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I haven't been to school in three years and had a terrible SAT score and GPA. Will retaking the SAT after studying for a few months, hoping to get something like a 2200+, impress any universities enough to disregard my 3 year old GPA and old SAT score? With my scores, (1590/2400 SAT and 2.8 GPA), I really can't get into anywhere good.
>>17319223
Ivy level (yale, stanford, columbia), no
State schools and some lesser private universities, probably.
>>17319223
Unless you substantially improve your knowledge, studying to retake exams is pointless, and you'll most likely score around the same anyways.
Generally, your GPA and SAT is valid for X number of years before you have to retake or take a compass exam which determines if you need to take any remedial courses, so either way you will get placed AT level and not above.
Your best bet for better universities is going state for an AS/BS and transferring out with a high GPA. State universities, that I am aware of, don't have GPA requirements.
Why not go to community college for 2 years, save some money earning the credits for your degree, and then your SAT score becomes irrelevant and your CC gpa will do the talking for you?
>be intp male
From 16Personalities:
"None of this is to say that these relationships come easily to INTPs – they are shy and withdrawn individuals, and getting out and meeting new people, risking rejection and making themselves the center of attention in emotionally delicate situations are far from being their strengths. It is more likely that INTP personalities will leave a trail of breadcrumbs for a potential partner, allowing them to make the first move and committing to their partner as an act of reciprocation rather than bravado."
Sounds like a valid strategy if you're a girl, if you're a guy that shit just screams beta and is a one way ticket to forever alone land.
How do I find an ENTJ alpha woman to be my dom?
Myers-Briggs is the reddit intellectuals equivalent of a horoscope
It is utterly meaningless, stop paying attention to it, go out and quit being such a giant fuckin bitch.
>>17319225
>Myers-Briggs is the reddit intellectuals equivalent of a horoscope
>It is utterly meaningless
Why?
>>17319209
>Are INTP males screwed?
No, but they do have to fight their intuition in this specific case. That strategy is indeed a bad one. But the solution, while not particularly easy, is simple: find and use a different strategy.
The problem with the strategy given is the ubiquitous common practice of insisting that the guy make the first move. This was once done out of social necessity: for the woman to make the first move simply wasn't acceptable. Those days are over, but the practice has continued as a simple, effective, and extremely efficient anti-creeper heuristic. It neatly filters out those who are too unstable and anxious around women to make any noves at all, with zero interaction overhead. It's not a complete solution -no heuristic is- but it's a good first line of defense. It flags some false-positives -nonthreats mistakenly treated as threats- but this is considered acceptable collateral damage.
The heck of it is that using another strategy doesn't actually circumvent it. If you can stand to make the first move, then you are (as far as this heuristic is concerned) a nonthreat, and therefore would be misidentified by it anyway. So you're not stepping around, you're stepping through.
How to get a good translating/writing job online?
Even if I got less than minimum wage I don't care; it's the comfiest job I've ever seen and I want to be part of this. The problem is that I fell for the memes and I only have an English degree and no experience save a lot of training on my own and small things I did for free (but no proof I actually did them)
So far all the offers I seem to get are shady as fuck and without contract. How can I get good at this? Once I get the job it's fairly easy, but having to look for it is hell.
>>17319176
Bump
>>17319176
I've seen mturk thrown around as a site which pay for writing, but I've heard that the income is quite low, barely worth doing unless you're a shutin or want to make $2 while watching a movie.
I might have an idea for you. What country are you in? What's your degree, specifically? What are you qualified to do or are good at, specifically?
Just google for websites that hire freelancers online. I think it wont be that bad for you since you already have a degree and if you dont have experience you can do simple shit like being a volunteer for an ngo that requires translators or get an intership somewhere.
I, a translator myself, have discovered that getting online jobs isnt that difficult (its just scary). Recently I signed in into upwork.com and I already got my first contract. So... if a translator from a shitty third world country like me can get a job online you can do it as well.
I fear I'm fearing the average /adv/ "lol" post I've seen, but fuck it
I'm a scandinav, going 19 in 4 days. Life in primary school was horrible as I was a shitter, wasn't diagnosed with aspergers before around 12, but the teachers' attempts at explaining me were awful. I was bullied for a lot of things either I said or others said. I did get a best friend the first day of PS who still is, but no one else really liked me it seemed.
>get to the point
Up until 2009, I had no online interaction with people except like YT comments. I was visiting said friend one day in the summer of 2009 and he was playing this very fresh and vibrant looking game and I remember feeling excited about it. It's a now very outdated MMORPG [spoiler]you know where this is going, cringeworthy as it is for you guys[/spoiler] but I still love it, the world and shit.
Basically I should skip to the start of 2010. This girl literally walked up to me [spoiler]in-game, obviously[/spoiler] and added me. I accepted everyone back in the day and deleted them if I didn't like them or something, so
Now nothing happened, she didn't talk to me until around May, where she would start to ask for party. She had extremely, I would say primitive English. It was kinda obvious she was not native
She was honestly being a good friend and because of past experiences I started fearing I'd lose her friendship if I just kept this up, don't ask. I of course tried something to ensure she wouldn't go away. In the most cringeworthy attempt at a 13yo dialogue, I told her I loved her. She fell for it, despite her limited English knowledge.
While I only liked her as a friend, she started to grow on me really much. She seemed to appreciate me a good amount. Well a day in fall, she did finally tell me her age, being a year older than me and that she's from [spoiler]Israel and please don't try to convince me of anything about it[/spoiler], which is the reasoning her English was pretty trash.
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Fucking gotta rewrite 2/3 now because "connection error". This will take some time.
This post, as I have to rewrite this from memory of what I wrote, is pretty short and has less detail, also I'm so fucking shit at formatting, excuse me. Spoiler tags don't seem to work and I didn't know.
Forgot to mention I only had an hour of playtime a day because restrictive parents.
I eventually started actually loving her. Things from there started going much better.
Though, skip ahead to the start of winter and I had to go to some stupid fucking centre for diagnosed kids. I don't remember when or how long I stayed there, all I remember is that it was horrible.
When I came home, I got on and realized she wasn't there. Nothing out of the ordinary, really.
Then next day, nothing. Next day again and so on, nothing. She eventually got on again, but I don't remember too well. She was on a few days more I believe. Last image I have of her is from 13th January.
Yeah, she disappeared. I continued to play, but of course I had less fun. She got on for a fucking split second around valentines, but she logged off before I knew probably because I instantly started messaging her a lot like the sperg I am. She disappeared again all until like April where her brother first logged on and then her following him.
I had about 10 minutes of playtime that day, so I had to cut it short. I told her I would be on tomorrow, but of course she didn't return.
I didn't get to properly say goodbye or anything.
(2/3) shittely rewritten
It's been over 5 years with this depression which has caused my to hurt others as I desperately have asked other girls I found likable for help. I know how low that is, but what can you do when you're 14 with a shitty social life
I lost the phone with the number before I learned about country codes, I only remember the last three digits of the number. The phone could be up at the loft, but if that's the case then it's hidden deep within 1 cardboard box out of like 30. My parents won't do anything about those before the house is completely finished, which won't be this year.
Speaking of which, they don't know about this and I don't intend to let them know, at least not my dad. He's the shitter who thought setting a limit to my internet time was a good idea when it just ended up me not getting important things said.
I'll probably tell my mom about things if she asks what's wrong, if she seems to somewhat figure out that something is definitely wrong.
Because of the country being in war and all the recent shootings and stabbings that have been happening, I'm fearing for her life and I have been for a while. I don't want her to be dead, I want her to be alive.
While her leavingdisappearing from me left me in this shithole depression, I appreciate her because it threw me on a different path and got me to be a better person. I can't thank her enough for everything.
Things have lead me to become this ISFJ/ISTJ hybrid, I constantly worry for my friends, but despite that I am pretty much truth feelings a good amount of times, not being SJW at all.
I don't fucking care if she has a boyfriend or whatever, she is still a friend to me and I will not give her up ever, despite some of my friends telling me to give up as it's a lost cause, that she has forgotten me and shit.
I don't fucking care, I just want to see her again. I don't want to worry anymore, even hearing she's not alive anymore would be better than not knowing.
Followup post coming because chr limit
Hey /adv/, can you tell me what this is? It's on my pubic area, right above the penis. I've had unprotected sex twice in my life so far, both girls claimed to be clean. The second one was about a month ago.
From researching pictures it looks like herpes, no other symptoms besides this. According to the CDC website though, it affects penis, vagina, anus and mouth, not pubic area.
>>17319169
herpes
sorry bro
>>17319169
>The second one was about a month ago.
>a month ago.
Herpes usually shows up 1-3 months after contact. Go to a doctor and get diagnosed, dude. The only way to know for sure is to get tested. Get the uncertainty out of your head and do it asap, you still might have hope.
>>17319174
Alright, will do. Have to wait 16 hours until the facility opens.
Wanting to have "me-time", but still longing for companionship?
4 months ago, my ex (first girlfriend) broke up with me. In the meantime, I've improved and developed myself in a lot of ways: travelling, publishing a scientific article, sports, finishing my Master's, music, etc. It's been going okay since then, however, I'm still not really over it. Maybe I'll never be.
That's not really the point here, but since then I've ran into some girl I thought nice at first, but they all flunked out for whatever reason when it came to the point we already talked nice and picked a date. 1st girl just "forgot" we had a date and planned something else instead, only to tell me a couple hours beforehand. 2nd girl randomly stated that length actually was quite important to her (even though we only differed 4cm) and I just blew her off. 3rd girl I am talking to plans on going to a psychologist because she has low self-esteem.
Now, all these girls are all very different from my ex which is okay, but I've noticed that I'm just fed up with women at this point and wanting to really do what I want do to, and to decide that for myself. At the same time, I keep longing for this sense of companionship, someone who is there for you and you can be with.
Is this weird? What can I do in order to set things straight for myself?
Pic kind of related: I always really enjoyed travelling on my own.
Make friends sounds like the easiest solution. If it happens to be a girl maybe that could someday turn into a relationship. Or you could have one night stands.
On a side note regarding your "improvement", it's well & good you're traveling & such, but you also need to work on yourself mentally. Read self help books that will build up your confidence & learn to be content & happy with yourself. You need to get over your ex before you even think about getting with anyone else.
>>17319313
Thanks for your advice. Mentally, I feel like I have grown a lot, though. I've taken long walks on my own, am reading The Power of Now on and off which helps, practicing zen meditation every couple of days and have taken some online classes on self improvement. However, I feel like I am not there yet. Do you have any suggestions for books?
>>17319330
No suggestions, sorry.
That's great then. You playing sports can help greatly with confidence as well. Youre on the right track. Your breakup happened only 4 months ago so don't worry too much about feeling how you are right now. Continue doing you and having fun. Make more friends, be approachable, and friendly. Pretty soon you'll find a girl.
i am 25 and i can not stop using
i was homless an solo at 18 pulled my self outta the dirt a time or two adn i started smoking meth about 18 yers old due to peer pressure and now i feel like a failure if you care enough help
>>17319149
Whats smoking meth like? Should I try it when I am really old?
>>17319167
Da fuq
>>17319167
Not OP. At first it's great. I describe it like your favorite team winning the super bowl. It's that moment when they get a touchdown right before the clock runs out, except x2 and lasts 6 hrs.
There's a reason people do it m8, a reason why people become homeless because of it and shit
So,I'm a reserved,introverted guy.I've often been described as "chill" and "quiet".Whenever I've had an interest in a girl,they were quite similar to me.They would often share the same sort of traits,quiet,shy,introverted etc.
The last girl was very much interested in me but because of my anxiety/shyness I never made a move and neither did she.
My question is,should I aim to have relationships with women who can pull me out of my shell/comfort zone,or should I get over my shyness and opt for quiet girls?
Same question applies for extroverted people.
>>17319139
Have relationships with whoever you have chemistry with, don't feel like you should be seeking only people similar or different to you. In my experience the best relationships have a degree of similarity mixed with some areas of difference. That way there is common ground and you can feel comfortable together while also keeping things interesting and allowing for each partner to fill a specific role in the relationship.
>>17319147
Thanks for the reply,after reading over my post I realised how black and white that approach sounded.I guess the similarities keep people together and the differences keep it interesting.
>>17319139
If you go for the shy girl then being "chill" and "quiet" won't work at all. You have to come out of that and that's why you think opposites work.
At the end of the day though you probably want someone who can bring your out of being so shy and reserved, which could be done by either type of girl really.
Soon to be 19 yaer old here. I am a friendless, hugless, kissless virgin. I lvie in a rural area, and there are literally no social outlets that I can think of that aren't insular or require a unique interest. My only 'friend' is leaving for Florida next month to go to college, and I can't really consider him a friend because I haven't talked to him since Freshman year (I've graduated). What the fuck do I do to turn my life around? I feel like my life is spiraling downwards into a deep sad abyss. I was already depressed and filled with anxiety before, but I feel like it's only been worsening this summer. I haven't left my room a single time since graduating, and I've done nothing but read up on programming and read visual and light novels. I just want a friend or someone to hangout with, a girlfriend at this point seems like a fucking luxury. Just looking at this board and seeing the problems that some people complain about in comparison to mine infuriate me. It's not fucking fair.
tl;dr
How in the ever loving fuck does a guy without a bridgehead to launch from spear his way into the completely foreign world of normies? I live in a rural area and have no friends
>>17319137
get out of your rural shithole. Chances are any interesting people around you are on their way out and you'll be stuck without any potentials. Moving should be the first thing you do.
>>17319137
In a similar boat here OP.I think people like us have no road laid out for us,so we just have to make our own.After being paralyzed by inaction since I finished high school,I've realised that I have to do something,anything in order to move on.
>>17319151
Can't exactly leave this place. I've got no money and a permit. Even if I did leave, I have no idea where I would go.
>>17319155
I agree. It just sucks when you don't know which chess piece to advance, you know?
Yeah, this is my last thread ever on this issue. I made some on reddit to get help with abuse but bleh, fuck it. I already know my state.
Brb 26 yrs of psychological abuse by parents.
Brb everyone in my family shits on me.
Brb in my previous university, grill copies my entire paper, i get blamed because she's pretty and cute while I look like a neanderthal.
Brb worked hard whole life, good grades everything but not a single hint of acknowledgement or anything.
Brb always wanted best for mother, father and sister, then i see them talking shit about me and realize they just hate me too.
Go into phase of positivity, leave previous environment. Girl flirts with me an entire semester, turns out i was used as homework boy / narcissism supply. Laughs at me when semester is over and goes home with some douche read head.
So. Everyone hated me. I am not even all that ugly, maybe I am short? people can sense that I was born in a shithole prideless environment and like vultures they tear into me.
I see no motivation to move forward man, I will never have true friends, never have true love, never have inner peace. Already past my prime my bones are started to get old and hurt. I was once fast and quick but shit even age is takin that away. What do??
Sounds like you've run into a lot of shitty people
OP, I know how you feel.
I don't know what to tell you. I guess I'll tell you what I used to believe.
1) Make yourself so valuable, people need you.
2) People you believe are bad that pick to fight with you, you fucking torch them. You do whatever you can to ruin what they have. Let them know not to fuck with you.
You do not torch good people. You do not torch someone just because they have a disagreement with you. You torch them because you know that prick is going to do the same thing to someone else. You torch them to make them fear those actions.
That's about it. Trounce your enemies. Become an asset to people so they'll want to be your friend.
It's not a rewarding or fun life. It's not one filled with love, adoration, and praise; but it's a life you can live.
The only reason I'm choosing not to believe in it anymore is because I'm very sick, I have nobody around me that gives a shit beyond what money I can give them, so I'm going carpe diem and if I die so what.
It sounds like you've seen a lot. I'm not about to start telling you believe in the power of love and friendship.
Living is inherently meaningless, as is dying. There is no "reason" to live, so I can't provide you with one. However, it doesn't have to be a bad experience. You sound like you look too hard for validation from other people, it's not something you can stop outright but at least be aware of it. No one's opinions, pats on the back, or gratitude will ever impact you in any significant way.
>People can sense that I was born in a shithole prideless environment and like vultures they tear into me.
This is blatantly projecting. People don't sense anything, and most of them probably don't even realize you're there when they're not looking directly at you. This is just a problem with your sense of self-worth, for which I will assure you that you are not significantly less or more valuable than these people who's opinions you seem so worried about.
Just live your weird unsubstantial existence, live it the best you can, and then die. If you determine someone you have relationships with to be toxic, stop pursuing that relationship. Nothing beneficial will come out of it. That's all the advice I really have.
I really wanna fuck my stuffed toy. Am i fucked in the head?
Gib picz
You're what's called a "furry."
And: yes.
probably. why do you care?
Is it legal to discuss a worker's performance in front of other employees?
Our supervisor has been inspecting their employee's work, making rounds to see what everyone on the shift has done by the end of it. While this isn't too wild a thing to do, they've also been bringing the next shift of workers with them, to add comments to what the worker's have done and point out any spots that may have been missed. Is this behavior okay?
>>17319085
I don't know the laws where you are but I'd be very surprised if it's illegal. It's not even unethical, unless they are being particularly harsh about it, or focusing their criticism on certain people while ignoring the faults of others.
I'm assuming this is about you; if you feel that you are being unfairly singled out for criticism then you can either discuss it with the manager (or their manager if you feel you can't confront them) or just put up with it (do this if it's a short-term position that's unlikely to be relevant to future jobs.
b ump
>>17319085
Its completely legal
Get an easier job if you cant perform to at least the company standard.
Is it universally true that when a guy befriends a girl it's because he fancies her or wants to shag her? Or can be out there strictly platonic male-female friendships?
>>17319071
I think it can be strictly platonic to the point where the guy doesn't make any direct effort to get with her and doesn't harbour any conscious attraction. However I think the difference is though that in the right circumstances (alcohol + dry spell/desperation) a man will sleep with pretty much anyone. So to answer your question: while I think yes guys befriend girls without wanting to shag them, they will always have at least a subconscious desire to sleep with them even if they don't act on it.
I just befriend a girl cause i fancy her, or at least you will probably get to know her friends
>>17319071
It's possible to not have any attraction whatsoever to a girl, and so it's possible to have platonic m-f friendships, but yeah, most people will befriend girls only to hook up with them
>>17319078
>a man will sleep with pretty much anyone
It might be true of a sizable part of the male population but it's definitely not true for everyone. I had a close female friend through highschool and I thought about the possibility of fucking her, but I felt literally 0 motivation each time. She wasn't ugly, but she was simply not attractive to me in the slightest.
I was dating a girl for about a month. She said she didnt want a relationship right now because her heart isnt in it as of yet . At first when she said this i thought she wanted to stop dating me. Only the past few days , after reading through the conversation, have i realised that she did want to carry on dating but she just wasnt sure about me. Is it even worth me contacting her again and carry on dating? i mean if she was already questioning the relationship, i dont see how it could even work out.
>>17319062
>I don't want a relationship right now
Translation:
>I don't want a relationship WITH YOU right now (or ever) but don't want to hurt your feelings
This relationship is a false-start, start looking for something else.
>>17319068
op here. why cant women just be honest? im basically over here now but now im kind of left a bit confused. i would rather have my feelings hurt than be given false hope. they wouldent like it.
>>17319072
You're probably plan b
Seriously don't even bother
Having my wisdom teeth taken out tommorow. Advice? What is it like?
>>17319031
You don't feel shit. Enjoy the high.
The sounds of extraction are pretty grusome, but I didn't feel a thing, it healed quickly, and they prescribe wonderful painkillers.
If you've been under anesthesia before it's nothing different. For me it's a shaking and cold embrace, but uh hey. Might be better for you.
Don't use straws. I'm sure they'll tell you that but for real. Don't use straws.
