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How do I keep myself from turning into a huge fucking bully? As a preface I'm diagnosed with Bipolar, so maybe it's my meds not doing their job, but let me explain.
Lately I've been feeling the urge to be an absolute shithead to people. Bullying, degrading, pushing around, things like that. I never get the urge to be physically violent, but I just can't keep shaking the urge to tell people to shut up or that they're annoying and worthless. Verbal abuse kind of things.
I got in an argument with my S.O's younger sibling and ended up verbally destroying them in the process. I apologized, but in the end I couldn't help but feel a wave of satisfaction anyway. I wanted to keep doing it, make them feel horrible for just existing.
It's sick and wrong, I'm well aware of it, thus why I try to hold my tongue and calm my nerves, but the urge still scratches in the back of my head like an angry cat.
What do? It's starting to get to a point where I'm itching to yell at someone, anyone for the smallest transgression. Should I just talk to my doc? I don't want to fuck up my relationships because of this.
Also, I've never had anger problems before. Even before I was medicated I was incredibly calm and almost apathetic to everything negative that affected me.
Get gf.
Pro tip: Girls like assholes. Not long term, but by that time, it will be too late for her.
>>17309084
Kill yourself.
>>17309084
People call this Bipolar, but I call it intolerance for stupidity. I have the yearning to put people on blast all the time, and I don't mind doing it.
The trick is to not act like a dumbshit and be sensible. Why you're off yelling, you could be telling people the same message in a more polite tone.
You aren't bipolar, you're a person with a short fuse in relation to dumbshit. You just need to practice self control, so when you do tell people these things, they are more susceptible to listen because you are being more polite about it, and a bonus, you will usually get your way.
Don't misconstrue an alpha personality trying to break through with some over diagnosed disorder, learn self control.
Alright guys so I am not sure how to handle this situation.
So somebody broke my phone by doing the good ol' " I'll take it from your hands, say thanks and give it back after ten seconds " unfortunately during this process he dropped it like a retard and now he's realizing he has to pay for it.
The problem is that I went to a center for repairs to see how much it costs and the price is around 300 euro's and the second he heard that he came up with a bunch of shit that I personally don't think is true, ex: claiming he comes from a poor family even though he has a really fucking expensive razer headset that he broke twice and bought a new one each time, claiming that he read through the mall's rules and they said that it somehow doesn't make him guilty of anything etc.
Also I know his parent's will most likely pay for it since he is a NEET who never worked a day in his life, but he constantly says that his dad comes late from work and his mom works overseas, so I never get to talk to them.
I honestly think he just doesn't want his parents to know since that might affect his NEET lifestyle.
What do?
>>17309081
Tell his parents.
>>17309081
He sounds like a spoiled pos. Tell his parents.
>>17309081
>If you're underage, get off this site
>If you're adult, deal with it like an adult.
Don't be tempted to join cults like eckankar with promises that you'll live forever, as a former memeber i was thorughly raped when i tried to leave and they stopped me from saying anything, as i looked in youtube about complains after years of sexual harrassment, i found people who have also been raped by that cult, tell everyone! don't be tricked into joining!
There we go, simple and practical advice. Don't join the cult of eckankar unless you want to get raped. Thanks OP!
>>17309072
did you get lost on your way to /x/ friend?
But what if I wanna get raped
/adv/ help me please I feel like I'm going crazy
I think the movie the Conjuring 2 has traumatized me, maybe for good.
Combined with the fact that me and my cousin were watching scary videos the same day probably made it worst.
Lately I've been having severe panic attacks when I try to sleep.
I feel like something is on my back and then all of a sudden I feel like it's trying to "posess".
If it was a real possesion I probably would've been possessed right now, and I wouldn't be typing this.
I search up the symptoms and bam, turns out I have pretty high anxiety (took an online test and scored 88 out of 100), and I've been getting panic attacks and am in constant fear.
I know there's nothing there because if there was, weird shit would've been reported by my roomates (live with 4 people in a small apartment, think of the smallest apartment and divide it by 2).
I have not told anyone.
Also, before this I used to have the feeling that I was floating every time I tried to sleep, which has been going on for the past few months/years (can't really tell).
>will continue because I feel this is getting too long
I have a history of being gullible.
When I was younger I remember hearing about some woman predicting my state was going to get hit by an earthquake.
I was scared shitless, I was hearing voices in my head, hands shaking, I think I had a mini panic attack that day.
I also have a history of being traumatized by paranormal videos and movies.
When I was younger me and my cousin were talking about ghosts a lot.
I used to watch ghost hunting tv shows and wouldn't be able to sleep.
I'd feel extremely uneasy (like now but twice as worse) and would cry to my mom.
It was a horrible experience.
Right now I just had another one of those panic attacks.
I suddenly felt dizzy, hands started shaking, I felt like I wasn't me, I felt lightheaded, I felt like I was floating, I felt scared.
I got up and got a glass of water and now I partially feel normal.
My heart is still racing and I feel chills right now (another symptom of anxiety according to calmclinic).
I just don't know what to do, I just feel like bursting in tears.
I need some advice, should I go see a doctor, a psychiatrist?
Have you tried sleep aids like Melatonin?
Have you tried anti-anxiety techniques like box breathing?
>>17309069
Meditate and do things that are not related to that. Sleep in a different room or position. Sleep in a different environment. Do different things to get different results.
How do I overcome anxiety, and how do I become disciplined and follow succesful routines?
Read 7 habits of highly effective people by Stephen r covey. It is worth the money and is not a scam self help book, it is widely praised as an actually good book. Read it. Trust.
>>17309090
Suggesting a book for someone with no disciplined.
Nah, i can see from 3 gorillion miles away it's gonna fail hard for OP
>>17309090
Why is Pepe taking a piss in that field.
Typically how long after a break up will a girl monkey branch to the next relationship?
a few weeks
>>17309058
Depend on if she is an attention seeker or not.
Some girls take months to do so and some girls will jump in straight away.
Or some girls just give up forever.
That's not what monkey branching is. Monkey branching is when the girl looks for a new relationship once she's checked out of the one she's already in, and she leaves the first guy to be with the second.
Fuck, it's been a thousands times already, but how do i start talking with guys?
How to understand when they don't want to be bothered or that they're not happy you talk to them?
>How to understand when they don't want to be bothered or that they're not happy you talk to them?
Body language. Is he closing off his arms, constantly looking away as if he's after an escape route? Then he wants the conversation to end.
Are they concentrating on something?
Try a greeting.
If they engage you with a response, initiate conversation.
If they appear to be trying to continue their concentration on whatever the fuck, they're busy and probably don't wanna be disturbed.
>>17309060
>>17309062
Okay, i'll note that.
And how to not spill my spaghetti? What should a girl do to make guys think she is retarded beyond saving?
My life is just so shit what do I do...
>Have an interview and project to complete by 2 hours
>Feel like shit, worked so hard for my finals and did horrible (because of stupid mistakes on every question, but no one cares or points that out)
>Parents and teachers have lost hope in me, they just pile me with random pointless assessments which usually are counter-intuitive and waste time that could be used doing something productive for my grade
>Feel so anxious and cucked, as if I can't fend for myself or do anything. I literally felt like an Alpha before, now I feel sensitive and weak
How do I go on in my life
>>17309045
College finals?
>>17309048
something similar to that
>>17309048
I should be writing up my project right now... its just I've lost all faith in my abilities to do anything, I honestly feel like nothing matters anymore. I just want to go to parties and get wasted. I used to have all these life goals of going to top universities but now I don't have the previous near-unconditional loving support of my parents and respect from my teachers.
I was in a similar situation during the beginning of this academic year, but I turned it around and dominated my academic life. One fuck-up in the exam and I'm back to square-1
I'm just wondering about ur guy opinion or girl.
Be clean
>>17309019
Be patient
Be something that girls find attractive. If you're not, then work on it until you are.
To what extent should a girl change herself to be likeable or dateable?
Wear makeup and dress well. Lose weight.
>>17309016
Being brutally honest here.
Unless the girl is morbidly obese, she's likeable/dateable.
You can not name one trait a guy wouldn't be put off by. You'll find a guy who's into you if you just put yourself out there even a little. There's nothing you should have to change about yourself.
>>17309018
>>17309017
What about personality?
I am vain about my looks, because i don't think anything else in me could be liked by anyone.
Let me cut through the bullshit and say that I gained 20lbs over the past year. Reasons why I got fat is not relevant, it happened and I am losing weight. The problem is getting my boyfriend super horny around me again.
Is it possible, /adv/? He has dead dick around me unless I really jerk him.
I get hit on still and one guy in particular is a /fit/ fanatic who is always hitting on me at the gym, I can see he gets hard sometimes when he is talking to me. It makes me wish my boyfriend would get that excited around me.
What should I do?
>in b4 cheat
Cheat.
How about you get rid of the weight
>>17309083
This
You must be a lardass if your boyfriend is disgusted by it.
For not taking the antidepressants and stabilizers as prescribed?
For the last months I've been: going on and off the medication whenever it occurred to me until it made me physically ill, tapering/reducing it, went on them again, then cold turkey a few times, then doubled the dose, etc. And other crap like this
Currently, have been off them for the last days. I felt more like a normal person but I can't tell if it's an effect of discontinuation. However, I can't sleep at night without sleeping pills so I'll have to have to start a high dose of them again.
>>17308994
Your body takes a while to adjust to the meds if you've been taking them regularly.
Screwing around with them like this kinda messes up your mind and body's ability to do this.
Are you attempting to harm yourself?
>>17309003
I´ve been on them for over 9 months, and lately, have been feeling awfully suicidal and fixated on death. I think I may subconsciously be aiming to cause such an imbalance that would come to support the idea that 'it's never going to be okay, i'll never be okay'.
But I took them regularly before this and got used to them, it hit me that I may need something else or just more. Adjusting for the 'perfect moods and state of mind'.
I've only found out information on the internet about the effects of discontinuing abruptly but not screwing like this with them. May I have caused an imbalance in the brain and there's no 'fixing' it now?
Taking them like that is more likely to harm than help you. They're not M&Ms -- you can't just take them whenever you feel sad. They have to build up in your system to help you (this is a gross simplification but I don't understand the actual neurology behind antidepressants.).
/Adv/, is it bad that i don't have friends i can discuss my media-related interests with?
It takes a toll on me, i browse 4chan and other sites for hours to compensate it.
I used to have some, but i couldn't keep up with them and eventually we stopped to understand each other and talk.
Feeling you OP, happened when my online buddies shifted to getting gud at vidya.
No, it ain't that bad. Here's the other post I made in a similar thread >>17308933
It happens to many of us and the only way to make new friends is to get out there on different sites, and hopefully you bump into people you like.
Of all the things, I've met people I don't mind hanging with on Overwatch, and I usually hate FPS.
Good luck anon.
>>17308992
Haha, i wanted to reply to your post, but thought made a thread instead.
Maybe i should try to reach out to people online and make them irl-tier friends then.
Good luck to you too.
One more. Should i change my hobbies to normie-tier or it's unnecessary?
My friend literally just visited his girlfriend at work who he sleeps next to every night and now he's talking to her on the phone. in between all that is at least 4-5 gross Facebook posts a day about "we're soooo in love I can't wait to be married omg"
Im mostly pretty passive but weirdly enough, I hate their bullshit. Personally I want to tell my friend to abandon ship but I know he would take offense. They literally break up almost every week. It's sickening and childish. What's going on with him? Their relationship has no basis in reality. No one wants to tell him this. My other friend is a bit /x/ish and he really thinks that the girlfriend has some kind of hex on him.
>>17308953
>Man my friend's relationship is pissing me off
>Why is that?
>They're too close to each other and break up it's annoying
>Well how was your last relationship?
>...
>>17308983
Well I mean there's a lot of stuff I left out like how he's so afraid to be alone he threatens suicide and /x/ish friend calls gf up like "hey your boyfriend is threatening to kill himself " and she's like "not my problem"
It's like 1000% more concern for my friend than jealousy. There are a lot more qualifiably happy people to be a sour puss about than them
>>17308953
All they are doing is nipping their fights with idle threats. They aren't truly "breaking up" literally every couple goes through this phase when they don't realize they're not getting enough space.
You just sound like you're put off by the in your face affection so mention that. Don't focus on them splitting up, just bring up how it makes everyone uncomfortable how they're so open about things.
>be me
>18
>virgin
>going away for college
>50,000 (basically hella bitches)
>already checked it out
>met guys who wanna get me laid
>the girls think im funny and deep and cute and shit etc..
My problem should i try to lose my virginity before i go or not worry about it. I just feel so exited around women i know im gonna smash and i fuck it up i feel like i need this
How do you fuck it up? Learn from those and don't worry.
>>17308980
I get excited when i know im gonna smash and can wait, thats when i fuck it up.
>when I know I'm gonna 'smash'
>when I know
>know
>doesn't 'smash'
There's one of your problems. Assuming any girl that shows slight interest in you is wanting to have sex, and will want to in several hours time. Stop having such high expectations.
If you're starting to get with a girl, just let things pan out. Don't jump bases in your head, don't assume anything else. As long as you've got a condom in your wallet, then you don't need to think anymore about sex. Just let it happen.
