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Hey /adv/,
I have a problem and maybe you'll have a new perspective or two to share with me.
Basically, I want to write a short story that covers a niche of our society. And I want to say, a niche, nothing more. This is not the WHOLE world and this is not HOW THINGS REALLY ARE, it's just a slit of society I have been watching lately.
Now, my linkage is wrong, but it may be very representative, thatswhy I took it.
Here it goes: Mass shooters and other extreme societal deviants (always MEN*) are always seen as monsters, but society never...
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Interesting idea but you might have better luck in /lit/.
You need to realize what you're actually writing about: society's idea of masculinity in the 21st century, and how that idea and the assumptions that go along with it can be harmful.
Masculinity = Strong, virile, never showing emotion, always providing and never receiving, etc.
How are these pressures toxic to society? How is the phenomena of male mass shooters a reflection of this?
There's a web series called Folding Ideas that you might find useful. Specifically, watch his analysis of Fight Club.
So I got rejected by this university in a bachelor course for graphic design and they just got back to me saying I can email them a letter of appeal. The thing is I don't think I have anything to appeal for. Could I just ask them why they rejected me and form an appeal from there like "I'll improve on this and that if you are willing to accept me"
>>17263705
A letter of appeal is supposed to add new information, so based on what you want to do, a letter of appeal would be inappropriate.
If you took classes or participated in an ec, but didn't tell them or improved your G.P.A, then a letter would be a wise choice of action.
>>17263725
Ah fuck. they are still waiting for my response? SHould I just ask them why I got rejecteD?
>>17263741
They probably will not tell you, but I guess you could issue a FERPA request form, but unless you are a student at the college, they will probably deny it. (if they still have the documents)
If I am in a foreign country and have run out of money, can I go to am embassy and get a flight to my home country?
I've got enough for another week of food if I sleep rough which gives me time to get the flight sorted
>>17263658
US foreign service officer here, no.
>>17263662
I have a UK passport, sorry should have said that.
>>17263658
>Got the Internet.
>Not contacting the bank of mom and dad.
>Wants a free hand out so if parents don't worry.
Hi. First time posting on /adv/. I am looking for the most secure and private web browser for Windows 10. Trying to up my general information security game.
Lots of different suggestions from around the web, and I can't tell which root to go.
Not going to use Google Chrome.
>>>/g/
Also, if you like Chrome, then Chromium might be something for you.
Vivaldi. Uses the Chrome engine but it's by the old Opera team. It's what all the users of old Opera are migrating to.
I mean if you really care about that shit you can always use Tor. I don't see why you would care that much though.
So I had sex the other day after a time period of nearly 5 years and i could not cum even though my dick remained diamonds. In that gap of 5 years I have spent a shit load of time fapping (i usually fap once everyday but i fap straight for 45 mins minimum, longest i've fapped for a couple of hours).
Is it because my dick has lost its sensitivity or is it just that internet porn has just too much option to satisfy my needs?
Also the girl was 6/10.
How much did you have to drink? That can prevent being able to cum.
>>17263611
This, but it was probably the girl being unhot. Did your dick go numb from her juices? That could be part of the reason as well.
>>17263590
You are probably only sexually arroused by digital images of girls now.
If you get a second chance with her place an old computer monitor over her face.
Night audit at hotel: Work part time. Full time guy is a lazy sack of shit so he asked new girl who only worked three shifts training at this position to take his shift last night. She apparently locked herself out of restaurant micros and didn't tell anyone, meaning now I can't log in, meaning restaurant can't charge anyone tomorrow until I roll the day over.
Tried texting her and full time guy, no answer. Called support number, retarded woman on the other end kept fucking off to do something else and was zero help, eventually told me I'd need to...
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>>17263579
>Set building on fire.
let these shits figure it out you're not in the wrong and have already done all you could do
>>17263595
Debating if I should call the GM. He's staying with us in a comp room, but he's new and I seriously doubt he knows how to fix this, as he's mentioned he's learning this system and used a different one at his old job.
Then again, it's ultimately his responsibility for this. I don't know. I haven't called the Rest manager, but I know she doesn't have a clue how Micros works, and she's a nasty bitch.
Hey /adv/,
Recently I've noticed a white car pulls into my drive way at around 2 to 2:30 am. I don't know how long it's been happening, I've seen the same car pull in and out of my drive way 3 times now. What could they be doing/what does that mean? What should I do about it?
>>17263569
What do you want to do about it?
>>17263569
Start shooting.
>>17263576
That's not a bad idea at all....
Hey /adv/,
A girl I used to date is going to a party that I'm also going to tomorrow and asked me to keep her company there since she has "social anxiety" . I know she's normally an outgoing person so that doesn't make any sense. She has a boyfriend right now. What is she scheming wtf?
Sorry to hijack the thread, but what's your picture about?
>>17263524
A. Maybe she has social anxiety around new people.
B. She wants your hog
>>17263541
I was going to ask that too. My portrait screen lock is off 90% of the time, and I only turn it on if I'm being lazy on my side in bed.
Maybe real niggas have their screen lock on most of the time because they are lazy in bed most of the time, and then turn it off when they want to watch a horizontal video, like a youtube video or porn.
I want to go clubbing and meet people but I have no friends. Any advice for solo clubbing? 25/m
Walk in and have a great time. A lot of people go a lone for thst reason
>>17263491
clubbing alone sounds terrible
go to a concert much better
>"Did you come here alone?"
>"I came with some acquaintances, must be on the other dancefloor, I guess, how about you?"
Beyond confused.
Me and a friend used to chat daily for hours. It was effortless. Pretty much a perfect 50/50 exchange and you never had to think about what to say next, one thing just led on to another.
Then recently she started getting busy. I don't know if that's right or just some fob off, but basically she'd disappear for days on end and not bother messaging. She'd take ages to even return a text saying she was too busy. She used send loads of selfies and tell me what she was up to, but all that dropped off.
So at this point you'd...
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Well none of us here will "know".
Maybe she had a fling? Guy she thought was great and liked for a while but didn't wakt to hurt you, and then that ended, so you're stuck dealing with weird after-effects.
She's obviously been through fucking SOMETHING. If this is your only form of communication, maybe consider asking her if something it off or wrong?
What is the relationship with your friend?
Depending on that, there could be many reasons for the change in contact:
>she found somebody she's interested in, so she had to cut down the time with you
>she got busy with work/family/etc.
>she got romantically interested in you, but didn't want to act on it, retreating for some time
>something terrible happened to her, and she doesn't want to let you know
>you...
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>>17263519
Yeah, been in that boat, anon.
is it beta and generally unattractive for women if a man let's his woman stick her finger in his butt to pleasure his prostate?
last night after a long session of sex, in an attempt to revive my dead boner, she went ahead and put her finger in my ass. I got hard again and we went back fucking
how normal is this?
>>17263465
Very normal. Well, kinda. Asshole's can be very stimulating for men. You're okay. If you liked it, encourage her. If you just felt like it was a nice bump and you won't do it again, tell her. Either way let her know.
Why are you asking this question when you should just be talking to the girl willing to fuck you?
Nothing wrong with it at all, it helped the sex and felt good right? I wish more women were as uninhibited as your gf.
You should maybe even look into going to a sex shop together to get a plug for you ( in addition to other things if you like) because that makes male orgasms feel much better.
>>17263653
>going to a sex shop together to get a plug for you
....isn't that for gay men?
I want to do a 180 with my life. I'm 23 and I've literally only ever had videogames (and my ex) as an interest. But for the last few years I've gotten increasingly disinterested.
What I want to do:
-Lose weight (I'm a 5'4'' fat manlet), been my dream for a decade, but always lacked motivation
-Get a "new" (old, repairable, preferrably free) bike, and go wherever with it after work every day (can't get- and don't care for a drivers license)
-Reduce time at "home" (I live with 0 affection parents)...
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>>17263441
Well man what do you want someone to say?
You've just said you'll ignore what people say to you. I get that. But you probably also "know" the answer and you just have to work on it.
You'll need a job to get away from parents. You'll need to forget about this "ex". You'll need to exercise. You'll need to at least reach out to old friends. If it feels weird, cut it, but if they extend a branch go for it.
This is fucking 4chan. Nobody is gonna tell...
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>>17263474
Yeah that's right. I know exactly what I want but I'm too retarded and lazy to do anything about it. I dunno.
I'm depressed and suicidal, so I'm just venting.
>>17263478
I get it. I'm a fucking alcoholic idiot refusing to graduate college. We all have our issues. You're ahead of the curve by knowing them and how to solve them.
I'm also super depressed and have thought of suicide. Seems nice but also weird to me. Also painful to anyone and everyone around me. Don't wanna be the guy who at 23 dies because he gave up so early while others went on.
I honestly hope you the best anon. I think about suicide often but I have to objectively disencourage...
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How do i not get fucked over on 4chan, i have visited 4chan a couple of times before but this time want to commit a bit more. Im not really that sensitive the only things that shock me is animal cruelty and goreporn, just gore doesnt do anything for me. How do i avoid these two if there is any on here
>>17263390
Not sure if I totally understand your question, but here goes. You're on the advice board, which is a SFW (safe for work) part of 4chan. The "shocking" stuff is on b, and likely other NSFW boards. Just avoid those. I'm not so tech savvy as to say that you can individually filter the stuff you see on 4chan, but maybe other folks can chime in here.
1. Lurk more
2. Don't click on gifs
3. Don't browse /b/ or /x/
5. Recognize that those things aren't even that common on this website
6. Die alone and afraid
>>17263390
Just don't go there, I still don't understand why people keep thinking 4chan = /b/
Ok so I'm gonna try my best to explain what happened. A friend got me into this fat mansion party, and as soon as I showed up I saw a ton of kids from my high school that i hadn't seen in over a year. (I'm graduated, in college btw) and immediately went to go drugs weed lmao with an old buddy. So before reading, remember I'm pretty damn burnt AND i knew or at least knew of almost every person at this party.
Theres a girl there that I've always seen at school, but never had a class and never talked to (legit no joke 10/10). There was this circle...
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So I did about 25 minutes ago. She added me back really quickly, but opened the message and never replied. Now obviously if she does end up messaging me I'll try talking to her, but I have another question. The kid who threw this mansion party might have another one tomorrow, and she might be there.
If she is, and she doesn't reply to my message, I should leave her alone right? I'm assuming she isn't playing hard to get or anything, she was just being nice and I took it too far. I just want another opinion to make sure I'm not missing anything.
Hey so a fucking update. I'm a dumbass, shes in my Snapchat contact list under "pending" which means I sent a snap long before she even noticed the notification. So now I look like a sperg.
She still opened it, is there anything to salvage this? Or do I let the ship sink.
Ask for her number next time instead
Don't go looking her up
How do I convenience myself to start my workout? I wake up at 9 ready to go, but say fuck it and go back to bed. How does art thou motivate ones self?
>>17263294
>how does are you motivate ones self
>>17263294
Unfortunately dude, motivation is a byproduct of doing. You usually can't just motivate yourself. How about, just get the fuck up, and go do it. And afterwards you'll realize it wasn't all too bad, and you'll want to keep up your momentum since you already started. Motivation.
>>17263294
Motivation is useless.
You need discipline.
Do something and do it every day. Don't make it a choice. Just get up and do it.
