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Let's say you meet a girl online
And she doesn't live too far away from where you live but it's still not a distance that you can easily travel to (let's say, 300 kilometers)
You two send each other text messages for some time and end up developing a very strong emotional bond that eventually evolves into love
You two want to see each other, and both already know what each other looks like so that is not an impediment
However, you're not used to exiting your house for things other than school or shopping (much less the city)...
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If I were you I would grow up and realise that this is just a fantasy and 'emotional bond' is bullshit in the purest form, also you are prolly being catfished, also it's not worth it, go meet some girls irl. Loving someone you've never met is impossibly naive concept, and a dangerous one too. It's just an infatuation and it will pas and she will ride dicks in no time if she's not already. You are a poor naive bastard for investing time & feels into something as fragile and nonsensical as this
You could try it out. Buddy of mine foung a girl couple of towns away and they seem to be doing well. Worth a shot!
>That American Football cover though
I would arrange to meet her as soon as possible (a week or two at most) and not orbit for months. Then again I'm an adult and can actually travel wherever I want.
My boyfriend has a family friend who is flamboyantly gay. The dude is a hairdresser who blows all his money on clothes, and tosses out his entire wardrobe every few months. Problem is, he's the same size as my bf, so he just gives all my bf these clothes he's throwing out. It's ridiculous. My boyfriend has more outfits than me. I've never seen him wear the same outfit twice. He's got at least 40 pairs of jeans. And it's all expensive, flamboyant stuff. Everyone thinks he's gay.
How do I tell him how excessive this is? It's embarrassing....
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I wish my boyfriend had an issue of dressing too fabulous. He has more clothes than me but they're all shitty budget Wal-mart level clothes.
But, if you think it's a problem you just have to express that to him. However, if he likes how he dresses then that's that. It's his body.
Your complaint is hilariously self centric. You should reread your own post.
> He makes me look bad when he's showing up to events in eccentric outfits and people ask why my boyfriend is more into fashion than I am.
My advice is to grow up.
Had a good laugh, thanks op.
I dont usually ask for any advice especially from a site known for shitposting, but i know alot of you may struggle just as much or even more as a person. Anyways i am in a relationship with a girl been for about 3 years. You know i never had much experience with girls, many were very shitty. This girl is different except i dont know if its good or bad, id like to ask what does love actually feel like to you? Do you ever feel like emotionally numb or bored like you just cant connect with your mate? Its very depressing to be with or without her and sometimes i think maybe im...
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I was going through something similarly messy long time ago, but then I realised that love and all related emotions are just hormones playing with my brain. Now, after some serious rational self-brainwashing, I feel like I can no longer fall in love with anyone, nobody caught my attention in the last 4 years and IT IS GREAT
Ditch the feelings alltogether, they are just your self-produced drugs and build the relationship on friendship, fun and mutual understanding, not horniness and love/addiction, because when you are separated and you don't get your hormonal fix or...
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Can you engage in conversation with her easily?
Is sex on mind somewhat regularly when you are with her, and is there any indication that it may be the same for her?
Honestly it boils down to can you connect to her as a person, not as a "lover"
"lovers" don't exist. If she wouldn't be a friend, you shouldn't be with them. Besides, you already have doubts about this. if you think these doubts are coming from anything other than anxiety, pull out before it gets too deep.
>>17312919
Idk man. I try to kinda connect with her in some levels like hang out and do the things i like but it rarely ever works out. It gets really depressing, i cant really do things that i used to anymore, it costed me some friends. I cant get away because its like a mind game, as in like if i were to not bring her along somewhere she'd be upset and if i bring her with me i'd be upset myself because theres always some type of problem. I dont know how most people handle it but honestly im just too nice to tell...
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I'm drunk and pretty dpressed, so sorry. A month ago I got in a nasty traffic accident and broke my hip, and now I've got a metal one. My boyfrend has been amazing during this, but i'm really starting to feel like a pretty big burden. We live together and I'm always around home, can never go out like i normally would, can barely walkfurther than from the couch to the bathroom without a lot of pain. Im completely unable to perform sexually, exept oral, and we used to have lots. I can barely help out around here, and am pretty much a lump.
At what point...
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>>17311986
>At what point is it just unfair of me to not encourage him get the attention and affection he needs elsewhere, at least until I'm better?
Are you suggesting that you want your bf to cheat on you with another girl?
Guys, what do we call a reverse-cuck?
have you asked if it bothers him?
If you send him away you will lose him. If he didn't want to help you then he wouldn't. He cares about you and if you push him away while he is trying to care for you, it'll make him feel terrible. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Need your help horny anons.
Me and my girlfriend are switches, but I find myself playing the submissive role more often. She's pretty okay with that, and she's an excellent domme.
Over the past few years, our fantasies have grown - even now to encompass cuckolding and a little forced bi.
We've never acted on these fantasies, we just talk about them a lot. Lately we've begun involving a lesbian friend of ours into our fantasies. "I bet she can fuck me better with a strap on than you can with your little dick" etc...
A...
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Stop being a sissy cuck, go to /pol/, and learn how to be a real man instead of a pseudofaggot fuccboi
>>17311982
>asking a website full of NEETs how to succeed in an audition and interviews
>>17311982
Hit me up sometime senpai I'd like to get a piece of that
Rule #1. First impressions are everything. Numerous studies such as this one by Willis, J. & Todorov, A. “show minimal exposure to faces is sufficient for people to form trait impressions, and that additional exposure time can simply boost confidence in these impressions. That is, additional encounters with a person may only serve to justify quick, initial, on-line judgments” (1). When in public always have a warm and welcoming appearance.
http://factoverfallacy.com/blog/5-simple-rules-for-success/
I think I need to follow rule #2 and turn that frown upside down.
Guess I am a loser
This question is mostly to the male part of /adv/, and girls really well versed in male psychology
I (girl) have been friends with a guy for some time now, and there's this thing he does that confuses me a lot. He has a tendency to brag to me about his successes. He doesn't do it obnoxiously but noticeably. When someone compliments him, he shares that with me. When his boss tells him he's good at his job, he shares it with me. And so on and on. I'm trying to determine whether he does that to make jealos, or proud or seeks valodation. I also don't...
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>>17311889
Sounds like he wants Recognition from you, tell him how good he is etc... "oh anon your'e so good" Or he's just stuck up.
>>17311894
This,
or he's trying to impress you because he's interested in you.
>>17311894
>>17311899
>>17311889
Potentially all of those things together. He may be doing it without noticing (because hes interested) or he knows what hes doing and hes just looking for more pats on the back. Do you know if he does it to other people?
Can you fake taking antibiotics? Took minocycline for a week even though the doc said to take it for 3 months. They're running a blood test tomorrow but they're not intentionally looking for anything minoycline related. But, will they find out that I've only taken the antibiotic for a week?
>>17311871
Why do you want to do this?
>>17311871
You wouldn't be the first person that didn't follow that doctors instructions that day. I wouldn't worry about it. You can say "I didn't take them" and it won't matter..
>>17311877
>>17311874
It's just a simple blood test they're running I believe
Who has advice on how I can accept my circumcision?
Ever since I found out about this, and started reading about the details, I've just been perpetually disturbed by it. Either angry at my parents, or fantasizing about getting "justice" where I get murderous vindication by killing the doctor and people responsible for this.
I fantasize about the far future when my parents are helpless and incapable of caring for themselves, and they're innocently relying on their children to take care of them in their moment of insecurity and then I vindictively and intentionally make their lives a living hell, and remind them of what they did to me while taunting them with questions about "how does it feel?" etc.
Is there anyone here from Judiasm, Islam etc... I'm an American. My parents are irreligious. There's not even an acceptable reason why this was done to me. In cultures with common circumcision - how is it accepted? What do Jewish parents tell their sons for the last 500 generations etc.?
I'm obsessing over feeling like I've been victimized and the culprits never received any kind of punishment. Someone should pay for this ...
Not sure what you are trying to accept? Did you get circumcised? Why does it matter so much to you?
Welcome to the wonderful world of societal expectations.
I'm circumcised (parents are Christian, think they did it mostly for social reasons not religious) but I'm not upset about it, nor have I ever been, because I'm never going to know what it's like to live uncircumcised. It's the same kind of feeling I get when I see incredibly rich/talented/successful people, or pass through a neighborhood of fuckhuge expensive beautiful homes that I'll never be able to afford to live in no matter how hard I work in life, bar some miracle. There's...
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>>17311808
Do it. Kill them. You'll feel better, and if it gets on the news that somebody was upset enough over it to kill people it might help start a discussion about ending the practice.
Can some anons help me understand why a guy would stop messaging me but keep snapchatting (usually shirtless)? I'm a loser sheltered girl and don't know if it means he no longer likes me and thus doesn't text me or its just something guys do...help please!
Pic not related
Sounds like he's gotten tired of making small talk and getting to know you and just wants you to send pics/nudes.
From this reaction I would theorize that he doesn't like you for anything except your body.
He wants the D.
>>17311791
But we are good buddies (or so I have assumed) and our friendship was pretty substitantial...and I'm really fugly so I doubt its because he wants nudes :/
>>17311793
I don't have the d, I'm a girl
Why should i not just end it /adv/?
Permanent solution to a temporary problem
Giving up on everything when happiness is well within your reach
I dunno but there's probably no reason
>>17311776
No one can really place a zest for life within you, it's something you've got to decide to pursue. Just whatever you do, don't spend the rest of your life like this.
I was pursuing a path in life for a few years (occupational) but recently have decided it's not ideal. It was a passion but it's turned out to not be quite what I thought. I'm okay with changing paths, though I've been stuck in limbo ever since I've decided not to pursue this one. I'm not even sure my hobbies are the same anymore as it's difficult for me to feel any joy from them recently and it's hard to focus on anything. It's like I have depression but I'm not sad nor do I feel like my future is completely hopeless (though...
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Do what makes you happy
You might become a soldier, kill thousands of people and in the end become a priest, knowing life in a different light
you can always change paths, life is funny, never know what will happen no matter how much planning goes along in your head
>>17311787
I appreciate the response. I'm okay with changing paths, my issue at the moment is that I'm not sure what to do next. Maybe it will clear with time.
>>17311768
Nothing in life is ideal. Nothing. Get used to it and learn to enjoy the ride m8. When you don't know where your going, any road will get you there.
I'm gonna be going to community college since I fucked up in HS, what should I study/do/work on so I can be part of the social elite by my mid 20s
>>17311765
How elite are you talking? 1%? .1%? .01%? Etc?
Best you can hope for is upper middle class, any higher and you basically gotta be born into it.
>>17311765
>social elite
>attended community college
Pick one, and only one.
Be prepared for a lot of black people that only go because they are on financial aid and welfare.
These black people will act like they are still in highschool - throwing things at professors, making lots of noise in class, cutting class entirely (Hey, they aren't paying for it.)
Honestly I suggest going to trade school instead of community college.
Is she cute?
>not getting free footjobs from your sister
you fucked up OP. maybe you can still try and beg her.
>>17311754
If she is on the internet all day, what are the chances she read this post?
>>17311965
lel
Can one do DMT without having their fundamentals of reality shaken up? I want to try it but I don't want to go insane.
>>17311753
Your fundamentals of reality are going to be shaken up, DMT or not.. I say go for it.
>>17311756
Will it turn me into a DUDETHIRDEYELMAO person?
>>17311763
Not if you don't wanna be. Take what you want from it.
