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What can I do to make people more motivated to care about things like health, environmental issues and other big things that we need to think about now but often don't?
People will spend $20 a week on coffee or $200 on a pair of jeans but won't donate $10 a month to a single cause of their choosing. It's depressing. The medical research budget in USA could be doubled for this kind of expenditure (and even less in other countries that don't research as much).
You sound like real fun to be around.
>>17317703
Yes, you are the kind of person I am talking about. Thank you for being exhibit A.
>>17317686
Hypocrites
When i was 11 my brother had this girlfriend , super atractive.
He was 19 and she was 18 they dated for a really long time i think 5 years or soo.
Well now im 19 and i went to the city where she lived because i wanted to see some old friends.
Its a really small town and i saw her again when i was shoping.
I talked to her and she didn't recognize me at the first time, well we went to a bar to have some drinks and just talk, we haven't seen eachother since years.
She gave me her number and invited me to her place tomorrow.
She is still super hot and i don't know what to do, she is an amazing girl but i don't know guys....
I'ts my brother's ex.
>>17317684
In situations like this i tend to assume its a trap.
eh I wouldn't.
Why do you assume she wants to fuck? If so, stay away. That's nope territory right there
>"he will always have a special place in my heart. He was one that I opened up to whole heartedly and although we had such a crazy relationship, I couldn’t imagine going through what we did with anyone else; all the ups and the downs, I’m glad that I experienced them with you.
I will always love you. I will always treasure our friendship. I will always be grateful for what we shared. I will always consider you my best friend. And I hope that you will always remain in my life because the person that I am today is all thanks to and because of you. You’re really, incredibly special to me and you truly are irreplaceable.
Thank you."
So a girl that I've been hung up on wrote this about me. She has a bf rn. We used to date last year but things ended badly. She's still touchy/flirty with me. I think im catching feelings for her again /adv/. Am I friend zone? What do I do??
>>17317680
If she makes any effort talking to you at all, especially this elaborate, she wants to either cheat on her ex with you, or dump him all together... but fears being alone for even a millisecond so she's trying to hop from dick #2 back to dick #1 at lightspeed.
Do whatever but if you catch feelings, fuck her anyway then let her know she isn't getting any more dick unless she dumps her boyfriend.
If you never did anything sexual, yes you are in friendzone
>>17317680
Unless, this message was a response to YOU initiating conversation with HER... Then Ignore ,my above statement^^^. If this was out of the blue, she's thirsty. If not, she's trying to let you down gently/ make you into an orbiter.
>Have gf who I met through an /r9k/ Skype thread
>Been together for over a year at this point
>Past month and a half as been hard, tons of arguing, yelling, etc
>A few days ago I got in contact with another girl through a mutual friend of ours
>Been talking constantly
>We hung out earlier today
>I got feelings for her, butterflies when I see her
>Texting, calling each other cute
>Basically flirting with another girl while I've been in a relationship for 14 months
What the fuck do I do. I never thought I'd be in this position. I can't tell if I genuinely like this girl or I just want to fuck her brains out.
Fuck.
This is awful.
Just kys
>>17317670
>>Have gf who I met through an /r9k/ Skype thread
Lies. There are no female robots
I dated a very shy girl (Who was horrible with communicating when it came to feelings) off and on for about 7 months, and fell in love with her like an idiot. We made time when we could, I was a high school graduate working full time, and she was a senior in high school with a crazy busy schedule. I ended things because towards the last month, it ended up only me making any effort, and me starting to think that she was just blowing me off with "I'm busy" related excuses. I later found out her being busy to be the actual truth, and a few months later apologized to her, explaining I thought she was just blowing me off but wouldn't say it, even after me telling her twice that if she wasn't interested, I'd appreciate it if she saved us both the time and told me. She told me twice that she DID have feelings for me, but with high school/team captain/30 hours a week part time job/parents constantly pressuring her to maintain straight A's in her senior year, she didn't have the time. She told me "I know it sounds like I'm stringing you along, and I'm not, but it's not fair to you and I'm so so sorry." But at that time all I could think was that if she really cared, she would have made the time and more of an effort.
It's been about 8 months since I last messaged her with that apology, and I still dream about her about twice a month. They're dreams that I wake up just wanting to go back to sleep because they're wonderful dreams, but when I wake up I realize how bad I fucked up. One of her good friends is dating my best friend, and I've become good friends with her by proxy. I was thinking about asking her if the girl hates me/resents me/has any residual feelings. If there's no bad feelings, I want to just message her (I live an hour and ten minutes away right now because college, but I drive home every week anyways), and ask her her side of it, what her thoughts were, hoping to get some closure, maybe start again. I just want to talk. How poorly do you think this will go?
>>17317662
There is a reason people hate there Ex's beyond discord.
Its easier to turn love into hate than society would lead you to believe.
>>17317667
I don't want to hate her though. She did nothing wrong, I was the one who ultimately ended it. I do believe she had feelings for me, as do my peers who know about the situation, they just keep telling me it was a bad deal. But I don't see why I shouldn't be able to try and fix things if possible.
Shameless bump
I really love my boyfriend but I know he is not right for me. I can't imagine never speaking to him again so I don't break up with him. I don't know what to do.
>I really love my boyfriend but....
Stop. you just want someone around to feel valid or not alone. Stop being an emotional Parasite and either admit you just wanna fuck around with other people or you can't face being alone.
>>17317646
Do what boys do and fuck him until you find someone better, or suck it up, grow the fuck up and stick with him forever because there is no "right one" and if there was, you wouldn't be his "dream girl" anyway.
>>17317681
But there is a wrong one.
Hey /adv/,
I recently started liking my friend's sister's friend (an obscure connection, I know), and she seems somewhat into me. The only problem is that she's "90% lesbian" and I'm a guy. She wants to sit down and "have a deep conversation and have [her friend] as a moderator to see if she deal with me"
What the hell do I say/avoid? How do I avoid sounding super pushy and obnoxious? We do have quite a few things in common to at least have a superficial talk about.
Pic related, she looks very similar
Thanks family
>She wants to sit down and "have a deep conversation and have [her friend] as a moderator to see if she deal with me"
what
the
fuck
is
that
what the fuck does that mean
>>17317637
>have a deep conversation and have [her friend] as a moderator to see if she deal with me
Fucking lol. Enjoy your Tumblrina
>>17317637
Sounds dumb.
If she can't talk with would without a moderator and she doesn't even know what her sexual preference is she is trouble down the line. Maybe if she cuts the crap and actually wanted to talk to you it would be cool but she is making you just through flaming hoops for no fucking reason.
So I got this cute girl's number yesterday, she works at a chineseplace near my dorm and we see each other about once or twice a week. It wasn't busy, we talked for a bit while my food was getting ready, etc, asked for her number, got it, texted her for about half an hour last night. My question is, considering I haven't done this in a while, when would be a good time to text her again, what should I say (just general conversation topics, I can handle myself from there), and how long till I actually ask her out to dinner or something.
>inb4 stop being a pussy and just talk to her, like I said it's been a while and I want to make sure I don't fuck things up
>>17317621
ask her out for a date. something low key.
Hey! I'm going to try out this new ice cream/music/vidya/book place *this day* you want to come with me? I'm gonna be there at *this time*, I can pick you up or we can meet there.
>>17317636
>>17317651
Fair enough, I was more worried about a timeline though. Like a few days, a week, should I talk to her in the meantime, etc.
is this rape;
I was having sex with someone, then they wanted anal sex, I said no, they did it anyway, I was crying for a while saying it hurts and stop.
They said they would stop when I came, so I faked it.
yeah
Fuck
Is this bait? I can't tell anymore.
Saging to be safe
Did you say "STOP NOW, I DON'T WANT THIS?" and tried to physically get them away from you?
this is it.
im 38 years old, jobless for 5 and half months, parents gone, no where to turn to, living life trying to make ends meet every fucking day, cant bear with myself to even go and meet new people. Currently sitting here with a glass of cranberry juice thinking how fucking shit i am. i really am giving up
Start over. Simply find a sport or a hobby ur interested in and eventually you will find friends through that.
>>17317597
Don't feel embarrassed, I'm sure there's people who'd hang with you.
I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting, OP. But you are stronger than this situation. Keep fighting. You will break through.
Ordinarily I would say that the first thing you should do is go for a job, any job, but at the moment I think the isolation may actually be a more immediate concern. I know only too well how hard it is to fight yourself to do the things you can't bring yourself to do. But fight you must, or this will kill you. And fight you can: it's one of the relatively few perks of being human.
Is it creepy that I call my 16 year old sister pretty somewhat often? I never really thought anything of it but I'm starting to wonder if its been giving off a creeper vibe.
>>17317588
You could ask her.
but yes its creepy.
The only reason it seems creepy to you is that you've been on this site too long.
It isn't creepy if it is giving her the emotional and self esteem boost she seems to be needing at the time.
I'm thinking about making a craigslist ad to do people's writing homework for them. How much do you guys think I should charge? How much would you pay, realistically? I'm thinking about charging by the page.
like $3.50 a page
>>17317582
I think its a bad idea and someone will murder you. Not even joking man also its summer.
maybe $3.25
>Have friend who used to be a huge asshole to everyone
>Cut him out of the friend group for a while
>Eventually he comes back, really trying to be nice
>Isn't a saint, but is significantly less assholeish than before
>A few friends in our group are super stubborn and just refuse to give him another chance
>Constantly get into arguments about peoples refusal to just suck it up and get along with him
I'm just trying as hard as I can to keep the peace and it isn't working. Everyones just being a stubborn whiny petty bitch about things.
What do.
What does he do? Usually, if people piss others off without realizing it it's autism. My dad is a real fucking asshole. But in hindsight he might just be severely autistic. Maybe tell your friends that. They might be a bit nore understanding.
>>17317580
He just thought it was funny to be an asshole to people.
I realize that if you don't like someone you don't have to be friends with them, I'm just tired of the drama
Your friends have no obligation to forgive him
Your friends have no obligation to give him another chance.
By your logic murderers should be let out of prison if they're really really sorry they did it
Hey /adv/, i wish, i really really wish i could find a girl that have similar interested as me
The problem is, I'm fucking weird. I like spiders. I collect dead animals parts. I love visiting catacombs and graveyards. I've always been like this, and I'm also a pretty balanced individual
But as soon a girl discovers i'm some kind of Addams family member, I get dumped.
I have no fucking idea where to find someone like me. where the hell should i look? am I condemned to hide forever what i like?
Find the most emo bitch possible. You'll be her dream man.
>>17317530
Don't you have any normal interests, or are you just into weird shit? Couldn't you develop some? That might bump you over from "possible serial killer" into "quirky but cute."
A dude who likes spiders, collects dead animal parts, and loves catacombs is a lot weirder than a dude who likes all of those things and also is really into [guitar, painting (of normal shit, weirdo), camping, snowboarding, wine tasting, prog rock, basketball, cooking] <-- think of some other "normal" interests and choose your favorite three.
>>17317542
But I'm not emo at all man
People who have been in a relationship or are in one now, do you ever just think that your SO is going to cheat on you or worry about it? Even if they haven't really given you a reason to think that? How do you deal with these intrusive thoughts?
I thought this about my ex, she was practically obsessed with me and so I thought I was just being paranoid for nothing
Then she cheated on me
>>17317517
well that's not very comforting at all
>>17317511
I just kind of roll with it. If they cheat on me, bullet dodged. Hopefully it'd happen before things become too serious.
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