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Military here
Been using dating app (plenty of fish) recently and talking to girl.
Based on how she speaks, she's looking for someone for a deep relationship.
The problem is I leave the country next April
Do I tell her?
Previous dates, it's killed all relationships.
Do I tell her?
>>17312948
A lot can happen between now and April.
Up to you, I wouldn't say anything unless it got serious.
>>17312948
As a young white male that is 20, is plenty of fish for older people only?
>>17312983
I'm not white, but I am 20. I've had no luck on there. Tinder and OKC have been great though.
suit advice needed. For the first time I am finding work and i want to work in an office so I believe I will need a suit. Give me all the advice and tips you got. my plans are as follows: navy suit (I like blue), black shoes, white work shirts.
cheap as hell btw cus Im a broke fatass.
>>17312939
If you're not making 6 figures, don't wear a fucking suit.
If you are, go see a tailor.
Asking a bunch of shut-ins about suits is useless.
Unless you're in Australia, it's hot as hell right now. You can probably get away with just a button-up top, tie, and dress pants.
Just remember, the shirt needs to be lighter than the tie.
>>17312995
Britain but its a pretty hot summer for a fatty like myself so it may be acceptable. I'll try to remember that
>>17312965
It's gonna be an apprenticeship for HR staff hopefully so I think it really is needed
>Going to a girls house with my friend to drink
>It's going to be four of us (2 guys, 2 girls)
>Been speaking to one of the girls over the internet for a couple of months and apparently she kinda likes me
>Can't talk to girls irl without sperging out
>Can barely talk to people I don't know
>Overwhelming anxiety, been having heart palpitations all day
>Don't even want to go but my friend said if I don't go then I'm a huge pussy and he'll never invite me out again
>Don't want to risk losing the only friend I hang out with
>Don't want to sperg out
My mind is fucking racing and I can't sit still, I feel like I'm waiting to be executed
Imagine the worst thing possible happens by sperging out when you go. Is it really that bad?
Besides, NOT going will be 100x worse. If you're really that nervous just drink beforehand.
OP, when I'm stressed I watch this girls music videos. It's quite calming, and sometimes they are motivating.
I thought this one is appropriate for you. It's about opening doors
https://youtu.be/QAD0BtEv6-Q
Hey /adv/, I don't know how fast this board moves so going to post here, stay a while and hope it's still around in about 12 hours when I'm awake again, but there's some pretty heavy shit coming up.
>Been lonely, a bit retarded and down all my life
>Mostly had no friends until 11 (Year 4)
>Teacher introduced me to fellow loner, J
>Cool guy, we stuck together every day for a year and a half
>We made other friends together, they bullied me for next six months
>Start of high school
>J and I cool again
>Other guys went to different schools
>J and I make friends with a few others, have a good group
>Had a good year, started getting into IT
>Year 8 comes around, all going well
>Late in the year find out school is closing, we have to move to another place
>Finish up the year, most of the nerd friends and I going to the same place
>Got pretty close to a girl that year as well, Q, who introduced me to other scene girls with daddy issues who became close
>Christmas Eve that year
>Poorfag, no smartphone and only iPod
>Talking to best friend, L, on Kik who I met elsewhere
>Family wants to go with other family for dinner
>L tells me she needs me, I tell her I'll be a few hours and to hang in there
>Get home after a long night
>Message L
>No reply
>Later found out she killed herself
>Messes me up bad
>14 at the time
>Do shitloads of heroin
>Nearly OD
>End up on medication for depression
>Year 9 rolls around
>At new school, much bigger and see a few old friends
>Fit in okay with nerd friends
>Get robbed at knifepoint and beaten a few times early in the year
>Continues through the year
>End up with severe anxiety
>More medication
>Too scared to be alone in public in most places
>Nerd friend introduces me to cute grill A
>Talk to A regularly, standard stuff
>A introduces me to N and S
>Become very close with N very quickly
>Only person I could get close to after L
>End up on phone in all spare time
>Really love N
>N hooks me up with S who had a huge crush on me
Cont, not pretyped
>>17312937
Oh dear
It's like a sad movie. ;-;
>>17312937
This gets much darker
>Relationship doesn't work out, I'm overly attached and S moves away
>Still very close to N through it all, much more than S
>Things get toxic between us
>Constant crying and insanity every day
>this goes on for over a year
>Constantly drinking and smoking grass
>Develop Schizophrenia
>More medication and therapy
>One day N tells me she wants me dead
>She's trying to get involved with hard drugs
>Tell her it's me or the drugs
>She makes her call
>Destroys me
>End up talking to A more and more after she stops talking to S because of fights
>She becomes my closest friend
>16 at this point
>At a house party
>Watch a girl overdose on heroin and die
>Messes me up a lot
>Go home after interviews
>Never say a word
>A tells me one day she's moving across to the other side of the country
>Puts me in a deeper hole
>School tells me not to return because I constantly have dyed hair/piercings and go to the back of the oval for cigs
>Go to an adult education centre
>Make one friend, R
>End up friendly with other students and a few teachers
>R hates me after the year where I stopped coming in person, never got a reason
>17, start of this year
>Go for orientation for online classes
>Meet two really cool chicks, B and H
>End up dating H three days later but very close to B
>Date H from Feb to April, she dumps me because she figured out she could do better
>Also use A's Facebook to talk to N a day or two after breakup under A's identity
>N says she honestly doesn't care or think about me anymore and thought I'd be the same
>Really messes me up again
>Next night
>See shit in my room, hear things
>Arm myself with a knife
>Text sister and ask her what to do
>Everyone else was sleeping
>Her and brother in law pick me up
>Take me to their house
>Have an insane stutter
>Still have it
>Booked for an MRI, suspected mini stroke
>Days later we all finalise moving on together (Mother, stepfather, older and younger sister (3), brother in law and infant nephew)
>>17312981
Gets far worse
>Find out great grandfather has passed
>Soon after two other family members
>Life seems okay for a bit after that though
>Big house with the family, actually want to live life
>Mid May
>Find out over Facebook that closest cousin died
>She was an amputee and PTSD sufferer
>Saved a lot of lives too, would link a blog but comprises my info
>Her cont of a sister told Facebook before the family
>Nearly enough to push me over the edge, take a day out to get my mind off of things
>Get home
>Hang with family for a bit
>Go to my room for a wank
>Then I hear the screaming
>Mum is unconscious on the deck where we all chill
>Others were inside
>I have to watch infant nephew and younger sister during it all
>Watch my mother die through the window while fighting off panic attacks and keeping sister calm who wanted to go outside
>Nearly pass out several times
>Felt like hours
>Medics give up
>Stay with the body until she's taken
>Get flashbacks all the time
>Moved out of the house, in with my grandparents
>Hadn't even turned 18 yet
>Constantly on 3 hours sleep maximum
>Can't sleep after what I've seen
>Before she died, Mum told me a close friend has cancer
>Not meant to know
>Nobody else knows
>Can't tell anybody
That's the important part of it, but on my 18th birthday I got one of her tattoos. Now I'm over it. I can't stand to live with any of it. It's unfair to off myself and let the few that care suffer, but I want to take any possible chance no matter how small to be with her again and I don't know what to do. Guess part of it was wanting to get it all off my chest...
I drank a bottle of nyquil yesterday with acetaminophen in it. Today, the next day, my tummy still hurts. What can i do to make it feel better.
Kys. Works everytime
>>17312936
Drink a bottle of water, after go to the doctors or the emergency room? Or go to an emergency room?
Do you have a history of using NSAID's?
You're probably fine, drink some milk, settle ol' girl, maybe try and take a poop. Laxatives, yadda yadda if you think you need to. If there's a worrysome amount of blood in the stool, and the pain persists, you might just wanna go to a hospital.
Hey, my girlfriend finally wants sex after 1.5 years. Long story, but basically she just thought she was asexual and I eventually changed that haha.
Alright so I've gotten pretty good at foreplay over all this time because that was all we'd do, but some help on the how to transition to more thing would be nice because we've been stuck here for ages.
We're both girls so I'm mostly talking going down on her. Any tips? I'm just nervous I'm gonna mess up, I figured this would never happen for so long.
>>17312895
>never fuck gf in 1.5 years because "assexual"
>sudently she changed mind
>>17312911
Yeah, well being young and uncomfortable with yourself and having untreated bipolar disorder does a lot to kill sex drive and that was the case until this spring so.
pls help
Where do people have sex with a prostitute?
>>17312881
At mom's house, while mom bring cookies and milk, you bang her. Also mom comment how good you're doing.
>>17312881
Where they can easily dispose of the body afterwards.
In a car if you have one. If not, an isolated alley corner. Or a motel.
Is there a way I can discreetly call someone without them knowing my phone number?
call them from a payphone
I can hide my number in the settings on my phone, but I then appear as "hidden number" so it looks shady as hell
Call from skype.
I need some sort of assurance /adv/.
So I've been dating this woman for about 3 years, & for awhile she had been telling me that she wanted to date and experience a Asian girl. Every time she told me this, i expressed to her that I'd feel like she'd be stepping out of the relationship & betraying me. She would understand at first but later get emotional & guilt me about it. Eventually I allowed it.
At that point we considered our relationship a open one because a true romantic relationship is between two people.
Everybody in our friend group thought it was odd & even some got upset for me. So later on she had developed strong feelings for her, despite that they did not last (she was some sort of mild autism & ocd) & they split. It was apparent that she heartbroken about it for a while but she got over it & we both forgot about it.
So later on we have a emotional fallout & I end up sleeping with another woman. Things lead to another & she hears about it. She confronts me about it but I deny all of it. Inside I feel guilty, yeah I did it behind her back.
But then I think about it.
She WAS the first to step out of the relationship & make it open. She throws this situation in my face every chance she gets, I had sat back & allowed myself to share my lover with someone else just to appease her emotions. Penis or vagina, doesn't matter, she was intimate with another person. But when she hears about me fucking someone else she gets furious.
I understand that what I did was behind her back & she was upfront with me & her wants. But that doesn't change the fact that I was never happy about it.
She tells me that they never had sex but I hear from others that she bragged about doing so.
So I'm here with this question: Am I 100% wrong for having sex with someone else behind her back when she technically stepped out of the relationship & did such first?
Bump
Please anyone
Yes, you are in the wrong. What she did was with your permission. Even if you truly didn't want to allow her to sleep with another person you still told her it was okay.
Look, the relationship is finished. Just end it so both of you can move on. She's an immature bitch for pressuring you into making the relationship open. Both of you are guilty for the downfall of the relationship. There's no trust or communication in this relationship so it's time to move on.
>>17313030
All of this.
I want to work in a field that requires working together in a group to get better ideas. Is there anything in computer science or Network Managing? I don't like spending my time on the computer unless I have to.
> computer science
>I don't like spending my time on the computer
dude what
>>17312863
I can maybe do 5 hours a day, but I want to be moving around and doing things. I'm OK with working on a computer, but I need social interaction throughout the day.
>>17312868
You can be a business/product manager at any number of tech companies.
>GF said she likes me
>But her best friend is her crush, and she would be her gf anytime he wanted.
>Talked with her about it, first denied it.
>I asked her (politely) to not play with me, since i'm looking for a serious, no-shit relationship
It seems that I'm the one to blame because "it's different" and he's the "love that never worked".
I didn't called her whore, never offended her, just told her to please stop playing with me and lying, since I feel deep love for her, if she doesn't feel the same way it's ok, but we shouldn't be wasting time.
She said that she wouldn't do that again, but now, she asked something about her gay friend, since they joke about "getting married" and thay they "deeply love each other" she told me if I was OK with that. Also
>I'm asking since you got angry for my best friend thing.
Am I being jealous or is it something I should work on? For me, it was a pretty disrespectful thing to do.
You are putting way too much blame on yourself. You had every reason to be mad/concerned/(jealous? I don't know another way to put it, not exactly in that tone of the word...) Honestly think about it. Whats the point in joking about being deeply in love with each-other? There's no punchline. There is truth behind that joke. Personally, I would pull out, but this is your situation. I have no idea whats going on, but seriously, thing of the situation objectively. Jokes without punchlines aren't jokes. And again, she basically already admitted you wouldn't be the ideal boyfriend. But again, I don't know both of your ideals on relationships, so think carefully.
>>17312857
It's a good thing people like you get jealous, otherwise you'd just be another cuck.
Dump her, fuck her gay friend, dump him too and move on.
>>17312890
Not madly jealous. More like dissapointed. One of my biggest weak points is that I trust very much in a relationship. All the time I trusted her and never thought about it, now that happened and I hate being worried about it. I don't think I should fight for a place or to be "the one she really loves". I wil start moving on, more than a year with her, is going to be hard
How can I find out if a girl has a boyfriend or not? She also happens to be my superior... But on the bright side she has shown me a lot of signs of interest
>>17312806
That's the fastest fucking way to destroy your livelihood. Search on Facebook.
Or, do this "Hey, I saw you at the movies last weekend with your boyfriend, what did you guys watch?"
She will respond two ways, "I don't have a boyfriend" or "We didn't go to the movies last weekend."
Machiavelli, Art of War, read it.
>>17312818
Unless she actually did go to the movies with her boyfriend.
Also chances are you just think she's interested, when she isn't.
Also don't fucking fuck your fucking superior, that shit will blow up like a Muzzie at a Bar Mitzvah.
>>17312839
Well she is really attractive and dtf if I am not completely mistaken. I also don't care that much about my job
Hi /adv/
I'm a 20 yo guy, who's a medstudent. I always learnt very well, was first in my class in high school and college, however I invested way too much time into studying, and it was very detrimental for my social life. So I recognized at 20 that I'm a complete social retard.
I can't hold a conversation with anyone, I always find people boring, I can't really do anything with subjective opinions. I got used to dealing with facts and strong evidence that I just subconsciously find anything that's not backed up by strong evidence or facts as boring. Almost every conversation I have with anyone ends with I just getting bored of others when if I objectively try to judge myself I'm sure I'm the boring one. I just don't know how to get to know people and enjoy myself without either getting really bored, or hurting others by trying to correct them.
It's even worse with women to whom I can't relate at all. There was a girl who was always nice to me, wanted to meet me, we just talked about things, then it got boring for me, and I just left. Last week her girlfriend told me she was all over me, and she was really hurt when I was really cold to her and dismissive. It wasn't the first time a girl has fallen for me and I didn't even recognize it. Feels like shit.
How to cure social obliviousness and retardedness?
>>17312762
Dude, you're a 20-year-old med student. It could be astronomically worse.
Hang in there. When it's all said and done, you will only have to show face at events/bars/whatevz and when someone asks "What do you do?" and you say "I'm a Doctor," you've instantly hit the top of the food chain.
>>17312762
>How to cure social obliviousness and retardedness?
It'll cure itself in your profession.
>>17312877
>It could be astronomically worse.
No doubt about that. Having no friends and generally being cringey is awful though.
>you've instantly hit the top of the food chain.
That only means people want to exploit me. It doesn't make me actually likeable as a person.
>>17312878
I doubt it. I'm ok with test tubes and patients if they actually have some problem I can solve, but I'm awfully retarded to people.
as a child i'd ask myself why does everyone around me act like animals
then i learned we are nothing more but worse than animals cancer cells that need to be eradicated before we destroy earth and the universe
if you could press the nuke button, would you?
i would
Don't worry, OP. Someday, you won't be 16 anymore and you'll grow out of your edgelord phase
Maybe, but not for that reason. Personally I feel that reproduction in general is immoral since no one ever consented to be born.
Regardless, all life on earth will go extinct in 400 million years when the sun's increasing luminosity causes runaway evaporation of all water. And then some time much later the universe itself will die.
>>17312754
sure, check pol
also im way past that, behind 7 ideologies
My gf is just over two weeks late for her period and I'm getting a little concerned. She's usually pretty irregular anyway, typically by a few days or a week but I don't really remember two weeks elapsing before. Should I be worried? Should I go buy one of those home test kits?
Yes.
Buy a test. Then you can be worried.
>>17312726
Yes I should be worried or yes get the test and then worry?
>>17312730
Get the test. Good luck
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