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/adv/ I absolutely hate my body and everything about it. I'm 20 years old and terribly baby faced and short (5'8). People often confuse me for being 16 years old or so due to how terribly young I look. It's even so bad that I've been rejected by women for looking too young or only being cute and not 'handsome' or 'hot'.
How can I make myself look older?
Beard (not neck beard) and go the gym. And go drinking when you are at your legal age
>>17265594
This.
But usually baby faces can't grow beards.
I would say stop focusing on the negatives, lots of woman love younger looking guys. Hell i had salt and pepper hair at 21.
>>17265532
>20
>but people think you're 16
Try being almost 28 and having people think the same about you. And there's hope you can grow a full beard; I cannot.
anyone here suffer from Brain fog, poor memory, cognitive dysfunction, and maybe some neck/head pressure?
I have pretty bad depression, but it certainly doesn't seem like depression could debilitate someone to this extent physically and cognitively. I have no family history of MS, I don't have a dog and haven't been bitten by a tick in my life so probably not lyme. General blood test all came back normal and I have an MRI appointment which will likely come back normal like everything else. It's getting really hard to function on a day to day basis. Hopefully anyone has went through similar and can shed some light?
>>17265465
Depression, lack of good sleep, general anxiety, any blood pressure issues, etc. can all affect memory, not to mention any family history of cognitive problems such as dementia or Alzheimers Disease. Hopefully your doctor can get to the root of your memory loss--GL!
>>17265465
ive been there. do you have trouble eating because of it? does it feel like you are off balance?
is it non stop? i had this issue a few months ago. the answer(s) surprised me.
>>17265515
yes yes yes and yes.
Please go on
I have a female friend from college, we have known eachother for almost 2 years now but it wasnt until a few months ago when things started getting more close between us.
Thing is, we go for lunch sometimes, and just yesterday she invited me to study in her town, and I stayed there for the whole day (lunch in her house included and meeting her parents included).
I like her, but I dont know if its a good thing to tell her my feelings, what should I do?
Maybe you should invite her to the movies or some shit, and get a kiss from her.
SO like while watching a scary movie or something you can hold her hand, and it goes from there.
Just make a move, faggot. It really is that simple. Fuck, half of you nerds would have no reason to post on this board if you just learned how to be handsy with chicks whenever you hang out with them in high school.
Establish physical contact. The more you make touching a normal thing between you and her, the easier it will be to fuck her.
So physical contact? What about being open about what I feel for her?
Hey /adv/,
Lately I've been feeling a bit bummed out. I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm turning 22 in a few months. And I've only finished highschool. People advised me to travel, and so I did, hoping to figure out what I want in life. But I'm still pretty clueless, it seems like everyone around me has their shit figured out but I haven't. It's getting to a point where I get up and do nothing but play guitar and drink scotch. Has anyone been through something similar?
>>17265408
This is life man.
So many people make these exact same threads. Chains and direction of school are off and now you get to decide what to do for yourself. but what is the best choice? There is none. You just do whatever man, but i recommend you keep busy.
>>17265419
But I've been busy with picking up instruments. I just have no idea how that will get bread on the table.
>>17265408
most everyone feels this way. most people dont know what they want to do with thier life, they simply have no choice but to pursue something. its the reason so many people com here and complain about their shitty jobs or shitty major.
they werent as 'lucky' to be in your situation where you can just wake up and do what you do for a couple of years.
people take a job cuz a job was offered. they choose the course cuz it seemed the most interesting, even if they have no real experience with it.
and one thing you gotta realize is that people are known to change career fields up to two times in their lives. you dont need a single purpose in life. its okay to find a job that is mildly okay and spend your free time trying different things.
why are you sad, anon?
>>17265404
i have a cold.
I'm bored
>>17265404
My wife was promoted to manager and now i am a stay at home dad. My kids are too young for meaningful conversation and i am lonely.
Hello /b/, I've been wondering for a while on how to approach this as my mother and step-father (whom i live with) aren't very supportive of my career choice. My father was an air force engineer and at a very young age got me interested in planes. Since i could open my eyes i have been playing around with flight simulators (my first being microsoft flight 2002), making paper models of planes, and learning instruments and such. I turned 17 last month and recently started taking flight lessons but they have been very costly, around 150-160 every single hour! My mother and step-father won't or can't help us financially either. I've thought about joining the US Airforce and somehow take my training there, but even though i am a U.S. Citizen, i am turkish, and my mother hates the idea of my serving someone else. We are a lower-middle class family and i recently quit my job for an injury i got from wrestling. I am truly frightened that perhaps because of our wealth or lack of it, i may never get a chance to be a pilot.
Any thoughts on what i should do would be greatly appreciated. I should clarify that i am not asking for any money, just cheaper ways to get results. I want a job i truly love doing, not a fucking desk job.
not /b/ just a copy and paste error, my bad.
So trump is right, THEY ALL KNOW!
>my mother hates the idea of me serving someone else
>I am a US Citizen
You'd be serving YOUR country. You're an American. But, only join the military if that's something you actually want to do.
Also, you have a few options if you decide the military route is for you.
-go to college and do ROTC for the Air Force, Navy, or Coast Guard and try to get into a pilot program.
If college isn't feasible at the moment
-enlist in the Air Force, Navy, or Coast Guard into a Aircrew MOS. do your time, get out and use your GI Bill for flight training.
Also, this thread is more relevant to your question.
>>>/k/30298418
Hey /adv/isors,
>be me
>pop into /soc/ once in a while to check up on /shut/
>come across a Skype thread last month and posted mine bc I was bored af that night
>meet some girl, we bullshit for a bit and she seemed pretty cool so I kept in touch
>we start talking everyday, sometimes all day bc were both friendless anons with a lot of spare time
>talking to her last night
>"I don't know why I never told you, but I'm not 18"
>pic related
>have
>h-how old are you then?
>17, like 3 months away from being 18
We had a bunch of really sexual convos, and now I feel dirty. I'm 20, am I being autistic or is this really a problem?
>>17265370
As long as she isn't sending nudes. You should be fine.
Nope
>>17265370
if she told you she was 18 there's really nothing you could have done, there was no reason not to trust that. just cut any sexual contact from now on though. glad you see a problem with it, not many guys would.
I have kind of been friends with my brothers wife sense they got married... I knew her when they were dating but didn't really bother to hang out with her then. We are all very close in age
We occasionally hang out, maybe once every week an we'll go smoke marijuana and either watch a TV series or a movie at their house or my condo, an sometimes have lunch together. My brother knows this and he didn't bat an eye or care at all, it was great for him he told me because he got some time to himself for a day. He would actually ask me to ask her to hang on his days off so he could be alone on his days off.
A few days ago me and her were in my condo watching Nightcraweler drinking vodka together and smoking marijuana and like an hour and a half into the movie we wound up having sex on my couch. She initiated it by grabbing my penis though my jeans and moving her hand back and forth then kissing me. But I don't not take responsibility too. I wasn't so drunk I couldn't tell her to stop or make her stop. But To be honest It was the best sex I've ever had in my life.
She is incredibly beautiful and i was drunk and I didn't stop her. We both made a big mistake doing this. She told me the next day to never tell ANYONE.
Not sure what to do....
Do I tell my brother or just keep everything quiet and make sure it never happens again. An maybe stop hanging out with her too
>pic sorta related. She looks like a homely alanis morissette
Pretty sure you fucked up big time bud.
>>17265392
Oh I know.
But do I ruin a 8 year marriage and 11 year relationship with his wife and him or we both keep our mouth shut, an i stop hanging out with her. I know if i tell my brother this, he will forgive me but divorce his wife. An they have a child together
fugg
>>17265363
> we were just watching TV and accidentally had sex
this is what you sound like
>i dont not take responsibility too
nigga this is the dumbest double negative ever. you take full responsibility. you cant say 'SHE MADE THE FIRST MOVE SO ITS ONLY A LITTLE MY FAULT'.
Tell your brother. she cheated with you shes probably cheated before adn will cheat again. apologize and beg for mercy but go in understanding that he might hate you forever and that you will accept that, but that its not fair for him to be deceived by the two of you.
dont try to blame her. dont blame yourself. blame both. apologize, beg for mercy, be understanding if he doesnt wnat to see you, and ask that he leaves her too cuz if shes willing to sleep with you she'll sleep around more.,
Does drinking more or less than half a bottle of whiskey every night make me an alcoholic? If so, given that fact, what do you think of heavy drinkers who are still functional? I have a decent job, I'm clean, maybe get in trouble from boozing once or twice a month. Usually from fucking the wrong woman.
Not asking for advice on quitting drinking, just want some input on why there is such a stigma to my situation.
>>17265316
>Drinks half a bottle of whiskey per night
>Asks 4chan if he is an alcoholic, even though he already knows but wants approval from neck beard trolls.
No senpai you're not an alcoholic, you just have a hobby of gulping down half a bottle of whiskey every night.
>>17265316
>Does drinking more or less than half a bottle of whiskey every night make me an alcoholic?
yep
>If so, given that fact, what do you think of heavy drinkers who are still functional?
depending on how long they last before they unravel, impressed or indifferent.
>just want some input on why there is such a stigma to my situation.
people don't like people who are not like them.
>>17265327
Hahaha, I guess you're right. I'm probably an alcoholic because I think if I were to stop drinking suddenly I might freak out or get sick.
>>17265339
>depending on how long they last before they unravel, impressed or indifferent.
I've been drinking this way for almost 8 years now. Only thing I've noticed is I've gained a little weight and I could've bought a nice car with all the money I've spent.
I am 27 and it feels like life is passing my by. I know people my age who are married with kids while I am alone and bitter.
I feel like I have no options for women. As a male at this point... All that's left are women with kids or obese.
Please... Help. I feel like missed everything. No teenage love. No nothing. I feel bitter and angry.
>>17265282
comparing yourself to others is a waste of time.
Just do what makes you happy and try new thing to help you grow now and again and life is cruise control.
Hmm, I dunno man. Sounds like you need something drastic. Career change? Forging a new hobby or identity? A life reorganization?
You need to get out of your current pattern of life and loosen up. 27 is still young as fuck in the long term of things.
>I know people my age who are married with kids
People that have children at ~25 years old end up miserable. They basically traded the years that offer their most freedom away for a child that they likely are struggling to sustain financially.
>All that's left are women with kids or obese.
While not entirely false, there are women in the same position as you. Just gotta keep looking.
I am 17 years old and some of my friends are real fuckboys. They try to get on every girl even if she is 3 or 4 years younger. I don't know how to deal with them. The funny thing is that they don't get laid with one of these girls ;D.
Pussy is pussy. If anything you look like the fuccboi.
>>17265242
>horny teenagers being horny teenagers.
m'kay
>>17265242
You should just point out to them that their approach is not working at all and they need to switch it up. I'm sure you know some guys that actually do have better luck with women, and I'm guessing most of them play it a lot smoother. Point this out to your friends, and suggest that they're making asses out of themselves and fucking up their reputations by throwing themselves at every girl that walks by.
Girls talk to each other about this shit, your friends are gonna end up "blacklisted" if they aren't already
how do i have a rich social life?
i'm 25 and in my last year at uni. i've never had a girlfriend. i don't really have what i would call "friends" anymore (the ones i did have i've grown apart with due to geographical distance and the relations i have with people at uni are all superficial). i'm friendly with a lot of people but i rarely hang out with them. and if we hang out, it's rarely especially fun. i'm very "shy" in that i'm always afraid i might be too pushy or bothersome to others - so i always keep a distance from people i meet. it really takes time for me to feel comfortable enough around another person to suggest we'd do an activity.
i'm sick of spending all my life alone in my room. i really want to meet people but it always seems like everyone is so busy with their own life and already has a social circle. i don't want to be in a position where i'd bother others busy with their own lives.
i feel so stuck. what do i do?
>>17265210
>i'm sick of spending all my life alone in my room.
get out of your room.
Do shit that seems dumb as fuck even if it seems boring. Just anything out of your room.
When i was in college i said fuck it and went to a beach party bbq thing done by the students. Really dumb shit and boring. flash to forward 2 girls i just met taking turns sucking my dick underwater for fun.
Anywhere is better than sitting in your room to improve your social life.
>>17265229
i would never be able to go to a private party/gathering i'm not invited to. i can't be the person who is annoyingly trying to find new friends at a party. even if at the end of the evening he turns out to be a cool guy
>>17265283
meh usually garbage excuses. Assume worst result, refuse execution.
Everything in life that helps you grow requires being uncomfortable.
>>17265177
I've been wondering about this site that offers preloaded debit cards with £2k on it do you think it's legit?
>>17265194
buy the cheapest one you can and see what happens.
[spoiler]Of course that shit ain' legit[/spoiler]
>>17265194
Hard to tell, you need to find the version of the hidden wiki which verifies which sites are shills and which are legit.
Okay lads. I know how to handle my own shit quite well, but I am absolutely stumped. Before I ask for the advice (obv why im on /adv/) here is a bit of backstory.
>enter my gf
>was in abusive relationship for 3 years
>guy was a complete cunt
>she loved him to bits
>eventually learnt he was bad and broke up with him
>also, he took her v card
So anyway, a few months into our relationship she starts chatting to this guy again. Now I'm not an insecure or controlling lad, i would understand if they were good friends, but this just makes no sense. He treated her less than dirt, why even would she want to speak with him. I got a bit worried and she promised she would never speak to him again.
>now been dating 7 months
>starts acting weird
>"Whats wrong?"
>Nothing anon...
>"I can tell when something is wrong"
>Theres nothing plz stop.
>"Is there something you should be telling me?
>... no....
Few weeks later
>gf has been acting weird
>"Ok enough, I love you, please tell me whats up"
>Im talking to him
Ask her why, she said shes sorry for breaking our promise. Claims she just wanted to see how he was doing, she doesn't see him as anything but a friend. How can you see him as a friend when you hated him for so long. I ask what they talked about. She doesnt want to tell me. Deletes the chat. Wont tell me anything because what they talked about will "hurt my feelings".
Eventually she admits that they talk about my and her current issues. /adv/ what the fuck do I do. I love this girl to bits, and I dont want to be controlling, but in my eyes shit like this makes no fucking sense...
Am I being controlling? What do...?
>pic not related
Op here.
I was told that what her and her ex talk about is none of my fucking business by her. I know I seem controlling but he was the opposite of a good boyfriend, this is a complete turn in attitude for her. I am shocked and lost as to how her abusive ex suddenly takes priority over me, when she claims I am the "best boyfriend shes ever had".
I end up quite upset (Yes call me beta blah blah blah.) She profusely apologizes and reassures me I did nothing wrong. I ask her if this means she will still be talking to him. "Yeah probably, its not a big deal".
>not a big deal
Before you say I am insecure. fuck. This guy would choke her, put his cigs out on her. He treated her like shit.
She's talking to her ex and telling you, her boyfriend, to fuck off when you pry.
Stand up for yourself man
>>17265148
And then I am told its none of my business what she talks to people about.
>she broke her promise
>its her ex
>what does she have to hide
In my opinion I have the incentive to know whats going on, don't I?
>argue with girlfriend
>tell her that she barely returns any of the affection I show her
>she responds with "I don't owe you anything"
How do you even reply to that?
360noscope the fuck out of there
>>17265092
Man you such a beta. She doesn't even deserve to be your GF if she said that.
Difficult to respond to the truth.
You should be affectionate because you want to be affectionate, not as some sort of banking system to receive affection in future.
Let it cool off, drink a pineapple and mango smoothie so your cum tastes good, fuck her, move past it, live happily ever after in Rotterdam, etc.
