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How do you stop wanting/daydreaming about romantic love?
By getting heartbroken.
>>17314026
I have never agreed with anything more..
>>17314026
How?
Already had an unrequited crush for like two or three times, broke a third guy's heart.
I still want to be kissed.
How do I make my girlfriend jealous?
[spoiler]without actually cheating on her[/spoiler]
>>17313993
Why do you want to make your girlfriend jealous?
It will OBVIOUSLY backfire.
>>17314002
She claims that she is never jealous, etc
Also, I would like to check if she is really interested in me. If she really like me, she WILL be jealous, right?
There is something wrong with your relationship. Put your efforts into fixing it instead of making it worse.
It's a different story if you're planning to dump her anyway and are thinking of ways to hurt her before you break up. In that case, rephrase your question and I'm sure some people more mean-spirited than me can give you ways to do that.
Hi /adv/
I'd like to see what advice you guys would give to someone in my position. Essentially, I feel like my job is trying to cuck me.
Just over a year and a half ago I was offered the opportunity to move to a problematic team to iron out its difficulties. I was told that if this was successful I would be rewarded. I accepted this offer.
After 3 months I received a promotion which brought my salary in line with what i should have been on before I moved. Other's were promoted on my old team at the same time as me they of course did not accept the same "opportunity" as me.
At the 6 month mark I was told of another opportunity for promotion and was placed on training courses that would coincide with this.This promotion would bring me to the same level as the highest paid on my old team. Yet in comparison my workload far exceeds theirs.
A year has now passed since this second supposed opportunity for promotion was given and I have completed the training courses. Essentially I am already performing the role and have become vital to the effectiveness of the team.
I have held meetings with my manager with regards to when this promotion would happen the bottom line was that nothing concrete could now be said. My retort was that if nothing concrete could be provided then I would have to consider other job opportunities if they became available.
Now I have found out that staff of equal level to me and some that are under me have received pay rises which bring them closely inline with my salary (albeit still slightly less than mine). On average the productivity of these staff falls way below that of effective and I often have to complete their work for them. Yet no work of a pay rise nor promotion for me.
I've emailed my boss asking for a meeting first thing on Monday. How should I play it? If he can't provide me something concrete It would seem like handing in my resignation would be best.
>>17313985
Demand a raise, make sure that your boss knows how much he needs you.
>>17313985
Start actively looking for a new job, but don't resign until you have something lined up.
>>17313985
Point the things out that you are not satisfied with, but ffs don't whine, bitch, moan, or complain. You should be lining something up in case you get turned down.
Getting out of a long term relationship here and it is getting hard to move on. Don't have friends, family or real hobbies. Stuck in a shity job and living with my ex. Any advice?
>>17313979
>Any advice?
step 0: move out obviously
step 1: get a hobby
step 2: meet friends through that
step 3: meet new gf (proto-family) through friends
step 4: don't neglect other stuff because of said gf
>>17313979
Get the fuck away from your ex, of course. Why'd it break apart if you're at the stage of living together? That's normally an interlude to marriage.
I am trying to move out but it is not that easy. I am girl BTW. I don't how to meet people anymore. I try to go out and go to the gym but I an still fucking lonely
After watching the Wales/Belgium game and seeing Hal Robson Kanu score, he's a friend of my family. It's reignited something inside of me to start up pursuing football as a career.
I played and had trials for developmental a squads for professional teams most notably Watford.
I'm 21 and out of shape, not overweight but I have a small belly and haven't kicked a ball in about a year.
I am willing to keep a part time job and solely focus on this but for the first time in years I'm scared... I'm really scared, what do /adv/?
>>17313976
>I'm 21 and out of shape
mmmmmmm
Best bet is to work and join a non professional team. You train and get in shape
If you're good you can move up
>>17314077
I was regarded as India's breakthrough player at one point, I just don't know what went wrong :/ but I'm good, damn good.
>>17313976
Just do it, OP. Start playing in any team, get in shape, train long and hard, start making friends with people in the business, dedicate every single minute of your free time pursuing this.
>Start dating girl
>We make out first date
>Go a little further the second date
>Next week we meet back up and she tells me we've been going a little too far, especially since we were both drunk both occasions
>She also said that we should start just being friends then work our way up
>The same day she finds out my father just died
Did I just get friend zoned? It feels like she worded it like I had a chance only to make me feel better about my father's death.
>>17313970
Cut her off and go find a women that wants the kind of relationship you do.
Sorry about your loss.
Are you saying that your father cockblocked you from the grave?
>>17314422
Anon's dad, aka "The Coffin Cock Blocker"
Do you think there are cases were a man is ABSOLUTELY out of a girl's league?
Because of evolution, males usually feel the need to have sex with as many women as they can, whereas women have the duty to only choose the best patners, in order for the species to survive.
This means that it's gonna be easier for a girl to sleep with a man who's much more attractive than her.
I would say that such cases do exist, but that it's more rare.
>>17313981
How rare? Some examples?
>>17313967
duh
Ugly girl and hot, rich, successful guy.
Why do body language experts claim that hands-in-pocket is not dominant, displays shyness, etc?
I can see how crossing your arms looks like you're standoffish. But the pockets thing is weird because it seems like there are ways for someone to have one or two hands in their pockets and still look like they're comfortable in their environment, dominant, etc.
Display of knuckles is considered a dominant body language trait.
If you want to look dominant with hands in your pockets - stick out your thumbs and point them towards your junk like pic related.
>>17313965
picking a single "trait" in nonverbal communication just does not work, you always need to see the whole picture, including the context of the situation.
Does anyone have any books, documentaries or sources on info on non-verbal communication like this?
I've read a little on the subject because social engineering is interesting to me but would love some more material.
So my gf has been sexuall active a lot (we're talking 30+, orgies, threesomes with couples and stuff).
And although I had threesomes and lived out my fetishes i still get that weird feeling in my stomach whenever she mentions a story about her having fucked someone else.
We're talking about threesomes with other women and men, although she doesn't want me to pressure myself to it just to please her, but that's not the case.
I just want to get rid of that bad feeling in my guts whenever i see a nude picture of her on the internet (cause she's positng these and that's cool) taken by someone else a couple of years ago.
That She's just playing with me is not an option, her whole family is surprised by how good she talks about me and stuff.
>>17313951
Where the fuck do you even meet these types? Do you exclusively date prostitutes?
>>17313951
you do realize this will not end well for you, don't you?
>>17313974
randomly. no not prostitutes.
>>17313977
that's what they all say. no really. but it can't be that "people like her" cannot have a working relationship.
look. maybe i have to ellaborate
we're absolutely honest to each other. so she told me about her history and after i told her that i don't want to hear the stories of her other partners, she stopped. she told me that she wouldn't need threesomes, but I'm interested myself. so.
It's just that if she posts a story of her somewhere, I'm so stupid that i read them.
if someone contacts her and it's some dude who wants to get in her pants and she knows him, i get sick. she rejects them. i didn't evene have to check. she shows me, or i read it by accident when using her laptop.
i just want her to be able to talk about that, without me getting sick, because i have been with 20+ women myself and have had threesomes and have weird fetishes that i was able to fulfill with other women. I even set up a threesome with a friend of mine for the future, and I'm super excited about it and she is setting one up with another girl.
She doesn't have that much money but still she just spent like 700 $ on our vacation and my new graphics card.
why do i get sick when she's telling the stories?
I currently have a Fractal Design Node 304 with the following components:
i5 4690K with a Hyper Evo 212
ASUS Z97i-plus
2x4GB Crucial Ballistix 1600Mhz DDR3
aSUS GTX760 2GB
The GPU died on me yesterday so I got an MSI GTX1070 Gaming X and I tried installing it and it's a really tight fit and the backplate is slightly pressing against the cables from the PSU. Is that OK?
I was a bit worried about that but also about the limited airflow in this tiny case and thus the temperatures. Would I benefit (temp wise) in getting a Define S instead?
Also, would it take a lot of work moving over the components or can I leave stuff like the CPU cooler mounted on the motherboard? I've never built a PC before so I'm a bit worried and actually considered selling it off and buying a new pre-built PC...
tl;dr Does a larger case make a big difference in temperature and would it be possible for a beginner to move everything to a new case?
Written from My girlfriends crappy iPad so please forgive spelling/formating errors.
>>17313945
Why not get a bigger case? If you got money to spend like an idiot on a brand new overpriced card then surely you can afford a tower.
>>17313953
Money isn't an issue but as I mentioned I have no experience building PC's which is why I'm hesitant about moving everything to a new case. I bought my current PC via a website that lets you pick parts and pay a fee to have it built and tested by professionals and they actually did a great job with this tiny case.
I chose the Node because I have My PC on My desk and liked the small form factor, but it is a really tight fit with the new GPU and the temps Will probably be rather high due to the limited space.
Hey /adv/.
First time poster, so sorry in advance if I am mistaken in posting here.
For some time now after starting anti-depressants and mood-stabilizers (Lamotrigine and Aripiprazole) I've had this feeling of being "uncomfortable".
I can't find a place for myself. I have to move, or have to do something. I can't sit still, and I feel like I shouldn't be in the place that I currently am.
Typing this is hard, cause I've been sitting in front of my computer for a long time trying to find the right words to type.
TL:DR
>Feel "uncomfortable"
>is it cause of meds?
>is it a previous problem that became greater BECAUSE of meds?
>what do?
Currently about a month on these meds.
Take my advice with a grain of salt.
Depression. Boom.
Literally anything you do you will overcome. I've been like this, still am like this. I just cleaned the kitchen table cause I knew that's what I wanted to do on the inside, but my exterior brain was like nah fuck that, and you just feel worse as you go on, since you didn't do anything. Y'know?
Chillax, listen to some music. The meds might be at fault here, they might not. Eitherway, go talk to your doctor or mum or whatever. Mood stablizers might actually be the culprit here. Make sure you use them right, rather than using them while sitting on your butt doing nothing.
>>17313855
Jason, go to the doctor. If you got the stuff prescribed, there should also a person to answer your questions if something's not working the way it should.
>>17314088
>>17314155
double dubs checked,
thanks you guys.
And for the record, they weren't prescribed.
My mum suffers from depression and bipolar disorder, and she figured she'd give me the same meds she has in lower doses.
I disagreed with her about taking them for years. One day a month ago I felt okay about starting to take them, and it's been nightmarish since then.
I live in a apartment and my old vacuum is dead. What vacuume should I get to replace it?
I have not cleaned in months and i need to clean my floors.
>>17313849
dyson
find one used on craigslist
Just get the cheapest you can get, and count on throwing it away when it wears out.
I've tried 'em all, and they all last about the same amount of time and one does as good a job as another.
In theory they can be repaired, in practice it's so expensive there's no point in it.
>>17313891
Can confirm, this is a good idea
How do I become more interesting? I suck at convo, I can talk for a while but then soon I just can't find anything to say, especially when not many of my interests with the person clash. How do I become a better conversationalist, I hate always having to ask someone what they want to talk about or asking if they have questions they want to ask me.
>>17313845
Find common ground, or have the other person talk about what they're passionate about. Also try to keep up and pay attention or at least pretend you're interested. It will mostly be boring things about them and what they do.
>>17313934
I guess so, I'm just bad at talking for long periods even though I'd love to. I wouldn't want to switch to topics only im interested in
>>17313845
Be interested in the other person - ask questions, make comments, tell anecdotes that are related to what they just said.
Try to find common ground - either something you're interested in, or experiences in your childhood, or your plans for the future, or what you're doing in your daily life.
Be funny - joke around and make the other person laugh.
Learn when the conversation is over.
Don't talk shit about yourself or the other person, never.
Is it normal to not be able to be "just friends" with attractive women. I have an insanely jealous mind and just lose my shit about every single thing.
What can I do about it.
>>17313842
>I have an insanely jealous mind and just lose my shit about every single thing.
I don't know about philosophical matters, but in this particular case it sounds like you have a crush
>>17313856
But it's like this with pretty much every woman I meet, I can't really develop healthy relationships with women because of it
My best friend is hot as shit, definite 9/10, obviously I thought about wanting to bang her but that doesn't stop me from actually being a friend and not letting my primal instinct get in the way of having fun.
As a fun side note, she admitted to having thoughts of sex with me aswel.
Honesty is key, not letting pathetic emotions get in the way is important aswel.
Alright fuckers. I've had this tat going on 22 years. I have finally come to terms that the No Fear brand was a fad. Cover up ideas?
>>17313832
"No Fear Leads To Shitty Tattoos"
"No Fear, Trump Is Here"
"Snow Fears My Bladder"
>>17313840
(just gonna point out that I'm not being serious with these suggestions, but hey nothing like a free bump)
No Fear
Just Regret
![Fingers-In-Pocket[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/zGbNNQm.jpg "Fingers-In-Pocket[1]")
