Personally, I have never had any good experiences with someone who was good friends with their ex/first love. Out of the 3 relationships I had like that, I was dumped at the first sign that the ex was available. At first I thought my jealousy drove the first one away, so I tried better with the second and third. Same thing every time.

To me, it's a pointless thing to stay friends not because it never worked out in the first place, but it hurts the next person you try to get with. I think you're well within your rights to be jealous, especially since it was a...
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With a relationship that long, they know everything there is to know about each other. That combined with the fact that they're still friends means they had good reasons to end the romantic relationship. That said, who can say whether or not they'll change their minds down the line? I personally wouldn't be comfortable with it.

>>17308736
>I personally wouldn't be comfortable with it.
Very few people would be.

>>17308722
>Should I be feeling jealous?
Absolutely.

Look, this might be all on the level, there's no way to tell, but their SO being in regular contact with your ex is not something most people would be okay with. Most people would feel jealous in your situation. Many people would refuse to put up with it outright. Him trying to make you feel bad for having a completely normal reaction is a red flag and isn't acceptable behavior even if there's nothing shady going on here.

Them traveling together (!) is about as far across the line as you can possibly go. Some exceptionally secure, trusting, generous people might put up with it, but they're not common, and you shouldn't feel bad at all for not being that kind of person.

>>17308718

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
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Have you thought about joining a comune or something similar? Since your problems seem to stem from economics...

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OP, you only get one life, don't waste it like a retard. Everyone goes through bad times, just suck up your pride and ask your parents for some help, they love you and I'd imagine it would be absolutely agonizing for them to never find out what happened to their child. We love you fagit, don't hurt yourself.

I've been job hunting for a month since I caught wind I was going to be terminated and not having been able to get hired yet has been a blow to my confidence.
I'd like not to fuck this up too.

I've done my research, I've got a resume written up that I feel fits these places, but I'd like to hear some advice about this from other people first.

Final bump.

>>17308694
(contd)

the last time she tried was roughly three months ago. i don't pursue it anymore. i don't ask about it. when she tries i still communicate what i like and etc but it doesn't change. she just does the same thing she has been doing since the first time she tried. i'm convinced that she has no desire whatsoever to work on this and it's not like i can press her to considering her past.

oral sex was always fun and intimate in previous relationships. i've always enjoyed (and still enjoy) making someone feel good during sex and getting them off.

i think i miss the intimacy and selflessness of it. it feels like there are things and places that are off limits. i feel like she's disgusted at the idea of having me in her mouth.

i feel like she isn't willing to be uncomfortable or to work on difficult endeavors. that's troubling considering she talks about wanting a family and kids and shit, as if that's going to be easy.

>>17308694

It might sound like an advice you might not want to hear, but fooling around itself, sexual pleasure is something that should not be done in stressful and pressured way. She is just making up excuses (or the way I see it from the post), but if she has traumatising past about sexually abusive ex, just slowly let her overcome. It is not something that will go away quickly.

Things you could try is if you don't pressure her for a while or not bringing it up about oral, she might do it for you, I am...
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>>17308694
>i should preface that my gf has dealt with a sexually abusive bf in her past.

Why do you guys keep dating girls like this.

She is trying to fuck you over. She wants a risk free solo experience with a girl, if it's good she leaves, if it's bad she pins it on you.
I can't offer you real advice, just be careful, try to communicate with your friend.

Just level with your best friend and see how it works out.

>>17308692
You just wanted to fuck two chicks and now you're having a fit because you arent getting your threesome. Boohoo.

Your gf wanted a female experience, not to let you fuck your ex-friend who you ramped up to being your bff in mid-greentext for some reason. Lesbian experience means girls only, friend.

>>17308686

Assuming that you are male from the picture, ask her what she is into. Everyone finds pleasures in different ways, some girls like their hair getting pulled off, 69 position exists for reasons, and depending on position you could play with her breasts etc.

However, before you try something out just ask her, every girl likes it different way.

>>17308697
I intentionally omitted my gender, but I'm female, with a male partner. I am really don't care for penetrative sex, so for my benefit my partner will often go down on me.

Usually it's straight on, so I'll be sitting or laying, and his body would be around my legs.

>>17308737
I like girls playing with my hair while I go down on them. Sexy and gives my better feedback if I'm doing it right.

>>17308685
You do realize this is everyone's life? You are literally bitching about things everyone else bitches about.

What makes you think you're so special? That you deserve some extravagant life to be dropped into your lap?

Newsflash kiddo: you're still young. And life has more ways to fuck you in the ass than you can count.

If dreams can't come true, why not pretend?

>>17308890
Hey man. The plans simple. You just got to be a Isolationist like me who just talks to himself all the fucking time. You got yourself friends on the mind, all the time. And as >>17308914 said. Just Pretend everything's fine, and you got that special someone on your shoulders and a buddy to spot you. And if you keep telling yourself It's gonna be fine. It'll end up being fine.
>Source: Someone who has suffered from loneliness...
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>>17308914
Not saying I 'm special, but don't tell me everyone has those problems.
Almost everyone has relationships, people to count on, jobs, and so on. Not everyone is spending months in his dark room on his computer or on a sheet of paper.
I' m young, yes, that's who it shouldn't be like that.

>>17308922
I couldn't bear it, I try to keep telling myself I can do it, but I can't get past the "how" part.

>>17308672
You're gonna crash and burn living like that, my kid.

I sleep 4 when I'm working or 6-7 otherwise. Some nights I just don't sleep and go for a walk. It feels totally natural to me.

The amount of sleep you need varies from person to person. 4 hours is on the extreme low end though. Maybe try to get more and see if you notice any differences. Also, for what it's worth, you should try to wake up after a discrete amount of REM cycles (90 minutes for most people), which means 4.5 hours, 6 hours, 7.5 hours, etc.

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Go back home. The problems with your life are local to the space you occupy brother, but it's am easy mistake to make.

Swallow your pride and ask for help if you can't afford the drive back.

>>17308648
Things were worse for me where I was. I have no home.

How about you keep fucking your hand for a few years until you grow up into a normal adult. Plenty of people older than you still haven't had sex wait your turn.

In short,

>get /fit/
>get a decent haircut
>get some decent clothes
>get a fake, or access to alcohol in a comfortable social setting
>post some decent pictures on tinder

Message the fuckable ones. Expect to get rejected a lot, that's just part of the deal, especially if you're just looking for the easy hook up. But this is the tried and proven 2k16 formula for getting laid

It also helps if you have a few friends and don't come off as a loner sperglord

>>17308675
You sound like a triggered virgin. Why should I wait? 17 years is the average age to lose virginity for men in the US.

I need to lose my virginity because I know it would be psychologically beneficial for me to do so. I've heard from a lot of people that their sexual frustration diminished greatly once they lost their virginity and realized the importance of sex was overblown. I would rather lose my virginity sooner than later. I don't want to be pissed off all the time. I don't want to end...
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>friends
>date

You're doing it wrong.

>>17308621

I guess getting lunch/coffee works the best and maybe you could ask her to bring some other old friend you guys are mutual with, or just other people in general if you don't want it to seem it like a date.

>>17308625
I mean she's expressed she doesn't want to date me, and I'm the same way. But we remain friends because we enjoy each other's company

>>17308673
Yeah I was thinking about that but everyone is working the day we wanna chill

Thanks tho

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>>17308605
Agree with >>17308606, but to answer your question: it's bretty gud.

>>17308605
>Maria being a smug for Poussey

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so like this is a good thread to post things in.

also i was really hoping to sleep with him, and possibly break up his marriage. crazy daydreams maybe.

this isn't too important for the thread but it's true and i hope it gets someone to post

i'm feeling sick to my stomach now and don't know how to make the bad feelings stop.

>>17308594
Retail is a better career.

Stick to what you know.

>>17308600
Retail is not a career and I doubt you have any experience with anything else.

Do it OP. Pays like 14-15 bucks an hour around my neck of the woods, and our minimum is 10.45. Know two guys who do it, they get bored but like it more than customer service. Realize you're getting paid to ask drunk people to stop whatever it is they're doing.

>>17308600

It's not a career and plus I don't give a shit about keeping my area clean and up to standards when I close the store. I don't give a shit to clean up after people and be disrespected constantly by retards. I'm fucking tired of my managers giving me shit because I forgot to move up that one product from the shelf.

I'd rather work a job where I can to sit there and spend time how I'd like to spend it. I have a lot more important things to do.

>>17308607
That's...
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>>17308589
That and being heavily medicated 24/7.

>>17308591
Will therapists deal with getting me medicated after a diagnosis? I'm not opposed to trying something that drastic because this is gotten to the point where it's tearing my life apart. There is literally nothing I haven't tried except professional therapy, and meds.

A free first therapy session said I definitely have problems and would benefit from more sessions but how much do these things work?

Is this like a "you'll be seeing changes in a month" kinda thing or a "you'll...
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>>17308589
It does. A good therapist is more of a tool to help you get through things yourself.

Talking to a good therapist is like wearing corrective lenses for the first time. You forget how distorted and clouded your perspective has gotten, but in time you should be able to identify the source, or sources, to your problems.

Worthlessness leads to Hopelessness which leads to Helplessness which in turn leads to more worthlessness and the cycle continues. My therapist told me that no one is helpless so that's...
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