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Hey all. I SERIOUSLY need some help with this. I've been going to a pizza hut close to where i live and from the start, there was a homosexual man who worked there who seemed to be attracted to me. When i would go, he would call me by my first name. Granted, he might have just simply treated everyone like that but this is where it got weird.
I ordered from that pizza hut this past friday and when i did, he was working there. It seems he got a promotion to manager and i was genuinely happy the guy who was always nice finally got his raise. But Saturday night, i get...
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Lmao getting this scared your boypussy gonna be wrecked
Yes if you have a recording and contact their corporate office then he'll probably be fired.
>>17322143
Thats what i figured. Hopefully i get to someone who can do something.
>>17322122
thanks for the laugh lol needed that
ok here is the situation
I'm gay and have been with my partner for 7 years now.
We just moved to a new city and are getting established.
He has family that lives here and his aunt is close to dying from cancer.
He isn't out to most of his family.
His grandmother has decided she is going to come stay with him to help her son through his wife dying.
He asked if it would be a week, 2 , 6 weeks? and she said she is going to stay indefinitely.
She called yesterday and is coming thursday.
I have to go live in a hotel until she leaves.
Everyone...
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Don't go stay in a hotel that's stupid. If your partner really wants to pretend you don't exist to his family then have him go stay in a hotel. She can go stay with him. He's the one with no backbone you shouldn't have to leave your own home
You've been together 7 years. That is not a small sum of time.
Don't leave your fucking apartment. You shouldn't have to upend your life and spend tons of money because your partner is afraid to tell his fucking grandma he's been sharing his life with a man for half a dozen years.
>>17322111
Err.. Can't you be his flatmate? Just sleep in another bed and stay platonic for a while.
hey, /adv/
I want to try acid and probably will soon, any advice?
start with 1 tab,wait an hour and see how you feel before taking more.
it's not as intense as it's made out to be, pretty much gives you a cool, comforting feeling with a little vibrating visuals.
pick a good time for it. It usually lasts 12 hours so you're in it for the long haul forget about sleeping.
I say this because i took a tab last night around 2:00 am at a party, still havent slept
>>17322102
You're facing 25 yrs in jail if you get caught, that's a good way to ruin your life forever.
Acid is the most illegal drugs there are, and most acid isn't even real (they're dangerous research chemicals).
You want some advice?
Quit wasting your money and time. You don't look very good posting this, you don't look very good when you do this and you're not opening your mind.
Going to some kind of music festival? Infected mushroom? Deadmau5?
Well don't.
Go do something actually intellectually stimulating where you can learn about life and see incredible things. Books, school, national parks and even the bar.
Don't be an idiot. Cheers!
Hey I'm the 24 year old femanon that lost her virginity the other day. I was terrified of losing it, still hung up over my LDR ex of who I was in a relationship for 2 years. Then I met my "real" boyfriend. He is not a virgin and is more experienced than me, and he is ok with guiding a shy, inexperienced, scared girl. He's been gently guiding me through my fears and comfort levels.
I am exactly the same person after losing my virginity. In fact, I even begged for more. It didn't hurt, as I was already experienced with using dildos (my hymen was...
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>>17322093
24 old girl and just lost her v-card...just how fat or/and ugly you are?
>>17322096
Dunno my weight since I stay active enough to manage it. I'd say I'm 110 to 130 pounds, likely 125. Hourglass shape of body.
I'm just sheltered and afraid and broken. All I do is work and sleep. All my friends are made at work
>>17322123
>broken
>read: possibly molested or abused
Poor guy for sticking it in crazy
Man my mom is literally the fucking worst. As soon as I get a little money from my job she wants to extort it all. Talking about gas money and bills. Like wtf I'm supposed to be saving money. Not fucking paying for shit you supposed to pay for. I'm never gonna leave this house at this rate. I mean I don't mind helping her out. But like I only had $50 dollar check. I had to give her money just to bring me to the bank. She said she wasn't gonna ask for money and let me save up. I'm trying not to save up for a car and school and she wants me pay bills give...
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>>17322087
Well you are right, your mother seems like a giant bitch. How old are you, how much do you make, where do you work? I would advice to try to keep your money for yourself and leave as soon as you are able. Are you by chance from single mother home?
>>17322087
You live there and she want has you contribute to things like gas after driving you to work?
The horror!
I can't believe that selfish cunt! I mean, who does she think she is, driving you around, wanting gas money?! To top it all off, you live there and she forces you to contribute?! Jesus, what a terrible mother.
>>17322100
Not the OP. When you decide to have child you take upon yourself obligation to raise and provide for them. If you don't do that you don't deserve the title mother, breeder would be more apropiate. Her mother should be glad she wants to be independent but instead her mother is stupid piece of shit that tries to stop her child from starting her own life. It's not like OP wants to throw money away, OP wants to save and get independent herself.
Do you ever find yourself paralysed by worrying about how other people will react to your actions? How to get over this?
I have observed that generally people who act in a decisive way for their own interests are respected by other people, yet I cannot find it in me to act like this. I feel very passive and unable to stand up for my own interests.
Bump for interest
You are weak, and you probably always will be
Start off small, maybe? Entry-level assertiveness is shit like correcting a waitress who fucks up your order, or repeating yourself to people when they mishear/misunderstand you.
I just want some advice on whether or not I tell my boyfriend this.
My boyfriend had a masturbation problem since he was 10 and eventually became a porn addict, he would spend entire paychecks on cam models before he met me. He doesn't do it much anymore but he practically killed his dick in the process. I have to really put in effort to get him hard and it has always put me off slightly but I overlooked it because I love him.
He doesn't know, but I feel so bad about myself every-time we have sex because I am nothing compared to the porn/models he looks...
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Ye can't really help you with this, you can play it safe and not tell him, but the guilt can be a pain in the ass.
What we can help you with is validation or attention, so post some nudes.
>>17322071
>bf gets off to camwhores
>camwhores to strangers instead of bf
Sounds logical.
He needs to go full cold turkey on sex/porn/fapping for at least a month.
I used to be kinda like him, and this was the only thing that really helped.
I was doing some mutual masturbation with my wife the other day and told her that I thought it would be hot if she kissed another girl.
For some reason, telling my wife this made me feel really sad. It turned me on, but made me regret saying anything.
Should I feel so bad?
>>17322065
it astounds me that people desire a one and only to make them happy then decide because they are chasing the ultimate orgasm to share. Do humans fuck and suck, sure, but 99.99 % of the time we're doing other things.
You feel bad because you OP have introduced this and your worry is she will take you up on the suggestion. Enjoy
>>17322072
Are you 12?
>>17322077
no dumb ass
OK so my oneitis just agreed to a third date, but I have to do literally all the texting first and chasing and even tho their seems to be an attraction sometimes, she's very hot and cold, WTF is going on?
>>17322059
>she's very hot and cold
Like me. Depending on my mood or what I'm doing my texting interactions can vary greatly.
If I'm having a bad day or I'm just really busy I'll be on the cold side.
I also avoid fiddling with my phone when I'm interacting with other people as I find it rude.
My current partner was freaked out when we first started dating as she would think I had lost interest if I was cold for a few days.
>>17322059
This is only going to end in one way... And not the way you want it too
>>17322059
>>17322059
She's a girl.
You need to get over having a oneitis. It's pathetic, and holding you back.
She shits, and pisses, and picks her nose when no one is around, and has retarded opinions about common sense things, etc. If she were so great for you, she'd be more interested in you and wouldn't make you chase so much. I promise you are only infatuated with your 'idea' of her - NOT THE REAL HER. Stop having a oneitis.
Went to grocery store. White guy / bald head / tatoos, holds door open with his feet (in a weird way). I get there and go in. Says "Your welcome", gives me the death stare.
Freakin inside store. Pick up an item, italian guy grabs it from my hand (go get another - yes 100% serious). Okay.... I go to another isle and this guy gives me an insanely dirty look.
My crime? dark skin color and I got facial hair right now. I look exactly like the pic I posted. What the fuck do I do? i feel like im gonna get stabbed by these fuckin tatoo people soon.
Did you say thank you?
After traveling the world a little bit, I've noticed it's mostly just a thing we Americans care about: holding doors open for others and saying thank you when others do it for you. I've noticed a lot of people in foreign countries not hold doors open for me or say thanks when I do it. If someone goes out of their way, or slows down their own day in any way to make your day more convenient, you really should have had the situational awareness to say thanks.
As for the italian guy, Italian americans are dickheads. Way different...
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>>17322058
I held the door open for an older woman and a younger woman right behind her. The older woman smiled and thanked me, the younger snarled at me and said she can open the door herself.
White guy with my Indian gf in India and 9 of ten of the guys were giving us both shit. We exited a taxi because the cunt was calling my gf a prostitute because she was with a white guy.
Go shit in the streets of your own country, pajeet.
hi /adv/
i am restless and depressed please come talk to me
read my shit poem and distract me until i can fall asleep
thank you, i love you
here is my shit poem
"Let the love flow endlessly
Let it pass through
But I await impatiently
Time slips by as I stew
Grasp at photons with firm anxiety
That builds up inside of me
Let me release this heavy darkness
It manifests as effortless love
I promise
As long as you engage it with the same care
Stare through the mirror at odd times
Tell myself that I see aspects of you
But the drearier I get
The more they fade
Try to find commonality
In the right places
But where it does show
Only reinforces what I know
What...
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>>17322049
That was pretty funny.
>>17322057
what's the funniest part
Is it gay to date transwomen?
>>17322030
Yes, because transwoman is not a real woman, just a mentally ill guy pretending to be a woman.
I'd say so, but that's because I'm not comfortable with the idea of getting sexually involved with someone that once had a penis. It's a personal preference, whatever you're comfortable with
>>17322030
Transgender are fags in disguise.
Who else fucked his own life for no good reason?
I was smart, handsome with friends and a great family that loved me and yet here I am.
I'm a fucking useless neet with no degree no job, no girlfriend and no future.
I'd have killed myself long ago but my family and friends doesn't deserve it, they really care about me.
They've done everything for me and I've failed everything out of procastination.
Some would say I have had depresion but I think that's a meme, I'm just an lazy asshole.
I really don't know...
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Try the FFL
>>17322016
Thread theme
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUFWXpYJKaI
>>17322016
If you're serious, here's what I did.
- Go to college, work on side to pay rent.
- Sign up for a gym, try to go at least 5 days a week.
- Limit internet time to 1 hour a day.
- Pick up a creative hobby to fill your free time and keep at it.
- Stop jerking off so damn often. One every 3 days is enough.
I feel like a burden and a parasite more than anything else. I haven't accomplished anything.
Killing yourself is never the answer even if you truly believe it is.
>>17321997
I know this sounds emo as all hell, but with death being inevitable, it's kind of hard to find a reason to keep going. Everyone else I've talked to feels that the transitory nature of life gives them more reason to live. I don't understand that.
>>17322002
OP by the way.
People out there in long term relationships, what is your S/O like with their friends?
I feel my girlfriend is practically consumed by her friendships, she almost treats them as if she were dating them as well as me, i often feel like im on equal ground or even sometimes lesser then her friends and we are all after the same thing, to spend time with her, so i feel this competition with her friends.
I'll admit i do get the most time out of anyone, but a lot of that time is spent with her on her phone messaging her friends or snapchatting/planning next time...
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>>17321973
I hit the word limit, anyway this is all just my thoughts at the moment, would just like to hear an outsiders perspective on the matter. I want to also clarify that i don't have a problem with her having friend time, even a lot of it is fine, it's mostly how when she's with me she makes me feel like she'd rather be with them by them constantly being in the loop about her life/events/food she's eating etc.
>>17321976
you sound like you have a really good idea about where you stand and why you feel that way.
you're best bet is to tell her everything in your first two paragraphs there and see how she responds.
IMO she's got problems. at a certain point in life we all have to realize we're here to work on ourselves.
you don't get a girlfriend by crying about how worthless you are and how you need love, right?
you picked her up because somehow you demonstrated worth. A little luck and a...
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>>17322013
for the record, my S/O spends a lot of her time texting me when she's with her friends (they all the type to text at dinner tables anyway), and little blips come and go when she's with me.
she used to text while we were in bed, and that shit pissed me off. her coworkers would wake her up at 5 am. shit was not okay. the bed is OUR space.
luckily i have a pretty empathetic girl here and she cut it back quite a bit (after some fighting but whatever, i knew i was right gat dammit)
she does her own thing, and often puts me first. we're both homebodies but she definitely goes out more than me.
