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I was wondering why tall women, 5'10 and above, tend to turn lesbian? Are men unwilling to date a girl taller than them? Or is it women unwilling to date a man shorter than they are? Is it because tall women are encouraged to participate in sports in school more so than "normal girls" that that leads them to get in relationships with other tall women? I saw this yesterday at a bar these beautiful white and black girls both together holding hands. I can't stop obsessing over it and need to know. My best guess is that these tall women kind of have their own social groups and tend to maybe hang out with each other more than they do with other people. Am I wrong? What leads to these kind of lesbian relationships?
idk, but I noticed there are a lot of tall gay men. Maybe it's natures way of keeping them from procreating.
>make unfounded, dumb observation
>treat it as fact
Summer.
>>17329186
No look at the wnba not just the couple I saw
How do I convince my gf to let me put food in her vag?
>>17329010
that's not safe for her vagoo
Please guys it's my biggest fetish
>>17329021
How bad can it be for her vagoo
It's not like it's poo
What do I say guys....i mean she's wrong but..
send her a dick pic, that will prove your intentions. Actions not words op
>>17328991
This. Make sure you're erect.
"Thinking of you"
>>17328986
tell her she's wrong about that and be straightforward about your wants.
I don't know how to deal with my sexual complexes. This is going to be long and autistic, but I want to get it off my chest.
I know how it originates: I was depressed when adolescence came on, and I refused to even think that I'd ever get laid. This led me to getting way into porn about sexual denial, since it fed into that: chastity porn, femdom, etc. Despite my dumb ass, I wound up having my first kiss at 16, which felt pretty typical.
I'd later go on to have some girl realllly go for me at a party a year later, but I was too nervous to get hard. I kissed a couple girls in-between then and 20, but nothing much really. One girl I went on a date with at 19 kissed very oddly, with her mouth closed and just sort of rubbing lips together. At the time I had done so little and still had such bad self confidence that I assumed *I* was doing things wrong, and felt ashamed and awkward about it. Remember, all this time I'm still jerking off to the chastity shit I mentioned earlier.
At 20 I got an active dating life, if not quite sex life. I enjoyed a great deal of dates and felt sexy just knowing girls wanted to go on a date with me. I was still incredibly nervous initiating anything, and I realized that I never really initiated kissing except with a clumsy and nervous question like "would you like to," etc. Nothing ever went anywhere. I met a girl who was way into me and we saw each other for a few months, but that was only ever kissing and oral. (Continued ... )
So here's why I bring up kissing constantly - I feel like I've forgotten/can't do it anymore. Here comes the most autistic description of kissing you've ever read: take your pointer finger and thumb together in both hands. Interlock them with each other. That's the bare basics of how I kiss, but it feels like everyone kisses with tongue, and I just don't understand how to do that/think about it. I just sort of massage the girls lips with mine (I warned you about that autism) and switch between upper and lower lip, angle, etc. I know I used to kiss with tongue, that's how I remember the first kiss I had, but now it's all too complex. I can't visualize doing it. The last two girls I've seen have laughed under their breath upon kissing me like something was wrong or it was funny that things weren't lining up right. It's killing me.
The other thing that's killing me is that I still don't see myself sleeping with someone. I don't watch porn ever really, though I've been trying to make myself so I have a better visual idea of what sex looks like. But I don't find the old femdom/chastity shit I was into arousing anymore either, because it has fully sunk in that it was only ever a coping mechanism made by my adolescent brain since I assumed I'd never get laid then. Looking at it now depresses me, yet I'm not used to jerking off to anything else.
It's all so frustrating. I'm 22, and even though I have a better "sex life" than most /r9k/rs, I feel like I've complicated things in my brain so much more. I'm scared of never being able to get "good" at kissing again, and because that's the first thing you do intimately, that I'll never find love since girls will just notice I'm a bad kisser on date 1/2 and move on. Fucking help me, what do I do?
Bump in the vain hope that someone's willing to read all this shit.
Everyone is bad at kissing at first and while it may be a turn off for a one night stand it shouldn't be a deal breaker for a relationship/someone who likes you already. Some girls get off on breaking in inexperienced guys. First step is to stop worrying. There are 7 billion people in the world and someone will be into you eventually.
Now I'll describe tongue kissing in depth for you. Kissing is just locking lips together any way it feels good. Imagine you're gently taking a bite out of her lips with out using your teeth or tongue. Just lips. Practice taking a bite out of your finger nibbling that way. Like a horse reaching for an Apple.
Tongue should generally never go OUTSIDE her mouth. The simplest way to put it is just to rub the tip of your tongue on the tip of hers, Like two fingers touching. Don't go outside her mouth as it's gross and wet. Don't go reaching for her tonsils or teeth. Find her tongue in her mouth and flick tips with it slowly, circling it.
Generally that should work until you find techniques you like more. This is a very safe and common way to kiss that won't be that special but won't get you laughed at while you figure out what you're doing.
Also Google it online. There are tons of videos
This is a virgin-ass question as I've ever asked
What the fuck do you do about the mess when you ejaculate during secondary sex acts? My girlfriend is hesitant to give handjobs/blowjobs/etc. because of it. I tell her we'll just wash the damn sheets but she still won't do it.
you put down plastic
>>17328927
I feel that I am being memed at
>>17328924
Im not sure OP.
My gf likes it on her face. And its actually good for the skin, which is one of reasons why. But mostly she thinks its very intimate and sexy.But I always ask before hand anyway.
I assume its at here place right?
Just do it at your place as Im sure you dont give a fuck about the sheets n shit
So, I went out into my backyard yesterday to throw something in my green organics bin and there was a sort of a sharp piece on the handle that pierced my skin. It was small like a needle.
I've seen raccoons and other animals near my green bin in the past.
Do I need to worry that I may have caught a virus or something (like rabies for example)?
Bumpity bump
If you cleaned it with rubbing alcohol in the first 3 minutes you're probably alright. Otherwise you'll need to get tested
I just wasged my hands with soap. With dish soap first then with regualr soap. How do you get tested for rabies?
Mental illness may be too severe but who knows.
>can tell when my parents have had a fight, since she'll make faces or glare at him when he's not looking
>always has a special exaggerated voice when she is quoting my father
>will slam the dishes as she washes them if angry
>hates having people over, refuses to help my father host in any way, e.g. not even asking guests if they want water
>very deep, deep hatred for my stepsister and nieces, will get angry if my father even talks to them on the phone
>complains about shit like people looking into our windows any time someone is near the house, or dust falling from the ceiling because people above us are walking too hard
>retarded superstitious beliefs like cold water being bad for you, microwaves being dangerous, eschewing medicine whenever possible, etc.
>is nice only to me, complains about or just hates anyone else
Obviously, consulting a psychiatrist is not an option. I'm just curious, really, if her behavior rings any bells.
>>17328853
What is that photo?
>>17328865
It's a bald guy.
>>17328865
>>17328853
His head blended in.
I honestly didnt know what I was looking at for a second kek
Where can me and my girlfriend have sex?
we both can't do it in our houses and we don't have cars to borrow
Love you /adv/ <3
Friend's house, hotel, the woods, in a bush. Or just not at all if you can't manage to somehow find somewhere to fuck.
>>17328803
Since you two are obviously underage, your only options are sneaking over or renting a motel room. Don't forget a condom.
>>17328815
I don't think motels rent to people under 21 or something, I'm 20
Is it easy to get something you want prescribed? I have a pretty bad anxiety/panic attack disorder but I heard the side effects on the non-controlled substance anxiety medications can be pretty bad and I'm more familiar with Xanax than any of that or klonopin.
If I tell my doctor about anxiety will he perceive me shit pills? If I ask for Xanax specifically am I fucked?
Are you a doctor? If not, you don't know what medication you should be on.
>>17328775
But I have anxiety and it's for anxiety
>>17328786
It's not up to you to decide what medication you should be on, if at all
>been going to a women's group for quite some time
>very informative meetings, learn a lot of very interesting things
>we're encouraged to bring friends along
>bring my best friend who I've known for years
>she seems bored during the meeting
>at one point pops in headphones and starts playing a fighting game on her laptop
>other people in the room start staring at her
>one girl pops out her ear bud and asks"is there something wrong?"
>friend says this is stupid and shes bored so shes playing video games
>I get super embarrassed
>other girls start trying to talk to her about various issues
>she says "this is really stupid, pointless shit, I'm going back to my game, you people discuss your dumb shit and tell me when I can go home."
>room stunned.
>she gets banned
>I get banned for bringing her and associating with her
>I try to tell her how this makes me feel.
>she just shrugs and says "I'm doing you a favor."
>we then get into a fight...
>she seems unphased
>finally says "If you're gonna be a douche about all this, don't bother talking to me anymore."
>she walks home...
I am really pissed off at her, she refuses to apologize and has even gone far enough as to delete me off of facebook... how do I get her to see she is in the wrong.
>>17328724
She's a bitch that hates women, be glad that she's gone and find a new group and a better friend.
You can't - just move on, and in the future, don't try to force people to do things they're clearly not interested in.
What kind of "meetings"?
I need help kicking a habit.
My inability to socialize in this new city I moved to has led me to have no friends and especially no significant other. Outside of work with people 40+ years older than me, I barely speak to anyone.
I have low self confidence in my looks and I am very afraid of even one person disliking me for any reason. I decided to create a second facebook account with hundreds of photos of hot guys posing as myself. I made sure these guys all looked extremely similar enough that they could pass as the same person. I took up a fake name and started to friend random women on this account. I started to flirt immediately by messaging them. By not being myself, I felt like I was finally able to flirt with someone. Coupled with the photos of extremely hot men, a lot of women actually started talking to me as well. Originally I was using this just as a way to talk to women sexually so I could jack-off to something that wasn't porn.
A few girls continue to talk to me and even like me. I always tell them that I can never meet them because I am doing some sort of job that keeps my communication only through text.
I created this profile because it almost doesn't feel real how easy it is to flirt with women since I am disguised as a good looking man. I have pure confidence when I pose as this person. I thought there were no repercussions, until I realized I was playing with these girl's emotions. These girls were actually falling for this "character" I put on and sometimes I started to fall for the girl as well.
I need to stop this habit. I need to stop talking to these girls and stop doing this. This can't be healthy. Any advice?
Yeah, posing as someone else isn't happy. Realize that you identified a potential solution to your self confidence problem.
Try to figure out what makes these pictures of hot guys well, "hot". Then make your best strides to become like them. Realize what flaws you think you may have and work on them and try and fix them.
Basic go to advice that works with everyone:
1. Sleep more
2. Excercise more (go the gym, get /fit/)
3. Eat healthy
4. Get /fa/
5. Be more social, literally just talk to people
Use that as a starting point then as you go on more and more nuances about yourself will reveal themselves and then you can focus on improving those individual quirks that you deem undesirable.
Don't give up your own personal self image in this process though. Be yourself. Just be a better version of yourself that you know you can be~
I'm going to let you in on a fuckin secret dude.
You are that man. The man that was hitting up those chicks like a pro? That was you dude.
Yeah, being a very handsome guy will give you an easier time getting casual sex and easier time getting those first dates but it doesn't make those things impossible if you're an average joe.
Here's my advice man, walk into a women's salon, yep, a women's salon, and sit down for a haircut and ask a few of the hairdressers or even customers how you could best style yourself. If you are asking honestly and seriously, these women will answer you honestly and seriously. Trust me on that.
What you might think is your best option could be the reason you're not confident in your looks. For some people all it takes is a change in haircut or growing/shaving facial hair or just a simple change in clothing to really change their own perception of themselves and even other's.
Change something up if you have to, just always remember you CAN find women to date if you turn that fantasy persona into your reality persona.
Best of luck my friend, you suave son of a bitch.
>>17328715
walk into a women's salon
Isn't this insanely creepy?
For those of you who experience marijuana withdrawal symptoms, do you have any advice on how to deal with the constantly sweating?
I'm stepping down my weed usage and the most diabolical symptom I experience is constant sweating. All day. Every day. Hungry? Sweat. Move at all? Sweat. Sit there doing nothing? Sweat.
I can deal with the insomnia cycling for months. I can deal with the violent mood swings. I can deal with everything..... except that god damn sweating. I go to work suited and booted. Sweating.... in 90 degree weather.... in a suit... with weed withdrawals is pure torture.
Also, yes, a small percentage of chronic weed smokers experience actual withdrawals. 50% of chronic users experience withdrawals at all. 9% experience what people think of when a person says "withdrawals."
Lucky 9%, reporting in.
bumping for weed advice
Depends on how long you smoked for, how much volume you smoked, how quick your metabolism is, and how long ago you quit.
Someone who runs every day and smokes once a week is going to get over it much quicker than a sedentary person who smokes all day every day.
That being said symptoms shouldn't last more than a week in most cases.
Just power through. I quit drinking(fifth whiskey/day) cold turkey and just got over it. Mind you I'm only 23, so I could bounce back better than someone who is much older.
Try exercising a bit. Take a bath and put a towel over your body. Smoke a cigarette if you have to. Just don't think on it too much.
Don't know what to do. My ex and I have been apart 4 months she knows I have feelings for her as we've openly talked about it. I'm the one that ended it with her but it was a huge mistake on my part and I recognise now that my depression made me a a really horrible person.
The past 3 weeks I have been attempting to be friendly with her and sending casual texts she usually responds one worded or is evasive. 2 hours ago I decided I needed to explain everything so I text her "Hey anon I really need to talk to you about something is it ok if I send you a long text" it's been two hours and nothing? I'm going crazy at this point overthinking that she is with a guy or hated me.
How do I approach this? Do I just call? If she does reply do I ask to talk in person? If she takes hours to respond and only responds one worded is she uninterested or just hurt?
Wat do?
You broke up with her. She probably doesn't want to talk to you, it's time to face reality she has moved on. You need to move on to and get on with your life. The relationship is over and sending her unwanted texts will not get you back together with her.
>>17328567
>I have depression and ruined my relationship
>I'm lonely now and have regrets, so I'll be friendly to her to trick her to come back to me
>Except I still have depression, because it's clinical problem, not something I can pretend isn't there
>And I'll just fuck up again and hurt her more because I'm selfish
Nice, OP
If she only sends one word replies, she doesn't want you.
So on my no fap journey I discovered an unpathachable loophole in the anti porn fire wall.
Now the battlefield has moved into my mind, agaist porn and I know what I need to win.
What is something that OP can do to get rid of the craving when ever OP has the urge? Running, cold bath/shower, any shit is an option and nothing is too far (except for no computer and penal injury)
Please assist a man on his journey to the nofap Utpoia.
During my months of nofap, I felt energetic as fuck - so it's kinda hard to do at first, but just keep DOING shit, keep fucking moving and put your mind into something
It could be exercise, brushing your teeth (its almost the same motion), playing videogames, programming, music, schoolwork, reading, whatever
Once you get into the groove, you'll be occupied and feel good. You'll tell yourself, "Fuck, I'm too busy to fap".
>>17328477
As soon as you have the urge, immediately drop and start doing pushups
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36InqL2FhC4
I watched this video a little while back. He takes awhile to get going, but eventually he gets to the methods.
Here's a clifnotes version for you:
1. Get out of the house, somewhere social
2. Breathe walking
3. Channel energy to third eye chakra
4. Cold shower 5 mins, man up. Jump in.
5. Just till tomorrow method
6. 50 push ups on the spot
7. Internal dialogue "What do you want?"
He obviously goes into more detail.
A little bit of information I learned about fapping that was kind of interesting to me was that it supposedly uses nutrients from your body to produce sperm. So essentially you're using up your Vitamin C and other vitamins and shit in your body each time you cum, so you're sort of depleting those nutrients from your body.
I know personally that I'm already really deficient a lot of vitamins and nutrients because I don't eat healthy or engage in healthy activities, go outside etc. The thought that on top of that I'm fapping and fapping it depleting those vitamins and nutrients hit home with me for whatever reason. Maybe that will have the same effect on you and give more motivation to resist that urge to fap.
Good luck, anon. I set out on the myself to do a 90 day no fap and failed after a week or so. I'm back on it again and hope to see it through this time.
Can you guys tell me what the fuck I'm doing wrong? And don't send me to the robots because I'm not that hopeless.
I've come so fucking close to losing my virginity too many times that I just fucking give up. I think this is God telling me it's impossible. I'm not even fucking mad at this point. I'm just going to start being religious again and start masturbating more to stop wasting my fucking time thinking about getting my dick wet.
> be me, 17 years old
> started art school in vancouver
> stopped being religious
> first goal was losing my virginity
> first week of uni
> start smoking weed with a chill asian girl
> one day we're stoned and alone in my apartment
> it's dark in the room
> we're both lying on my bed and listening to music
> couldthisbe.jpeg
> friend knocks on door and I tell him about her
> says "she wants to have sex with you"
> gets me a condom
> i go back and lie on the bed
> try to get things started
> shit doesn't go anywhere
> we both sleep in my bed that night
> second week of uni
> meet another asian chick
> petite as fuck
> weeb but idc
> talk my way into her apartment
> we're alone on the couch
> flirting and touching
> get close to her and go for the kiss
> we make out for a few minutes
> thatwentwell.jpeg
> say bye and go home
> texting her later in the week
> she replies really slowly and she's awkward as fuck about the whole thing
> wants relationship
> fuck that
> lose interest and stop texting her
> years go by
> be 21 years old
> more confident
> better sense of humor
> better social skills
> completely beat my anxiety
> still a virgin
> start using tinder
> make stupid puns and jokes
> getting matches and some numbers
> match with black chick
> she lives a 1 minute walk away
> comes over to my place
> watch american pie
> start making out
> take off her top
> see real tits for the first time
> thisisdefinitelyit.jpeg
> suck her tits
> make her moan and her back arches
> do this for 20 minutes
> she's still enjoying it
> try taking off her yoga pants 4 times
> she pulls them back on every time
> she still wants to make out
> this isn't so bad
> maybe she's on her period
> maybe next time
> cuddling until movie finished
> she goes home
> this is progress, right?
> one week later
> she comes over again
> exact same fucking shit happens again
> won't let me take off her pants
> fuck this shit
> tell her I need to sleep early
> she awkwardly leaves
> won't be texting her ass again
> meet another girl on tinder
> smoke weed and chill
> smooth conversation for hours
> we're laughing a lot and talking about sex
> lie about the girls I fucked
> she wants to go to my place to chill
> we sit on the couch
> listening to music
> thisfeelsfamiliar.jpeg
> put my arm around her
> she says "I don't do hookups on the first date"
> play it off cool
> chill for the rest of the night till she goes home
> one week later
> smoke weed again and watch a movie at my place
> realise I made a chill friend
> we make plans to do more drugs together
> still haven't lost my virginity
> last week
> match with 18 year old girl on tinder
> pun game is strong
> get her number
> invite her to my place
> says yes
> the day comes
> everything going good
> stops replying at the last minute
> yesterday
> match with another 18 year old girl
> make a corny joke and immediately get her number
> she's really down to come over to my place
> also bails at the last minute
I've fucking had it with these bitches I'm probably going to be a wizard soon enough.
Any thoughts or advice?
>>17328407
Damn, can you even be mad? If you don't want a relationship and you just wanna fuck, that's cool. I don't see where your problem comes in, though. Your stories were kind of vague, but it looks like the issues were just with the girls, like they didn't want it just because. I don't think you failed because you did anything wrong. Just keep doing what you're doing, and try as many girls as possible.
If you think your game is weak, though, elaborate.
