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- Computer science
- Computer engineering
- Electrical engineering
- Mechanical engineering
What should I expect from each major, and which of them is better to major in nowadays?
State reasons for your answers.
I only have experience on the first two. I can only speak from myself but you can expect intense suicidal thoughts.
Those are wildly different. You should major in whatever sounds fun because they all pay.
You like computers and programming more than drafting? Do CS or CE. CE is more hardware than software and vice versa for CS. EE and ME are going to be more physics and "jack of all trades" type engineering.
All can get really boring with high but faster salary caps. CS will let you get those 100k+ jobs you hear about form the bay area, but you'll never leave a computer.
If I could do it all again I'd go chemical.
>>17316382
Sure. Share your experience.
Should I just kill myself? I noticed out of everyone I know I have the worst possible life you could be given within reason.
>24
>have no friends haven't really had a girlfriend in years
>get nervous during sex now and lose boners and can't even do it
>family is poor and we live in a house falling apart that's 200 years old
>live in the country 6 hours from a city
>depression...
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>>17316351
Just stick it out. What's the worst that could happen?
>>17316351
Have you noticed that you blame everything and everyone else for your own life situations? If you would take responsibility for your poor decision making you'd be surprised at how much better your life can get.
>>17316351
>>have a few people I hang out with
>>they're all crazy or something is seriously wrong with them
What's wrong with that? I'm stuck here with a bunch of fucking normal-ass people and i'm going nuts. That sounds great to me.
>friends made plans while I was having an introvert-need-alone-time-for-a-month attack
>heard about it last minute got invited and decided to join and suggested we at least get drinks (the next morning they have a boat trip to catch which I can't go to)
>probably our last weekend together as I will be moving soon anyways
>we all have to drive 6 hours to this city and I will only be staying the first night for drinks.
>"friends"...
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Not that hard to text " we can't make it" shit friends honestly you're better off alone till you make better friends
>>17316458
This. Either you're not telling the whole story here or these guys are legitimately assholes, a group of friends wouldn't all cancel on another friend without saying something if they were all friends.
>>heard about it last minute got invited
Does this happen often? If it does, it's basically an invite out of charity, so that if you ever heard about a plan you missed in the future, they could say "Well I invited you!".
I feel like I can't continue the relationship with my girlfriend anymore.
We've been together for almost 3 years, but I don't want to keep on seeing her. No particular reason. I just realized that I don't really miss her anymore and don't feel like being with her anymore.
My problem is that in a few days I'll be going on a holiday for about 3 weeks to visit relatives (without her) and after that I'm going on another holiday with some friends and my girlfriend.
How the fuck do I break it to her? Should I do it now, or should...
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>>17316341
>No particular reason.
The hell man. There is something wrong in the way you see world man. First and foremost she is a human being that is depending on you, you don't just do that to another human sentient being out of the blue just because "you don't feel like it" (but maybe, she does deserve someone more mature that you). It's normal to lose interest sometimes, you have to rekindle the flame. Talk to her about it. Talk to her about the way you feel...
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>>17316411
I guess you're right.
It's just that I've always felt a strong connection with her throughout the relationship and I've always had strong feelings for her.
I was away for a week and I just realized that I didn't miss her at all and when I saw her again it just didn't feel like before. I know she's dependent on me and I want her to be happy, but I just can't see myself in the picture with her anymore. Everything feels really forced on my side at this point which...
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>>17316411
It doesn't have to be a constant rollercoaster for me; as a matter of fact that feeling wore off pretty quickly when I settled into the relationship.
It's just the fact that for some reason I don't feel attracted to her anymore like before.
I'm alone, and I don't feel like anyone has ever really cared about me. Nobody checks in to see if I'm still on the upswing from my last episode, nobody asks if I'm still making ends meet, and nobody asks if I would like to see another human being on a friendly non-contractual basis.
I have had parents, grandparents, lovers, friends, and therapists who said they loved me. However, nobody takes an interest. I assume this is because I broke the contract each of us had. The family disregarded me when I became sick, because they felt responsible and at...
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>>17316321
Do you ever reach out to anyone else?
If you never initiate contact, even a "What's new?" phone call, people will conclude that YOU don't like THEM, and they'll respect your privacy by leaving you alone.
It seems like you push everyone away. You appear to be the type who constantly needs other people to rescue you while never giving a thought to how your neediness drained others. No one is responsible for your happiness but yourself, and wallowing in self-pity does nothing.
If your personality was pleasant and good to be around, these people would still be trying to help you.
>>17316401
I don't know how to break the cycle and be calm/healthy for the next person I meet.
When we broke up with my gf 5 years ago we told each other that we could every now and then have some contact to ask how we are doing. We broke up in good relations and there was no drama etc.
Well, so far i have been taken the iniative and asked how she is doing. She never takes the iniative.
This is ok. but does this mean she don't want to be in contact at all?
ps. im devastated by the fact that after so many years (11years) i just lost a person from my life. We were very close and had a deep friendship on the basis. It feels like a funreal. Even...
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she probably is busy finding someone else or with work, or family. it doesn't really matter what her excuse is. there's a reason you go no contact: so both parties can move on and not have to deal with petty drama like this.
stop putting your energy & time into this. it doesn't matter if you were friends before because you aren't now. put that energy into something useful.
Maybe they're on their hunt for the new person that will make all of this bullshit worth it. Maybe you're better for recognizing the value of friendship. Maybe they have more friends than you.
Anyway, try learning to deeply befriend men and women you don't want to have sex with. I struggle to do this myself...
Pretending someone is not in your sentiments or concerns anymore, even though you loved them, is just one great aspect of the cold modern world. It's also part of the growing difficulty for people to get along without an ideological conflict.
Unfortunately...
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>>17316349
>>17316352
mmm, yeah well even if they were in a search of a new its not so hectic they couldn't change a few messages with me. The otherone is in a relationship, the other one probably is just fucing around and dating. Which is fine.
I quess i have to learn deeply befriending then. but how the fuck it is done?
How do I remove or at least cover my tattoo?
>>17316316
go back in time and warn yourself not to become a whore
Where's your tattoo? Why do you want to cover it?
Invest in a concealer/foundation that offers full coverage.
best way to ask a friend from highschool on a date through facebook?
highschool ended 4 years ago
>>17316305
Don't do it. It's a bad idea.
You don't. You call her on the phone and talk to her.
>>17316305
You talk to her in phone or in person, and not in the super friendly "omg haiiii it's been years" way. Make your intentions clear, tell her you'd like to take her out or Netflix & chill.
FUCKING STOP
>>17316299
PERHAPS
STOP FUCKING
How do you act when your friend becomes more and more distant? We live in different cites atm so it's a bit like long distance friendship, but we were very close once and now he texts me less and less, his facebook chat is always turned off and when I message him our convos are short and awkward. I don'tknow how to understand it, he doesn't want to know me anymore?
>tl;dr friend rarely speaks to me and I don't know what to do with that
>>17316286
How far do you live apart?
How long have you known eachother and how did you meet?
What are your ages?
>>17316286
A lot of friendships, especially among the young, are friendships-of-proximity. Kids play together because they live next door, teens become pals because they're in the same classes.
Sometimes these friendships last forever. But just as often, when the proximity breaks - when you go to different colleges or move away - it turns out that there wasn't much more than the proximity holding you together.
That may have happened here. It doesn't mean that you'll break altogether, just...
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>>17316368
We are both 21. We live like 2 hours apart and I've known him since high school
>>17316377
That's really sad because I never felt like we are friends because it's handy but because we like same stuff and have loads in common
I feel like I can't compete with other dudes out there in the dating department. I am 25. Can't drive. My family is scattered. Parents are dead.
I am alone. Self esteem and confidence are shattered. I can't talk to women in this state but I feel ripped off. People younger than me get to have relationships. Why can't I?
I hate approaching women because I know they have a whole fucking roster of dudes pining for them. Sone of those dudes would let the girl shit in their fuckibg mouth.
How can I compete?! There is nothing redeeming about...
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Bunp
Can you not improve yourself? Learn how to drive. Get a job, even if it's a shitty one. Build up your interests and friends.
I'm sure you'd hate someone who mooched and behaved like a child , even if it was your girlfriend, so why would they do the same?
Your "integrity" doesn't mean anything to most people, they don't even know how you could show it.
Well, let me start by saying: learn to drive. If you have a friend or a neighbor, offer them something so it's worth their while. That will be a lot cheaper than payinga stranger for behind-the-wheel time. Get a learner's permit, go to driving school, yadda-yadda, but immediately. Trust me on this. You gotta chip away, slowly.
Also, you'd be surprised. A lot of girls DON'T have a billion guys pining for them. My girlfriend is cute as hell and goes to a really big college and other than a few old men/campus bros she's unbothered. She also isn't...
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I'm currently looking to get into blue collar work, most of the jobs I'm interested are in construction or highway/road work, anything really. I'm 22 i'm a burly boy and I don't mind working long hard hours. Any place in mind or ideas that could help me find a career like this?
Ever considered pimping?
>>17316256
How old are you? And do you live in the US?
UPS. the work is there. there money is there, if you stick it out and work those long hours.
>teamsters
Hey /adv/,
I rarely post here but I want to hear the opinion of people who are not my friends and family.
Do you believe that two people of different backgrounds can live together happily? It has to do with me and my gf of 4 years. I'm actually shaking just typing this.
She has done so much for me, she taught me how to not be afraid to speak my mind, to stand up for myself against others who want to harm me, to be a lot more independent and think for myself, she always stuck up for me, she always supported me when I was in need. I always supported her with...
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So as you can see we are very different. Nobody is wrong or right just different. But the problem is that this is bringing us lots of problems:
She thinks my parents and my brothers are getting in the way of forming my own life and growing up when they support me when I am in need (etc. I was once in the middle of nowhere so I phoned my bro to pick me up because I couldn't leave otherwise or I asked my father to show me how to build wooden tables and how to take care of plants and my garden) and believes that this is wrong and not healthy so do her friends she grew up with. She thinks that I should drop everything and live with her. We have been arguing for a whole year now and we're at each others throats all the time. I love her so much but at the same time she makes me so sad. My friends told that I'm not happy anymore and that she has drained all my positiveness and energy.
One day I was speaking with my parents on the phone and they told me that they see me depressed every time I'm with my gf. My gf overheard it and told me she'll never speak to my parents again cause they can't accept her. I haven't slept in days because I'm caught in between two worlds I love. I don't want answers, I just want to talk about it and hear about similar situations. In the end it's up to me anyway.
I do think she is wrong about thinking that stuff. Its good that you have that kind of relationship with your family. I wish i did growing up. I was in fostercare at 12yo and my parents did drugs. I was sexually abused twice but i still keep a positive attitude. She does seem like a downer for you but its not an impossible relationship. I think shes just not used to your kind of close knit family cause hers wasnt. Even after you leave your parents house, its not a bad thing to ask for help or knowledge of something. Thats what parents are for, to teach you things, even when...
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>>17316267
Thank you for your answer. She been through a lot of tough shit and I recognize that. I think she grew up too fast and she hasn't matured emotionally. It hurts me so much though, I don't want to lose her but all I see is constant arguing (I'm right and you're wrong type). All the damn time. I want to show her the way but I can't.
HELP!
I have a female friend who is coming over at my place for some drinks.
When we agreed to this I seriously thought she only saw me as a friend, until a mutual friend (who is closer to her than I am) told me that the only reason she's coming over is because she wants to shag me.
I don't wanna fug her so the simple answer is don't fuck her. but I wanna know how to deal with whatever might happen next after I reject her advances.
Just let her down gently, "I don't wanna ruin what we already have", "I see you as more of a sister, ya know?"
Just be really polite and tell her in an understanding, "I really want the best for both of us" kind of way. She may be a little disappointed, but you'll both be fine. Don't worry about it.
Also, don't drink. You may find yourself doing things after a few drinks that you would rather not have done. Get some ginger ale or cranberry juice or anything else that resembles whatever alcohol you've got (but is still easy to distinguish from it, if you are not drunk) and only drink that.
I don't fully understand why resemblance matters. I can't drink for medical reasons, but I've noticed that whenever I'm around people who are drinking, they seriously appreciate when I try to drink something that at least looks like whatever alcohol...
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Just be as gentle as possible. Tell her you think of her as a friend and that this could probably ruin it. From my experience, I can tell you it WILL RUIN what you have. And you probably should stop contacting her afterwards, because if you don't, she'll have her hopes up and you'll look like an asshole. Being on this side of things is equally shitty as being the one that is rejected.
Just whatever you do, be gentle whith her.
Hello /adv/
I’m in a difficult spot right now and have to make my mind up about my future plans within the next 2 days. I’m really desperate and appreciate any and all of your input and thoughts that could help me make a decision, this might become a bit of a wall of text but please bear with me. I hope this will turn into a philosophical discussion that everyone could take something away from rather than just me receiving advice on my specific situation.
I finished high school 4 years ago, rushed into University studying Business Management because it seemed...
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>>17316184
cont.
Anyways, I decided to get the hell out of there. I bought a plane ticket to Australia and went off to a backpacking adventure that would eventually last 1,5 years over 2 continents. I just gave up my room, my computer, my life cold turkey. And I turned out to be fine. I’m not actually completely retarded socially, I could actually take care of myself and I actually could work and work hard. However, in the end I was still alone and while I was doing a fine job fitting in I still preferred my quiet...
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>>17316186
cont.
I want to be out there, travelling to whatever place I feel like, doing whatever I feel like and only stop to work for few months at a time whenever I need a cash reload. I don’t care about a degree, I don’t care about your fancy job, I don’t care that you think I’m an idiot. I’m happier doing what I’m doing. Sure, this view of mine might change drastically when I get older, but then I can still settle down and get a decent job when the time comes. I might be late to getting that fancy...
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>>17316189
Geez OP, being an adult is all about responsibilities. You need to fullfill your responsibilities to others, ie.take care of your parents, have wife and kid, keeping social contacts, ect, ect... And to do all that, you usually need a stable income. But you clearly dont care about any of that, as all your post is all about yourself. So yes, I would say you are immature. Which is not necessary a bad thing, cause, being an aldut suck dick anw.
I supprise you didnt figure that out yourself, considering all that travelling would do alot for maturing.
