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Would you forgive someone who accused you of something you didn't do?
A friend of mine and I have been on a bad terms for a couple months and have not spoken much. We go to the same college and are currently on summer break. I drive up to my college apartment to hang out with my friends up there every monday night/tuesday day. With that, this friend of mine sent me a message asking if I had been near her apartment. I haven't been near her apartment since the last time we hung out, which was in April and I told her that. She told me someone broke into her apartment and stole some of her belongings, that the police also came by and took fingerprints. I offered to help her try to find her stuff but I can't do much beyond that because I don't have any idea who would have stolen from her or what was even stolen. The next week I asked her why she asked me and she said she thought I was the one who stole her stuff. Of course this pissed me off, having known her for 4 years and she should know I would never do something like that. I have no interest in talking to her for a long time but should I forgive her. Accusing someone of stealing from you is pretty shitty.
I don't know your relationship dynamic with her but I would probably forgive in that situation, though I'd be salty afterwards
>>17306248
bump
>>17306248
Were you the only one she named to the cops?
Typically, they would say "Who has been here recently?" and she'd list everyone she thought of, and they would go through the list one by one eliminating people.
That's normal and nothing to resent her for. If you're the only one she named, she has already cut you off her list of friends, so you can go ahead and drop her.
I'm 18 with aspergers and hopeless in relationships, hopeless in a workplace, my family always argue and sound disappointed, none of my friends give a shit because they're lucky and normal( don't day no one's normal because normal people are different to aspergers people) I take antidepressants and ritalin but it just doesn't help, basically am I gonna live the rest of my life feeling like a useless shit, all I do is go gym and smoke weed
Walk up to a normal friend, say "I've always admired how you're so fluent and natural when it comes to talking to people. It doesn't come naturally to me, can you help me out?"
People will fucking lick up that shit because everyone loves to feel appreciated. This'll get you closer to them, and your awkwardness won't matter as much.
>friends
you're a fucking normie. aspergers is over diagnosed you're fine quit being a baby. get off the SSRI and stimulant combo, that will make you worse in the long run.
you're probably just depressed, which, no, you probably won't ever get over. you can fuck around with drugs, and those stimulants will give you a dopamine rush but in the long run will burn you out and make you more depressed in later life. they also make you not you and you'll make decisions you later regret.
so get off the drugs, and do some self improvement, and that's about all you can do.
>>17306235
They can't help, they literally can't, I'm only capable of so much, and things like being a cashier for example sound like hell, I'd rather die than meet new people everyday pretending to be nice and happy, I just can't be as happy and nice as they want me to be
So this is the first time I've ever made it out to this board, but I need help. I've been puking my guts out thinking about how nothing fucking matters and everything I'll ever know and do isn't even a speck of dust in the grand perspective of this world, let alone the universe. I'm trying to rationalize existence, but it really is not working out. I doubt I'm suicidal, but its really weighing heavily on me, enough to where I skipped work today.
Any tips to not think about it/philosophy to use to combat this?
>>17306216
You need psilocybin mushrooms and some zen. A little ego death is gonna go a long way at battling the existential terrors.
Stop trying to control things beyond your control. Nothing you do is going to make the universe less vast or time less... long. Seriously, everyone can only control a small portion of your life, much less reality. Just focus on what you can do, that's the key to living the best life you can.
>>17306224
I could try to do a bit of zen, but working in defense, so I gotta keep clean. I wouldn't call myself an egotist, but I guess I might be subconciously.
i wish to dabble in bistiality, where do i find it both irl and on the web? i have no pets of my own you see. (pic of no relevance)
plz /adv/ im a desperate man
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What was the feeling you got when you first met your so? Never felt this before and you would know what to say
>>17306180
>What was the feeling you got when you first met your so? Never felt this before and you would know what to say
She looked kinda ordinary desu, except for her big round ass. Got to know her before I liked her a lot.
What's it like being 13?
>>17306180
>this guys kind of a faggot
Feelings changed dramatically tho
>>17306180
Nothing. I talked to her and decided that I could stand her personality. She was interested in me, and things just started from there.
I'm 25 and worked labour all my life.
I start working front end at a tattoo shop tomorrow and I'm so fucking scared to use the cash register and fuck everything up.
-especially- doing cash out.
I warned them I was nervous to do this but because I was confident in all other prospects they said I'd do fine.
Im almost ready to tell them I don't want the job because of this, because I know I'm going to fuck everything up.
I don't feel like a low paying, part time job is worth this stress. What should I do? ):
Dude, this is middle school math on a machine that typically does all of it for you. As long as you're diligent about entering prices and your register doesn't fuck up you don't even need to do the math, just be able to count.
What exactly are you worried about?
>>17306191
I've never had it explained to me and it seems like a significant hassle to me. I know it's middle school math- everyone's told me it's incredibly easy
But this makes me even more nervous, because if I fuck up I'll feel like an idiot, especially because math is not a strong suit.
I know at the end of the day i calculate all the money in the float, then I take out as much money as I can and leave 200 dollars in..
But this seems like the most daunting thing ever. I don't even know if that's correct (it's just what I've asked my friends separately, trying not to look like a sperg).
I'm sorry this sounds so stupid and unreasonable- I'm just trying to be prepared for the worst.
>tattoo shop
>deal with like 2 customers an hour
>not even an artist
>still can't do the simplest braindead monkey task
quit right now
Bunch of faggots destroyed my thread. Here i post again. There is a girl i like but she has a boyfriend. What to do
>>17306080
If you get her to cheat him, she will eventually cheat you.
>>17306080
Go find a new girl who isn't taken. Unless you're an absolute failure at life you can find one, right?
>>17306080
Nothing? Either she dumps or cheats on her boyfriend to date or fuck you, which means she's just as likely to dump you for the next thing that comes along, which makes her shit girlfriend material, or she thinks you're an asshole for trying to get with her when she has a boyfriend and you've ruined any real chance you have forever.
Stop being a faggot and find someone that's actually available you chode.
Where do I find employees? I tried Career Builder and been getting a bunch of people that are obviously just trying to fill 'searching for work' requirements for staying NEET.
Is Indeed better?
Looking for a shop manager and accountant for my growing business.
How do I find good ones?
>pepe-business-analyst.jpg
those sound like elite candidates for your business
Offer slightly more than decent pay. You have to lure the good ones in or youll get riff raff. It will give you a much broader group of people to interview and pluck from. In my area it would be double the federal minimum wage where you start getting decent young people. In places like cali it might be 20 bucks an hour.
>>17306062
Indeed is good.
I'm not sure why you need both a manager and an accountant in a growing business. Hit a local college up and search around for someone working on their BA in business, which generally requires accounting courses.
This way, you find someone who wants to pad their resume, regardless if they hang around for more than a couple of years.
Is it illegal to buy underwear online if it's implied the underwear was from someone who's underage?
>>17306045
no, but enjoy being on FBI watchlists
How do I get my boyfriend to be more open about watching porn/masturbating?
I used his laptop recently and saw in his history his porn. When I asked him about it, he denied denied denied, "Who put that there, who used my laptop, wasn't me, no way". I've found his used tissues in the bedroom and asked him to be tidier when jerking it, "I wasn't masturbating!! Are you sure those aren't from when we has sex!?" I watch porn myself and masturbate often (read: daily) and am open and not shy with him about it.
I want him to know he can be honest with me and I won't be upset, or mad, in fact it kinda turns me on. He doesn't hide it, but he denies watching it and even jerking off. The porn he watches isn't anything crazy, and I'd be more than willing to put it on and even act it out while watching it together. How do I get him to be more open about it with me?
>>17306037
>I want him to know he can be honest with me and I won't be upset, or mad, in fact it kinda turns me on
You answered yourself.
Tell him this.
If he can't be honest with you about the fact that he jerks off, thinks what else he must be hiding. Who would want to be with someone who can't be open about EVERYTHING? Be honest with him, and if he still denies it, find a real man. Otherwise, you're settling, and deserve the consequences.
>>17306049
Have said this before to him. The first time I found his porn I sat him down on the couch and told him it turned me on and ended up jumping his bones then and there to further prove my point. Now, a few months later, it's like I never said anything...
>>17306065
That's what I was kinda thinking. It's all pretty vanilla porn anyway (blowjobs, handjobs, cumshots, etc) so it's not like I'd be upset, hell I even wanna act it out for him. This is the second time I try talking to him about it and he gets flustered and denies everything. Even the wads of crusty tissue lol.
I'm just going to greentext this shit
>Moved in with brother
>everything's pretty okay we have fun and it's fun living with a sibling.
>I'm a clean person and he always says he is
>Doesn't clean his dishes or takes five to eight days to do so and then there's always big fucking pile of dishes.
>Doesn't do his shores or takes really fucking long time.
>okay, I'm going to ask him nicely about it.
>I asked nicely and he just started to say "shut the fuck up" and all that shit.
>I have a bad temper and it hurt me, so I start yelling and because none of us like to really fight we just yell a little and go to our rooms.
>Because of our family we don't talk things thru, we just "forget" it and next day everything is okay.
>This happens couple of times.
>Couple of times he started to nag me but eventually I did my chores even tho I did his too.
>But this time. This one fucking time.
>I'm so angry.
>I do my chores, which is way more than his.
>He just needs to clean his fucking milk cartons (they are everywhere and I don't drink milk) and vacuum the house.
>I tell him to do it.
>He doesn't.
>I'm getting to get pissed off, the floors are so fucking crumply.
>I tell him to do it.
>He starts to say the usual shut the fuck up
>I get so fucking angry, I could stab him.
>I try to calm down but without me ven noticing we are in a yelling competision again.
>I get more angry.
>I'm in my room writing this and he's just hanging out with his friends outside and probably shit talking me.
I want him to move out ,because this is the first home where I actually felt this is my home and I'm comfortable. And the rent is so damm low and there's so much room, so i don't want to. And I don't want us to have bad relationship, it's fun to hang out with him but this shit makes me so fucking angry, when he's narsistic and doesn't notice what he is doing wrong.
I have tried to compromise, I have given him less chores but he can't fuvking do them either.
So what the fuck can do? help please
you sound annoying, id tell you to shut the fuck up too
>>17306035
holy fuck man you're brothers and you're arguing over garbage lol. Mate frankly just tell him start pulling his weight around the house. Put all the rubbish in his room n shit until he just does it
>>17306047
>basement dwelling garbage piling piss bottler detected
As far as OP goes, I'm in the same goddamn boat man, literally the same. My brother's a fucking slob. Unfortunately, I still haven't fully rectified my situation either, so I can only commiserate. Sorry.
Hey /adv/, do guys like to be approached? I'm a girl 5/10. Asking because I've been doing a lot of waiting around lately in lines at Orlando and would like to strike up conversation to pass time and make friends. I'm scared of other girls.
Pic unlrelated
>>17306027
im a guy and i like to be approached, though if a girl approached me and started talking to me, i would assume she wants to go out with me, not just be friends.
>>17306027
Yes, guys like to be approached. It doesn't matter if you're a 5/10 or a 2/10, it's flattering, even if you're not attractive to that particular person.
>>17306027
I'm from Orlando too I can help you with that hmu
Kik: chaddywilly32
I'm going in a short trip to a cabin.
It'll be me, my best friend, his gf, her sister, my friend's colleague (guy) and around 4 or so other girls whom I don't know, all single.
How do I into sex? It'll be enough alcohol to create a second flood out of. I don't have much banter but I put my bets on getting drunk enough (both me and a girl I get comfortable with) so that personality is not a factor anymore.
But yeah, advice?
>>17305989
Do a little research into what she enjoys. Facebook, etc and use that for conversation when your both hammered. Attempt to make it seem like a coincidence.
>>17305993
I don't know any if the girls that come besides my friend's gf and her sister. The other girls are unknown to me, I don't even know their names, I don't even know how they look like.
And even if I somehow found them on Facebook, I don't have Facebook myself so yeah.
But I'm not looking to make a friend and appear charming. I wanna get drunk and fuck them. How do I talk myself into that? From the little info u got, they're all basic white girls who go clubbing and drinking.
Maybe you shouldn't have spent the last 15 years playing video games, and invested some time figuring out how to actually converse with women. I can't believe people like you actually exist.
Do the planet a favor, don't bother having sex. DNA like yours was not meant to be passed along.
Or....get drunk and be nice to the fattest ugliest girl there. When you get home and haven't gotten laid, throw your video games out, and work on your communication skills so that this doesn't happen again in 5 years.
i have a friend who uses drugs and i use drugs too, i hang out with him sometimes, he happened to be chilling with a girl who also does drugs, we somehow say hi and chat, we somehow exchange numbers, i get to know her for a month, i find out she has had 3 ex boyfriends, she told me she has had sex with them.
she is 22, i am a 26 year old hugless kissless virgin, should i settle for used goods or find a virgin qt girl?
i think i am going to stick to my robot roots and just cut her off, unfortunately for her she likes me
she had another man's dick in her mouth.... so the thought of that upsets me
>>17305964
If you're 26, kissless virgin and use drugs you're probably not exactly a great catch.
I doubt that a virgin qt girl would settle for you.
>>17305964
You should have fun with her, call it sex, call it chating with her, regardeless of what she had in her mouth.
And please, don't overvalue virginity, you'll feel the same when you don't have it.
sigh
>ex broke up with me 4 months ago
>immediately start no contact
>we have some mutual friends so it was tough but I got over it
>no contact absolutely kills her
>he periodically sends drunk texts/messages asking to be friends but always sends some kind of apology the next day
>always ignore
>always messages for pointless/dumb shit, most of which I either dismiss or ignore
>we are going to be at the same club night next weekend
>want to try again with her because I still find her attractive and the circumstances are vastly different
>also don't want to embarrass myself
have I done everything right in order to try again? or have I fucked up by ignoring her all this time? also wtf do I do now
>>17305963
Exes are that for a reason, there is a reason why you left them and if you try it again with them, it's probably going to rear its head again
Just forget about it op
But to answer your question, I can't say because you haven't given enough info. Just talk to her and be honest.
I still advise against even trying though.
>>17305963
the purpose of no contact is two fold. Leave them scratching their head as she is doing and begin the process of detachment for yourself. You have not gone fully no contact because she can still reach you and you intend to be in a place you know she will be. You are playing a game and when you make another pitch she will know this and stomp on your heart again. Foolish
