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What are some advice for drawing good?
I always practice as much as I can, but I'm too terrible at doing simple things like folds and perspectives. I'm always intimidated when I'm online looking for help. I did try to take a class, but its all stuff I did in middles school and doesn't help. Not sure if my college is the same.
Draw from life but also practice in a million different style, look at what you like to see in art and try to bring it into your own and there's also lots and lots of online tutorials! I like Syrca and Proko on youtube, they've been pretty helpful and if you really want to improve try to set some time where you can take hours and hours trying to draw something you like.
There are times when I feel bad about my art, and when I get like that I try to force myself to draw something I like before I allow myself to go to bed. I think having that kind of determination has helped me grow a lot. You should try it! You'll be surprised how proud you feel!
Take a look at the sticky on /ic/, it has links to a lot of pdfs of books on perspective/poses/pretty much anything.
>>17315621
You might just suck ass at drawing. Still if you enjoy drawing, even if it's shit, who cares? You're doing you. It's your hobby.
Understand something about talent. Some people have an inate talent at things and they'll be good at it and achieve mastery of it with short time. Others can take a very long time and still not be nearly as good as them. Still others will never achieve even decent skill at it regardless of how many hours they put into it.
This girl I know has feelings for me but o have feelings fore her. Problem is that she's in a relationship........ What do I do? I feel like I'm wasting my time because I want someone to only have feelings for me.
Help should I stop hanging out with her and her boyfriend?
Help I feel she's just happy being in the middle of attention..
>Date girlfriend for two years
>Sex is good (especially for her)
But
>Going straight to sex is boring
>I feel like an asshole if I don't reciprocate oral
>She says that fingering isn't worth the payoff because she likes sex better
>She thinks vaginas are "icky" and is repulsed by female oral
>She hasn't came from it much, although a little under half the time that I've done it, and she says that she feels bad for me for having to do that for her
Nothing will budge this girl's mind. She thinks that women are disgusting due to their genitals, but that just ridiculous. Help, /adv/.
wake her up with oral sex. she will begin to enjoy it
Learn to love toys, vibrators, etc
>>17315619
>Rape her
>guy friend tells he's had a crush on me for like two years
>we go on a few dates, banter around
>"hey friend am I not attractive enough for you to bang?"
>"no"
>"so I am attractive enough for you to bang?"
>"I'm not going to fuck you"
???????
>>17315597
Wait...who said what?
Interactions change perspective. Admiring someone from afar is way different from dating them. People are at liberty to change their minds at will. Move on.
>>17315601
A (me)
B (friend)
A
B
I haven't thrown up in over 5 years.
I used to be very afraid of throwing up but it's starting to die down. Now I'm just getting curious. I want to understand it better. I was hoping you could:
>Tell me about times that you guys have thrown up.
>How often do you throw up?
>Can you describe the feeling?
>Post anything about throwing up.
I've noticed, in the case of myself, that drinking water when I get that hot feeling under my tongue before vomiting will actually PREVENT me from vomiting 90% of the time.
That said, sometimes my stomach hurts so bad that I WANT to vomit. I throw up probably once-thrice every 6 months. Usually because of heartburn or alcohol.
Ok here goes
>Tell me about times that you guys have thrown up.
I'm bulimic which definitely helped me get over any fear of it
>How often do you throw up?
Recently almost never but for a long time it was around 5 times a day
>Can you describe the feeling?
You choke a few times and it feels weak and then you get a good choke, but the key is to ride with that and don't try and suppress it. That makes throwing up really horrible
>Post anything about throwing up
It's really not that scary if you don't resist what your body is naturally trying to do. Obviously for me it often isn't "natural" but I just mean the movements are natural
Knowing what to expect really helps too
I went a looooooong time without puking till I was old enough to drink and the first time it happened to me after drinking too much I HATED it
still do, I can't stand it. I panic and can't breathe during and once it starts it just won't stop. I'll be sweating and crying uncontrollably and feel like my bodies trying to choke me to death. Last time I mixed alcohol and my body clearly didn't want to keep it in me I started chugging pepto and sat in front of the toilet for five hours fighting the urge to puke.
>attempting to send girl to pound town
>weiner keeps slipping out and twisting painfully
how do it fix this?
>slipping
pull out all the way then reinsert to remove excess lubrication, not too much though if you last a while cause you will need that lube to last
>twisting
what position even in? learn to thrust at an angle that doesn't hurt you and most importantly makes you feel good, ideally along with your partner
>>17315559
well more like it bends back. also i last way too damn long. how to fix that?
>>17315553
superglue
I've been on three dates with one girl about a year or two ago. I am khv and those three dates are my entire experience with the opposite gender. My questions are:
When is the proper time to go in for a kiss? By the third date? Does the girl need to be told explicitly that me and her going out means we are on a date? Will the girl think I'm sexually assaulting her if I go for a kiss too early?
Go with the flow. You think you don't know when it's the right time. It shouldn't be your goal to kiss at some certain point, but if it feels natural, do it fgt.
And yes, you both should be aware if it's a date.
>>17315545
I'm afraid the girl will think I'm a creep or something if I mistake her having a good time meaning that she is open to a kiss.
>>17315551
Sounds like you fear that you won't be able to read your date's emotions. At least when it comes to appropriate time to kiss.
Do you have hard time reading people's minds in general? Is this the only case when you have this kind of fear? It could be that you're only overreacting. Especially if you've had a bad experience in the past.
If this is a legitimate concern, don't kiss. Let your date do it when it's the right time. They might do the same mistake and assume you're ready!
How about touching back or shoulder, are you comfortable with that first?
>Interested in new girl at work.
>Sorta think she's interested in me? Can't tell if she's being nice or if its because I'm training her or what.
>We're into a lot of the same non-superficial stuff.
>Either way, I'd be scared of getting close to her because my life is a fucking trainwreck right now.
>I have my job. Thats it, no plans for school, some bad teeth I can't afford to fix. Credit card debt. Getting sort of fatter. Room is a fucking nightmare with bed bugs but landlord wont do shit and is super messy.
>Meanwhile she's working two jobs and is learning a language in her free time while she's in between school.
Is she out of my league? A little, but I've never had a problem aiming higher than my paygrade. It's just that everything in my life is fucked up at the moment and I don't really have a goal. Should I sit this one out and focus on clearing my shit? Or should I go for it and try and go for a 2fer1?
>>17315517
>Interested in new girl at work.
Don't shit where you eat.
>>17315520
As true as this is, work isn't exactly a commitment at the moment, for her or me. I'm planning on leaving the job any time something better comes a long and she's leaving this September. I don't think it's a big deal.
>>17315517
Go for it. You'll regret it if u don't. Specially if she's leaving.
>Birthday in 2 days.
>Going to be 25
>Started college last year.
>Only 2 classes done due to money
>Wasted most of my life over other issues because I though I was too stupid to even apply to college.
>Could've gotten this shit over with even with my issues, for the most part.
I don't know what to do. I do want to go to college, I'm even willing to take more classes, but I can't since Summer semesters are too, fast (taking an online classes). Dad thinks I'm a worthless sack a shit. I don't know if I'm going to stay this way if I'm thirty. The depression is killing me.
Is there any advice? I can't go to therapy before anyone asks.
take out a loan so you can secure a degree that will help you pay it off after you graduate and also give you a comfortable life style. make a career plan and stick with it
If you can't get therapy, get some other support. Alsour, finish college. I'm 22 and about to be a junior because I did too many drugs during and after high school, and going to school full time is the best thing I ever did for myself. Just do it.
>>17315496
Why can't you go to therapy?
My ex boyfriend killed himself almost 10 months ago. I suffered from depression, anxiety, and PTSD before then but ever since my urge to socialize has almost completely diminished and my excitement for life has pretty much vanished. I'm planning on getting a new place with my current boyfriends and waiting to go back to school in the fall and hoping that will give my life meaning again, but I am worried I am going to feel like this forever. I literally have no interest in meeting new human beings because I feel as if they can't understand what I'm going through and like everything I have done the last 9 months. I don't have fun, I'm just going through the motions. Everything just feels like it's on mute. I even lost interest in drinking because the knowledge that he is dead never leaves me and in fact intensifies when I am intoxicated. Will this ever go away? What can I do to make myself feel alive again?
*boyfriend, not plural
>>17315468
Maybe you shouldn't even be in a relationship since it sounds you're struggling emotionally. Are you keeping your current bf just not to be lonely?
>>17315468
See a shrink. Most schools offer free help and you're suffering from depression and possibly ptsd. You need the help, no shame in admitting it and asking for help.
Do Indian men have a really bad stigma here in America, 3specially when it comes to dating? I'm a second generation pooinloo, and it kinda bums me out that I carry the stereotype of being a smelly, braindead rapist that just works all day long.
>inb4 date your own race curryfaggot
I prefer Indian girls most of the time but they aren't exactly common here :/
>>17315441
Stereotypes will always win especially in Americuck.
You're better off getting a girl from your country than trying to date those feminist cunts
>>17315441
You should just date your own race though man. Everybody should, it preserves the diversity.
>>17315477
Why is diversity something to be desired though?
What are the unwritten rules of online dating, like tinder?
>>17315432
The girls are only there for attention and possibly free shit. Don't bother.
1. be hot
1. a - be a girl
2. Don't take anything online seriously
3. It really is for getting laid, and everyone involved knows this to some degree. Getting a match is equivalent to looking at someone else at a bar and returning smiles. Going up to that person will probably mean getting ignored after a few words, or not being able to hear them at all. So say something ridiculous to get their attention.
4. Move towards a meetup where you can either have sex or see each other beyond your phones. There's little purpose to talking on the app.
If you're not a girl it sucks. Seriously. The same girl that would probably suck your dick if you would just talk to her at the bar or on campus will likely never swipe right on you, simply because girls can pick and choose who they want on that app. And yes, this means they will almost always either fuck Chads or niche types.
I'm scared of sex and sexuality due to inexperience.
Wat do?
Read and get experience. If you learn your lesson, you can be pretty good at first time.
Find someone that you feel comfortable with and don't try to force it just because you think it should happen. Sex can be natural and beautiful, and if you see that before seeing any other aspect of it you will gain experience greater than years of encounters with huge ranges of partners.
Are you a virgin, yes or no
>almost 24
>no car
>2 part time jobs (want to quit one)
>$7,500 in debt
>cant afford my last semester of college
>at wits end
Is there any advice you guys can give me either in general or about how to get out of this debt? It's mostly the money issue, but it's driving me insane and I'm eating more because of it. Btw- I'm not quitting my job. I just want to
How did you get so far in debt?
Can you receive student loans? If not on your own, can you get a co-signer for a student loan?
Are you able to save money in any fashion? Can you reach a settlement with the bank?
>>17315367
It's a lot to explain. The short answer is the money is from the school. It's my fault as equally as the loan companies, but I still owe all the money from previous loans. I have saved up only about $2,500 in the bank. I was saving for a car until I got hit with this. I have to call them tomorrow and work out a plan
>>17315360
Leverage whatever experience you have and get a good full time job, keep the part time job you like (if they will be flexible with you) and PAY THAT DEBT OFF ASAP.
Hi /adv/ I'm really shy and awkward around people I avoid people a lot because of that..
overheard a couple of guys call me a bitch .. I'm not trying to please people but how can I avoid being a "bitch"
I'm grill btw
>>17315351
They are probably taking your shyness and thinking of it as you not wanting to be around them, etc.
Don't be shy. I don't buy into the awkward shit, it's almost always cool to me.
>>17315377
This OP.
Whoever said you were a bitch obviously has their own insecurities.
>>17315351
>Hi /adv/ I'm really shy and awkward around people I avoid people a lot because of that..
>overheard a couple of guys call me a bitch
If you avoid people, they're going to think there's a reason for that (eg you don't like them).
Also, if you're borderline/avoidant then keep in mind that it's not the anxious traits that bother people, it's the sociopathic ones.
This probably doesn't apply to you, but i've seen cases on /adv/, and it usually takes 30+ posts before the OP finally says "yeah i've been diagnosed with BPD" or gives some other clue.
