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hey /adv/
how can i get into nihilism? I mean, I can see that life is pointless and there is no reason behind anything and I can't actually control anything, but I cant accept it. One day I might think "ok whatever this is all beyond my control" but the next morning I will be again planning every step I can take to make that girl finally like me or whatever. I really cant deal with myself not having control but at the same time I know that I dont. any tips?
I already read Camos and Voneggut (whom isn't indicated for "baby's first existential...
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>>17318350
Why the fuck do you want to?
>>17318373
because I know I can't actually control anything and I'm just torturing myself pretending I do
>>17318380
Don't be an ass, you can control plenty of things. You just mean you can't control everything. If that's enough to make you want to become a nihilist, then what you really need is to grow up.
I want to somehow make my life more productive what would be some good things to learn online when I have some free time?
Learn and instrument, learn to draw, learn a language
>>17318289
Learn another language for sure.
What are you into, anon? You can find tutorials for practically anything
Not OP, but what is a good jumping off point if I want to learn programming online?
Preferably for free.
I keep getting messages from average girls on tinder telling me how cute I am but I can't match with anyone actually attractive. The hell is up with that?
>>17318210
Post face.
>>17318210
you're probably pretty average yourself. tough luck m8
>>17318210
Lower your standards, faggot lmao. Dont let that sheltered mommys-boy life tag on thay narcisistic attitude.
All the qt babes are being dicked by 9 inch Chads, go get some 7/10 to slave over your cock and marry her.
Pic related mine was tonight.
A love letter for a girl i find out after she kiss a friend of mine, no words to describe how i feel rn
>>17318331
Another
>>17318147
>>17318331
>>17318336
how old are you? You need to be at least 18 to post here.
We used to date before and we still love each other. Now that we've been separated for almost a year, I feel like I can't live without her anymore.
Detail: six months after we broke up, genital warts showed up on my penis and I know I got it from her because she was the only one I've ever made sex with
I really need you /adv/
Sure, maybe she'll give you aids this time.
The real question is can you get super herpes
Do it
Me and my wife are part of a group of swingers. There are 2 other couples involved and its a lot of fun, we have a nice dinner party, then go into who ever is hosting's bedroom / sleep area and have a nice orgy. Well my wife has been wanting to go less and less... which usually means I stay home with her. When I ask her why she doesn't want to go she says she just doesn't feel like it. These parties are usually a weekly thing and we haven't been to one together in a month now, and I missed two weeks in a row, I'm beginning to think she wants to be monogamous...
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Find someone else or deal with it.
Honestly, nobody has any control over their own preferences. Yours might not change but others' might.
>>17318060
Sounds like she is having second thoughts on the agreement. Talk to her about what she wants. Unfortunately, it sounds like you two are moving in different directions.
>>17318073
this regrettably, I have to give you a lot of credit for laying your cards on the table before you got married and don't shy away from bringing that fact up as well as standing your ground on who you are. Unfortunately it seems she may have agreed to this in the hopes that it was just a phase or that she could "change you". Or maybe she's just changed.
Regardless you need to have a frank discussion about this where you are crystal clear about the fact that if she wants to have kids its not going to happen with you.
Whenever I sprint I get intense fear that my hamstrings are just going to tear. I can jog, I can run 80%, but as soon as I go full tilt I get queasy that my legs are going to get destroyed. How can I get past this?
(gril btw)
You're just humblebragging them thunder thighs.
>>17318065
Is humblebragging a meme yet?
>>17318058
Post pic of your legs pls
>Girl from gradschool texts me telling me she misses me
>Says she wants to drive 400 miles at the end of the month to visit me
>Sends me a snap with her shirt zipped down and 1/2 her tit hanging out
>Seconds later puts the same snap up on her story but with her shirt zipped up
>Am I getting laid?
>>17318051
Send her a pic of your abs?
>>17318051
you might be, your move OP.
But I mean, if she sends to your random ass 400 miles away a pseudo-nude, she is probably a slutty who wishes to have sex and move on.
just so you know
>>17318076
As long as I get laid
Any web devs/code monkeys/computer folk here?
I've recently graduated high school, wanting to major in computer science. I've made a few websites and have tampered with computers/phones since ninth grade, but I have this awful fear:
When I've graduated and all is done, when I start applying for the big boy jobs like Google, amazon, etc., I'll be either out done by some kid who learned to do everything computer by the age of 10 or some computer genius. I'm not retarded, but I fear the decent companies will dismiss me, despite my obvious...
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>>17318021
Getting a job at a major technology company, you will have a lot of competition. Those aren't the only programming jobs out there though, and you're going to find that the job market as a programmer is like the job market as a whole everywhere: there are a ton of incompetent people out there.
If you're good and reasonably quick at producing results, you'll be able to find a job somewhere.
Tough choice OP. good luck.
>>17318021
You might not enjoy your job at big tech companies since it can be very mundane and formulaic. Make sure you do some sort of research as an undergrad and get an internship. Have a "portfolio", a github repository with all of your worthwhile projects. Do this and you should have no problem getting a job. (Assuming you can actually program)
30 year old 4chan lifer giving advice. Lawyer on business for a deal, so I have nothing to do tonight.
>>17318020
I burned out after grafuating college six months ago, hard. The job market fucking sucks right now, and I can barely get a shitty waiting job to support myself. How do I get back the fire to achieve and make something of a professional career?
>>17318026
Motivation can only push you so far, you need a "why" to pull you.
On a more practical note, the job market does blow everyone without mad connections or top creds is struggling. Don't have a gab in your resume. What did you graduate with?
>>17318026
what was your major, what kind of job were you trying to get?
>married for 5 years
>no kids
>suddenly decides she wants a divorce
>ask her if we can fix it
>no we can't
>okay fine. give her the divorce.
>insists on keeping my last name
>move out
>separate property
>separate accounts
>don't...
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Maybe you just have a cool last name, OP.
>>17318018
Yeah, no, I just think that women are fucking delusional.
>>17318010
>What am I supposed to do about some dumb slut who divorced me running around with my last name like it's not a big deal?
She may prefer your last name or may not want to deal with the hassle of changing it (because it's not free unless you marry) until she gets re-married. Unless you made up your last name, it wasn't yours anyway. Other people that you don't know share it too, and they're a mix of good and bad people.
Were do you see yourself in 10 years?
>>17317955
Dead.
>>17317955
When I was a teenager, they asked me this question.
I said "Alive and with a roof over my head".
Not exactly ambitious.
I am cursed with no passions. I don't care about pretty much anything.
Right now, all I can say is that my liver doesn't die in the next 10 years and that I can buy more booze to substitute my lack of passion.
Don't ask drunk people for advice. They're drunk for reason
>>17317955
The future XDDDDDD
So I had sex with a girl and I pretty much want it to just be a one night stand. It happened last night (the same night I met her) and I've been texting her today. She seems at least kind of keen on seeing me again, but I want out.
I figure that I just have to tell her that I'm not feeling it and we should go our separate ways (although a bit more eloquently than that). Is it fine to do this over text? Would be necessary to call her or meet up with her to do this?
Just stop talking to her, she'll take the hint.
Or, if she's crazy, she'll be obsessed with you and make you life a living hell.
>>17317979
I was considering ignoring her, but I met her at a bar I go to semi-regularly. Pretty much I shit where I ate but, I want to smooth it over as much as possible
I personally would call.
If I was the girl, id appreciate a call over a text anyday.
>Go through phases of wanting a partner, then being chill being a bachelor, then wanting a partner again etc.
>Never had any real relationship where I actually felt something for the girl, always just flings where its just fucking
>Closest I came to caring about a girl dumped me after one date (but very nicely to be fair, we stayed friends)
>Go through dry spell, no sex in 3 months
>Get girl on tinder interested, get chatting, meetup for coffee within a day, sex is pretty much on the table within a couple days
>Not really my type but I still find her attractive enough
>Sext the girl while we're both masturbating
>Cum
>Suddenly no desire to meet girl and actually fuck her
How to deal with this state of mind
I really dunno if I even want a girlfriend or not. I feel like I'd just get sick of them so quickly once the sex novelty wears off
I dunno what I actually want. Should I just be single and not bother with hookups?
And just wait till I meet someone I actually care about again?
Find a girl who is like one of your guy friends. I would always think that if I were ever going to find my partner she'd be exactly like on of my dewd friends just because of how well we'd get along and shit. It's not about the sex dood. It's never been about the sex when it comes to an actual long lasting relationship, it's about those fundamental things that keep y'all together like; "getting along" "similar hobbies and (likes/dislikes)" all of that shit that will make y'all stick like glue.
>>17317930
Stop masturbating and your libido will go thru the roof, in no time you'd be dry humping trees.
Your problem sir, is the contrary to every anon in here, you're too much of a chad. You get the pussy before the personality.
Be real with women, that should scare off a lot of them but some will appreciate you for your personality rather than your beauty, you'll get more chances to meet a girl who's more about the personality than the sex.
Well all of that is based on the assumption that you don't have a shitty personality
Any of you ever feel like your relationship with your parents is extremely superficial?
Is that normal?
All relationships seem superficial to me now days to be completely honest. I'm willing to admit years of crippling depression may be tinting things grey, but who the fuck knows anymore.
My relationship with my mother consists of her pushing my buttons and me doing my best not to scream at her
Yes they are both so very very fake.
