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If I face another rejection I'm afraid my heart will literally burst.
I've been rejected so much that I feel actual physical pain / pressure in much chest.
I can't take it anymore.
Anyone know how to heal?
>>17321874
The fuck is wrong with you?
>>17321878
Heartache.
>>17321874
Sounds like your trying to find someone to make you happy, you want to be happy before you find someone
I asked /o/ but no luck
basically my dad used to own a buick enclave 2011 but he passed away a few months ago and I've inherited the car
I don't have a license but I'm working on it and I'll hopefully have it february next year (canadian regulations)
there's still around 12000$ left to pay out for the car, and I'm not sure whether I should sell it for around 16000$, cover the loan and buy a toyota corolla or some car that'll serve me for a long time and that won't cost me thousands of dollars in repair if anything ever happens
I wouldn't be using the car a lot either way within the next five years (I can get to uni by public transportation), maybe once a week to do some groceries or go to a friend's house. also I'd like to go camping three or four times during the summer
so tl;dr: beginner, should I sell buick enclave 2011 and buy new toyota corolla or keep the car?
p.s: the car is in good condition, only 73000 kms, but the warranty has expired
>>17321528
piece of shit car sell it
>>17321545
why is it a bad car?
>>17321528
Yeah, I'd sell it then go buy a car of Craigslist BUT bring a friend who knows shit about cars, test drive it, listen for weird noises and shit, all that good stuff.
Hey guys,
Let me preface this with:
My sister and I had engaged in sexual relations when we were younger. I was in 7th, and she was in 6th. We were playing around on the bed and one of us fell on the other. We fell into a certain position and in the process of trying to stand up she said to move around like I did again. This evolved into a full fledged "stick my dick in her and fuck" kind of thing.
This went on for about 2 weeks before we took our first sex ed class. We learned about incest and the problems it causes, and we stopped. We both remember it, this would be the first time I've mentioned it to anybody and I don't think she's told anybody either. We both liked it, I know she did cause she kept asking me to fuck her again and again.
As a result, I have a serious incest fetish. Like I have a hard time looking at normal porn, it has to be brother/sister incest. No mom/son or step-dad/daughter thing, it has to be brother/sister.
I have a good relationship with her now, and asking her "hey do you want to start fucking again" would almost certainly ruin it if she isn't up to the idea.
I suppose my question are:
1. Is it bad that I really really want to start a sexual relationship with her again
2. How could I go about starting it again or getting her to warm up to the idea again? Dropping subtle hints, give gifts, etc.?
1. no it's not
2. how old are you now?
>>17321008
It happened.
Bring t up with her when you are alone, don't make her feel pressured. Say stuff like.
Remember when blah blah I really loved that even if most people don't think it's normal. Ask her what she thinks about it looking back now you are older.
You said she kept asking you for it. Was this after sex Ed or before? How long did she keep asking you for it?
Assuming you haven't let yourself go, she probably still is interested but if you were turning her down she may have learned her lesson.
Also, don't do any of this if she is in a relationship. It's just not cool or fair.
Happy weekend /adv/ocates, and hoidays to my Leaf brothers and Murrican neighbours too. Ask me anything. If it's a specific legal question, tell me what country you're in. I've been posting on other boards today, so tell me if you think I'm straight dope or on glue. If you have an opinion.
Typo on holidays, I suppose. I've been drinking. Sue me.
>>17317499
>I've been drinking
So what else is new in the legal world?
Fuck off with your shitty threads
>Probably have un-diagnosed Aspergers
>Can't swing a hammer
>Take forever to do anything in construction
>Dad is using me as his helper
>We're making close to 100k a year
>He wants me to stay
>He doesn't want me to go to college
>Most days we aren't home until 7 PM, so night college isn't a viable option
>It'd be crazy to even try since I would probably fail due to the stress
>He says he only needs me for 2 years, but I know he's lying, and he wants to use me for 4 or 5
>Know I'll never be fast at carpentry
>He keeps telling me someday I'll be good
>Know it might be a lie to keep me by his side
>He doesn't bother to teach me anything because it'd take too much time
>Horrible with my hands, but he keeps telling me he's teaching me how to use them
>It has been 1 year since I've started working with him
>My skills haven't changed, and I know they probably never will
>Being slow is a sentence to poverty in a business like carpentry
>What's more, I'm working for customers that will call my boss if I'm slow so losing my job is a guarantee
>He'll make me poor for the rest of my life in order to benefit himself for now
>I'll need a helper just to get by, and they'll want $20 an hour.
>Feel that my life will be down the toilet as I work long hours just to get by
>Don't know if he's doing it on purpose, or if he's looking ahead with blind optimism
>Know I should go to college, or that will be my future
>Learning how to drive
>19 right now
Should I just learn how to drive and give my father an ultimatum? I don't see carpentry working out for me, but people tell me I'm very pessimistic.
I think what's best for me is a job with paper work. I feel I simply don't have the natural talent to be good at what I'm being trained for. I'm scared my dad is only living in the present, and ignoring my future. I only took up the job to get him out of debt, but now he's talking about building another house in the backyard.
It feels like he's stopping my life for himself.
>he thinks college is the way to get a life
you may as well go take out a 100k loan in cash, pile it all into a big barrel, squirt in some lighter fluid and burn them motherfuckin franklins
just saying
>>17324808
I'm scared I'm a person that actually needs to go to college. I don't know if I can make a decent living being anywhere else besides a desk. My father is a very arrogant man. It almost feels like he believes his son will be a good carpenter simply because I come from him.
I believe it's a huge mistake for me to pursue a career in carpentry. I'm 19, but I'm so slow at everything little thing I attempt to do. Hourly workers have sarcastically told me I'm quick.
I've met great men that have worked their entire lives in carpentry, but I've also met horrible people that take advantage of workers they see themselves as superior to.
I don't know what to do with my life. I can't just float down stream anymore. I'm too old now.
>>17324824
When I say college, I don't only mean college.
There has to be some sort of trade school I can go to to learn something valuable that isn't blue collar work. I've seen how slow I am in comparison to the people I grew up around.
I know I'm bad with my hands.
Does anybody know of any other option?
hey /adv/, i live with my parents and i want to buy items that would be embarrassing if they saw them (fleshlight, toys, condoms, etc).
I'm too autistic to buy these in a store, so how can i order them online discreetly?
>inb4 NEET
>inb4 retaard
You go on a site and order them.
>Get a PO box
>Ship Items there
>Google how to get a PO box
You get a key, and it's yours
You're 18, yeah?
You got the money to buy shit so I assume you have some source of steady income.
Move the fuck out.
Hey adv, soon to be college student here. I am seriously worried about my study habits.
Through high school I struggled immensely to pass my classes. I just could not focus on my work.
What can I do to help focus on my assignments consistently? I'm starting to worry about my future.
>>17324509
Hello.
I'm a Medical Doctor, actually preparing myself to be a specialist.
You have to discipline yourself to study, from 5 pm to 8 pm, you'll do nothing but read the damned books.
You've to force it, just like going to the gym.
discipline, there's no other way around it.
>>17324578
Well, I guess it's time to gear down and push myself. Thanks.
If there is a test 4 weeks from now study for it TODAY. Until the test. The trick is, doing a little bit at a time
>Cramming doesn't really work
Brains have a tendency to retain more info via trickle-feed.
>Reward yourself
Study for an hour solid, then game for 2. It takes longer to study but that's why you do it early
>Isolation
Be careful with this one, always have some chill music playing or go to the library with other folks in the vicinity.
>eating habits
snack on something, and read
>set goals
do things like "I'm going to read pages 100-160 today" something like that.
I graduated college back in 2011, and this is what i did to get by/get myself back out of the pit of failure.
How do I stop being envious of people with massive monetary success while also enjoying a laidback, comfortable lifestyle?
I dunno just like think of it this way your living a laid back life style so who cares.
>>17324500
Once you're doing something meaningful for you in your life instead of crying over the internet, you'll stop being an envious faggot
>>17324563
define meaningful
Sup /adv/, seems like I have found myself in a bit of problem and I need some serious advice.
>Be me
>20 year old with bad social anxiety
>Meet qt coworker
>she offers to hang out one day
>Dont take it up at first, because autism
>Reschedule and she comes over
>We watch a movie and keep chatting
>Go for a walk in the night, weve spent hours talking
>She tells me she has a bf
>Fucked.jpg
>Take it that this was a friendship thing I suppose
>A few days pass
>We hang out with her friend,K
>K is tellin me her life story
>The girl I like starts talkin aobut how she bailed with her bf and with K to hangout with me
>We put glowsticks on each other and suddenly start play fighting
>She licks my finger as I cover her mouth
>ohfuckthewat.png
>I get off, and she keeps laughing
>her friend is just watching all thsi
>Part of me wants to go for the kiss, but knows she has a bf
>Leave later in the night and jokingly tell her that I will never talk to her again
>She's actually sad, but confirm to her its a joke
>We chat over FB, and she pretends were married, etc.
>We later decide to meet up on thursday at her place
Im not sure what to do, shes moving to a different state with her bf and I really dont want to ruin it for her. But I can't help but like her and believe that she likes me too. Her bf obviously hates me, and she has confirmed it. This is a messy situation, but I can't leave now so Im not sure what to do.
HELP ME /ADV/ PLEASE
dude she's doing all of this with a bf still she's not worth the effort.
>>17324464
She has a boyfriend
you want a girl that is cheating on her current boyfriend?
Not a good idea
Fuck her if you can, then forget about her, you'll thank me later.
>>17324477
That's honestly it, I actually like her a lot but the fact is if she left for me theres no doubt she would walk away from me the same way
>tfw my parents asked me what I was doing on July 4th
>told then I was hanging out with a friend and lighting firecrackers in his backyard
>ended up driving around town alone watching fireworks from my car
What do I need to do if I want to have a friend to watch fireworks with me next year?
H-help me /adv/
drink beer and eat bbq?
>>17324440
There are plenty of friends on the other side, anon.
Hell I'm in same boat. Fucking sucks
Starting a new job where im standing for 12 hours at a train station platform. Cant sit or take phone out, so wondering what I can do to pass the time constructively...
Chew gum it has zero calories and will give you that manly jaw line.
Your job.
>>17324427
Talk to your doctor and express to him the fact that you standing for 12 hours daily has decreased your quality of life and is giving your health negative impact. Have him write you a note. Give it to the employer and tell them they have to provide you with reasonable accommodation for your issue (I.e. a seat).
Due to ADA, all employers have to either provide you with that accommodation or prove giving you a chair is an unreasonable accommodation the company cannot make.
Should i get a pixie haircut? My hair is short enough to the point of not much different compared to the pixie cut but still almost over my nape.
Help.
Is it too short for a girl?
>>17324371
Entirely up to you.
Your body, your choice.
Just don't complain if some guy you like doesn't find it attractive. If I wanted some flat chested, short haired ass, I'd fuck a twink.
Because girls are good and all, but a twink would probably be up for it more and play video-games.
I'm not even gay, but if I had to choose between a dude that looks kinda girly, and a girl that looks kinda manly, I'd chose the dude.
short hair and pixie cuts get me rock hard
but i'll admit it's a pretty niche look. If you're pretty nobody's going to comment overmuch on it but i can imagine you getting snide remarks from other girls for trying to be a special snowflake or w/e
>>17324388
>I'm not even gay, but if I had to choose between a dude that looks kinda girly, and a girl that looks kinda manly, I'd chose the dude.
What the hell man. You're so gay
Some girls doesn't look manly at all with pixie cut
My friend is abusive and takes her boyfriend for granted. Hes a really great guy, when the three of us were a thing (we used to be in a threeway relationship) he was the most generous person ever, he was absolutely wonderful and kind, and very gentle. I like my friend but she treats him like shit, always yelling and berating him, always ordering him around even though hes always tired from work... the last time I saw him he looked so depressed and worn down it was shocking... he also looked very unhealthy and almost swollen... his face was redder than usual and his eyes bloodshot. I don't know what to do for him... I feel like I never should have left those two... but she was very difficult to be in a relationship with... very catty, jealous and would talk behind my back even though the threeway relationship was her idea...
I'm just lost at what to do.
>threeway relationship
So this is an open relationship in which one of the partners is abusive?
She sounds like a bitch. Get them to break up, cut her loose and maybe pick up the BF and show him a good time/a good girl.
I don't know how old/experienced you guys are but if he hasn't had that many relationships he probably doesn't realise what a negative affect she's having on him.
>>17324364
>threeway relationship
I need help /adv/, i'm been feeling empty and depressed for no reason.
I'm getting pretty apathetic aswell, not giving a shit about anything other than me turning into a emotional vegetable. need help PLEASE
If only there were professionals specially trained to deal with this...
>>17324351
no im fucking going to therapy and it's shit, and i don't really wanna take meme pills ethier, i took some st john wort and it didn't do fucking shit man, i'm been feeling like this for like 2 and a half years man, fuck...
>>17324343
Go to a shrink.
I've been messing around with this girl intensely for a while now
was drunk the other day and left her a shitton of hickeys and I think she's mad at me for it
how realistic is it that she's stopped talking to me forever if she is mad because of this
women how annoyed are you by hickeys
both of us are sub 20 btw
She'll get over it. Hickeys are annoying only when other people notice them and point them out, which always happens. When you get older, you stop wanting to give/get hickeys.
>>17324336
alright, hopefully she responds well when I hit her up soon, I left her a few days of no contact to cool off because she was pissed for no reason when we went home (everything was fine up to that point...)
I don't usually get so invested in girls but I really like her
fuck I know that caring is what kills attraction but hopefully I don't look like it too much
I think hickeys are hot, but I know that a lot of people look at us like whores if we have one.
I think it's hot because I like the mark of being 'owned' (can't say I don't like owning right back though).
If I'm working and can't cover it up or if I go to classes, yeah I'd be peeved.
