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Here's a couple of questions, answer me please
>What happens if you stop fapping for a month?
> What happens if you fap once a day almost every day?
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>>17317481
i fap once a day almost everyday and I can tell you that its reduced my sensitivity somewhat, I need to stop desu, I dont even enjoy fapping that much
>>17317486
> desu
Wtf man.
>>17317486
Start exercising to burn off the testosterone spikes instead of fapping. Honestly once a day isn't really unhealthy. You probably just have a high sex drive. I stopped for a month and nothing really changed. I started doing it every other day and it's fine. You do you, man. Unless it becomes an addiction it's fine.
So here's the deal - this guy and I used to work together. I thought he was reasonably attractive right away but when we actually bonded over some things and started hanging out what I thought was sexual tension started going through the roof.
He took every chance to touch me in passing and I can tell how he's always looking at my reactions to the jokes he tell etc. Everyone around us has noticed and are convinced he's in love with me or something, while no one suspects me and my poker face. Yet when I confessed to him he said he doesn't know if he can reciprocate and doesn't know what I mean by him having touched me.
What the fuck do I do? People (including him) have told me before that I am intimidatingly attractive or something so could that be it? I've given him every chance to be with me but he won't take it. Is it possible that everyone has just misunderstood and he actually isn't interested or is he intimidated? Should I just leave him be or keep trying and give him time to get used to the idea?
I can't really tell what the problem is. It's possible that he's interested in someone else or that you're not a virgin and he thinks you're a slut. If you're shy you don't straight out reject someone.
I'd keep trying to get his attention and keep suggesting to him that you're available, in case he changes his mind. Guys find it endearing when you keep trying, they don't immediately label you as creepy or something.
>>17317487
We're both adults so the slut thing isn't really relevant. And yeah I thought about him liking someone else but I mean it still hasn't all been my delusion when his friends think he gets nervous around me and has feelings for me.
>>17317501
I'm an adult and I've rejected a girl for being a slut before.
Anyways I would just keep hanging out with him and making subtle suggestions. See how he behaves and maybe he'll grow attracted to you if he isn't already. You can't force it on him.
>my oneitis is still in high school
>she's into the musical department
>the high school has a really popular music program that they all think is the hottest shit
>i hate everything they do
>they recently did a medley of classic rock and roll songs as a choir
>can you imagine great balls of fire sung by a choir?
>garbage
>they do a musical every year
>the director is horrible and he only does popular meme musicals
>i hate how my oneitis wastes her time performing in this mediocre garbage
>i can't bring it up to her or i'd sound like a pretentious asshole, which i guess i am
>i just want to listen to the velvet underground with her and watch the marx brothers
>>17317447
That you need to get out more and meet more people
>>17317447
You said it. You're a pretentious asshole, and you're jealous that she's into something that you can't or won't share in.
>>17317447
It's high school. Its gonna be shit.
Learn your opinion/criticisms not golden. And that nobody wants to be with a grumpy shitter.
I am recently divorced and back on the market.
I gave okcupid a go, but it seems that everyone on okcupid falls into one or more of several categories:
1. fat
2. ugly
3. single moms
4. sluts
Is there a website out there that isn't dominated by fat single moms and sluts?
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>>17317434
no.
All the "good" women don't need/use dating sites.
Get out more bro.
You are gonna have to pay, no shit the bottom of the barrel go to free website
>>17317448
i don't want to leave the house
i might have settle with sluts or slight chubbies
i'm planning to go on a longer backpacking trip
i have done this kind of thing before but not yet alone
any advice?
>>>/out/
I'm not being snarky, go ask them
equipment wise i got almost everything but what would you recommend is absolutely necessary to bring along.
something unusual but very helpful maybe?
>>17317441
Out here
How many days
How can I slowly convince my brother to break up with his gf? The problem is, he is very happy with her. But she is dumb, doesn't show any respect to anyone and is very feministic/dominant. My whole family hates her but my brother doesn't know it. I'm afraid that he is going into angry-mode if someone confronts him that she is a problem. Any advice about that? She is going to ruin him.
you're shit and you live in a shithole country and your family lives in a cave and eats bugs
>>17317420
>your family lives in a cave and eats bugs
As a hobby survivalist and bushcrafter I wish that would be true. Unfortunately we live in wealthy Europe.
you're a caveman and your dad touches you in the butt
Also, some venting in there.
I'll cut straight to it. Since October of last year, I've had some crazy shit going on with my body. It started with what felt like growing pains in my left arm. Sometimes in the shoulder, sometimes the elbow, and even the wrist. Sometimes it was so painful I couldn't sleep on it. Within a month of developing that, I began to get cankor sores in my mouth. They'd come and go rather quickly. Some tongue bleeding with circular red patches too. My throat also hurt something wicked. Kept me up at night as well. Go to doc, get diagnosed with tendonitis. Nothing to say about my throat. That's cool.
By February, the pain in my arm and mouth just... goes away. Didn't really do much to initiate that. Felt like there wasn't much to do. Starting around mid April, I develop this circular rash on right hand, above lip, and around both eyes. The rash on hand itches like mad sometimes. Around my eyes was a little itchy and above my lips, not at all. It looks like lizard skin. My skin around my eyes looked particularly like separated, dry scales. My eyes healed in about two weeks. It's almost three months now. My hand still flares up in the original area where it started, with smaller flare ups. Above my lip begins to look dry, and get an irritated shade of red. The only thing that makes it go away is steroid ointments.
Here's the biggest doozy. Around Mid May, my stomach pretty much turned on me. It started out as nausea then morphed into intense pain. Doesn't matter what I ate or didn't eat. I also changed a lot of products thinking it was an allergic reaction. It seems obvious this is systemic. Anyway, the pain was excruciating. Sometimes eating a small bite of something triggers it. Took a 14 day course of nexium, a 2 week course of 20mg omeprazole twice a day,then upped it to 40mg. This is my fourth day on antibiotics for a UTI that fucking came out of no where.
But my stomach has felt better since I started the antibiotics. Sorry about the length. Hopefully the more info, the better. I'm only 24 years old. I feel like I fucking wasted all that time while I did feel normal, bitching about shit that wasn't important, instead of enjoying what I had. I took my health way for fucking granted.
a minor arm injury, stress, delusions, scratching yourself
>>17317415
Impossible to tell without bloodwork. Have you had any?
Too many symptoms over a long period of time.
Any blood boils or blisters?
Well here's the short story:
I'm really autistic, can't talk with a girl for shit and i don't have any topics to come up with them.
That's strange because i had a 1 year girlfriend and everything gone okay, and i had been hanging out with a girl for 1 month before i've gone to another university.
I play and know something about music, i'm into games, tv series, animes, i exercize, but i never know what to say to a girl, specially if she only aswners with "oh. Yeah. Yep."
Maybe i'm forcing myself too much? Should i just focus on my studies and tell my friends, who try to make me hang out with girls, to fuck off? I mean, i find some of them attractive but it never works.
>>17317373
THe answer here is simple. If she gives 1 word responses, you either
1. Stop talking to her all together.
or
2. switch topics to something interesting, and if no dice, stop talking to her.
I recommend step 1. Get her snapchat, send her sexy pictures (not of your dick and dont look like you're trying hard). It's the only way to get their attention, and if she never warms into good conversation with you... Repeat steps 1 and 2.
Get a Tinder.
>TFW I tried to flirt, went too far, and fucked up and now she hates me
>>17317658
I tried step 2. I think i will simply do step 1. Because:
>>17317706
It's totally the opposite. I was there minding my business and simply told my friend some girl i saw at the campus was pretty cute. He told a couple of people and they all tried to make we talk to each other.
Well, i thought it would be a cool experience and could even like her and end closer, but it seems that both of us are uninterested. And no i didn't flirt or something like that.
I'm just an androgynous guy trying to get through college but I'm poor as fuck, do you see my problem? Do any of you sad fucks have any advice?
>I'm a poor guy in college
>I need a sugar daddy
Are you gay? Go on a dating site or something
>>1173173
I'm gay yeah but I'm not looking for a boyfriend.
I'm looking for a mutual agreement where I do gay shit and get help with college.
Go on Grindr or manhunt, put a photo of your shaven androgynous body with a few $$$ in the headline or description.
For bonus daddy points put that you like older guys in the description.
older gay men are easy enough to manipulate if you are attractive and willing to put out.
My girlfriend has been getting into feminism lately. How do I stop this?
leave her so she can find someone worth her time
>>17317350
>o
What kind of feminism?
Is she saying that all man should die?
If she is not , there is nothing to worry about
>>17317360
Bullshit "male privilege. The patriarch oppresses women" feminism. I really like her and don't want to leave her but I can't stand this shit.
Hey /adv/ so I'm starting work as a receptionist at a GP soon. I've never worked as a receptionist ever, but they've run me through two 1-2 hour trials of the position and I'm picking up the work flow really quickly.
The doctor wants me to do three more training sessions before they hire me this week. I'm totally cool with it since I have plenty of time and I'm really keen on the job.
My dad however, has been telling me that the training should be paid and that the practice is really unprofessional etc. whereas my sister says it's completely normal?
Especially since I have no prior experience, plus I've been told not many receptionists stay long (the practice attracts many stressed out business people as patients so the doc wants me to get a feel for the patients that come in) so I'm assuming they don't want to start paying someone with no experience outright, only to have them leave.
Is this all ok you think? I've never had a job before, and I've done heaps of volunteer work so it didn't bother me to do a couple of unpaid training sessions to lead to a paying job.
Also tips and hints for reception work I guess.
>>17317342
I don't know the answer to this since you're in australia, but I googled "are unpaid internships legal in australia" and got your Fairwork government website answering a lot of your questions. If your situation was in the U.S.? No, it wouldn't fly. You can't do work replacing a worker or to benefit an employer like a regular employee and not pay them. However, briefly looking at Australia's page, it looks a lot more lax, so it might be okay. But you need to go look at that page and see.
As for receptionist tips? Always. Be. Professional. Always. Always, always. Just because a customer is having an ~*emotion*~ (or several emotions), doesn't mean you have any need to come to their level. Let them run their course, and maintain your professional, calm demeanor. Be kind and friendly. Multitask. If you find you forget things, then post-it notes are your best friend for jotting down notes as you go. Don't be afraid to ask questions. But keep your emotions in check around the customers or if you're being reprimanded or something. Get that chill multi-tasking flow going on and you will rock it.
>>17317896
Ah thanks I did more reading on it, I guess I got so eager for a job I started thinking more on whether this was something a lot of employers did as opposed to if it was legal ha. Thank you for looking into it and pointing me in the eight direction.
Looks like it's fine if it's all supervised sessions. I think once they offer me a shift on my own I'll make sure if to see if it's a formal job offer and not just an unpaid shift.
And thank you for all your tips, I'll take it all to heart. The practice is right in the middle of an area full of law offices so I know it'll be way busier than the GPs I've personally been to.
Well im a pacific guy , i never got into a fight but last week i fought some guy who was anoying my friend and a lot of people watched it and they told me i was pretty good, well.
3 days ago a friend of mine invited me to train with him at his gym with a professional trainer.
Well, i practiced and i fought a guy on the ring friendly, he was pretty bad and didnt hit me i almost knock him out.
The trainer says he would train for me 1 month free, but i had to fight somebody at the end of the month, obviosly on a ring.
Well im scared of getting punched or getting knocked out and i heard that if u get knocked out it's pretty fckd up on your head.
Im honestly scared, but they say im good which i don't undestand why.
I'm scared that i might gain some enemies because at my age a lot of the poeple who practice boxing it's because they want to be badasses and all that crap.
And after i fought that guy on a party , the guy who as anoying my friend, my girlfriend told me she doesn't want me to fight anybody again.
I'm 6,3 and i weight 190lb.
>>17317335
if you don't like getting punched in the face then i imagine you should look for a different career. even the best get hit.
You don't seem to want to do it at all, so why should you? Just because you're good at something doesn't mean you should do it if you don't enjoy it at all.
Do you wanna be a cuck for your gf, or do you wanna follow something you are good at?
A few months ago, I realised my dream and opened my own restaurant.
My goal was to become the best fish restaurant in town and provide good portions of top quality fish meals for a decent prices. It's just me, my best driend and a waitress.
We had a good start but we still don't have as many customers as we'd like to.
I invited a few cooks from other restaurants to have some criticism. They didn't say anything bad about my cooking.
However, 2 of them suggested to replace my waitress. They said she's doing a good job, but isn't cheerful enough, and that it's a big part of getting customers back.
About the waitress: To be short, she's a real dyke. No make up, short hair (but not in a feminine way), covered in tattoos, often wearing camos, she's not cheerful nor flirty with customers... However her work is perfect imo, she doesn't care about taking long shifts, she helps with everything, she takes care of everything that isn't cooking...
Should I fire her?
First off, congratulations for taking the first step. It takes some balls because something like 90% of start ups fail.
Fire the waitress because she is detrimental to potential customers coming back. Follow the advice of those who are experienced with the industry. Find somewhere cheap to advertise. Best luck dude.
>>17317337
I really feel bad for firing someone who always does her best and never causes us any problem...
>>17317343
Unfortunately, in business you have to make tough calls sometimes.
How true is the "if she touches her hair she likes you breh" meme? I had a """""date""""" with a female friend I hadn't seen in a long time and she did pic related (straighting up and pulling her hair back, like a ponytail) and tucked her hair with her hand several times. We didn't kissed or shit tho. She laughed, said it would be cool to meet again and asked if I'm going anywhere in the summer.
>>17317319
She likes you, you dumb nigger.
Go for it
>>17317319
All you need to do is make her laugh, then look her in the eyes while smiling, and if she holds eye contact with you for like a second and starts smiling/laughing more so than just after the joke, it's obvious.
If she's like "stop looking at me" or something, then nah.
>>17317319
Holding enough healthy eye contact with a girl is the #1 way to show your confidence, and assert your dominance.
What should I do with my life?
I am 23 yo. stuck in 5th year (out of 6) of college. Over the years I have come to regret my college of choice which is medicine. I hate it so much.
I have no idea what I was thinking 5 years ago to get into medicine.
This has resulted in me developing something I would call fear of living.
You see among other things I am also a kv. I don't have much going in life for me. I am struggling to find a single reason to keep me going through college.
My family never had much money so I became opposite of materialistic. Money is not much of a drive for me and since I have deep disconnect when it comes to relationships and intimacy neither are women.
No matter how many times I go through this in my head I cannot see myself finishing this. I cannot bring myself to study for 5 minutes.
And not just on an emotional level but physical as well. I started to feel very nauseous and feel like vomiting every time I try to study for a little longer.
I am not depressed or suicidal, just concerned or very afraid about my future. Straight out of hs I went to college and now I'm here. At 23 with absolutely 0 skills, very few acquaintances (I don't feel friends would fit the description) in a country where making basic living isn't that easy. And I fear about my existence in somewhat near future.
And I have no desires, ambitions or whatever. Most productive thing I do with my time is working out in my room. That's about it.
Tl dr: existential crisis I guess...
>>17317314
sounds like you are burning out a common /adv/ issue.
Power through finish school and then take a year off to decompress. Consider it your reward.
Do not bail out now. Med students who bailed midway through due to burn out are a dime a dozen and you will regret quitting more that you would regret continuing no matter how you feel right now.
>>17317329
taking a year off costs money anon. OP said they don't have any
>>17317329
>Power through
How? I think I would require a serious dose of brainwash or to ever get near a textbook again.
I need something to push me forward. Anything at all. The tiniest thing to look forward to after I'm done.
