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I'm leaving my old home in a super liberal city soon to spend 3 months in the Texas. Are the horror stories I keep hearing true? Is it as backwards as the stories lead me to believe?
its worse
>>17318270
To be fair, unless there are bugs the size of horses flying around, and everyone is just constantly shooting at each other, I'm not sure it can be worse.
>>17318255
ive been here 28 years and never had a problem
I am close to a possible job offer that pays almost twice higher than my current salary. That would require me to start July 17th if accepted. First week of August is crunch time (last for 4 days) and they really really need me there for all 4 days. After crunch it's average work. I would feel like such a piece of shit if I leave early. My co-workers and my boss are absolutely amazing in every way. I couldn't ask to work for better people. I don't want to let them down. :(
But on the other hand I have this possible job offer that looks promising. Twice my pay! Excellent benefits package! Cheap apartments everywhere in walking distance!
I don't want to sound arrogant, but I have been nailing interviews far better than expected. I work and have experience in an industry with extremely high demand. It only took 15 applications to get this far. I was close to another offer in Colorado, but had to turn it down. I am thinking that I can do much much better. Maybe there is a silver lining in withdrawing my application and I am able to start the application process close to crunch time and being there to help my co-workers and boss.
They are trying to get confirmation to fly me in for an office tour and "leadership" interview next week. I have until next Tuesday to decide. I don't know what to do.
What do you work as?
>>17318271
Programmer
Sometimes you just have to tell your boss you can only give a week. Make sure to leave them on a good note if you're set on leaving.
Whatever you do, don't leave the day before you take on a bunch of work and tell your boss you can only give a week's notice if it comes to that.
My dickhead friend just told me that last year he got caught by cops rolling up in a park and gave them one of our other friends names and got an unlawful possession of marijuana ticket written out to our friends name. He has no fucking idea and unlike my friend im not a complete douchebag. Is there any way i can let im know without directly telling him? Like get a lawyer to contact him anonymously or something? My friend said he just gave him our other friends info by mouth so they didnt have an id or anything they just wrote out the ticket. What can i do, i feel bad ;/
Well, first off. You SHOULD tell your friend that he was betrayed by your other friend. And you should also stop talking to that shit friend too. If he fucked over a friend, he will do the same to you, what a piece of shit.
Anyways, your innocent friend should take the ticket to court. It will get dropped if the story is as you said. Because the police would to have verified ID before writing out a ticket, which.. That sounds strange to me why they wouldn't have done that in the first place..
>>17318262
I've known him for years and yea he is a fucking idiot but i know he can be a good guy. I thought it was weird that they just took his word after giving the cops my other friends info. He must have got it all right one the first time saying it otherwise it definitely would have been suspicious, also considering this isnt even a traffic ticket its a ticket for marijuana. And i really want to tell him but i dont want to throw my friend under the bus. Is there any way i could get a lawyer to tell him or get the courts to send him a reminder or something in the mail telling him theres a warrant because im assuming there must be since no one showed up at the court date on the ticket. Is there any way i could anonymously tell him without it being crazy uncalled for like a random email or something saying hey you have a warrant lol
>>17318310
>i know he can be a good guy
You're a fucking idiot. You're defending your asshole "friend" for literally throwing a innocent person into potentional legal trouble?! Get your fucking head straight. True friends don't fuck over other friends. God damn.
Then you mention that he might have a warrant for his arrest and you act like its a joke. If you give a shit, you should tell your friend he got thrown under the bus and tell him to contact the court and see what he should do, if he even needs to do anything.
Fuck living far away from home. I moved to the opposite coast of the U.S to attend school, I constantly miss my family and high school friends. I am home right now, and am dreading leaving in a couple days.. How does one get used to this shit??
you could transfer to a school closer to home so you can go home on weekends
>>17318234
OP here, I'm kinda stuck where I'm at for reasons, Id explain but I feel like that would be too much. I am just dreading leaving home again, and wondering if this will ever get better.
>>17318227
Make new friends there. I have been kiving abroad for 2 years, you have to make a new/second home where you will live.
I started drinking and going out a few weeks ago after taking a break from alcohol for a couple of years. I've been getting pretty drunk, but not enough to puke or do anything that embarrassing/something I'd regret later.
The thing is, I've been waking up in the morning feeling mostly fine physically, maybe a bit tired or nauseous, but mentally I feel like I've been hit by a truck. Really depressed, can't stop crying, hard to get out of bed, etc.
Is it normal to feel depressed the day after drinking? Or is this really weird? I can't remember what I used to be like, but this doesn't seem to happen to any of my friends. Does anyone else experience this?
>>17318223
I don't think it's normal.
Sounds like the alcohol and dehydration caused by it are creating some chemical imbalance in your head.
That happened to me, but I'm always depressed when I'm sober, so there's that.
>>17318223
>Is it normal to feel depressed the day after drinking?
Yes.
It's part of the hangover/withdrawal.
It's totally normal.
I'm an alcoholic. I'm drunk as fuck now. I know tomorrow I will feel shame and guilt even though I've done nothing but sit here and jack off.
It's just part of the hangover. Acetaldehyde makes you feel anxious.
You learn to get over it.
Basically this girl called me a bunch of mean names, and stuff that isn't even true.
[21:24:41] Mandy <3: why tf are you in love w a whore
[21:24:51] Raj Your Dad: im not
[21:24:55] Raj Your Dad: and stop being mean
[21:25:10] Mandy <3: mean? its the truth
[21:25:21] Raj Your Dad: and sometimes the truth is mean
[21:25:43] Mandy <3: maybe it wouldn't be mean if she wouldn't date 10 guys at once
[21:25:47] Mandy <3: and masturbate on cam
[21:25:51] Raj Your Dad: she didnt
[21:26:05] Mandy <3: keep telling yourself that
[21:26:51] Raj Your Dad: why are you being mean
[21:26:56] Mandy <3: its the ruth
[21:26:59] Mandy <3: truth
[21:27:16] Raj Your Dad: whatever
[21:27:22] Raj Your Dad: and im not in love
[21:27:26] Mandy <3: sure
[21:27:33] Mandy <3: whatever you say
[21:27:40] Raj Your Dad: believe it or not I don't like everyone
[21:27:44] Raj Your Dad: its a joke xd
[21:27:50] Mandy <3: definitely
[21:27:58] Raj Your Dad: you make out as if id like zayjay
[21:28:18] Raj Your Dad: I wouldn't tell you who i truly like
[21:28:32] Mandy <3: because I already know its *****
[21:28:35] Raj Your Dad: xd
[21:28:37] Raj Your Dad: sure it is
[21:29:10] Raj Your Dad: idk what made you so salty
[21:29:35] Raj Your Dad: and also if your going to talk shit about people don't pretend to be their friend
[21:29:48] Mandy <3: i don't pretend to be her friend
[21:30:03] Raj Your Dad: are you and ***** friends
[21:30:06] Mandy <3: no
What should I say to her, because whenever I try to talk to her, she doesn't answer my questions or goes "Away" on Skype. (Her in the picture)
Literally not worth your time man.
Just block her and be done with it. It will make her salty as fuck.
>>17318218
This website is for adults. Come back when you're 18.
And don't post people's pictures on 4chan without their permission.
Hahaha what's wrong with u writing like a bitchmade pussy
How do you deal with a controlling parent? I've never been allowed to go out with friends or do any activities growing up, and she has taken my social security card to prevent me from getting driver's license or applying to jobs, then complains about how I "don't do anything". She is now coming after my entertainment and telling me that I can worry about the internet when I retire from a career.
I want to move out but I fucking can't.
you turn 18 and then join the military
>>17318231
I'm turning 20 soon.
>>17318216
You don't have to actually show your SS card to get a job - you just have to know your number. So go get a job.
If you really want a card, call the SS Department and say you lost your SS card. If you know your number and offer any other ID, they'll give you a new one.
I need advice here is some basic info:
>I am 26, living with my mom and step dad.
>I have a biochemistry degree
>I have a part time job making $12.50/hr
>Diagnosed depression
I have a lot of debt from my degree I never managed to make use of. It's been 2 years since I graduated. I am not really interested in pursuing that field if work anyway, but it's not like I can start all over either. Ideally I'd take some 1-2 year program that would get me a decent job. Teaching, or technical work. I was thinking about accounting but looks like it'll take 6 years to get a CPA so I kinda gave that idea up. Today I built this bookshelf.
I don't know what what to say.
what about medicine? Maybe you could become an RN or paramedic.
I never understood why people get degrees in things they have no interest in
>>17318208
>I'm young enough that I can still learn new things easily, and currently pay no rent, so I'm not chained to my job.
>I have a degree.
>I am employed.
>I am cognizant of my mental health and am taking steps to stabilize and improve it.
Man, you're doing fine.
There are a ton of jobs that are closed to everyone that does not have a degree, but open to anyone with any degree (and there are tons of people without a degree, who wish they had one). Grab one of those jobs and you can ditch the minimum wage one.
Figure out what things you are naturally good at. Be abstract.
Organization? Attention to detail? Interpersonal communication?
Once you know your natural skills, check out some career direction websites and see what careers they recommend. If any of them grab you, download a textbook on the subject and read it cover to cover.
I graduated with an English degree (no money in that, but it's a degree, and that's what matters sometimes). I worked as a teacher while figuring out what I was really good at and wanted to do, then got a certificate degree in that, and now work on the development side of IT.
It's true that there are people who went into uni knowing exactly what they wanted to do, and now they're miles ahead of everybody else. Hey, good for them. But there are also people who are ten or twenty years older than you who would kill to be as young as you are and to have so much opportunity. You didn't know exactly what you wanted to do right out the gate, but you don't need to feel down about that; not at all. Your situation is seriously fine.
I'm always exhausted when i wake up. If I sleep 8 hours but still feel tired all day, am I sleep deprived even though I slept a full night?
You might be stressed or suffering from depression
hows your diet and exercise?
Your body just went 8 hours without food or water. And you most likely breathed with your mouth open, adding to dehydration.
Just wake up, drink 1-2 glasses of water, and make some eggs. You must be American with your knowledge of Fitness
So I had a simple pimple on the shaft of my dick, no biggie.
I went to pop it, and pinched it, and instead of bursting, the pus inside seemed to just disperse back into the skin.
Its been about a day later, and it is now a huge red pimple about x3 the size of what it started out to be. Id pop it, but the skin is no where near a breaking point, so squeezing it just induces more pain.
On a plus side, jacking off is slightly painful, which makes me cum faster.
Oh, I forgot my question.
Did I get it infected? Do I lance this motherfucker and ooze the bloody goop out?
Wat do?
septicemia, go to the hospital
>>17318160
Lolno. This has happened before
so this thing called netbar just apeared on my laptop screen. what do i do and can i get rid of it?
>>17318116
Protip: use Google and just type how to remove netbar
Malwarebytes scan.
>>17318131
i did it wasnt very helpful
I'm falling for a girl I'm meant to be helping get over or get back with her shitty boyfriend. He treats her like shit and is currently groveling a shitload and she's coming back around to him. But it's not my place to tell her she's better off without him because i feel like I'm bias because of how i feel about her. Plus i feel like a hypocrite. I'm single because my relationship was rocky and another guy came in and did the shoulder to cry on thing and took her from me. I feel like i'd be doing the same thing if i told her how i feel.
Should i tell her how i feel? Even if it makes me a hypocrite?
Or should I just be there for her, and whatever she chooses with him, to go back to him or not, i'll accept it and just be the friend she needs.
>>17318064
>But it's not my place to tell her she's better off without him because i feel like I'm bias because of how i feel about her.
If she's asking for your help, then it is entirely your place to say something. If she didn't want honest advice she shouldn't have asked anyone for help.
>I'm single because my relationship was rocky and another guy came in and did the shoulder to cry on thing and took her from me. I feel like i'd be doing the same thing if i told her how i feel.
So it's wrong to do something that someone else did to you? Okay - lets be sure to call the world and stop telling them to learn from their experiences, so that we stop repeating each others ideas and actions.
>Should i tell her how i feel? Even if it makes me a hypocrite?
You aren't a hypocrite, so yes tell her.
>Or should I just be there for her, and whatever she chooses with him, to go back to him or not, i'll accept it and just be the friend she needs.
This is a choice you have to make. And if you chose it you cannot be upset with the outcome. Only you are responsible for your happiness and nobody else is accountable for your actions but yourself.
>>17318064
Don't bother, she will go back to the abusive bf in no time. Women love the way people shake and thrill their feelings like rollercoasters.
I suggest you make yourself scarce or start to fade out from her life.
>>17318088
>If she's asking for your help, then it is entirely your place to say something
Yeah i guess so, i started off saying that sort of thing, That she can do better and such but as i realized I'm developing feelings ive stopped saying this shit because i have that pang of guilt.
I think you're right though, maybe. I just don't want to ruin the dynamic her and i have. If i tell her and she recoils because of it then i'm in the dog house and pretty lonely again.
>>17318099
I've thought about this but i feel like that's just giving up on something that could be special.
I really want to end it all, i was waiting for the best but is imposible for me i can't resist this loneliness, i swear it, i did my best but seems like no ones have time for me and my depression, and broke up with my gf don't makes the things easy, i read once that if life doesn't was easy doesn't worth to live, i bet that person never knew depression.
>>17318053
lmao
i took the time so say this anon loves you c:
To preface this, I'm not suicidal, but I'm feeling really depressed right now.
I've been at college taking summer classes, and all the time I've had alone has made me start to think about what the point of all this is. I'm a Buddhist, and I'd like to believe fully in reincarnation, but I'm stuck. On one hand, if we aren't reincarnated, we just cease to exist, which is pretty depressing, and makes this whole life thing kind of pointless. On the other hand, if we are reincarnated, we can't escape this world. There will never be anything more interesting than what there is now. It's not like I'll be reincarnated and all of a sudden the world will be full of magical dragons or something. It's just becoming more technological. More of the same. My own life seems pointless. I can be just a drone like the billions of other people here, not amounting to much, maybe I'll have kids, put my name on something, but that's it. Then you die. Either that, or I can be world famous for something, and then die. Either way, what's the point in all the in-between stuff?
I've watched a lot of TV shows and movies where the creators imagine some fantastical world, where all kinds of interesting adventures happen. But here, I know that things like that will never happen. Everything here will just be about "progress". I feel like I'm not even the protagonist of my own story, I'm just a background character, barely a speaking role. Somebody over there will change the world. I'm just going to live out my pointless life and die. Maybe I'll come back in another pointless life. So what? I'll just be floating back and forth in an endless loop. And if I do break that loop (Buddhism), what's so great about that?
Has anyone else been faced with this thought process? I'm pretty sure I'm depressed, I just feel this aching pain all over.
Do what the fuck you want, OP.
You live, you die, try and have some fun in between.
And by fun, I mean doing the shit you actually like, not "going outside on adventures."
Unless that's ya thing, than, by all means.
There is zero reason to be depressed over things you can't control. Being depressed won't make life less meaningless. You might as well enjoy your time here while you have it.
>>17318027
That was a bad comparison. What I mean is that "whatever the fuck I want" doesn't matter. Doing what I want doesn't make me happy anymore. I'm a physics major. Physics research is a career I've wanted since I was literally a toddler. But now that I'm doing it, it's just boring. And not in a "maybe something else will be less boring" way. I just don't enjoy any of what I'm doing, but I like it better than anything else I've ever done, so it's really moving the rest of my life down a notch.
>>17318028
I know there's zero reason to be depressed over things you can't control. If that helped me be less depressed, do you think I'd be here?
So I really like my best friend but at this point we're basically SIBLING zoned. I've had a growing crush on her for about 2 years and last night I finally let it slip. I was crying real bad because I knew she COULDN'T like me back. She has some trouble with feeling and identifying her emotions and romantic feelings are a mystery to her. So now she feels guilty for not noticing when I'M the one with a crush.
Anyway, I've pretty much decided to not push her or talk about it ever again unless god willing she likes me back.
She's more touchy now too....
Is she flirting?
Do I have a chance at all?
How should I act around her?
last bump
ask her on a date
>>17318014
Sounds like she's trying to compensate for what she missed on before. Your friend probably noticed your being distant from her and tried to get you to notice her again by appealing to tho lesbianic queues you'd pick up on. I'd say she'd probably be willing to experiment, but a long term thing seems like it'll get messy
