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>texting a qt girl over a few weeks
>we seem to like each other, we have multiple-text-long convos with each other
(This isn't the sort of thing where we met online and never actually met irl, we know each other from school, and used to hang out at lunch)
>I say we should hang out again some time, she says she likes to go to the park and a bookstore
>no actual solid plans made, but she said she'd be free next week
>think I'm being a little too pushy, I'm the one who started the last few chats, decide to wait for her to text me
>that was a week ago, no replies since
Did I fuck up? What should I do? I don't want to make her feel pressured to hang out with me, but I also don't want her to think I don't want to.
Also;
If I mange to fix this, how do I make it clear to her I want a relationship? I think she might only think of me as a friend, but I'm not sure if it's because she doesn't want a relationship, or because I haven't really made it clear what I want.
Thanks for any help
Bump. Anyone?
I'm a total n00b with relationships, but even I can tell you that you should hit her up again. Hooking the fish is half the fight, reel that bitch in. Try to send a text that doesn't pressure her too much ("You still free or will our trip to the bookstore happen another time?" or something).
>>17268651
Just text her out of the blue again and ask her if she'd like to hang out
Double text is still okay, but never go beyond a triple text
So sometimes, I get some really fucked up thoughts of me killing myself or another person, for some fucking reason
I don't know but lately they've just been coming in my brain and storming in and I just feel fuckign awkward, how do I stop having such thoughts, is there something wrong with me?
>>17268638
Express them through a murder simulator game
I'd suggest picking up Dishonored or Assassin's Creed Black Flag
>>17268644
I've played assassin's creed
Will ArmA 3 Iron Front mod with firing squads work?
do you think this is ok treatment by the way or will it fuck me up even more
>>17268652
Freud would say you're sexually frustrated
I bumped into a car last night. We exchanged info and went to the police station. It was closed. Guy said he would go back in the morning. He did. The cops told him to take care of it ourselves. He wants me to pay 200$ to take care of his damage and so that he doesn't contact insurance.
I didn't see any damage but I didn't have a camera and it was dark.
Should I pay ? He wants a check but should I insist on cash?
If I contact the insurance company will they automaticly put it on my record and up my rates.
It was my fault.
I have no idea what to do. I've been bumped a few times before and I just say no worries.
,it happens and I let it go.
Advice!
>>17268636
Stop bumping into fucking cars
Every action had an equal and opposite ect, ect.
How much damage is there to you vehicle?
>>17268636
I'd probably pay the man. It was your fault. Now you know to take photos of all car accidents in the future so no one can scam you like this. He could go smash in his tail lights and since you're already admitting fault, the insurance company would up your rates.
Pay him, it's $200, and just not that much in the long run.
Not entirely sure why you'd care all that much about how you pay him. Technically a check would be better I think so you have some kind of evidence of payment rendered.
Hey /adv/
This girl is really fucking bothering me but I don't know what to do. I'll try to keep it short:
>good friends for two years now
>she fawns over me a lot--at the very least I know she wants to keep me around because she genuinely enjoys my company
>fall for her, of course
>she leads me on, but she drops (trust me) obvious clues that she wants no relationship
>at the same time she treats me as close to a boyfriend as you can get--she stole me away to talk to me last time we hung out in a group of friends, she hardly spoke to anyone else, breaking touch barrier and the like
>this happens often, it's obvious there's that sort of chemistry between us
I actually made a decision on my own a while ago. I decided that she just wanted attention from a boy but wanted no commitment for her own reasons, which would be fine if I didn't develop a thing for her. So I decided to cut contact. I lasted a solid four months of ignoring regular calls from her. She didn't give up /adv/. And when I finally broke the silence, she was just happy to speak with me and joke around, no bullshit or drama. It kinda broke my heart. She was like a puppy that didn't even know it had been abandoned for a while. I feel like it's selfish to rip away a friendship she cherishes because I'm too much of a bitch to get over her.
Will my feelings and frustration eventually fade? Should I tell her to cut any bf/gf behavior out? Ignore again? Or just suck it up and realize that this is a third-degree friendzone?
Thanks guys, I appreciate the help
>>17268617
She may have broken the touch barrier but she'll never break that autism barrier
Bump
You'll stop being so concerned with your romantic feelings for her if you find some other girl to get romantically involved with.
I'm 21 living by myself and outside of work I dont really leave the house. I havent had friends since 12 and I really don't know what im supposed to be doing at this age outside of my job. I need general life advice anything from hygiene to social skills because I am completely ignorant.
Fuckin' hell OP. Where to even start?
>>17268549
hey man you're living on your own and working a job, you're about 10 steps ahead of most anons here.
>>17268554
Dude i will take anything like a greedy shit
>>17268557
Thats nice but i need more
Is it possible to be friends with someone who disagrees with you politically? I have a childhood friend and since we've grown up, we've had very different opinions on feminism and what not (they can come off as outright radical sjw sometimes honstly). I don't think they're a bad person and I really want to stay friends but I've had several friends before where we begin to disagree with each other on those fronts and they'd get mad at me and in some cases, even successfully manipulate me into hating myself (I'm obviously not friends with them anymore though). I know the whole "never discuss politics if you want to keep friends" argument but it's impossible not to discuss politics with anyone in this day and age anymore. Pic related, I shared it on facebook and they commented about gender neutrality being good and something about me "stroking my male ego" or something along those lines.
>>17268548
Leftists are a disease and should be purged
sure, people have all kinds of friends. I would never be friends with anyone I disagree with, but people do it all the time.
>>17268548
I was you a couple of years ago. Even worse. I would pick fights with any sjw I saw, fighting the good fight.
But after some point, you will realize that just like how you are prone to them trying to change your opinions, they are prone to you as well.
So first off, congrats on being a fucking idiot and posting that 4chan shit on facebook. Don't you realize that people on FB don't even get the joke? Plus, of course, its possible to avoid politics.
How do I avoid it? I simply say it. " I don't discuss politics, to be honest" and they will respect you for that. and grow some balls and hold your ground when they try to push you for more.
None of my new friends know my political standing, they don't know if it for trump or for Hillary or for sanders (rip).
TL;DR: don't be a retard, feminism and all these new liberal stuff has become very sensitive. It is as taboo as somebody making fun of Jesus in the medieval. so keep your fucking mouth shut and read 48 laws of power.
My family has had an exchange student for one year now, a girl of 18. I stumbled some hidden pictures on my fathers laptop, and they seem very shady. They show her sitting on the toilet and smiling nicely at the camera. I've censored her face, so you can get an impression. The question if they've been screwing each other. I can understand he is tempted, because she looks good. I know they've had the house for themselves at times, so it's not like they didn't have the opportunity.
How should I approach this? Confront them? And If it proves to be true, what should the consequenses be? If my mother gets to know, I can technically cause a divorce. At the same time I feel she has the right to know. And I suppose the organization that arranged the student exchange in the first place forbids this kind of behaviour.
>>17268542
you should inform your mother, it's very possible that he's forcing her to do these things in order to stay living there.
Aaand the other bathroom pic. She seems in a good mood, though. Would she really smile that way if forced to pose for the camera?
>>17268570
>>17268542
probably your dad's side chick, it doesn't seem like forcing and if it does, well they will admit it.
>hey anon, you're hot
>H--hi
>oh what? You're cute why are you so awkward.... Bye
>see another cute girl
>decide to be direct and make a move
>introduce myself
>"lol you're a fuckboi get away from me"
>sulk home from the bar
>go on tinder
>bang a random desperate slut
>few empty inside afterwards
>never texts me back anyways
I'm fucking done. Milennial women can go get fucked.
>inb4 you are the problem
Strength is the law of life. I'm pissed. I'm going to take my strength and anger and go on a raping spree and make my mark on these whores one way or another, this is me taking life by the balls and working for why i want. YOLO.
Give me 1 reason why I shouldn't wreck havoc on society.
what are you, 12?
>>17268443
You'll pull out your dick, she'll laugh at it, stammer through the giggles "I can't believe I was worried about this, haha ^_^" and you'll be too humiliated to get hard. There's your reason.
Really, piss off, your big complaint here is that you got rejected by a whopping two girls and then got laid but you're so hot that you were expecting them to treat you better? There's folks on here who've never had sex, fucking some random girl off tinder would make their year. You'll find a sweet girl who actually likes you before too long, stop whining on 4chan.
You take home the cringe award
Work related issue anons. Sorry for the long read but it has me frustrated and I don't like feeling that way about work.
There's this fucking cunt who I work with and even though she works at a different site she still manages to piss off everyone who interacts with her.
She often makes mistakes and other people have to fix them in front of clients at the last minute. She's usually 'too busy' to get back to her clients and when they get through to me instead all they do is complain about her. Bad impression of the company because of her incompetence.
So I changed departments and got a new role. I monitor the existing process that has been in place for over a decade, and change it so it's more efficient, among other things. When I was getting trained by my predecessor I noticed he would sigh whenever her caller ID came up, and he wouldn't answer. So it's not just me who fucking hates her.
We had a meeting once when she and her manager flew to our site. I presented the new procedures I was working on and asked if they had any suggestions. She asked to change a couple of things so that my clients would come to me directly instead of wrongly thinking they can go to her.
I made the change and she is going against it doing things that are meant to be done by me and fucking them up. Again... clients are having bad experiences because of her and it reflects on my department. I asked her to follow procedure but now she completely keeps me out of the loop with things that involve my department and it ends up falling on my head at the last minute.
My department superior also hates her. She ignored a request from him recently and ended up creating a whole weeks worth of work to get pushed aside to deal with the issue she created.
I don't want to act like an immature unprofessional cunt by actively ignoring her to make things more difficult, as she is doing to me.
I just want her to go away.
What do?
>>17268416
That was a funny rant op, alas you'll have to go higher up to make sure she doesn't fuck anything else up because if she screws up as consistently as you say then there must be some way to get rid of her through management
>>17268464
Yeah, it's a super delicate situation if I do that.
My direct superior doesn't seem to know how to handle confrontations very well.
And this woman has been with the company for well over a decade while I have for just a couple years.
In the past with other jobs I haven't been afraid to rock the boat and call people out because those jobs sucked. It never got me anywhere except hatred from upper management. This job however.. Apart from this bitch.. I really like it.
A small part of me wants to try to resolve things with her directly but I'm afraid she won't change her ways. Pretty sure she she's me as a threat even though I've changed departments.
What if I put a dead animal in her mailbox or something nasty like that to freak her out? Lol..
>>17268416
pro tip.
Keep playing catcher for problem droppers. They blame the catcher not the dropper.
I fantasize about punching, torturing and humiliating people, it doesn't matter if they are strangers or not, i get enjoyment from it, i have never hurt anyone in real life, is there something wrong with me?
Yes, this damn picture. Newfag
>>17268408
i'm a girl and i like small animals, what's wrong with that
>>17268387
Pay a homeless dude some money to beat the shit out of him.
Expect him to retaliate though.
I kind of live in a bubble, so wanted to understand a bit more about how more normal people frame their relationships. Specifically, what do people consider 'cheating'.
My girls friend just broke up with her guy, and I personally don't get it. She was hanging out with us and a hand full of other friends last wednesday, and we had some sexy fun together. The one who would later go on to break up didn't do anything but watch. Yesterday she goes to her guy in tears and says that she cheated on him at that gathering, and now they're broken up.
Is this what normal people consider cheating? Just being in the proximity of fun with someone other than their strictly monogamous partner? Seems pretty crazy to me, but I don't have a lot to base it on. Where do people in normal relationships draw the line?
No
kissing or fucking other people is cheating and she is slut for doing it to me
>>17268374
You write in a confusing way.
She did not technically cheat in any real way. Maybe she's a moral person and felt really weird about the whole thing and felt like she had "come clean" about it. Are you sure you're not leaving any thing out here OP? What is "sexy fun"? Talk like an adult not a stunted manchild please.
Help me out /adv/ice,
Should I see the Dark Web or should I get out while I still can?
I've already seen everything that can be seen above the level. and my twisted curiosity will never stop nagging me.
Pill my shit up please.
Please send help, I have no control.
>>17268289
Dark Web is overrated. Unless you really care about child pornography, drugs and hitmen, there's not really a point to go there.
What do you actually think the dark web is anon? It's literally just a bunch of websites that aren't linked to any other websites. Most of the dark web is just random garbage, and the other small percentage is just random criminal activity, and even then you almost certainly wont be able to access most of it due to the fact that people go out of their way to ensure people who don't know what they're doing can't get in. For the parts that are actually content its basically just child porn and drugs.
You sound like a teenager who's read and believed too many fucking dark web creepypastas.
>muh twisted curiosity
I am so confused
Ps. bare with me
so I have known this cool girl for 5 months now and I am attracted to her both emotionally and physically...
We were in various levels of friendship we have been kissing/holding hands and acting as if we were in a relationship since day 1, but never actually were never. we simply are too busy with stuff going on with our lives, me more than her. I know she wants to be in one with me and so do I. She always complains on how I'm too busy. and I have good reasons to be 2 jobs trying to start my own business a younger brother battling with depression and my family is one of throws stereotypical "white families" that does stuff a lot of stuff together. me and still manage to see each other usually after work for about an h or so. she tells me she is fine with what we have going but i don't think so she tells me it's too much work. she also has sume sort of double standard with a lot of things. as a "joke" she often makes fun of me hits me and act like a bitch. that doesn't bother me too much. so obviously I do the same things back but she actually gets offended for real most of the time. whenever we would talk on the or phone text the same thing always happens. if she can't call/text me I tell her no problem, It's all cool, but when I can't call text her she will get frustrated or mad most of the time. of course she is cool with it from time to time to. the other night this got out of hand.
After work i chilled with her from 4 till 5:20 ish we had a few little friendly skirmishes nothing emotionally harmful (i think) (whenever we chill it's always fun and happy full of acting like we are together never a real problem.) at 7 i texted her asking what time she has work in the morning she said don't worry. from this text i can tell summing was up. I tell her I want to know if it's cool if I call her at 11, if that doesn't up her sleep. Then she gives me the time. we decide it's prob not a good idea, np maybe another time. she then texts me she feels like we are wasting our time with each other. and then brushes it aside blames it on her period, and tells me not to call her in a friendly way. I text her back saying please if there is anything bothering you tell me. She texts nothing yet. We then have an emotionally confusing text convo making me look bad because of autocorrect. This leads her to say let's face time, I tell her I can’t. (this whole text convo happened while i was chilling with my bro and he was getting mad at me because I was not spending time with him) she flips out via text saying I never have time and the next time we chill she is going to say no. like wtf did i do?
I tell her I’ll call her, she said she doesn't want to talk. so i say ok fine and give her space. At 8:30 I pick up my friend to hang (she knows this friend and doesn't like him because he asked her out once, that’s another story I won’t get into) me my friend and my bro are all hanging it’s all good. She calls me at 10 I tell her I’m chilling with that friend can i call u back at 11 once we hang up she texts me telling me she was talking shit about me to mutual friend we met though(this guy alsos asked her out fuck me right lol, he talked down on me before) and how he was right about me or sum shit.I stop texting her. My friend that was chilling with me was telling me how I was breaking the bro code and was fed up how I was giving this girl this attention. So I drive him back home at 10:30 so I can call her at 11. On the ride back he tell me how he is pissed because he I messed up our time (I denied his call with him for her 2 times for her in the past 3 months he happened to be as the only person I did this for) so once I drop him off i call her at 10:40.I tell her everything I just said, and how I feel she does not appreciate what I do for her as well as I feel she I do most of the work. She tells me it’s her period is this BS? She tells me she is not sure if we are working out and how her friend are telling her to drop me. And if she was sumone else she would drop me to. Sort of work things out We say how we are cool no one is mad at anyone but I said I’m still frustrated and have a lot on my mind. I tell her maybe need a day of space she said take at least a week I’m not your bitch contact me when I figure my shit out. Then hangs up.
Look I don’t care whether or not we work out to be honest but I am already over her but did enjoy her company she is the best kisser and we had some good sexual action, nothing too extreme but enough to keep me satisfied. I will have a free house in a few weeks and of course I want to bang this chick(she is a virgin and given me multiple signs of proof she wants me to take it), I haven’t had much if any sexual ation in the past 3 years when I lost my V-card to my last gf,not that sexualy frustrated. Obviously this girl will only give it up when she comfortable enough with me and I feel I fucked it up now.
Befor u say anything yes my 4 mistakes was 1. I should have stop texting her once she brushed the thing aside. 2. I should have not picked up the phone with my friend and give her the attention while my friend was there. 3. not have cut our bro time short because i need to call her. And 4. Not have called her at 11 in the 1st place given her space and called her today after she was done work. But shit happens
If you were me what would u do?
Thanks
I don't feel comfortable around women at all. I feel like my blackness is always readily known. I am not even "culturally" black either. I don't have thug qualities and what not.
Anyway, how can I regain confidence? I am 27 now and never had a girlfriend. Super desperate. What can I even do?
>>17268221
If it's any consolation, you being black makes women uncomfortable when you're around them too.
>>17268221
I am not black so I can't speak on that but I am pretty sure the answer lies somewhere in, "don't give a shit what you think people think and learn to love yourself."
>>17268221
Stop identifying yourself by the colour of your skin and just talk to them like a human being, that should do the trick. Anyone mature enough will judge you by your personality and relative attractiveness and not your colour.
I have in the past 5 years been aware of suffering from premature ejaculation and I have turned down a lot of good offers in that time due to that. I have been in a great relationship with such an amazing girl for about 1 month now. We haven't discussed sex yet, but we have referred to it a few times.
I think my premature ejaculation is due to the head of my penis being incredibly sensitive, so I have been looking forward to try out a pack of special condoms from Durex with the anesthetic benzocaine which should apparently numb the penis. I haven't tried them yet, so not being able to know if they actually work makes me a bit worried.
What has made me even more worried now is that my girlfriend told me yesterday that she is on the pill (due to menstrual issues) and has been for years. Because of this, I can't use the condom as an excuse to prevent pregnancy, nor STDs because we're both clean. Without neither a regular or specialized condom, I predict I would cum within seconds of insertion.
She has told me that I can talk to her about anything and I trust her on that. However I am just afraid she might value sex in a relationship so much that she will find me incapable of satisfying her needs.
It sounds like she is very understanding. Talk to her about it. Be honest and upfront. Just because you think you'll blow early, doesn't mean it needs to ruin sex for her. Just spend a good amount of time eating her out before, and if necessary afterward.
Also see your doctor, there may be something he can help re: your premature ejaculation.
>>17268233
do this OP. also have you tried jerking off before sex?
Circumcision my man, the only thing I'm worried about these days is if I'll be able to cum before I'm exhausted.
