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I have anxiety and depression. I can't keep a job mainly due to that. I'm a single father and I have my son the majority of his waking hours. We live with grandma who is an aggressive emotional old woman who won't let me parent my child without getting in the way and shitting on me about anything I do. How do I get out?
>>17327341
I really need help. I've been contemplating just offing myself.
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>>17327341
how do anxiety and depression stop you from holding a job?
you have a person that is willing to house you and be there to look after your son when you're at work and yet you're here posting on /adv/.
secure a job and income. look for a partner to share life with.
Recently my girlfriend broke up with me, but it was on good terms. She lives 180 miles away from me and we broke up because she didn't want to have a long distance relationship.
Do you think I should wait and maybe try again in the future or should I just give up? I'm shit with women and don't think I could get anyone else.
>>17327340
hit the gym and halt communication. pursue other women.
waiting around for someone that has explicitly stated that they aren't interested in a relationship with you is about as cucked as you can get.
thank me later, friend.
>>17327340
quicker you admit it is over the quicker you move on
I'm in the same situation. I texted her for a short time after and went to therapy. It's totally aggravating when you tell people that your girlfriend is 2-3 hours away and the first bit of advice is a LDR when she doesn't want one.
Move on. It's going to feel very, very slow though.
I'm 24 now and ever since I was around 16 I've had anxiety. All the general shit you'd associate with it like feeling dizzy in large crowds, being twitchy as fuck, lack of confidence, feel like you're boiling inside when trying to talk to people etc.
The worst however is any time I eat I get the sensation that I'm choking and can't breathe. This shit happens a lot especially when I try to eat meat or large meals. I went out with friends the other night for dinner and after eating only 2/3rds of the meal, which wasn't that large to begin with I felt like I couldn't breathe and was choking. The pressure then builds up and you panic and panic while trying to act like everything's normal and then make an excuse to run to the bathroom to freak out like you're dying in some stall, or you wake up in the middle of the night unable to catch a breath feeling like you're choking on phlegm.
It's honestly gotten to the point were I kinda just want to shoot myself. I literally cannot eat a fucking meal without this sensation of being unable to breathe, feeling like the food is caught in throat or chest or whatever. I've had camera tests, blood tests etc done and everything came back normal so multiple times the doc has just said it's in my head. I've tried anxiety medication and it just fucks with my head and makes me feel sick and shit.
Even when I'm sitting there telling myself it's all in my head and not real, it still fucking happens. I just had a cup of tea with a few biscuits, then spent the last half hour walking around my flat light headed to the point where I feel like fainting and any tiny amount of light feels like a flash of the sun and I get dizzy because I feel like I can't fucking breathe.
I wouldn't wish this shit on anyone but I fucking hope there's at least someone here that's had this who can offer any advice.
>>17327306
You need therapy and medication OP. CBT and an SSRI works for this for most people. They might give you some more potent meds for panic attacks until your anxiety becomes manageable. I'm dealing with this same shit right now. It can get better I promise.
You should probably look for professional help, OP.
While i struggle with anxiety myself those choking sensations sound fucking dangerous. Btw. with professional help i dont mean any more fucking doctors or any more meds, that shit obviously went nowhere.
I doubt anyone here can really help you out since we have no clue where your anxiety started and why it grew to such proportions
>>17327306
What medications did they give you?
So, this here box of 40 ore-ida bagel bites works out to about 2100 calories.
And for lunch, I had about 20 of these bagel bites.
Spend 7 hours on the computer.
Now lets say, for dinner, I had an additional 20 bagel bites.
That's 2100 calories right? So that's a healthy day of eating?
2000 is the average for men, 1800 for women. You went 100 over. If you had any liquid calories besides these bites then you're over. A diet consisting of bagel bites only would raise your blood pressure through high sodium levels and getting no potassium would keep it high.
Does it matter for 1 day? Na you're fine. But multiple days of this kind of diet would show body weakness.
>>17327316
>2000 is the average for men
>manlets
>>17327316
>>17327303
why do autists think that the "based on a 2000 calorie diet" daily amount% is somehow a benchmark/suggestion that a 2000 calorie diet is normal?
and you're spreading the "high sodium intake increases blood pressure" meme too.
it's like you get all your nutritional information from your fucking mom.
Soon I'll tell some random girls to slap me hard.
How would you assess the chance that they will do it?
>>17327295
just make some T-shirt captioned SLAP ME and grab some random girls ass
if you want it to be from someone you know just ask her politely, might be working a lot of easier if she's drunk
If you're ugly and you make it sexual, she probably won't do it.
If you're attractive and it's for fun, she'll slap you immediately without hesitation
Any chance to get into Hollywood/L.A. Business?
>>17327262
Easiest way is doing support stuff background stuff. Getting coffee's and stuff
Ohh ook I get it
I just jerked off 4 times before class.
How do I not be a piece of shit?
>>17327234
Stop jerking off so much.
Go a few days without it. Occupy your time with something more productive like studying or learning how to play an instrument.
If you do it a lot it will fuck with your brain's internal reward system and leave you feeling shitty.
>>17327252
Not OP, but how much is too much? Is 1-2 times daily going to fuck with my head?
Does nofap work?
Bumping/hijacking thread.
So I had a fwb I was seeing for a while who was in an open relationship; I'm gay he's bi. We agreed when his fiancee came back it'd end. I was in it for the sex, but he wanted to spend our time doing domestic things like doing laundry, grocery shopping, taking long walks, going out to restaurants. At one point he told me he loved me and I said it back. He pretty much ended up dating me which was not part of the open part of their relationship.
He said we could keep being friends even when she came back, but the first time we hung out alone he kissed me goodbye when i was leaving.
I moved in with him and his fiancee and we've been living together for a month. Their relationship is shit and everything I know about him tells me he won't break up with her.
I'm thinking about writing him a letter telling him I fell in love with him, and that his relationship with her is bad for him.
Should I do it? What should I say? How do I give it to him so no one else sees it?
I move out in a couple of days so if I need to I never have to see them again. I think he'd be happier with me but I also think he'd just be happier with not her.
>>17327214
woof i remember reading about this before i think a month ago or something but its certainly changed a bit since then.
dont bother with the letter.
just tell him. tell him you want him to leave with you and start a new adventure together. you want to be his and you want him to be yours.
thats all you can do. if he agrees, yay. if not, you start a new adventure and get him out of your life.
>>17327214
You saw their interactions when you where a third wheel. People act differently when they are alone as a couple.
>>17327214
You won't win with pussy, anon. Sounds like he used you for sex and a tampon for emotional needs without taking the thing seriously, and you stupidly let him. In my opinion writing a letter will only scare/disgust/burden him down. If you two were already kinda dating and he still got together with his girl, it means that he rejected you.
I live in the southeastern USA and I'm currently in school to become a paramedic.
Should I go for an EMS job or be an ER technician in a hospital? Can any EMTs tell me about their experiences in these fields and the pros/cons of both?
>>17327205
Im not one but i hear EMT's make shit pay for a lot of work and stress.
>>17327239
In my city they actually make pretty decent money. $20-$30/hr depending on who you work for.
Are you in school to be a paramedic or are you just getting your EMT-B? There's a big difference
anyone done a vasectomy? I'm thinking about it but i'm curious how it affects you.. i read you can get chronic pain and lose your sex drive.
scared about the "surgery" too, i don't like the idea of being cut open while you're awake.
so if anyone has done it, please share your stories.
My dad got a vasectomy. It was a rather quick procedure and it's effective. He was a bit sore for a couple of days, but after some bedrest and proper care he hasn't had a problem with it.
Research says that vasectomy increases the likely hood of prostrate cancer in men
I just took a drug test for a job, but used my friends piss because I smoke a lot of weed. It showed up positive for amphetamines, and being a retard, when she asked if I took adhd medication I told her "yes" and now I have to come up with a prescription or I won't pass. Am I fucked? What happens if I don't give them a prescription? Could the law get involved?
>Could the law get involved?
No. But you're not gonna get the job.
lmao just ghost them, man
you already fucked up twice
>i am retard: the thread
Girl from Australia here. I picked German as a foreign language tot study as I chat a lot with a guy I have met online and I thought it would hence be easier to learn German (I thought being able to speak another language fluently was cool and German is widely spoken). We met via a common interest in Game of Thrones. I later had the opportunity to fly to Germany and when the question of meeting irl arose he started acting in a strange manner (eg. clean Facebook, wanting to bring a brother to our meeting when I have never talker to him or see photos of him, never confirming our itnierary etc. I cancaled our meeting.
After traveling to Germany, I fell in love with German culture. Used to dislike it as all I knew about it was WW2.
Is it ok if I share this story with others as just an interesting wtf-tier story? Is it ok if I share it with acquaintances, my German teacher, the German coworkers at this German company where I am working part-time, etc? Will I be judged for it?
>>17327168
We already had this some days ago.
I don't see why it would be relevant to anything.
>>17327174
What if someone asks why you can speak so much German though?
Anyway, can I just share this as some wtf story to kill time or small talk? I suck at small talk. Will I be judged for it?
How do I combat my tendency to mentally tune out and become quiet when meeting people? Makes me really awful at first dates, flirting.
I think it's my brain's response to anxiety. Sometimes it even happens with close friends and family if I've been feeling stressed.
>>17327144
unless you want to warn them and ask them to reign you in, its up to you. you can set your phone to give off an alarm very ten minutes to 'snap you out' ofi t and remind yourself to stop being like that. but ultimately its up to you to will yourself to focus
>>17327144
You could try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Some people recommend throwing yourself into the deep end but I recommend taking it slow. Go to places that make you uncomfortable, Maybe talk to your friends and family about it and ask them to help you. My doc told me to distract myself from the situation. It helps a little bit for me.
>>17327144
Have you tried having some alcohol? Too much will make it obvious but having just one or two beers might make you talk a little bit more, even if it's about random bullshit.
I just started a new job yesterday working in an office of about 12 people most of them girls quite a few around my age (22).
So today with about 30 minutes left the lady manager (she must be in her 40s) who employed me wanted to have a catch up with me. I told her how I was finding it and what I've learned so far. She was like yeah great now there's just one issue I need to discuss with you and it's a bit difficult. She was beating around the bush so I just told her to say it and she said it was my hygiene. that I basically have bad B O and she can smell it and it's not nice to have to be around and I'm just going to drive away my colleagues with it. She said it offends her and she didn't know if anybody else had ever mentioned it to me, I said no because nobody ever had. She asked if I had a girlfriend as well, to which I said no and she gave me a weird look. She said if this continues she'll have to go a more formal route about it and it could lead to a dismissal and that she expects to see some immediate improvement tomorrow.
She let me finish immediately after this meeting, and I drove into the middle of nowhere and cried like a little bitch to be honest because I wake up early, shower, shave, use shower gel, use deodorant, aftershave, brush my teeth, even went in with chewing gum today. I do absolutely everything I fucking can to take care of myself, and to be told all that, especially in the offensive and hurtful way she was saying it to me was really painful. It hurt the most because I've already done everything I can possibly think of to stop it. It's a hot office with no air conditioning only windows, and I'm doing a job I have no experience in being forced into really awkward situations with pretty girls my age that I don't know and I have very bad anxiety.I don't know what to do.
I'm going to lose this job because of this and I feel like I'm trapped.
I'm miserable at this job already and am fucking dreading going in tomorrow. What should I do.
>>17327113
Cry about it, or get a new job. It aint the end of the world, jesus.
>>17327113
>buy deodorant + antiperspirant. Probably the aerosol kind
>slather that shit on every part of yourself from your neck down
Godspeed homie
>>17327113
There's one of two things going on here. Either you've got a legitimate condition no one has ever noticed before or you're lying about your hygiene which, again, no one has ever brought up to you before. Do you actually not hang out with people outside of work? Surely SOMEONE would have said something by now if you actually smell bad. I find it difficult to believe this is something your boss is just making up.
I'm a normal guy who doesn't have problems with girls. I've met this girl and we start talking and shit... Last week we make "sex", but I cum in less than 1 minute. Other day, I wasn't able to cum. In my faps the cum comes soon too. I'm stopping with porn and masturbating with a death grip. I think I have this problem because I do kegels almost all day long, in fap too. How can I cure this shit? I'm becoming sick. Sorry my terrible English.
>>17327088
A bump for you my friend.
>>17327465
Thanks. Anyone?
Has this ever happened before with other women or is this a new experience for you?
