would ease my conscience.
I'm planning...
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>>17263129
First of all, I don't know how severely this has impacted your friendship, but be prepared to apologise without the expectation of your friendship being repaired.
I would say that you should invite them out to talk about it over coffee, face to face interactions are better for this sort of thing. If they don't pick up, I wouldn't leave them the apology through voicemail. That's tacky desu.
Good on you for wanting to get over your pride, anon.
>>17263141
>In person
I'm not even sure this person would pick up the phone if they saw I was the one calling. There are also a couple unfortunate details that complicate that narrative, but I think that a phone call/voice mail may be my most personal option.
Is it that bad? are there any other ways to go about this?
>>17263141
Also, I have no intention of this person accepting me as a friend again. I just want to get this off my chest.
so where i work we ask people if they're gift card members. this really cute girl comes in during the morning, I ask her if she's a member, she says yes and tells me her name. it was a pretty busy day, and I forgot what her name was. towards the end of the day, I look at the past transactions throughout the day and write down the names of about 20 people that came in around the time I thought she came in so I can look her up on facebook. my female coworker catches me, and I make some shit up and tell her the manager asked me to write down the names of everyone I checked...
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What was your motivation for looking her up?
>>17263127
You are ultra creepy. What are you going to do once you find her on Facebook? Try to talk to her?
>>17263130
>>17263131
I thought she was really cute. I just wanted to look at a photo of her. wasn't going to friend/talk to her or anything.
The more I hear about my boyfriends past the more irritated and anxious I get. We've been together 10 months and so far I've learned he..
>fucked a bunch of whores in high school
>been in bands where he fucked groupies
>been part of a gangbang
>has had fwbs
>was hooking up with someone a month before we met
>once fucked someone's wife(claims he was immature and wouldn't...
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Also when we met he told me he was "not into hookups". Which was clearly a lie.
Definitely something to watch out for, considering you said he was still on this streak a month before y'all met, so he doesn't really know being single.
Doesn't mean focus on it, though. Someone like you would also be perfect for someone who's exhausted their sexual drive.
He lied to you, and doesn't respect his body and sex the way you do. You have a major difference in values and honesty.
Im a short 5'8, and I've met a wonderful person who happens to be an inch taller. I can tell she's interested but its so awkward for me and clearly she doesnt care. Is an inch really that big of a deal or is my inferiority complex in overdrive? Reassure me /adv/, I'm an alpha, I can own it.
It's not a big deal mate. I'm like 5'7 and have dated girls taller than me.
It's the short ones who make a fuss about the guy's height. The tall ones usually don't care all that much.
Taller girl is non-issue. Inch difference in hight is next to nothing. Relax and go for it.
/thread
Try, but don't be too disappointed.
Has anyone worked crazy overtime to put their girlfriend through school? I dont mind cause I love her but she is constantly complaining that I dont take her out anymore. Is there any way to get her to understand im always broke cause I pay all her bills without being a dick?
How's the sex?
No, she'll be mad no matter what.
>>17263105
She'll understand if you hint at it. It's honorable what you're doing anon.
If she brings it up just in passing say it's because you work so hard and are always tired because you think you guys need the money
>be me
>join Army in 2008
>this sucks
>get out in 2011
>go to college for 2 years, almost get to Asso. degree except math was too hard for me
>this sucks
>become security system technician
>this sucks
>quit after 8mths (absolute shit company)
>get CDL to drive...
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>>17263079
>>living at home
I meant living at home with parents.
http://www.aol.com/article/2011/10/04/six-skilled-labor-jobs/20039165/
Googled in 2 seconds.
>>17263079
It's okay anon
Feminism makes it okay to let the woman wear the pants in the relationship
Just tell her you'll be Mr. Mom
Does being single too long fuck with your ability to have a relationship? I am approaching the five year mark since I properly dated somebody and I don't know if it's good, bad, or neutral.
For clarification, by single I mean rigidly, exclusively single. No sex, no one night stands. Went on two first dates this past spring, but other than that absolutely nothing substantial has happened to change this.
Rusty
>>17263061
It doesn't. You being autistic causes you to go long times without dating making it seem like the length is the cause of your troubles.
One bump
I'm in love with my best friend. No contact is almost impossible because she always wants to talk to me and tell me how important I am to her. I told her how I felt about three months ago and when I told her about NC she got mad and upset. I really don't know what to do. I feel like I'll never find anyone like her. Should I just NC without warning her? Stick around and just stay in love with her? Please, help. I'm such a pussy and I know it. Just, if anyone has suggestions or similar stories/experiences they can share that'd be great. Thank you.
Date another woman, see if that dislodges this girl's jam.
>>17263039
Hard to find a girlfriend but not a bad idea. Thanks.
Best way to "get over" a girl is to find a new girl who will you give a hard-on
Okay /adv/ so this is the situation, my ex girlfriend lied to me about being on the pill way back in 2014, we only fucked without a condom twice and she had a new boyfriend fairly quickly after I broke up with her, we were only together for a very short time (because she was fucking crazy and I realized this just after we fucked without a condom) fast forward a few months and I see she's pregnant, she never said anything to me, so I casually brushed it off, we were only together a really short time and I didn't even know at what stage the kid was in development in. However I saw a picture of her yesterday on Facebook with her kid and the kid kinda has similar features to me, same eye colour, nose, ears, even the fucking chin is similar to when I was a kid. Although it doesn't have either of our hair colour, which is making me think it could be the guy after. The kid looks around 10 months old, which would make sense given the time we fucked as well.
Again she's never contacted me or said that the kid is mine, I don't want to drop her a message after not speaking to her since we broke up nearly 2 years ago and say "hey weird question, is that kid mine?" but the girl is fucking insane and if that kid is mine, I'd kinda want him to have some chance in life by having at least one stable parent.
What should I do /adv/? Should I just ignore it and if she ever contacts me, we take it from there? Or should I drop her a message and find out what the fuck is up with this situation?
Demand a DNA test first
>>17263027
Hey I wouldn't take her on her word. Of course I'd want a test. But if it's mine, I'm pretty fucked.
Ignore
Feeling like shit recently. Haven't been eating much these last few days, been feeling like nobody cares about me, been feeling like a huge fuck up. I can't even talk to my friends because I feel like they don't give a shit about me.
I'm such in a shitty place right now mentally that I can't even will myself to play video games. What the fuck do I do?
Go outside in the sunlight
It happens to us all. Currently wish I could punch my depression in the face because it came back as soon as I was trying to better myself again and make friends.
Do something time-consuming that will take your mind off the bullshit. Drawing or making a fire is what I do, and there's a bunch of small things that you could waste time with. Helps to not think for a bit, clear the mind, and rethink with better thoughts.
Normies are shit. Learn to live by yourself and don't depend on anyone.
Invent something to distract yourself until you die. Maybe you will enjoy some sport, music, anime. Only you can discover what pleases you.
What is a good hobby this summer that I can invest time in ?????
Badminton
Miniature golf
Learn to dance salsa. Not only will you gain a valuable life long skill, but you'll meet a lot of girls.
Fuck the above fags.
One, go to the gym. Build muscle. It feels good and it looks good. No reason not to.
Two, choose an art. Drawing, sculpting, painting, poetry. Anything.
Body and mind. That's the end goal.
Go the gym, come home and cook yourself a good meal, then do something artistic.
A man who does that is complete.
So yesterday I posted about getting friendzoned by a girl.
Tl;dr version: hung out with a girl a few times, been talking to her for a little bit. Things seemed to be going well until she texted me that she's not interested in dating/hooking up but that she likes me and still wants to get to know me. I ended up just saying "eh that's disappointing" and not saying anything else.
HOWEVER, I don't really know 100% what I want. I'm not sure if I will just end up wanting to be friends with her. I feel like just cutting off contact makes...
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Slowly back out of her life.
>>17262981
Well yeah that's easy. I could just leave it where it's at and probably never hear from her again (since if I don't try to be friends I'll come off as some douchebag that just wanted to fuck hers (which I've done to other girls but didn't want to do to her)), but I feel like if I do want to be friends or work something out of it in a long game style, I need to say something now.
So IF I wanted to distance myself while preserving some kind of emotional connection, what should I do?
>>17262993
Slowly backing out is the best way to preserve any connection.
I'm 20, have a minimum wage job, go to college. I feel like a loser though and I don't know why. I'm the best at my job and have a 3.7 gpa. Why do I feel like a loser, help me /adv/.
>>17262897
You're probably comparing yourself to other people too much
>>17262899
Yea, I tend to do that. I feel that if I'm not the same as them and feel like life is passing me by. Is this a rational thought?
>>17262908
A lot of us feel the same way, believe me.
I always compare myself to others and if I feel inadequate, I get pretty down.
It's probably because when we were younger, we were told that we could be anything we wanted to and that we were special. But we really aren't. There are a couple billion people in the world, comparatively there will always be someone better than you.
There will always be someone who is smarter, better educated, better looking, richer and happier than you. Always.
Come...
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