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How to not be a introverted faggot
unfortunately you don't have a lot of control over that
I read that if you're forced to be in social situations every day for a prolonged period of time, such as taking on a new job, your brain wiring will change and adapt so you're not exhausted every day, however once you leave that job or cease socializing in that capacity, you will quickly revert to your former introverted self.
Genetic & binding, from my research.
>>17317045
Practice, exposure and imprinting. It's probably the hardest thing a person can do. I went from an extreme extrovert to an introvert. And even I find it near impossible to go back
>>17317059
I can relate to this. It's almost like how muscles work.
Am I being used?
I was (am?) married, and fell in love with someone who was a friend of about...4 years. Without really realizing it, we were perfect for each other, but both happened to be in relationships, and both got married to different people 1 year ago.
I had to move for work, and so over the last 2 months, as I've been getting to leave, she confessed that she is terrified that I would be gone. She confessed that I'm her rock and that she needs me. That snowballed and we ended up having an affair. Anyway, the love I felt for her has been all-consuming....
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>>17317040
Do you really need us to answer this for you? She told you to leave your wife. You did. She didn't leave her husband. It's pretty cut and dried dude, there's nothing there for you.
She played you, pure and simple.
I doubt she will leave him, but hey who knows right? I'm sure that amazing wife of yours didn't see it coming either.
>>17317050
I settled on my wife so I don't regret leaving her. I still feel like shit being alone and somewhere new where I don't know anyone.
My friend claims that she is trying "really hard" to choose me, but that she'll do it on "her terms." When I try to cut things off, she starts crying on the phone and begs me, telling me that she needs me and loves me so much. When I tell her that she needs to leave her husband for me, she gets upset and says she's working on it...
What does it mean when you're close to a girl and she opens up about personal issues and constantly talks about her ex?
she's not interested in you romantically but values you as a good friend, and probably would accept & humor your venting as well
It means that even if you gf her she'll dump as soon as her ex wants a quickie.
Was he her first?
>>17317048
>was he her first
Don't think so
>>17317042
Figured as much, tfw but I suppose it's nice just being close
Why do women always say they want to travel? What is it they are hoping to experience or find that is going to make them happy? And how do I learn to enjoy travel so that women will stop leaving me?
selfies
making their peers envious for a week
they don't like to travel its like that guy above me said its about statues and showing off to her social circle of fake friends. Iv done a lot of traveling for special events like the world cup shit that im genuinely interested in and i always come across people who are faking there enthusiasm and taking selfies every 2 seconds dressed up in the stereotypical outfits you always see women post on FB. Its like they visit popular areas to take a selfie without actually acknowledging and appreciating where and what they are doing... its fucking weird and pathetic.
>>17317036
As a guy when I say I enjoy travel, what I mean is I literally enjoy the aspect of boarding a vehicle - or even just getting up and walking - somewhere, just for the sake of going and observing. Anything special going on is just a bonus. I don't need it to be somewhere terribly far away, even a nice town that's only an hour away by car can be fun and interesting, though it's not to say I haven't boarded a plane or sailed off to far away places either.
I'm not sure why women like it...
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I cant make my mind up on what course i should do at university, throughout my education i tend to be pretty flexible with my interests and strengths being good at a lot of things, i had no certainty what I wanted to become , it was difficult deciding even what gcses i wanted to do and it affected me greatly at a levels due to not having the certainty of what it is i want to do after college i ended up not giving a shit in the last year, also had to do with pretty tough stuff and living circumstances i had to deal with in that year regarding family issues which have always bothered...
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Choose a degree that would actually benefit you in a career
>>17317011
its difficult not knowing if ill like a career because its all in the future i wont know till i actually try it and the fear of it being a waste of time thinking this could be shit not get a job and wish i done something else.
am i over thinking this? Is this where you should listen to your gut? how did you know what career you wanted to do and did you change your mind often?
If you don't have any direction try to get a part time job or regular job in a field you think you might like. See how you feel about it, and then pursue education in it.
I've only had sex with two women in my life and with both of them I didn't really feel any sensation. I felt wamth and wetness but nothing pleasurable (maybe a little bit of pleasure if she was on top).
I am circumcised so that might have something to do with it? What else could be causing it
>>17316975
Buy a fleshlight and stop death gripping
>>17316980
>stop death gripping
this
porn also makes it worse for me at least.
>>17316980
to elaborate, I had the same issue and it completely fixed my problem in about two weeks, plus it's more enjoyable.
This is the one I have, works great and is easy to maintain.
I have a crush on my boss that is a woman 5 years older than me. I won't act on it but should I express my feelings just to try and get over it? Every day I work with her feels like torture. I have a gf and love her but these feelings are pissing me off
If you're not gonna keep that job much longer then go for it, But if you plan on staying there then i suggest you dont say anything and crush on her from a distance. Business before pleasure. Dont wanna mess up your money flow. Focus on work and your relationship
>>17316983
The problem is she drops hints all over and it's driving me crazy. Idk if she's just flirting for attention or if she's really into me
>>17316986
Here is an idea. Fucking ask her outside of work.
Not like it matters tho. You will still be employed by her and you still have a gf
I have lots of books that have been sitting on the shelves in my basement for years now. I want to get rid of them.
Do you guys know of any major American charities that I could give my books to? Alternatively, do you know if libraries take book donations?
Also, some of them are college textbooks, many of which have been made obsolete by new editions put out by their publishing companies. What should I do with those? I don't have the heart to throw them out, but they're taking up way too much space in my house.
>>17316941
You can give them to me, I love books!
>>17316941
It's good to clean house. Pack them all up in small boxes so that they are easy to sort and see what they are. Got to the nearest used bookstore, see what they'll take for cash or for store credit. Take the rest to a thrift shop, you'll be donating them to charity.
Get a clean start. Yes, books should be treated with respect. But you can't just hang onto them forever, that's menally ill.
The really popular chain, Half Price Books, will take any books you give them and pay you for it. As for actual charities, you can just search that up since there's so many.
How do I get a MILF fuckbuddy? I'm borderline autistic, so make the steps as clear as possible.
>>17316906
The fact that you think there are actual steps like a cheat code, shows how autistic and out of touch with reality you are.
This is beyond your understanding.
cunt
>>17316919
this
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I'm trying to stop being an anxious beta fag and I've had a crush on this girl who is way above my league for a while now.
I haven't blatantly told her I like her but I've asked her out but she threw excuses around so I know she's not into me.
Thing is, I just can't get her out of my mind and it's been affecting me but since she's part of the group I hang out with, she's always around.
At the end of the day, I just want to be in a good mental state so I'm asking any people with experience, do I tell her I'm...
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>>17316901
Let me tell you this: if you don't have any hope then don't tell her. If you still hope she'll somehow say yes, then try it. It is really important that you know you have tried everything and that it is not your fault.
Pro tip: don't ger shitfaced and then tell her, that is the worst thing you can do
Forgot to ask, what are her exuses? Is there a chance that they are legit?
>>17316924
I asked her a couple of times to do different things.
Once I asked her to go to a local pub, she said she was full into work so she couldn't make it. I thought, perhaps she does have lots of work or she doesn't like pubs, so I told her to casually grab a beer and go sit on the beach just to chill. She said couldn't cause of work.
Then a couple of weeks or so later, she called me up to watch a movie which got me excited, but she brought her male friend too who is a totally obnoxious fag.
So...
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My sister is a coalburner. I don't like how she's become a race traitor and committing white genocide. What should I do to break their relationship up?
>>17316895
lol
>>17316895
Talk to her. Just like you told us. I'm sure she'll understand what's going through your head.
There's nothing you can do. She's already lost.
Sorry, brother.
>make pretty good friends with female employee from summer camp I work at
>for a year or two, we text each other a ton
>only see each other like once irl after leaving camp
>I guess that sometimes she complains that I don't initiate conversation enough/respond enough (somewhat true)
>In college: talk to her less and less cuz I'm busier w/ things, but called her on then phone etc.
>eventually...
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No offense, but you probably don't care about her as much as you think. It's more likely that you like the idea of caring about her, because if you cared about her, you probably would've made the effort to contact her during the last couple of months.
Of course, it's a two-way street. She probably doesn't care about you as much as she thinks she does, because she didn't reach out to you either. That is of course unless her silence was a passive-aggressive move that she was using to get your attention. Even then, if she was pulling that kind...
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>>17316874
>tumblr
It is time to make peace with yourself Anon. You will probably go to jail now for raping her heart and giving her PTSD.
It was nice knowing you senpai
>>17317010
A shit ton of girls use tumblr these days.
They may be on the feminist side but the SJW wackos are a vocal minority.
Even if they agree with them they don't really care, they are normies.
Just stop the tumblr meme!
Anyway, OP, if there was no way for you to meet IRL then what's her problem? You kept contact, eventually you got caught up and instead of doing something she just waitted for you. Sounds stuck up.
Don't beat yourself over it, after all when we have a "crush"...
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I've been dating this girl for 5 years, I really love her. The problem is I don't trust her, she didn't tell me she joined the military til the night before she left. The reason was she thought I'd leave her if she didn't finish school. She's been great to me but she dropped this bomb on me and wants me to stay with her. Idk what to do, she didn't tell me about this so what else hasn't she told me?
>>17316854
You're an idiot. You really love her, but you don't trust her?
She kept this from you for her own selfish reasons. Your feelings didn't enter into it.
Think long and hard before you decide to stay with her. I hate to use the word "cuck" because it's over used everywhere on 4chan, but if you stay with her you're telling her that what she did is ok by you. Right?
>>17316854
you don't love her ya goof.
>>17316854
if a stranger sucker punched you on the street would you be wary the next time you saw them or would you pretend it never happened?
I'm 24, She's 18.
I've made the grave mistake of adding my ex back to give '' a better explanation to why i left''. I followed an advice from /adv/ (a good one, if you're reading this is passing for a similar problem), and broke up with her after being tired of her immatureness and mostly because she attempted to make me jealous with a guy that legitimately raped her(long story, the rape was legit, she's still an attentionwhore and i'm aware, don't worry). I felt angry and hatred, but couldn't manage to find...
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>>17316853
Fine, I'll beat you up. You're an idiot for getting back in contact. You were out, and now you're back in. And you know that it was a mistake or you wouldn't be posting here.
You've got a streak of narcissism. You can't stand the thought of someone being out there who isn't thinking well of you and is totally fine with you're reasons for breaking up.
Your answer is in the first line. You're 24 and she's 18. Yes, girls mature earlier than guys, but 6...
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>>17316923
I don't want her back. ''Can'' i cut contact? She's unstable and needs at least one reliable person in her life (she got none) and all that. If yes, how do i do so? And those feelings of hatred, do you know what they are? Are they left overs? Do they mean something i don't know? They must be more obvious for a third party than to me.
>>17316961
You're taking responsiblity for her feelings. You say you can't cut contact, but you already broke up with her. But you got yourself back in because of your narcisissism.
I went through something similar with my ex. After we split up, she went from one crappy boyfriend to another. When she was down, she'd call me for support. When she was up she treated me like I was the enemy. It took years for me to learn that I don't care how she feels about me anymore.
Why did I care in the first...
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I just can't do this /adv/. I don't go to bars so I can't meet women.
I do take a bus and I do enjoy taking glances at decent looking women but would never go talk to them.
I fear I have nothing to say. There is this Hispanic girl that rides the bus in the morning. I want to talk to her but the bus is crowded and I have nothing to say.
It's the same way any other time i meet a woman in public. I just want to say hi so badly but I feel creepy.
Like I know where the woman goes after she hops off the bus. Could I ask her about...
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Creepy af anon, join a club, talk to girls in lecture or at your job or whatever you do during the day. Talk to girls via friends and at social bars. Don't talk to people on transit.
>>17316951
My job disallows relationships in office unless the two of you were involved before one of you started working there.
They also disallow relationships with students. I work at a university.
As you can see... I don't have many venues of meeting women.
>>17316997
I am not good at meeting new people but I really want to and need it but if a guy start talking to me on a bus or in the middle of the street I would probably freak the fuck out.
Now that I think about it, I was going to advice to go to a cafe because I was thinking about doing the same. But I would freak out if someone starts talking out of the blue. I have a problem, now I know
