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My girlfriend was once confronted by a friend of mine with a dick pic, (before we started dating) and sent him a picture of her butt. I confronted her about it and she said it was because she didn't want to be an asshole. She's told me sorry numerous times but I still feel uncomfortable. What do I do?
>before we started dating
>before
>we
>started
>dating
>>17320912
This and
>because she didn't want to be an asshole
What the fuck that's not an excuse that means she'd show anyone who asked
>>17320900
It was before you dated. Get over it.
But if she's sending butt pics just to be nice she's either lying or stupid.
I am considering asking a girl out. I am a 24 year old handholdless, kissless virgin.
Since around the winter of 2013 i have ridden at a stable. There is a girl there that i unfortunately got a crush on. Now we recently built a stable at home so i don't go to the same stable any more and i was thinking that maybe i could try asking this girl out. I know very little about her but i think there's a decent chance we could enjoy each others company.
Now I need y'alls help to make this happen. I added her on facebook and she accepted and i considered starting a conversation there and leading that towards a date. I don't know how to do any of that though.
Do y'all have any advice about how I could ask this girl out?
>>17320890
Not on Facebook, that's for sure. Dunno about the rest, i'm in your very same situation.
>>17320922
Is there a place that is better that facebook in this case?
>>17320933
Face to face maybe?
How do I get a gf if I look like pic related?
>>17320872
Get built and treat them like people in conversation
Tell the next girl you see to removeth thine coverings and report to your quarters for a jolly good dicking.
>>17320984
I'm pretty sure I'd put out for a guy that would say this.
I need to get my life together.
Right now I'm nearing my mid twenties and I'm basically a NEET. I live in my parent's house and have no college education. I'm trying to set up a reliable source of income from home, but progress is incredibly slow, if it all. I spend way too much time doing meaningless things, but I don't have the discipline to keep myself from doing it.
My goal is becoming self-sufficient and moving out, but my life routine is very poor at this moment. Ideally, I'd like to work about 5 days a week, have 1 day to do...
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>>17320866
cont.
Writing all that out it seems pretty apparent that I have trouble concentrating on one thing, and most likely have an internet addiction or something. I have some good days, but the majority of my days are as described in the first post.
I know I should do things differently, but the list is so big that I don't know where to start.
>Get more sunlight (literally get none on some days, only through the windows)
>Get some physical...
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>>17320887
*>Fix sleeping routine to be more productive and DOESN'T revolve around getting high at night
Going to sleep now, bump for hope.
>parent ask if I'm depressed
>say no even though I am
>"ok"
What can I do they never seem to really care and accept any answer I give them since I know saying yes will bring a lot of unwanted attention to me from family
>don't answer truthfully when they voice their concerns
>why don't they careeeeeeee?
Are you a special kind of retard?
>>17320869
Because they go to extreme measures to try and help and it doesn't benefit anyone and just puts me in a bad spot
>>17320864
What the fuck OP? Don't fucking complain, especially if you know exactly what you're doing and why you're doing it.
Hey, /adv/.
Basically, I was a hikikomori until about two months ago. I'm turning 21 this month, and am losing my viginity tomorrow.
I've been dating this girl for about a month. I'm a very shy and quiet person, and I have only made it to third base as a teenager.
My question is: How do I do the sex?
Does she know you're a virgin?
Peen goes in poon
Stick it in and shake your hips
Occasional lurker and first time poster here. I'm an INFJ, and I'm about to start the last year of my Bachelor's Degree in Computer Science at a top 10 university.
I know I don't need to have my life totally figured out now, but I'm struggling to find a career path that really excites me. I want to be part of a project that directly and positively affects the lives of other people. I'm also really driven by seeing the big picture in things and how my work serves some higher purpose. On the other hand, systems development is really interesting...
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>>17320815
>INFJ
Oh god, another one of these idiots.
I'm INTP/J and sometimes ENTP. Going for Economics. Want to work on a big company and then join the EU Parliament next to based Farage.
>>17320823
Well, it may seem silly to take a personality test to figure out more about myself, but it has definitely helped.
How do I stop being so sensitive?
Whenever someone is mean to me tears well up in my eyes and I think extreme thoughts.
Keep telling yourself you're the shit and you'll start to believe it. Keep thinking of all of your best qualities and just remember that everyone's insecure.
Stop giving fucks
I DIE, I LIVE, I DIE AGAIN!
How do I improve trust in a relationship?
Recently trust has broken down immensely with my gf, even though she's given me no discernible reasons to not trust her. In the last few months I've been getting paranoid as hell, even though she's more committed to the relationship than I, plus she loves me more than I love her (which is astounding in itself).
I think I've been reading too much red pill shit and it's getting to me over time, wearing me down so to speak.
My behaviour hasn't changed, my girlfriend is blissfully unaware,...
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>>17320802
>I think I've been reading too much red pill shit and it's getting to me over time, wearing me down so to speak.
So stop, or keep destroying your relationship.
>>17320820
Sorry for the poor wording - pretty drunk - but it's more like it planted a seed which is germinating, I'm not actively reading it.
>>17320849
Then you wait until your relationship breaks down, realise that you fucked up and the consequences of your actions, and start again with a new girl.
I've been a commited relationship for around a year. The girl in question is fiercely loyal, hardworking. I have absolutely no doubt that she loves me dearly, and I love her too.
This question goes out to any females, or males who can relate to my question. My girlfriend is very insecure. When I say this I don't mean she doubts my loyalness. What I mean is that she is quick to anger or exaggerate the tiniest of things, and requires as much of my attention as possible. E.g. the other day I had to cancel evening plans with her (with warning in advance) due to...
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I've dated someone with anxiety and she was the exact same way. She eventually became better, but we broke up because she just wasn't very sympathetic.
But anyway, make sure she's still going to counseling and is actively working on her anxiety, since it's something you have to work on everyday. If she sparks into an argument, don't say anything. Let her burn herself out. Hell, maybe even hug her for a bit when she begins to get mad. It worked for me, and usually turns into some nice sex.
When a girl with anxiety gets into an n argument,...
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>>17320838
Reassuring and lots of hugs and love certainly helps more than retalliating, and can really help diffuse a situation going terribly wrong. I'm worried exactly the same as you with the sympathy, she will often ask me why I'm so stressed "its the way I feel!" I often hear, and it has reached the stage on a few occasions where I've had to tell her that she fucked up and better apologise or I'm packing up.
Yet I still love her, I have never met a girl I could share so many interests with, I have never dated someone who even now, after a year of dating, we can still sit down at the table and before we know it its 5am and we've just become so engrossed with each other. Intimacy is not a problem either, but I look to the future and I don't know how much I can take the constant challenges and arguements.
>>17320905
Well, for me, the main thing the girl I dated and I had in common was that we both liked sex and we both liked fucking each other. Hence why it wasn't worth it for me when it turned out she wasn't as sympathetic as I'd wanted.
But for you two, it sounds like you're made for each other besides the constant arguments. If you can assure that she's working on it and continue to defuse any bad situations, I say go for it.
My boyfriend is suicidal. At first I thought he was trying to break up with me when he started to tell me that I should see other people and a lot of other scary things. Today we had a long conversation and I realized it was because he is planning to kill himself. I have no idea what to say or do, I can only cry my eyes out.
>>17320795
Talk to his parents or tell him to find help.
>>17320830
He hates his parents and wants nothing to do with them and refuses to go to therapy. I'm always asking him to go back on medication but he says he doesn't believe in it. I feel so helpless because we're in different countries at the moment.
>>17320843
well then, talk to someone you both trust and can actually help him.
Or even more easy, find a new bf already instead of dating a pussy twag.
Should I buy hallucinogens? Why everyone seems so upset when people use unharmufl drugs such as psychedelics?
>>17320789
Because they are uninformed and have been fed anti-drug propaganda for years.
That being said, there are certainly risks involved with drug use, but as long as you use responsibly (something not a lot people do) then you should be fine.
I'd say, if you have no mental issues and live a comfortable life, then go for it. Make sure to educate yourself thoroughly before use, and start with a low dose.
>>17320789
>unharmful
These substances are not harmless. I used a few times and lost my shit. I am hearing voices and have no idea what's going on generally. I am completely disorganized and feel as though my mind has split. A few minutes ago I was wondering whether or not I am dead. My cognition has gone out the window. I am suspicious of people and agencies and have weird ideas going through my head constantly. I can't clean, get out of bed or shower regularly. This has been going on for months. I have no clue what's going on with me. I'm worried for myself and distressed that...
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I'm a 28 year old male. I've never had a girlfriend. Tired of this shit so start learning pick up. Attempted to ask a girl her number today. She was a cosplayer in an anime convention. I'm not too bad looking but I'm extremely awkward.
>ask to get a photo
>get photo
>jumps in front of her all of a sudden and say "Can I get your number too? :)"
>says "I don't give away my number."
>walk...
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Did you actually think she'd give out her number to some random guy with whom the only interaction she'd had was him asking if he could take her photo?
>>17320765
No I honestly didn't. I just spilled my beans bro and I admit it. I need help with this. I think it was impromptu because I have never asked a girls number in my life
>>17320757
You did fine. Keep it up.
Hi guys.
Felling pretty down, and there's nobody i could talk about it. Would any of you want to listen to my whines and give their opinion about what i'm doing wrong?
That's literally what /adv/ is for
>>17320744
I'll talk to you bro
Go ahead
All my online friends are going fucking crazy taking drugs and threatening suicide.
Sounds about right.
>>17320723
You are my only friend anon.
>>17320723
Smoke fucking weed you fucking jew bait nigger lover!
