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Someone help me, I am quite fucking lost in this school project of mine, it's a science fair. I had everything done until the teacher said "your project is shit, you need to have physical proof" while I was like "oh". Basically my project consisted in aereodynamics used in WW2 for naval artillery. So, atm I ask my self, where the fuck do I get a huge ship to shoot at something???
TL;DR having problems with my science fair project since mine was rejected for not having 'physical proof', i need a fast and simple topic, I only have one...
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Must be underage b&
Make a couple artillery shell shapes out of cardboard and chuck them around or something.
>>17310058
Scale models and proportional weights dingus
What are some reasonable ways to personally deal with rejection when job searching? I've been going through the application and interview process for a good few months now and every time I end up falling short, most recently being the guy just one out from the position.
I know that wrapping things up on a good note with the company in question and just digging into more potential applications is my only real choice here, but for lack of a better way to put it, I'm starting to feel really demoralized.
>>17310039
welcome to the job market for the perfectly average applicant.
>>17310051
Oh, I absolutely understand that. It wasn't like I wasn't expecting rejection through this whole process or for it to last as long as it has, but I'm still finding it a bit harder to keep going as the rejections start to stack up.
I just need suggestions on healthy ways to keep myself motivated and active in this rather than letting it get to me.
>>17310051
Yeah, if someone isn't approaching you directly about a job then expect a lot of rejection or silence until you finally make a cut.
I'm fucking convinced that at the age of 5 my mom forced me to get glasses to deliberately fuck my social life up? How the fuck do I even deal with this shot? I have tons of evidence that she's been working against me my entire fucking life under the guise of 'strong mother'. I'm serious doing physical damge to her to this point. I'm 28.
>>17309980
seriously considering*
>>17309980
Give us your evidence because you sound paranoid af right now
>>17309980
>complete failure
>28
wew lad. the denial phase and anger phase should have been years ago.
I can't have a conflict without everyone thinking I am an arsehole.
It's either I take shit from people or I stick up for myself and have everyone think I am a massive dick head.
Why?
>>17309945
That's normally the nature of conflict, two sides of a story means your gonna look like dick no matter what, all you can really do is avoid it
>>17309945
do you actively seek out conflict? are you prone to escalating issues?
if everyone is calling you an asshole then there's probably a reason for it. conflicts have sides and people align themselves to a side if they're in the audience, if no one is ever on your side then maybe you're just retarded.
the good ol'e "if it smells like shit everywhere you go then it's time to check your shoes" may apply here.
>>17309948
What I mean is that every time I have a conflict a large group of people think I am the arsehole and never take my side...
For example I just had a fight with someone because I was up at 1:30 am, and saw someone else online and said to them "go to bed, does your mum know you are up this late"
Clearly a joke, but they took it seriously...
Now if this conflict goes on longer, and I stick up for myself people are going to think I am the arsehole...
and I don't know how long...
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There are so many depressed people here so lets play and laugh about ourselves.
I'll start.
My life sucks worst because i lost my hearing due to a failed suicide attempt.
>>17309938
Your life sucks more because you don't understand grammar
>>17309938
>My life sucks worst because i lost my hearing due to a failed suicide attempt.
Explain. What did you do?
My life sucks because I live with my parents at 21.
Is there a way to prevent people from accessing your e-mail, FB, on-line accounts and such after you die?
Is there a way to ensure they can't get access to them even if they have a death certificate and are related to you?
>>17309930
make your passwords less retarded?
these companies don't just hand over your account cause you died.
>>17309930
This seems like an unnecessarily paranoid line of thinking. I don't think this is a thing.
>>17309930
why would you even care? you're dead, none of it matters anymore.
I am about to break down. I told myself not to text her because she friend zoned me sort of(said she was ready to see anyone).
I have never had a girlfriend abd this girl is the first girl I asked out ever when I was 19. I am 25 now.. So you can see I have been hooked on her.
I just can't let go. I know I will never find another girl like her again. No Woman besides her has liked me back before.
I need help! I told myself to leave her be. She never texts me first anyway. But my world grows darker if I can't talk to her.
This is generally considered bad advice but when you have a crush on one person you can usually drop the crush on that specific person by conciously getting a crush on someone else. It's not a real solution because you'll still have a crush.
Anyway you said this girl liked you back at least at some point so good luck!
I'm going through something similar and yah it's super shitty.
>>17309909
Yeah the girl I was after told me she was in a relationship but they broke up like 2 months ago. I didn't even know. She was very secretive about it.
Now I am scared because I don't want to pressure but I am worried because now I feel like that dude had something I didn't because he was able to get the relationship with her.
>>17309904
The fastest way to stop a crush is to ask her out and have her decline.
Hi /adv/. So I'm thinking about killing myself. I don't see a real point in living if I'm just going to get hurt again and again. Love is worthless, families are pointless, everyone is just a self serving zombie who has no empathy it seems. Please, I need reasons to live. I'm honestly thinking about going downtown and renting a handgun. Why does life make you happy?
Dude you'll never be able to enjoy a sandwich or a cup of coffee again if you kill yourself.
>>17309897
Go talk to someone and get help. The world's not hopeless, you're just surrounded by people who aren't helping you, whether it's because they don't want to or they can't.
Call the suicide hotline and make sure you get counseling/therapy. You might have a hormonal issue that's preventing you from seeing the positives, medication can help with that.
And get a hot meal. You sound depressed as shit, depressed people don't eat. You'll feel better when you eat. Make sure it's got protein, carbs, and vegetables.
>>17309903
I have little interest in food. My fiancé has been lying straight to my face about cheating on me... I just found out. He is my only and best friend. I can't do this anymore without him. I wish I was just being dramatic, I haven't slept in two days.
I'm 18 and i have a boyfriend that i spoil to pieces. I buy him anything he wants, give him random gifts, take him shopping, pay for all out dates. He's veeeery appreciative but get irritated sometimes at the fact that i won't let him pay for anything ever. Same with my friends. Whenever we go out i HAVE to pay for myself, no matter if somebody else offers to treat. I think it's a habit i've had all my life. I never let anyone do even the simplest things for me because i don't want to be anybody's burden or for anybody to be able to throw anything...
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>>17309864
>>or for anyone to throw it back in my face
Do you do this to other people as well? As in, you'll say "yeah? Well what about all those things i did..."
Personally i think you are mistaken. Its not that you are "too independent" (which honestly is just a humble-brag), it's that you don't trust people, are afraid of being vulnerable, and that you don't want to be burdened by other people's social expectations or contracts
>>17309882
I never throw things back in people's face because i find it childish and rude and absolutely hate when people do it to me.
That's what everybody calls it, being "independent" so i assumed that's what it is. But you might be right... I have no clue how to overcome it though. It makes me SO uncomfortable when people do things for me
>>17309917
Not that guy but honestly it's fine to treat your boyfriend so don't think that's a bad thing, however I agree with him, take small steps to let people treat you, maybe ask a friend to buy you a drink next time your out? And see how it goes , good luck
So, recently my wife started a new job, maybe two months ago. In the past two weeks she's been sneaking around, hiding text messages, hanging out with this dude. I called her out almost immediately, and sure nuff, she couldn't say shit because she'd been hanging around with some dude. Since I know her very well, I could see right through all the stupid shit she's saying. I told her I'm the fuck out, packing my shit and hitting the trail. Question is:
What's some alpha ass shit I can do to make her regret her decision?
Do women prefer...
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>don't want revenge
>i just want to bang her best friend or mother
OP, you are extremely angry, and rightfully so. But maybe you should let it go, and just walk away? I mean, what's the use in causing all sorts of drama, that you will inevitably end up having to deal with? Why not make this divorce as smooth as possible?
What about the finances? How does that work since she cheated on you? Do you keep everything? That would be the BEST revenge, I guarantee it.
>>17309861
Most women don't care if you've been married. Once you get to your mid twenties everyone has a marriage under their belt anyway.
>>17309872
I really don't want revenge. I could absolutely fuck her over though, I haven't had a job (on paper) for about 3 years. Almost the whole time we've been together. I work, and make money, but legally she's been taking care of me, which entitles me to alimony. This state takes that very serious too, which means I could easily get it. But I don't even want her money, I want her to get two months down the road and regret this whole decision, and then I'll come back every once in a while...
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This might be so simple it seems stupid but still, I need help.
How do I move on from people? How do I convince myself that there's "fish in the sea?"
Everytime I attach to someone, I see them as the be all, end all of my life. It's almost parasitic in nature, I suppose, and it's harmful to me. I get incredibly depressed over the smallest things about them, and the twisted part is that I don't even think I want to be with them.
My head is in such a whirl, I don't know what to do.
>>17309853
Question. Are you a virgo?
>>17309869
You mean the star sign?
>>17309877
Yes
I've got a phone interview type this coming up and I don't know if I should call them or they call me?
The last phone interview I had they called me, but this time she's saying "please call me a ##########"
Aren't employers supposed to be the one to call? Would it seem rude to call her first at 3:00?
Just nervous about the interview.
You need to call them, as that employer specified. It can work both ways, i've had ones where i dialed into a conference, and others where i have my thumb up my ass until they make the call. Just follow instructions, and you'll be fine.
As far as nervousness goes, i like to take a walk, be in motion while i phone interview. Treat it like a normal conversation, and smile; they may not see it, but they will hear it.
>>17309840
Don't be nervous if you have a stsrting date. It means they are deciding on you and just want to make sure you're not an autist or something.
>>17309868
>>17309900
Alright.
Is it ok to ask during the interview what I should wear my first day/what the dress code is like?
I'm going into a manufacturing/automation job, but I don't know where they'll put me on the first day.
I can't tell if a girl is playing games, or I'm being a beta. She comes over often, likes to rip the bong and play board games with me. So im like ok, she is dtf.
So she goes, "oh my back hurts"
And i say "you want a backrub?" She says , no thanks. So later on, shes kinda laying there on my.bed like shes waiting for me to make a move, but then when i kinda lock eyes with her she goes ok, im gonna go. Whats the deal? Am i supposed to leap on her? Everytime we hang it usually ends in a hug, so i know there is something there. Ive asked her...
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Can't you just be her friend man ? Rather than tolerating her cause you might have her in your arms ?
You should either get to know her better and understand why she's with you at all or just be her friend
She likes me the same everyone does. Im funny, impulsive and weird. We have some laughs, and such. I just don't understand if im supposed to take her under my wing, or if shes the one to tell me when
>>17309816
poor girl just wants a mate
Hey guys, I'm depressed and I figure rather than feeling sorry about it, I might come here and ask for some solutions for this depression.
Luckily for me, it's not about a girl, but it's still about being lonely. I'm not quite single, but I still feel like I don't have any friends. I just got back from college, and am facing a year here again with my parents and have very little to no money. I'm in the process of getting a job, but I don't expect much social life from it as I'm looking to work a toll booth/security rather than...
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Bumperino
>>17309740
don't have an answer but virtual support for you, OP. you can post your kik and have lots of online friends. it's something
>>17309763
Thanks man. I should probably think about reactivating my kik now that I'm back home that's a good idea actually
Been texting my girlfriend about some random shit (ceramics or sometime), and then out of nowhere in the middle of the conversation she texts "I can't wait to feel your mouth tonight", I'm not seeing her tonight. Her explanation also seems convoluted, am I crazy or am I getting cucked?
>posting the exact same thread over and over
Why do you do this?
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Time to have an intervention. Suit up to dump the girl
>>17309744
I posted yesterday because I never got a decent response.
