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I feel like I was forced into something and I'm not all that happy about it.
My friends and I do a big trip every 4th of July to a beach condo owned by my friend. It's a great time, actually my favorite place in the world, but my uncle recently killed himself and I've been having a hard time dealing with it. Last night I expressed that I was probably going to back out because I need to just get my life back in order and get some rest.
Our friend, who owns the condo, let me know that if I canceled, she was going to cancel the trip for everyone.
I didn't want to be the person who ruined everyone's time, so now I'm going, bit I feel like my hand was forced. What do I do about this?
I would say to go. If it turns out to be too much then just leave.
>>17308334
Your "friend" is a dick for forcing an ultimatum on you.
However, maybe some relaxation is what you need? Life does go on. The longer you dwell on it, the bigger of a deal it becomes.
Side note: tell your friend I said to go fuck herself in the ass with a pinecone. Then take a picture and send it to me. For science.
>>17308334
Sounds like a dick move, did you try reasoning with your friend at all about this?
like a "Really dude? you're gonna ruin everyones time because I don't feel like going because my uncle just offed himself, you cunt."
Cause you should, and if then your friend still doesn't budge, at least you know your friend is a huge dick and didn't just not realize what they were asking of you.
>last year
>start dating a girl
>turns out she has commitment issues and her self-esteem isn't the best
>ends up dating another guy
>decide to stop seeing her
>she stops seeing him and tries to date me again
>give her a chance
>things get serious
>she ends up seeing the other guy again
>end it again
>date another girl
>guess who's messaging me
I know this girl isn't doing this to spite me and I'm sure she genuinely likes me. She has her own issues that she deals with in her own way. To be honest, I might still have feelings for her. Not defending her though, I'm not obligated to help her with her problems especially when she's hurt me so much. Things are going well with this other girl too. I'm just confused, /adv/. Like I'm tired of dating at this point but at the same time I don't wanna lose something good if it might be there. Should I just take a break from dating in general?
>>17308322
>>17308322
>give her a chance
you done fucked up now
>>17308322
Never stick your dick in crazy.
>>17308322
I mean if you are considering this much you should stop dating and waste other people's valuable time where they could be using somewhere else.
I'm 33 and my wife of four years just left me.
I remember when I was about 26, everyone was using okcupid and plenty of fish to get laid.
Nowadays, I have heard of apps like Tinder. Not sure what everyone's using these days. Do people still use okc?
halp
>>17308321
how are the two of those buttons incompatible?
OKC's still fine, especially for your 30s. Tinder is more a 20s thing, but you'll find a bunch of people on there.
>>17308363
>raise the price of something 150%
>expect people to buy more of it
Hey, guys.
I wanna get good at sex. I'm not really good at making girls want to fuck me, but I got a girlfriend recently.
She's probably gonna leave me soon cause I can't provide quality sex. But I want to get as good as possible before she's gone, so the next ones don't leave so early, and, if I can, make her stay.
So, I'll try to fuck her as much as possible, but it wont be enough. The lack of experience is too big and I want it to shrink as fast as possible.
I'd appreciate any tips, guides, videos, tutorials, whatever. Anything that will help me fuck the brains out of the girl I love so she wont cheat on me on a heartbeat with the next big dicked guy in line.
Stick it in her pooper.
Don't ask this, everyone's genitals and brains are different and weird. We don't even know how to fix this with eugenics. Just find what works
>>17308280
Communication.
Virgin reporting
How do I transition from being a nonfunctioning alcoholic to a master of kung fu?
>>17308244
Love Lain.
>>17308266
Let me love you. I'm not weird.
>>17308244
Go from dojo to dojo and say that.Until one master will teach you discipline.
Hey /adv/, so I really fucked up. Last July I received a text from my stepsister asking if I would come over and bring a bottle. I knew from the get go that it was a terrible idea, however she is hot as hell and I wanted her way before our parents ever got married. So I come over with a cheap bottle of vodka, one thing leads to another and before I know it I'm carrying her back to the bedroom. 3 weeks later we find out she is pregnant, and I'm definitely the father.
Cont......
>>17308238
Well, at least coat hangers are cheap.
Have your tried turning it off, and then turning it on again?
>>17308238
Keep the kid if you're ready or consider abortion. Your family situation is irrelevant, you're not actually related.
>WARNING: bad english ahead
Guys, this is bad. I'm gay and I live in a town with not a lot of gay people. I'm in my third year of college and I met a guy. For the first 2 years we became friends and chat mostly in campus. He never said that he's straight (nor he denied it) but I get this feeling that he's in the closet (actually I spotted 2 guys in my classes a couple months after I started and they came out recently). This year I found out that I have fellings for him (like REALLY WANT to spend more time with him) but the problems are:
>he lives an hour away from my city and travels everyday only to go to class (rarely stays more time than that, so we don't chill much in bars or places like that)
>and I don't know if he's gay, but I want to keep being friends with him if he's not, but too afraid to make a BIG move (already did somethings but doesn't seem to reciprocate)
I'm loosing it, like matching zodiac signs and shit, what should I do? If you think that I should stop, how do I do it? It tears me apart inside not knowing if he's gay or not, but I also feel horrible that I'm kinda a creep for doing this things.
Become a trap
>>17308226
Never. Hoping for him to be at least bisexual
>>17308232
Does he know you're gay?
So, there's this girl I like. I'm 20 now and we met in history class when we were 15, and I couldn't stand her. She was loud, obnoxious, and just plain annoying. But, as time went on, we spent more time together with mutual friends and became good friends and she became far less annoying. We would sit together at lunch and talk and we had our own little group in art class. In eleventh grade, she made badges for all whole group for Single Awareness Day (Valentine's Day) and seemed a little bummed when I told her I had just gotten a girlfriend over the weekend, but not being into her and having a friend that was I didn't really pay much notice at the time. I practically ignored her in that regard, honestly. That Summer, I was Single again and finally asked her out, though she didn't realize it was a date. We went to the movies, both of parents driving us separately because we're geeks, but it was nice. That fall I asked her out to homecoming, again she didn't realize it was a date, but when I was front with her she didn't seem to mind that it was. Her parents didn't want her to be driven by a stranger and I was carpooling with some of my friends, so we met there, talked about Disney all night, and that was it. For Prom she went to the movies with her friends, and I was invited, but I went to Prom instead. We still talked and hung out, though it lessened a bit after graduation, but nothing ever really happened. This past February we got in touch and I asked her out to a movie on Valentines Day, again she didn't realize it was a date and invited her sister, who brought her friends (one who happened to be my best friend). My friend promised to talk to the Sister and find out whats up, but all she could get was 'The girl is new to dating, and the concept scares her.' It's been about 4 months since then, and we've talked once or twice, but I asked her out to the movies again this weekend. Advice on how to make this work with this really shy girl?
>>17308202
First of all, learn to fucking greentext you summer faggot.
Secondly, "she is new to dating blah blah shy" is just a pussy ass excuse. Girls don't work like that. Initially they may be shy but if you have known her for as long as you did then there is another reason. Some girls like to think they can manipulate people easily when really they're shit at it. That is a bad sign if she thinks she can make her problems go away by lying, speaking from experience with the whole shy girl thing.
Here is an idea: talk directly to her and don't beat around the bush, or else you won't get to even see her bush, kapeesh?
>>17308239
So, when I'm taking her home from the movies just be like
>'Hey, I really like you and I meant this as a date. Hopefully you feel the same way, and we can start dating. And if not, we should still hang out more because you're cool.'
That just seems to awkwardly forward, but I don't think my actions could be any more obvious. Though, the girl is as oblivious as she is awkward.. In a cute way though...
>>17308263
This isn't some jappy cartoon numbnuts. Literally, just talk to her. Who cares if it is awkward. Setup a casual hangout, tell her how you feel in a non-creepy way, ask her if she feels anything similar.
I am going to take my Divers Permit test. I failed the first time and I want to pass. Any tips?
Don't do what you did last time that made you fail
>>17308194
I studied my ass off last time.
>>17308206
what part did you fail
what is the best antivirus/firewall software? free or otherwise.
your brain
Probably Avast.
>>17308184
i'm a computer
Tell me about crisis hotlines.
I'm in over my head and I've been randomly sobbing and hyperventilating.
> how could they even help me?
> are they normies?
> who do you recommend?
> inb4 the suicide hotline in the header, I don't trust them
maybe try to not speak in memes idiot.
> doesn't understand what I'm asking because I said normies
you're trying too be counter culture
I here you I need help too, I want to commit suicide, last time I called they treated me like I was an idiot
Girl I had a huge crush on just went back home with this guy who is always sleeping with different women. Fuck it feels like my chest is going to explode =/.... good thing though now I lost all my anxiety and fears. Throwing my fucking PC out tomorrow and going to leave home. None of this shit is worth it.
Lmfao. What are you 12?
Fuck me thats a funny post.
Btw this is /adv/. You didnt ask anything.
Reported for underageb& I hate summer.
Guys what do I do?
I told her my penis was small.
Hey, Advice.
I have been working as a pizza delivery person for the past couple of months.
The checks I got every two weeks used to be between $400 and $500. But now, I am still working the same amount of hours and days, but my past two paychecks have been like $300 or so.
On the checks for the past two weeks it has had a section for "Tips- Cash". I think they are taxing my cash tips now, but holy shit, are they really taxing me almost $200 for my cash tips or what? Can someone explain to me why I am making less money?
Check your paystub?
Do the math?
How do they know the amount of cash tips you get?
this depends on your state and the laws about tipped employees
How do I stop over thinking/over analyzing shit? I literally over think everything, even simple shit like if I am short a dollar and my friend lends me it, I'll sit there thinking about it for the next 2 hours. Or if I shook hands with someone and my hand was sweaty, I'll fucking literally obsess over it for a while. Another example: If I meet someone new and I introduce myself, I'll fucking obsess about it worrying if I sounded retarded or awkward. It's fucking ridiculous as this point. I realize it's all trivial bull shit that no one should even think about twice, but idk what to do about it at this point.
pic not related
Dude are you me?
Bump because I have the same issues.
>>17308153
I was this way for a while. You probably have anxiety. See a doctor and ask about counseling and meds. Otherwise try meditation once or twice a day and see if that helps at all.
I'd research mindfulness, there are some good guided meditation apps for it. It's not eastern crap it's about alert meditation and training your minds thought patterns. Rest is up to you and hard work.
So i am in a very confusing situation.
I have grown up a god fearing well mannered young man. Iv had numerous girlfriends and FWBs have played tons of team sports and my hobbys consists of motorcycling and hunting. With the occasional video games.
Iv served 4 years in the Navy and am now using my GI bill to further my education.
My whole life has been considered pretty normal,until recently.
I just turned 24 And for some fucking odd reason im starting to slowly become attracted to Femboys/cuteboys and traps. I have no idea what the fuck triggered this, but its gotten to the point where i have no intrest in my current girlfriend. Im considering breaking up with her. Im slowly losing interest in my old hobbys and its fucking scary, why just the other day i couldnt get this blonde twink that i saw in the dry cleaners out of my fucking head.
If my family finds out the shit i have been attracted to. I would be a pariah. Disowned and never talked to again. I try fighting it. But its just getting stronger.
I am seriously considering getting on my bike running away, go on a trip to god knows where and become some sort of nomad in the woods for a bit.
What the hell should i do guys? Please help!
Dude, your bi curious or maybe juat even fucking curious... i say find a nice fag and make out a bit, see where that leads .. if you like it then persue it.
1 TIP from a fellow faggot (not gay but i am a user of 4chin....) dont worry about how the world sees you and your actions. Your only concern and goal in life should be to be happy and content within yourself. Thats it. If you can acheive that your doing better then 99% of the world.
Fuck your family if they hate gays. Its 2016 not 1970's.... homophobia and racism shouldnt wven be a fucking thing any more. The onky reason it is is because it gets passed down to younger generations. (You being a prime example). Also, all religion is baseless and flawed. SOME of the ideals are worth noteing but nit much if them (be kind to others etc). You have a chance to have a great life dude, your trained, young, disciplined and ambitious. Dont throw all that away because you were raised by religious bigots.
GL annon.
Were you interested in her beforehand? Are you sure your lack of interest in her is because of these feelings, or could it be for some other reason?
>>17308166
Thanks man, im just hoping this is just a weird phase. Id hate to see my family torn apart over this. Specialy after all the hard work iv put to make em proud.
And if it turns out to just be a fling,is it worth it? I also feel like if i do go through with this ill regret it right then and there.
>>17308172
To be honest i was mostly interested in her looks, we shared some interests but at this point i no longer feel much attraction to the opposite sex.
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