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I've found the girl of my dreams, very similar interests, humor, she's gorgeous, has identical political views (perhaps even a bit more extreme) she's very modest, hates feminism and the way modern women act like whores, and I've fallen in love with her.
Only problem is she's not of my race. Wat do /adv/?
Specify races too then.
I am White. she is Pakistani.
Why does it matter if she's a difference race?
Hello /adv/, I am considering moving to the state of Wyoming. What can you tell me about the state that I might not already know? Thinking of Cheyenne specifically, but open to more rural areas as well as long as there is decent work. Any current or former residents willing to share their experience with me?
Probably not gonna find many wyoming anons here.
Went to UWyo for a year myself, since i'm a nutjob.
It was alright. Pretty boring people, but they're nice and friendly.
Helluva lot of bars. Not much else to do, so they're popular.
Weather is shit most of the time. Cold as fuck. Snow starts in october and lasts through may.
Because of the cold and dry, there's no fucking bugs. Which is great coming from the south. Didn't even have nets on the windows, we never needed em.
>>17317169
Oh and the wind.
>>17317169
Seems like the worst part is the cold and wind for me. I'm super introverted, love guns, and hate taxes. It does not seem perfect, but I'd much prefer it to California
Holyfuck anons, please help me the fuck out.
>hunting for camwhores in Omegle
>meet this 21 year old girl that's a very generous 5/10 at the very best, chubby and looks like she has down syndrome
>but also horny as fuck, puts on one hell of a show and I can't help but inevitably ask for her contact after it
>add her on Kik, trade nudes for a few weeks and stuff
>she has a boyfriend, but he was obviously a borderline abusive cunt, so I never felt bad about virtua-cucking him
>this week, they break up
>she suddenly goes full depressive
>constantly talking about how she wants to kill herself
>it gets worse everyday, I spent this entire morning trying to convince her not to drink bleach
>she doesn't listen to any sort of reasonable argument on my part, just keeps on repeating her life is pure suffering
>she doesn't want to talk with her family about this
>she only wants to talk with me for some reason
>tfw I don't even like her on a romantic level, but my human instinct can't stand the thought of her killing herself
What the fuck am I supposed to do, /b/? I'm so fucking scared, someone please help the fuck out. I just made a thread about this on /b/ that 404'd ridiculously fast and some anons suggested using a dummy Facebook account to PM her family about her suicidal thoughts, but what if they read through our messages? Isn't it going to be even more awful and degrading for her to have nudes and sexting exposed to her family, on top of all?
>>17317110
/b/ wasn't wrong, for once. This isn't your responsibility. Contact her family or friends anonymously, tell them that she needs some serious help and attention, and then cut off all communication with her.
Nothing you can do will help. You're an idiot for getting into this position. I hope you've learned a lesson.
You've never met her, and you don't know anythingabout her. You're not responsible for her. What you're feeling is guilt for her situation because you contributed towards it, I agree. But you can't fix it yourself. What are you going to do otherwise, drive there and marry her?
>>17317309
In my defense, I wasn't the one provoking her break up or supporting her sudden spiraling depression. Everything points out to her turning towards me out of blue as a last resort after leaving her boyfriend and apparently feeling totally unloved, I'm not sure if it would have been much better if I never spoke to her and she were alone now.
I'll try contacting her family, but it kinda scares me to think about how they could react. On top of the sexting thing, what if they impulsively confront her through phone and, out of despair, she immediately kills herself? Should I explicitly warn them about the importance of talking in person?
There are 7 billion people on this planet. It's not because some random camwhore landwhale dies that it's going to be a better or worse place. It's not your responsibility, let her do it.
About to text girl from school for the first time, but im not sure how this works.
This is the first number i've gotten in 6years (im 23, former neet) and i got 0 experience with texting girls.
So im thinking about saying something like:
>Hey it's anon. What's up?
Is that a decent first message or is it retarded and stupid? pls help
>>17316948
That's fine dude, stop overthinking
>>17316952
This.
The more you focus on it the less natural it will be.
Just start with a "hey what's up?", some chit chat on how she's been doing and then if she's free this X day.
>>17316948
Be sure not to say Anon tho, she might think you're me
27 oldest of my brothers, currently living at home studying a masters of cyber security with a year to go. was recently unemployed but I have managed to land a part time web dev job for three days a week. Signed up as a contract so the company avoids paying anything like super or sick/holiday leave.
Never have a had a GF, got fucked over in looks compared to my brothers. Two brothers don't understand a lot of the happiness they have received in life isn't because of hard work but because the world didn't fuck them over genetically. Al women have rejected me some cunt used my bank account to pay for a transaction of 200 dollars so yay I can't go out to my favorite bar.
I hate western society and how it treat young shy, intelligent not confident men. I can't wait to see it all go to shit in the next few years. I'm sick of seeing western women act like spoiled entitled little whores, I'm sick of society of praising for being pigs with no self control. Everyday I think of hanging myself on the tree in front of my house I have nothing to live for nothing I missed out on girls I missed on dating I missed out on feeling like I could be loved. And what will I get in a return a 35 year post wall hag only capable of producing autistic spawn.
I will most likely hang myself soon, I can't take much more of this gynocentric nightmare. I'm so fucking tired I don't know what to.
Would fleeing to asia help?
>cyber security
>1 year left
Dude. Hang in there. Cyber security is a huge paying job.
>I hate western society
Then visit Europe, people will beat you or call names instead of ignoring you.
My girlfriend wants to castrate me. It's her deepest fantasy, and I sort of want to grant her it. I don't want children, so I'm fairly down with it, but what could go wrong? I'll still be able to orgasm right? And I guess there's a very low chance of me bleeding out, as the blood supply to the balls is pretty small.
Anyone got advice on how we'd do it?
this is the weirdest bait ever
the obvious answer is no dont dont do it because your girlfriend is likely not permanent
You don't make permanent bodily changes like that. Castrating yourself will reduce your musculature to nothing and you will likely regret it. Do not do this.
Im 23, how bad is it for me to date someone who is 17?
We've been seeing each other for about a week now. Shes super cute, and her personality is actually surprisingly decent.
She showed her high-school clingy side tho the other day when she kept texting me asking me if I was her boyfriend or not, after that I kind of felt like I had to break up with her.
I hung out with her yesterday and we talked but I couldnt bring myself to do it.
She made the point that the age difference practically makes no difference. While I made the point that I dont want to date a high schooler (she has one more year), she has to use her parents cars and ask for permission to go out, and her parents think im 21 when im actually 23.
I dont know what to do. I actually really like her, but this whole situation reminds me too much of my last relationship, where my gf was 10 years older than me. We got along great, but I was always haunted by this feeling that things were never really gonna work out so eventually I had to break up with her and it was the worst thing I had to do in my life, I dont want that to happen again.
In fact, its why I havent had a gf since, for the past three years. Ive dated a good handfull of girls but I always self-destruct the relationship early on because I dont want to have to break up with them later.
Is it legal to date 17yo's where you live?
Half your age plus 7.
A 17-year-old is basically still mentally a child. This will be apparent the longer you get to know her. She also has no capability to be able to really commit to a relationship with you since she's still living with her parents and she's covering up your actual age with them. It isn't going to be a healthy relationship for either of you due to restrictions and the differences in maturity and sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
>>17316369
If I were her parents I'd kick your ass. Leave the high schoolers alone. Who the fuck hangs out with school girls anyway?
Considering it, just for casual sex most likely, but the whole concept just seems awkward as fuck.
Every chick I ever met from Tinder just wanted my weed and for me to smoke them up, platonically. I deleted that app off my phone. You can do much better in real life than Tinder, because Tinder is skewed completely towards women. It's not "online dating" it's "waiting to be desired by a woman". Go talk to chicks at a bar.
Trips
And yeah it is awkward. I met 2 girls from Tinder.
Girl 1- she flaked... A few days before we met. She kept telling me how she wanted to suck me off. She said she didn't even care if I did anything for her, she just wanted to suck me for hours. Obviously, I said I like oral. So I'd go down on her. She said she was very excited. Well, the day came, when I was driving over, she asked if she could invite a friend to hang out with us. So when I got there, she had 2 friends with her. It was fucking awkward. So I showed up, and they said they were hungry. So we all got in my car and went to IHOP. They all just talked and gossiped about bullshit the whole time. It was fucking gay. Then they asked if I'd pay for their meals. And I said fuck no. So I left. It was bullshit. They tried using me. Because the girl who I was texting with barely even spoke to me. She just sat there and talked to her friends.
Girl 2- drove to her house, picked her up and we went and walked a trail for a few hours and talked. Went back to her house. Started watching TV. She started making out with me. I get ontop of her, slide her panties off, fingering her while I'm pulling my dick out. And in between moans, RIGHT before I am about to go innaVagina she says "uuhhmm I-I don't do that the first time I meet someone.. I have morals.." so confused, I just kept fingering her, which she was ok with. And she came hard as fuck. I then sat on the couch and watched COPS. Thinking about what she said. Then she smiles, looks at me and says "oh! It's your turn!" And sucks me for like 30min. But I never came. Then after she got bored, she just played with my dick in her hands and talked. She said "I don't like having sex the first time I meet someone because I don't want to feel like a slut". I left.
>>17316357
>Girl 2
what sounds like a keeper
only 50% slut, good enough innit?
Hey \adv\, I've got a small problem. I am a 20 years old male, who never in his life had a gf. Also I'm 6'3. I'm in college and do sports 4 times a week(of which 2 times are barbell training). I still am too autistic to get a gf. Recently I wrote this cute girl in facebook(I talked to her irl a few times) but she didnt respond. I just hate myself so much. Honestly, yeah I want to have sex, but my main reason is that I just want someone to cuddle with and talk to :(.
But aparently I am to worthless for that.
I'm not a virgin , but my first and only time was a one night stand, with a girl, who was well over 30 and really ugly. I never hold hands with a girl, never kissed a girl I really liked. It just hurts so much.
Wtf is wrong with me. Should I just kill myself?
Pic related is me, maybe there is something wrong with my looks?
>>17316223
you are a good looking guy. dont know why you cant get a gf as i dont personally know you but it must be something to do with your personality. you sounds desperate, maybe that has something to do with it?
>>17316234
Yeah I am desperated, though I try to hide it a bit.
My personality may be a problem, I´m pretty shy and don´t like being around a lot of people.
Maybe my desperation showed a little too much with this girl? idk
jus
B
urselv
Post along with the brain that fucks with you and ask questions: Just remember not to substitute this for therapy and to let your Ilness make you into a victim.
Hey /adv/.
Do you have any tips for living with manic/depressive episodes?
Right now I employ:
>Exercise
>Drugs (Mirtazapine)
>Trying to keep social
I've also been wondering if I should quit weed and alcohol all together since I'm taking medication.
You should also post what your diagnosed with because mental illness ranges from schizophrenia to social anxiety.
I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I use weed as an ssri re uptake inhibitor. Colanzapam for anxiety, citalapram for the depression, doctors think I might be by polar but are waiting to see.
I try and work a lot, two jobs doesn't leave much time to think. I also talk to people who emotionally invest in me because the likely hood of them giving a shit and understanding is higher.
Other than that just hobbies and pets help.
>>17316179 same. hve clinical depression with psychosis, GAD social phobias. might be bipolar doctors also waiting...feel shitty been crying through out the day for the past 3 days. what do? my friends don't want anything to do with me, parents and siblings in California for trip
so im alone in my abode. know drinking wont help. been cutting though
>>17315957
bump this
![male-and-female-relationship-sign[2].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/md9hvAO.jpg "male-and-female-relationship-sign[2]")
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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
>>17315748
Any girls in this thread willing to give me pity sex?
>>17315752
No.
>>17315752
I wouldn't want anything to do with any of the guys here, let alone give them pity sex.
We're here to listen.
Last thread: >>17305888
I just want to die. I just want to feel loved.
Someone please just end the suffering. I just want the pain to go away. I just want to die
>>17315425
Does this really belong on /adv/?
>on my chest
>>17315448
>I just want to die. I just want to feel loved.
Those are kind of contradictory, anon.
>>17315458
In my opinion, it does belong here since it's meant to help people by giving them someone to confide in, who can listen, sympathize, comment, and give advice if needed.
For most people, that someone is a close friend, a family member, a priest, etc.
For us, it's anonymous.
Is it a bad thing if I behave a certain way and do certain things because I want to look cool to other people?
Here's the thing.. I don't have any friends and I don't talk to anyone most of the time anyway, so I was thinking, isn't it just a total waste of time to try to look cool... when no one even notices me, cares about me, or remembers me as someone more than a random passerby? What is the point?
I imagine in my mind acting a certain way and other people thinking "wow, that guy is a badass", but this is just a daydream, it's unlikely to happen in the real world. And even if it did, what the fuck does it matter to me? Sure, it'd be satisfying for my ego if someone said I was cool, but that's a pretty short-lived moment of gratification that isn't worth the effort and worry I put into establishing some kind of image for myself.
Anyway, the point is, should I stop caring about what others think of me? I'm leaning towards stopping to care, but I'm scared. I feel like creating this image for myself gives me some kind of identity, defines me as a person, and without it I would be a nobody.
A lot of the things I do every day - my habits, hobbies, way of speaking, etc - are defined by this artificial image I'm creating for myself. If I were to stop caring about maintaining this identity, would I not lose my sense of purpose in life? It's scary because of this; it almost feels like identity suicide - and I'm not sure if I'll become a better person if I commit it. In the case that I do, would I still even be "me"? Would I still like and respect myself? Would I look back and think the current me was just a stupid phase?
I don't know. What do you guys think? Should I stop trying to create an image that seems cool to others, and if I should, how do I go about becoming a better person for my own sake instead?
I think eventually you tend to stop caring about what other people think.
The only thing I can offer you is an anecdote. About a year ago over the course of a month I stopped giving a shit. Pretty sure it was the last stages of brain development or something as I had turned 25.
There's a very fine line between being yourself and acting for the sake of others.Everyone's the main character in their own story, so it's up to you to decide what kind of a life is really worth living, and what kind of purpose you're looking for be it a combination of goals you seek to achieve or such.
I used to be do this too, act for the sake of others. It takes less than a couple seconds for someone to form a impression of you and then forget it right after. Random strangers don't actually care about your every action as much as you think they do, they all have their own shit to deal with.
It seems like you've realized that you don't want to live up to the very image you built.If you want a more genuine life, experiment and find hobbies, go out and actually do something you might enjoy. Friends will come along the way if you put yourself out there (and not completely sperg out) Do yourself a favor, be yourself.
>>17315318
Well, that's nice to hear. I hope I'll grow out of it eventually.
>>17315339
It's hard to decide what kind of life I want, honestly.. I'm torn. You are right when you say it's a fine line, I'm not sure if I try to act the way I do for me or for the sake of others. I think it's like this.. I myself like the image I've built, but the REASON I created it in the first place is because of insecurities and wanting to seem cool to other people.
However I might be wrong.. It's possible I'm judging whether I like this image or not through the lens of others, in which case it might not be what my true self would really want to be.
I guess I should just try out different activities and hobbies more, as part of the reason I don't is definitely due to thinking they are not "compatible" with my image. If I allow myself to enjoy something new, something that I thought wasn't "for me", is that being yourself? What if I end up liking something that I think is stupid/bad/lame/whatever? I don't really get it, is being yourself always accepting your innate likes and desires, or is it fine to try to change them if you logically think one of those likes is bad, as long as you do it only for yourself and not for others?
Thanks for the advice anon.
Let's have a thread about unplanned pregnancy to maybe help other anons avoid it. Both guys and girls can answer.
If you've ever had one:
How old were you?
How did it happen?
What contraception method were you using?
Were you using it properly?
What went wrong?
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
Who was the mom/dad?
What was your relationship like?
How did they handle the pregnancy?
What is your relationship with them now?
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
Did you have he baby?
What was pregnancy and birth like?
Are you raising him/her?
How has it changed your life?
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
How old were you?
>18 going on 19
How did it happen?
>uh I kind of have a fetish for having a guy finish inside kek
What contraception method were you using?
>none, we used condoms at the beginning of our relationship but like 2 months in we stopped.
Were you using it properly?
>when we were using them, yes.
What went wrong?
>I'm retarded. I got extremely careless.
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>depo shot (it makes you gain weight if you aren't mindful of your diet)
>basically anything that you don't have to remember to use right before sex.
Who was the mom/dad?
>my first boyfriend, previous to him I had a hard on for girls and only dated girls. He's a piece of shit so I do regret picking him.
What was your relationship like?
>we got high all the time together at the beginning. High sex=fucking amazing.
>he grew rather emotionally abusive further into our relationship.
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>rather well, I felt he was supportive at the beginning.
What is your relationship with them now?
>I left him at the end of February cause he wasn't coming home, turns out he was cheating on me and got some tweaker pregnant 2 months after meeting her. I have not talked to him willingly since May.
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait?
>don't fuck a loser, not matter how hung he is.
Are you more cautious now?
>kind of. I do use condoms but I don't every now and then lel
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>well I think
Did you get an abortion?
>no
Which kind? What was your experience?
>n/a
Did you have he baby?
>yes I had he baby
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>it was pretty neat, would definitely do it again
Are you raising him/her?
>yeah there's no way I'd let my ex raise the kid on his own. He and his family are very dysfunctional and are constantly in trouble with the law
How has it changed your life?
>more responsibility.
>no advice
>>17310474
Thanks for the reply! Bump for more
How old were you?
>17
How did it happen?
>carelessness
What contraception method were you using?
>pullout method
Were you using it properly?
>apparently not
What went wrong?
>I didn't pull out fast enough lol
What birth control method or tips would you recommend now?
>use a real form of birth control.
Who was the mom/dad?
>Mom was my second ever gf, we met at 16.
What was your relationship like?
>it was a 10 year long rollercoaster
How did they handle the pregnancy?
>some would say poorly, but it worked out for what we wanted
What is your relationship with them now?
>I'm trying to be a friend, she's very mentally ill
Any advice about who you should have sex with and when you should wait? Are you more cautious now?
>do.Not. Stick. Your. Dick. In. Crazy it's a meme at this point, but it will save you from lots of nasty things.
How did you handle the actual pregnancy?
>I like to think I handled it well, teenage pregnancy is tough. I "manned up" and made things work, at least for a while.
Did you get an abortion? Which kind? What was your experience?
>no
Did you have he baby?
>yes
What was pregnancy and birth like?
>a completely terrifying cluster fuck of emotion, all three times.
Are you raising him/her?
>yes, I have custody of my three kids.
How has it changed your life?
>completely, it is a huge amount of responsibility, but I'm the kind of person that needs that.
Any general advice that you would give based on your experience?
>don't take sex lightly.
Here we go again
>>17310222
Dear Aug. Pin.
You were a true hero, A deserved it, all those commies deserved it, You did good.
J
Dear God,
I don't know if my life is the best we could do but I believe it could be better. I hope that, obeying to the balance of the universe, things will get better. Truth be told, I believe in you as much as I believe in myself and that makes it like the grand Canyon to the mount Everest in terms of down and up. I want feel good for the right reason and feel bad when something bad happens. I don't want to be happy randomly and hypersensitive about shit. I just want to understand what I feel.
Hoping you exist and yours truthfully,
Somebody
Dear D,
Also sorry for bringing you in here. This place is bad for you, and I hope you left the minute you came here, or you never came at all. Either one is good, but seriously, choose option A if you haven't already.
J
