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I fucked up /adv/.
Stayed over at a medium big city over summer, where I study uni. Found a flat for dirt cheap and now I'm staying over here. Last week I found a job but this saturday I went there for a try but I got fucked up because I'd work so little I wouldn't be able to even earn money for already low rent so I dumped it.
Now I'm stuck in here, without money, desperately trying to find a job. Been sending out mails to lots a different offers, went in person to one place where they hire but they told me that they should contact me by the end of the week and you know what that means.
What the fuck do I do?
Get a job at McDonald's. I did a similar thing when i moved from my home town to a big city in the U.S. places like McDonald's and starbucks hire regularly with little to no experience and have lots of patience for new employees. Any shit job is better than going hungry.
>>17326623
Yeah, gonna jump to one of local KFS's. I just always thought about these kind of jobs like fucking humiliating. I don't mind working for just a few bucks somewhere, but these kind of jobs in malls, fastfood chains and stuff just feels degrading somehow.
>>17325931
>so I dumped it.
Idiot. Even 2 hours a week is better than nothing.
You CAN work in a shit job while you're looking for a better job you know!
>>17326976
>just feels degrading somehow.
which is more important to you? Your dignity? Or the roof over your head and the food in your mouth?
Ive only been with one girl, im able to last 30 minutes effortlessly and make her orgasm over and over. If im that good at pleasing one woman will i get the same results with other women?
Some women can't orgasm from vaginal sex and many don't like sex where the penetration lasts too long.
>>17325920
Ok so those women wouldnt really bother with a sexual partner then? I am very skilled at foreplay and i stimulate the clit. Im more than willing to go down on a girl.
I love being dominative and rough and i love being hit and scratched and bruised,
I love the idea of bending a woman to my will and showing her an amazing time, making them feel good.
>>17325964
Just ask what the woman likes. If she doesn't know, just try stuff. Women who can't orgasm from vaginal sex do want sex still but you might have to lick that pussy a lot. You sound like you're doing okay, just remember to communicate with your sexual partners.
If I go up to a woman in public that looks comely and ask if they would like to have a sex act together is that harassment?
>>17325908
Depends on local laws, but basically yes. Asking strangers on the street to perform sexual acts is harassment.
Wow, how does that work? even if you're not pushy.
What if you know their name?
>>17325908
Ask a random stranger in a public space once and it isn't sexual harassment. She will most likely say no since she doesn't know you. But it's not an inappropriate setting such as a workplace and you aren't pestering her after that so it doesn't harm anyone.
Is it bad for me to break up with mu gf just because she's not that pretty?
The thing is when we were still young she was the one who made a move on me back then and I not getting any decided to just do it and after 3 years here we are and still dating. She's really nice, kind and pretty much does everything to make me happy. She cooks for me, does my laundry and forgives me even if she caught me flirting with other women. I haven't cheated on her though but I am really tempted since there are models who are way hotter than her that want me. With my job I get to meet beautiful women so thats that.
But I know she loves me very much and I even personally know her friends and parents. Even my parents love her and even expects us to be together until we die.
It's just that yeah I admit she does all my kinky fetishes in bes but still I'm afraid I imagine other hotter women when we have sex. I don't really want to hurt her feelings and personality wise she's my dream girl, just not the looks department.
Anyhow is there anything I can do /adv/?
>>17325885
Look, this was written as if you need validation, so here it comes:
Move on to someone you find attractive.
>>17325885
Stop being a faggot and appreciate what you have. Lots of us aren't lucky enough to have good women who take care of us and love us unconditionally.
Or dump her, go chase your vapid models and enjoy being a superficial chode, and let her find someone who will actually appreciate her, assuming you ripping her heart out and shitting into it so that you can get your dick wet on something a little more aesthetically pleasing doesn't cause her to an hero or something.
Nah, I bet you aren't even worth the effort of her killing herself :^)
Break up with her before you cheat on her. If you have the need to be with "hotter women" then theres nothing you can do about it.
Different people have different needs. You dont do her a favor by forcing yourself to be with her. Let her go and she will find someone who suits her better, just as you will.
Need help everyone.. This guy asked me out yesterday.. should I say yes or no? Do you find him handsom? give me opinions please!
The fuck is the point of this thread? How the fuck would anyone here know better than you if you should go out with this fuck or not?
Christ i pity him already ...
>>17325880
Well OP, do YOU find him handsom?
Idk, well, a bit yes, what do you think.?
I need to tell this story to someone and it has to be anonymously, sorry.
I was in my friend's house for a weekend alone and was going to take a shower. When I was going to the room for fresh underwear I felt stinky smell from the kitchen, which was trash. I decided to quickly take it outside the house door, I thought there was no point of getting dressed for 5 seconds the getting undressed again to take a shower. . And as I put the trash next to the door outside something most obvious happened...the door slam shut. In the last moment I throw my underwear beetwen the door to stop it from closing but it got shut anyway and my underwear stucked between it and I couldn't pull it out. I called security on the video intercom and when I got connected they instead of getting their asses up and help me, laughed at me as I was trying to open the door. They came to help me after I menaged to pull out my undies. They were fucking muslims... Few days ago I found the video on youtube: me, trying to open the door naked and them, laughing at me. It's on liveleak now and some other pages...Fucking great. What to do now?
>>17325848
> muslims
now you know.
Seriously anon wtf
>>17325848
Link to the video?
Show up at the company and show the evidence. Get them fired at least.
I'm living in another town where I don't have a personal physician and I have no clue how the system works.
Where / How do I go to get some test done?
I'm 20 with no real life experience. h-help
>>17325829
Ask friend, co-worker or neighbor for suggestion. (Even if you're not close to anyone, asking this kind of advice is a good way to break the ice and make friends.)
>>17325829
pull out your insurance information. log on to their website, and search for a nearby physician with in your plan. call that physician and explain what tests you'd like done and why. give them the information of your previous physician so they can get your medical records sent to them.
>>17325829
Just walk into a damn office and be like "I'm NEW! Gimme tests!"
Can girls be cucks?
My fwb and I are pretty close, its essentially a relationship without a label. A couple weeks ago I went to a different country for 10 days and in that country I drunkenly hooked up with a girl.
When I got back my fwb asked if I hooked up with anyone and I said "we're not discussing this" from which she inferred that yeah I did fuck a girl.
I thought it would make her jealous but she applauded me for it. That made me feel kind of weird.
Does this mean anything?
>>17325809
Cuck: watching your significant other have sex with another person
>>17325813
Well she knows I fucked another girl 2 weeks ago, wasn't phased by it and fucked me again
I'm a girl and the thought of a guy I'm sleeping with pleasing/getting pleased by some else is really hot. I've never had the opportunity to experience it, sadly.
I just need to get this off my chest
I am in a relationship thats going tough and I have both proposed and given a key to my gf so we can live together, but i have been hurt so much that right now i dont think i am willing to go through
I am falling for a girl that considers me a friend and is also having difficulties staying in a relationship that is damaging her
Am I a retard for trying to help her and tell her that while she is under stress she shouldnt be acting rash and try to work things out with her bf. I sort of know she would be happier if she finds a way to fix things with her bf
Is this what they call chivalry or am i being a gigantic faggot.
>>17325798
Grab yourself by your own collar, i believe in long relationships as i am married but getting married will most likely not make the situation any better and it can go downhill from there on if it already was though before.
Don't see what's wrong with the way you would want to help your friend, if you consider breaking up with A and tearing B out of a relationship then you might want to make sure you are still honest to B.
>>17325819
i dont think its fair to anyone to end one relationship (mind you two) just to enter a new one
you could argue that feelings are illogical but they`d motivate us to act
I would like things to cool down and then if I move on and she does too, then give it a go
>>17325836
Well that's one way to do it, what i ment was that if you do it you should win her heart with your charm and not by talking bad about her bf. I mean the later can't possibly be a good start into a serious relationship.
Maybe you could spend time with her alone and flirt and such things, see how things turn out.
Help me /adv/bros
Today I discovered that my mother was raped when she was 5. I'm so fucking pissed and sad, and i feel so bad for my mom, what can i do?
>>17325797
Be a better man everyday and help people for the sake of helping while not sacrificing your own happiness.
I mean you can fuck up whoever did it. Just do both.
>>17325797
Make her your role model, because if she got through that and had a successful life (so much so that you never suspected anything) then she is one hell of a strong woman.
Get counselling
Let me start by saying, that I'm 25 years old, and I've only had 3 sexual experience my whole life. The most recent of those experiences was 5 years ago. And I regret all of them. they were not enjoyable, and if I could go back. I would not do it again.
5 years later, I am where I am now. But, I've noticed that I seem to feel frustrated/annoyed anytime a conversation amongst a group of friends turns into sex. Or at work, when co-workers talk about girls, or even watching the National Geographic Channel last night, with their new show on Sex they are running commercials for.. It all irritates me. Like, I don't want to see sex or hear about it. I'm not even religious, so I don't know why I feel this way. But I don't want to see any of it. Yet, ironically, I fap every morning as soon as I get out of bed..
I guess I feel really confused, and I'm wondering if anyone here knows what I'm talking about.
I forgot to add, I usually feel bad after I fap.
>>17325785
Could be because you fap every morning, you probably got a routine going and in some way have no need for any sexual acts. I believe you would find a different perspective if you stop jerking off completely.
Also it just fucks you up if you masturbate everyday.
>>17325838
I've tried no fap and it did nothing but make things worse for me. I did it for 30 days, and honestly, it wasn't difficult, because my sex drive was literally non-existent. after day 2, I stopped getting boners. But my mind would race more, and I felt very depressed. fapping in the morning somewhat helps with my depression cause it spaces me out for a few hours..
My parents think that I will graduate next year, but the last time I went to university was 12 months ago. What is the best way to tell them that I actually fucked up? Or should I maybe do something else. I live with them.
>>17325765
>What is the best way to tell them that I actually fucked up?
Pretty much this. There is no good way to tell parents these things, but they WILL find out sooner or later, so you may as well give it to them straight-up.
The best thing I can think of to open the conversation is "I've done something bad, and I think I need some help". Aside from being perfectly true -you have done something bad, and you clearly do need some help- it will at least put them into a sympathetic frame of mind.
It also manages expectations. This is somewhat manipulative, but when someone tells you "I've done something bad and I think I need help", you expect to hear that they killed someone or robbed a bank or some other serious crime, and you brace for that kind of impact. When the truth comes out that you've "only" been lying to them about your college studies for a year, that's still painful, but such a softer blow than expected that it softens the blow a bit more.
That's the best shot you're going to get, I'm afraid. I'm not going to lie to you: things are going to be Not OK in the short term, once you tell them the truth. But the world will not end.
>>17325765
Make up a story how you're depressed and shit. Play the victim card. Also, how the fuck they didn't notice you haven't been going to univesity for 12 months?
>>17325805
>>17325803
That seems like a really good idea, I had something in my mind already, but I'm not sure if it is a good idea. I wanted to say stuff like I have to do a project and fake doing it, then afterwards say that I failed and have to repeat year, start faking a mental breakdown because of it and saying that I have to move to another city and start a different major which I actually want this time. My parents seem to know that something is wrong with me and my dad asked me while being drunk when I will commit suicide, but I'm not sure if this plan would be successful and it could totally backfire and fuck my whole life over, so maybe I should go the truthful road.
>>17325805
One of the major problems is that my father considers even stuff like depression as crazy, even if he is a mess mentally besides his work. And I usually just went outside riding the train from station to station or something else.
Where do I go and how do I go about finding a girlfriend? I'll try to give a background of my situation, as short as possible.
I became a NEET after highschool. I would barely make it through enough courses in university to not get kicked out, whilst spending every single day playing computer games and watching anime. I literally did not make a single friend during my university years, except online friends from playing MMO. After around 6 years, I got my shit together and actually graduated to get my degree.
I got a job afterwards, which I enjoyed. Then I worked myself to the bone for the past 4 and a half years. I'm a manager now through my honest efforts and I can be proud to say I'm actually successful in what I do, but that's only in my work life.
My social life hasn't moved an inch since my NEET days. My only 'friends' are my colleagues from work, which you can't really consider friends in the first place. Everyday consists of me working, and then going home to my video games and anime at all other times. I don't even know where to go to meet new people and I'm starting to feel really lonely seeing all the people around me getting married and having children.
I wouldn't consider myself ugly, nor am I the socially awkward type, but I just don't know where to start looking.
>>17325715
>My only 'friends' are my colleagues from work, which you can't really consider friends in the first place
There's your first problem. A lot of my friends that I have currently are people that I got along with at work. It's easy to ask someone at work "Hey wanna grab a drink after work?" Or something like that.
Talk and be friendly with everyone. If you click with a girl ask her out. Get to know her and decide if you like her for who she is (not how she looks)
Its a numbers game so all you can do is keep trying and learning from your mistakes.
>>17325723
>>17325731
I talk and try to get along with everyone I meet. But the only girls I come into contact with are my colleagues and my work clients. All the girls I click with at work already have boyfriends, and dating my clients isn't really feasible either.
I know I need to venture to other places to meet new people, but where? I've thought about nightclubs and bars, but I always consider those places are where you go to get laid, and not for a steady long term relationship.
I'm seeing a girl for almost 2 months now, and we are having sex few times a week, and going out for drinks every saturday night. We are having much fun in general. I'm full in love with her, but yesterday I asked her if she feels the same, and she responded that she really likes me and she loves to spend time with me, but she is not in love right now. She said she might fall in love with me later.
Her excuse is that she is much older than me, and she just got bad after a very bad marriage (which is true), and that she is not ready to fall in love right now. But she told me that she wants to keep seeing me and having fun with me
Is there any chance she will fall in love with me, like I do, or since it didn't happen already, it will never happen?
What kinda age difference we talkin
>>17325721
....about 20 years. I'm 22 she is 42
I know it sounds wierd, but I've always been attracted to older women. She told me that on her age, you are much more uptight (don't know if thats the right word, I'm not native english speaker), and that if we had the same age she would be madly in love with me. she told me to keep out the labels like "being in love" or "having fun" and just continue doing our thing, and wherever it leads us.
>>17325735
**told me to keep out the labels like "being in love" or "having a crush"
my bf got mad at me for no reason last night
it was 4th of July and we made plans to see fireworks/get drinks when he got out of work at 9. he called me at 8 really cranky and said he's in a bad mood and having a bad day and doesn't feel good. I asked him why and he said it was about work and he couldn't talk about it then. he texted me and said he doesn't wanna go out anymore but I could go over if I want. he was being weird and just yelling at me and taking out whatever was wrong on me so it made me worry and I kept asking him what's wrong and if it was about me and he said no and got mad and said I make everything about myself but I felt like he was mad at me since he was yelling at me and stuff.
anyway I eventually just went over at like 10, and he fell asleep right away, so I just pretty much slept with him and left in the morning. I asked him if he felt better and he said yeha but he was acting kinda weird. we also didn't have sex last night or in the morning (we usually do everytime I see him). he's asked me to hangout today and I just said yeah text me later, but I feel like he treated me bad and somethings definitely up. even on the phone j said what's wrong and he paused for like a minute and then later on the phone he sounded like e was crying..
idk what to dooo.. should I not hangout with him today so he can calm down and stuff? what could be wrong? just the day before he was acting so in love with me and making plans to for us to move in together so I'm confused
>>17325704
prob cheating on you
>>17325712
why and how would I find out? :/ I mean I really don't think he's the type of person to cheat I don't think he'd do that but I know anytnings possible
>>17325704
come on OP what did you do earlier over the weekend?
