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>>17319004
How old are you and have you never had a job before? Perhaps you should look for a change of perspective, although there were places i worked it i absolutely hate and places i worked at were bearable, i always tried to make a challenge out of everything and try to compete to deliver the best results even if i was just doing the same task over and over again. That way i could enjoy my days and feel good about what i do.
>>17319004
I'm 21, had a few summer jobs that weren't bad but they were physical and not from my field.
I'm playing LoL a lot and it isn't really fun, but it seems working wouldn't feel the same.
I feel like it takes so long to accomplish something but on the other hand I've wasted couple of years that could be productive and I feel bad about it.
Why don't I have discipline?
>>17319008
This. Taking pride in your work will both make you look better in the company and help the days go by faster. Then make sure you have hobbies to do when you get home.
>Have PROTECTED sex with slutty girl
>Worried about STDs due to reputation
>Get red splotchy rash on tip of penis
>Have 6 urine tests and 2 blood tests over the course of 5 months
>Testing for chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, Syphilis, trich, HIV, even molluscum contagiosum
>ALL NEGATIVE
>Taken several courses of antibiotics
>Given...
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bump
plz respond
>Start having PROTECTED sex for a few months
>She starts taking birth control
>start having unprotected sex
Were both of you tested for STDs at some point during this time?
Is the white discharge odorless and does it look like cottage cheese? If yes to both, she has a yeast infection which is super common and not an STD. If it does smell, she should go to the doctor.
I have a crippling fear of failure that I need to squash. How might I best go about this?
For reference, it's really bad. I have spent the last five years living with my parents and doing the bare minimum to get by, avoiding as many chances for screwing things up as possible. I am out of shape, I have no friends, I have no job, I'm not going to school; I don't even have a driver's license. I have been trying to set things straight but honestly, I have no idea what I'm doing and I feel entirely out of my depth. I am terrified of the prospect of...
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>>17318892
The fear of failure is often far worse than the failure itself. Understand this. It doesn't mean fuck all in the grand scheme of things. Why? Take a look at insanely successful people. Each and every single one of them has failed at first before they got to where they're at.
Bill Gates? His first business was a massive failure.
Warren Buffet? Harvard reject.
Oprah? She got fired from her first job in television because she was "unfit for TV"
Failing means fuck all. And you...
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>>17318960
Thanks for responding, I appreciate it. I actually didn't know about those people's missteps, it does make me feel a bit better knowing that people far more capable than myself are still prone to mistakes every now and then.
I personally don't care whether I make mistakes or not, I know that mistakes are a learning experience and an important part of life. Can't win 'em all. It's other people that concern me more. Long story short, I was picked on a lot in high school and didn't have any friends to back me up. It's hard for me to feel open and comfortable with people. It's totally irrational for me to fear people making fun of me when I'm an adult in a society with other adults but that feeling still lingers. I'm not sure how I can deal with that other than just facing it and learning gradually by experience that everyone isn't out to get me.
Anyway, I'm rambling. Thanks again for your help, I'm glad you took the time to respond. I'll take your advice to heart and just power through any anxiety I have from here on out.
Something that helped me was the realisation that the greatest failure was that resulting from inaction. Choosing not to do anything is a choice nonetheless, and the consequences of that choice are likely to be worse than those of any other steps you may take to improve your situation. Sure you will expose yourself to some unpleasantness - embarrassment, discomfort, etc. if you step outside your comfort zone, but they will be fleeting experiences. The regret of living a shitty existence out of made-up fears could follow you the rest of your life.
I met this girl 4 years ago. She is 182cm high, skinny, dark hair, blue eyes, just perfect.
Myself 194cm high, brown hair, blue eyes, also skinny. We have both alternative music, arts taste etc and would be perfect couple. Tried to be with her. She had boyfriend, long relationship. She defended, says she wants to be friends. I found girlfriend another girlfriend 2-3 months after that and been with her for 3 years. We broke up in december.
From february I am in regular touch/conversations with this girl, she have new boyfriend, 2 years stable relationship and lives with him. Again, she writes me everyday, we go to coffee, having couple of beers each day and lots and lots of talk.
I do not have balls to be direct with her that I still would like she to be my girl. Her boyfriend is shorter than she, they never showed any sympathies in public, not one kiss so I think that they are not having very passionate relationship... I like this girl very much but I feel that our meetings started to loose electricity between us because we have talked about every fucking thing but avoided to ever talk directly about our feeling towards each other. She is into me as much I am into her, I can feel it, but words and concrete thing is missing because she is too moral to do anything while she lives in her boyfriend apartment... I have also moral issues about breaking that relationship because I also know that dude...
Help anons, discuss with me: what to do?
P.S. she looks very similar to pic
>>17318814
I personally do not move forward with girls who see me as a friend. I just don't bother pursuing further as that's a waste of time.
Women have no trouble seeing guys as friends and will keep them around to fill the void that their relationship partners lack. She likely does not view you as a sexual partner.
Having said that, you are a man. You need to be confident and strong. If you are too much of a pussy to have asked her directly if she likes you as more than a friend, then you are most...
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>>17318854
>Women have no trouble seeing guys as friends and will keep them around to fill the void that their relationship partners lack.
Thx anon bro. I think this is most likely what is happening.
Any male chastity device advice? It turns me on so much but hear that it can damage future errections and shrink your dick? Wearing one sounds so so hot though.
OC pic included as payment.
>>17318780
can't really say myself, try asking on fetlife I'm sure there are plenty of people there that have done this
>>17318780
Go to /hc/, search for chastity or femdom. Bam mega thread continued since months with such questions.
As far as i know it does shrink a little bit after a few months but it will very shortly go to back to its original size again. Because, infact if you don't get hard for months your skin won't be as flexible. I really would love to try it too but i feel like my gf needs to long to get into it.
>>17319030
also the /soc/ archive has a chastity thread that had some good advice
basically make sure you read the sizing guide and measure a bunch!
>>>23952851
Senior in high school wanting some grill advice
>Introvert
>Only talks to people via Facebook or texting, rarely goes out
>Don't know how to find a girl that shares my interests
>Want to know how to talk to a girl without seeming creepy and/or desperate
Please help I don't want to miss out on carefree teenage love before I go to college
>>17318757
>I don't want to miss out on carefree teenage love before I go to college
You won't miss a thing. Just stop being so desperate and focus on living life.
>>17318757
Talk to people. Any people of any gender. Face to face, in real life, using your mouth and words. Talk to the person next to you in class, or in a line. Join a club. Do volunteer work. Hang out at the comic book store.
The more people you talk to, the more people you know, and the more who are likely to be girl-type people. And the more girl-type people you know - and who know you as one of the guys - the more chance that you and one of them will naturally pair off as particular friends.
>>17318757
It's too late anon. Even if you do end up with her I remember my first year of college, half the people in my section (about 30 total) were in long distance relationships, myself included. By the end of the second month it was about one sixth. It doesn't matter, you will realize that in the future looking back. The game is rigged from the start, anon. At least she'll probably get a ton of college dick, so she'll be happy, that is until she inevitably faces the consequences for her immorality with...
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Me am double business and economics major. Me am trying to decide minor. Me thinking between mainly Astrophysics/Mathematics/Scandinavian studies.
My girlfriend is Norgie and I will be interacting with scandis on a personal level at least a lot because of that. I may possibly move to Norway for a job, I would give this a 20% chance of happening.
What minor would be best for me, friends?
Pic is my norgie.
>>17318725
Mathematics is the most useful of those three.
>>17318725
Me Tarzan.
Me don't give a damn.
>>17318725
>Astrophysics
Interesting, but entirley pointless. It's also one of the harder subjects out there, so you'll end up doing a shitload of work for very little gain. Less than 4% of students with a physics degree go on to work in physics or astronomy.
>Mathematics
Again, it'll be a lot of work, but at least this would improve your job prospects. Probably the best choice of the three.
>Scandinavian studies
Might...
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How to increase my chances to find a girl who's attracted to me?
I don't get it, I put myself out there but it seems like every girl I met only had at best platonic feelings for me. Not one gave me that vibe.
>>17318717
>How to increase my chances to find a girl who's attracted to me?
By making yourself as attractive as possible.
>>17318720
I'm pretty hygienic, groomed, tall and people think I'm pretty funny.
I'm also above average looking.
>>17318723
I'm sure you could improve somewhere
Hey /adv/. I'm gonna approach a girl I like tommorow. I need help avoiding spaghetti falling out of my pockets. She somewhat looks like pic related. She doesnt know me and I don't know her, all I know is her first name. Any tips?
need more context
>>17318715
Like what?
>>17318714
Learn from the mistakes you will make. You will almost certainly get rejected. Just remember everyone gets rejected, so treat it as a learning experience and move on.
I feel like I am wasting my youth. I always lapse on not drinking. I start to get into really good shape again and then give up when I am not reaching the goal of meeting a casual sex partner. I don't even want to have random sex with people, STD risk and such, I would much rather have all kinds of weird kinky sex with one person and do all kinds of drugs, I just fear that my youth will be gone before I muster up the courage to kind a young mate to experience this with. I realize I just need to put myself out there, I am a kissless handheldless 21 y/o virgin. People would...
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>>17318684
What is the point of this thread?
>>17318691
Talk about past sexual experiences or lack thereof.
>>17318698
Do you need any advice, or do you want a general discussion?
Should I go to sleep?
It's 12:24 AM and I am going somewhere at 10 AM today.
I'm so tired, I want to sleep.
Go to bed you cunt
>>17318667
Then just fucking sleep, idiot.
>>17318667
Dude you still have plenty of time. Rub one out and insta-fall-asleep
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Will a condom prevent sexual disease? I'm planning to have sex with a prostitute.
>>17318657
No.
>>17318657
Depends on whether or not they have one
Depends on the disease.
Ok adv, how fucked up am I? Yesterday I got high and started thinking about all the shit I did as a kid.
1. Used to masturbate with a friend of mine. We just watched porn together and that's all. I guess it was 6-7 grade.
2. touched my cousins butt while she was asleep.
3. some cousin of my mom came to visit us and while she went for a walk I dig into her purse found underwear. Put them on and went outside for some time.
I was 14 around that time
reflect on the fact that a thread was bumped off page 10 for this pointless shit
I know it may seem pointless to you but yesterday it hit me that this is something that I never told anybody. And I was thinking what would my girlfriend think if I'd told her.
and also the fact that sometimes I think about it fucks with my mind even more. I s even thinking about consulting a psychologist or some shit
My best friend for life has been into boxing for about as long as I've known him, which is like 10 years. I have been into chinese martial arts for only the last three years. I only see it as excercise whereas he talks about making it a career. I've gotten pretty good and long story short he suggested we spar. I agreed thinking it would be a fun and casual little bout. Well, he was really serious about it and I ended up knocking him to the ground, right in front of his judgmental, asshole dad too. Since then he's been really distant. I've tried apologizing,...
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>>17318630
Spar again and beat him again. Nobody so sensitive should be a professional fighter. Beat it out of him.
>>17318643
He's always been passionate about boxing to the point of borderline elitism. I think it was a huge shock for him to realize that his style has exploitable flaws. I just wish he would learn from the experience and not take it so personally.
>>17318630
Fake and gay
help with laptop
a friend has a dual booted laptop: windows and ubuntu.
The problem is the computer freezes and crashes. When we try to boot into ubuntu,
sometimes it freezes before we reach the user sign-in, but when we reach the user sign-in
the laptop eventually freezes. There is also a problem when trying to boot into safe mode.
When we try to boot into windows, we can use the laptop normal for some time but then
we get the blue screen of death.
my friend wants to get his files but he cant since he cant boot into his laptop. I was thinking
that...
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>>17318618
Sudden Stops such as your situation may be caused by a damaged hard drive.
>I have a broken 100GB HDD that loads but it refuses to load anything else after boot, i used the same ISO on a usb and it worked fine
See if your hard drive has any broken sectors. If so buy a new hard drive and transfer it.
The broken HDD has ubuntu. Broken HDD has been tested with With Win 7 before erasing. Win 7 blue screened multiple times. Also check if installing ubuntu change your SATA/Boot settings. It can cause a OS to brake if a wrong file system is used.
