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Would you rather go to a prestigious school that sends students to ivy leagues but doesnt give you the advanced classes you are going to get in your slum of a school? Keep in mind youre basically degrading yourself to get into this school, and you wont be the smartest person there, but at your current school, youll possibly be at the top, but the curriculum isnt that challenging. Not sure where to go for the next 4 years of my life
Just go where there are more girls, parties and dank weed.
>>17317991
Are you talking about high school? You're too underaged for this site.
If you're talking about ivy league for grad school, WHY is the first school better? Is it inheritely better, or are the students there rich af with powerful parents? Would you be like them? Otherwise, go to the shit school.
>>17317991
"curriculum" isn't that challenging ... lol
That's like saying "I learned 2+2 here, it was so easy. It was too challenging to learn 2+2 there, it's much harder!"
Most curriculum is pretty much the same, and hell, even uses the same modified textbooks. The only difference really is how an instructor/professor makes you prove your mettle through research and/or application, but even that depends on the professor.
Shit schools have to be accredited for your degree...
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I've liked this girl for a good 6 months. We've both been flirting on and off, the last time she openly flirted with me was in April. Ever since then she kinda went her separate way but we still talk all the time. I went on vacation and was gonna use this time to put distance between us but then she texted me being all joyful. I fell asleep on her and woke up sending a flirtatious message just being casual, she left me on open. Our friends started talking in a group chat, I replied to my buddy and she got all aggressive saying "no, just no" and "your...
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She's just fucking with you, OP.
Her enjoy is to mess your feelings and with your head.
Stop talking to her, and it might lead to things:
1. She'll get mad and stop fucking with you, which is great.
2. She'll be interested in you more.
>>17317980
>I can't stop being her friend because...
Yes you can. Her being around you doesn't require you to be friends with her, mutual friends or not. You can be respectful and cordial without being friends.
>What do I do about her?
Stop being confused about the emotional fluctuations of a teenaged girl. Take ownership of your own happiness and stop pretending that you have to be nice/civil with everyone to be friends.
>>17317984
Interesting, should I ignore her texts altogether? Or is there something els I should do?
Hey so I've been thinking about this all week - a good friend of mine "made a move" (by which I mean kissed me and touched my ass lolllllll) without my consent. We talked it out and I was able to say I wasn't interested, and since I've been friends with this dude for a while I feel like he's a good person - but I also feel like he's perpetuating a lack of consent and I wanted to talk about it to him.
I've been thinking of saying something along the lines of "hey, I wasn't really feeling it the other night and I know we cleared...
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This, gentlemen, is bait. Move on.
Sage
>>17317963
wtf? you should tell the police, you were basically raped
>>17318549
Can't tell if serious or not. If you were being serious, people like you should just stop existing
IT'S BEEN THREE FUCKING WEEKS (https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/17248591/)
TWO DAYS AFTER I DELETED THE MESSAGE I SENT HER, SHE FINALLY BECOMES ACTIVE ON SOCIAL MEDIA AGAIN. REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
END MY LIFE!
>>17317952
She'll be ugly/fat in 4 years, don't worry about it.
>>17318017
But I could have enjoyed her until then.
I think I might have fucked everything up
to summarize, my friend set me up with a friend of hers with the goal of me losing my virginity. Me and my friend's friend, continued to hook up and I developed feelings. I asked her out multiple times and she has turned me down, stating that she isn't the kind of girl I should be dating, my friend also warning me about her. Despite how much I told her I don't care, she just still states the same thing... finally while we were having sex, I told her I loved her, and she didn't react at all how I thought she...
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What planet are you idiots from
>>17317929
She sounds fucking insane.
Idk what you want me to say
i dunno man chicks got issues with love i guess.
>21
>Always seen weird shit out of the corner of my eye every now and then
>Over the last year its been happening more and more
I'm actually just having like hallucinations at this point, that last no more than a second or two. It happens 2-3 times a week, and its usually a cat, or some kind of bug that isn't there, but usually its a cat.
Should I be concerned about this at all, or no? It doesn't like distress me or anything, I really feel indifferent...
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ive seen little things like bugs never big things like cats but then again I'm also schizophrenic.
^ same.
I've been having the same kind of visions since I was kid. I'm 25 now, so they became normal at this point. I'm still amused for having them, though.
Maybe I have a brain tumor and will die in 2 years.
Hey anons. I decided several months ago that I'd like to move to another country for a couple of reasons. The biggest is that my current home (South Africa) is a shithole and looks like it's only going to be getting worse.
So long story short, I've decided I'd like to move to Germany. How do I make this happen? Also, feel free to share any experiences you've had with moving to foreign countries.
Find a job, get a work visa. There really isn't any way around this unless you marry someone from the EU.
>>17317873
Learn the fucking language ASAP.
That's the bottom line.
Living in a foreign country is hard for everyone if you seem like an alien.
Learn the language. Make friends. Try to integrate yourself.
You do that, and it's good for both you and them.
Since you're a white SA, why not go to the Netherlands?
Afrikaans is 95% Dutch.
Or England? You obviously have excellent English skills.
Germany is a great place but why put yourself through increased difficulty? Maybe...
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Were any of your parents and/or grandparents born in the UK? If so, being that you're commonwealth you can move to the UK much easier than anywhere else.
https://www.gov.uk/ancestry-visa
It's the easiest way to another country in your shoes. If not, if either of your parents were born aboard, go to whatever country they're from because that's your best bet. Otherwise it'll be quite difficult to emigrate although it's not impossible. Look into work/education visas for Germany and any other countries you're willing to consider.
How can I quit a job in a way that screws over the manager but not the coworkers?
I already put in my 2-week's notice last week (I got a new, better job), and I really don't need the money that much right now, so I'm mostly sticking with the place to be polite. But my manager did something tremendously shitty today (basically made me work by myself for 6 hours with no lunch break, which is illegal in my state. No one else was there to help and I couldn't leave.)
I know that I'm the only person scheduled tomorrow, so I want to just drop...
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what's the job?
>>17317932
Coffee shop. I'm juggling freelance/contract work the past few months, so the coffee shop was just a safety net in case the other jobs got slow.
I'm not at all married to this place, don't NEED the money what with other work I do, and the only reason I gave 2-weeks notice instead of 1 was to be polite. I'm just afraid that if I bail, someone else will get screwed, and I'd just feel shitty about it rather than vindicated or anything.
dude if it's a coffee shop just call in sick. the manager is being an ass, not you
Hey /adv/,
do you have any life goals you want to pursue but you just can't make yourself to do so? Because I do and I'm fucking sick of it, I always screw myself over.
I am looking for some kind of accountability, for someone I can share my daily/weekly/whatever goals with and he/she will kick my ass if I fail and, if desired, vice versa.
Anyone interested? Mail me: whoisfhhund at gmail
I work in finance for the money and think of starting my own company or going back into science but rationally I feel that statistically the impact I can have as an individual is limited compared to going into politics or journalism where I can influence national budgets and public opinion. But I am an unsociable STEM major with few friends or connections so I have psychological barriers towards this.
>>17317860
what do you want? making decisions that influence other people or breaking barriers to build something form scratch that will be yours?
When the student is ready the teacher will appear.
http://www.what-is-coaching.com/support-files/lazymansway2riches.pdf
My boyfriend has so many different personalities, and it's starting to scare me. It's like he's a different person around different people, and nobody ever knows the same side of him. Around me he's always been a quiet but confident, very emotionally open person. But around people who can give him something he wants, especially other women, he turns the charm on hard, and becomes this unbelievably suave, charming, in control person that I never even knew existed. By the same token though, he can switch to an extremely socially awkward, nervous guy around...
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Oh, FFS, he's not schizophrenic, you asinine cow, he's reserved, and different people bring out different aspects of his personality.
Quit with the drama. Are you having your period?
Sounds like me
I have no well defined outward personality, everything is just acting to get what I want.
>>17317832
So what your are saying that he reacts differently to different situations in order to adapt and receive the best possible outcome, like virtually all human beings actually do?
Life aint a TV show, we don't have constant personality traits and react the same way to every fucking situation.
We adapt, change tactics, evolve.
