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I should probably break up with my boyfriend but I can't seem to do it because I am still fully in love with him.
He has a selfish, aggressive side that comes out every once and while. He's aware of it and he feels guilty when he acts out but it still keeps coming out and doesn't look like its getting better.
But sometimes I wonder, what if I throw this relationship away before it does finally get better? Then I would miss out. I guess I feel like he puts in the effort to change, but its just not enough, or maybe I'm just not patient enough?
What...
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I'm in the same boat as you
Boyfriend is super needy as I have a life as well as him.
I say wait a bit longer and if you don't want this for the rest of your life then don't settle.
Does he really love you? Think about that to
>>17330287
Do not settle. If the problems can't be talked through and worked out, then jump into the lifeboat and don't look back. A relationship shouldn't be a prison, regardless of how you feel. If you stay, you might end up never leaving because you'll keep saying "but what if it changes?" and it'll never change.
Get out sweetie, while you still can.
>>17330287
>what if I throw this relationship away before it does finally get better?
Do you have any idea why he's that way? Is it because he considers himself a failure? You can only help him so far.
>9am
>mom is passed out on the couch with an empty wine glass in her hands
>tired as fuck, want to make coffee
>have to grind beans with a loudass manual grinder
>don't want to wake up mom
>want to start my day but can't function without coffee
What do?
Make your coffee. Your mom's fault for getting drunk on the couch instead of her own bed.
I say this as someone who loves their mother more than anyone. But she's still human and time can't stop for her.
>>17330227
Unless you're paying rent, go buy a coffee.
Also, either go to bed earlier learn to function without coffee.
>>17330237
Thanks anon, I took your advice and managed to not wake her.
Unfortunately this is a daily occurrence.
>>17330266
>implying I have income
>implying I don't live in a rural area miles away from any shops
>implying caffeine withdrawal doesn't exist
I promised my SO that I would try meds in order to help stabilize our relationship. I just called to make the appointment after 2 days of worrying about what I'd say over the phone. I left a voicemail. I am terrified of the numbness that might happen when I start the pills. I'm scared that I will stop feeling anything at all. But that also might be a relief - to stop being scared and depressed all the time. I know that I will off myself soon if these don't work out. I know that if they do, I will stop loving.
What gender are you?
>>17330203
Whatever it is that you need the meds for, it is almost always the case that there are 2 or 3 different meds for every condition. Your doctor will prescribe the one most likely to help, but if it has bad side effects, you can ask him to switch you to another.
Female
Oi guys I started a youtube channel, my friends and I are going to roasting famous people making funny cringeworthy skits and other stuff during the summer. Now my question is , What can I do to get the ball rolling and get subs and views? this is our first video, tell me what you think. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wASpW38ukXA
Pic related, we roasted this kid that be doing musical.lys
Kys
>>17330189
Jesus fucking christ
>>17330211
is that a good jesus fucking christ or a bad one?
So for the last 3 weeks my bf of a year and a half has been acting really different. Before he was playing games with me, trying to find things for us to do together, inviting me to places with his senpai but now he doesnt do any of that. He doesn't even really talk to me anymore.
At the beginning of June he invited me to Austin with his family and we're leaving in two weeks, but I don't think he wants me to go with him anymore. I really want to ask him if he's cheating on me or talking to other girls but the last time I did that he got VERY offended...
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Lmao inviting me to places with his family**
How did I type in senpai? Weird
>>17330178
Well, did you found a games to play with him, did you try to do things together with him, did you invite him with you to places with your senpai? do you start conversations and provide interesting topics other than gossiping and state of your relationship? Maybe he is bored with you, maybe he is goind through some heavy stuff he don't want to tell you.
Asking "what's the matter, can I help you in anything" in least bitchy way, would be a start. You could read much from his reactions. If...
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>>17330241
Yeah 3+ weeks ago he was crying and telling me how much I meant to him
After that he just distanced himself and now I just think he was playing with my emotions.
Hello /adv/
My sister has MS (multiple sclerosis).
She's a stuck up cunt, even though everyone helps her as much as possible, and she refuses to drink anything other than coffee.
She drinks 2 glasses of coffee, and one cup of water daily.
Is it advisable to drink that much coffee daily, and in such a ratio with water? How long until she fucks something up with that type of diet?
Thanks in advance.
>>17330170
There are people out there who drink a dozen or more coffees a day.
>>17330205
I drink like 6 to 8 daily, stop being a faggot op, you also couldve googled it instead of littering this board with more bullshit
>>17330228
>I drink like 6 to 8 daily
And you're browsing 4chan.
Clearly not a normal person.
i don't trust my boyfriend fully...
idk what to do. I worry a lot about what my bf is doing, wonder if he texts girls, flirts with girls when hes out, etc. this is mainly bc hes confessed to lying to me, in the beginning of our relationship a year ago- he said he lied about hanging out with his friends girlfirends friends (didn't tell me about it), and deleted texts from girls in his phone bc he didn't want me to take it the wrong way. he had screenshots of his best friends ex girlfriend pics that she snapped him (a selfie with a silly face that said 'me...
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Do it after the vacation, but make him pay for everything
Just do what my shitty fucking bf is doing to me at, ignore him and get more and more distant and deliberately make it obvious that you're talking to other guys
If he's lying to you about talking to girls n shit you shouldn't trust him
>>17330191
yeah. I don't trust him. but he blames it on me, making me seem like a bad person "well its bc YOU don't trust me!"
hwo does ur bf make it obvious hes talking to girls o_0
-I mean he "sleeps" ALL THE TIME. like that at this point I don't really believe him that HE ALWAYS SLEEPING... he disappears for THE WHOLE DAY sometimes I wont hear from him till 9pm. I finally got on his ass about it and all the sudden hes awake in the morning, but usually doing stuff with friends.....
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>>17330191
alsooo lol I so would do that but I would feel kinda bad if we went on vaca and I made him pay for it then dump him.. like I'm not a shitty person, but I'm not ready to break up with him yet...but I also don't wanna take pics of us on vacatin bc idk if I see a future with him anymore.... and I don't want that stuff on my social media
-honestly, I should have broke up with him when he confessed to lying to me about all that stuff a year ago. idk what I did
I've been with my gf for almost 3 years now. First serious and long relationship I've had. We lost our virginity together. At first we had a very mutually strong bond and were very happy. But as time went on I slowly found myself losing this feeling. We still talk and hang out all the time. The constant contact doesn't help things for me usually. But she gets very clingy and will guilt me when I'm not around for too long.
Sometimes we genuinely do have fun hanging out but that's just doing things that are non romantic. I don't feel any spark...
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Take more time for yourself so you actually look forward to seeing her.
>>17330195
I have before and for a time that worked but I still don't feel too much.
She has even said she feels like she misses me more than I her and it's true sadly
The same thing happened to me, except that i'm male and i was the one who got dumped.
It's almost exactly the same thing, we began long distance, eventually got closer, i loved her very much but she didn't feel the same for me and eventually ended it all.
It was extremely painful, i was depressed for months, it hurts A LOT, but, in the end i realized one thing, the longer a dead relationship gets dragged on, worse the break-up is and more it's gonna hurt for one or both parties.
If it's not working out, end it, life is too short...
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im working in a factory and its dull as fuck and monoton what can i do to make time go faster or make it interesting?
Go watch "Dancer in the Dark" if you're stuck and can't quit your job
or hang out on /biz/, learn how to make money, start a business, and live the life
Earphones
Learn to use music to help pass the monotonous droning that makes days feel slow and long
>>17330168
i can't its against the rules
I have something that looks like a pimple at the root of my penis and I tried to squezee it but it hurts like hell and it wouldn't pop...
Does anyone know what it is?
Should I go to the doctor?
I can post pic if it helps
Sounds like an infected hair follicle. It'll hurt for a bit but if you let it be it should clear up in a week or so
>>17330162
Thanks man
>>17330137
It might be snoo.
I can't find any women I'm actually even remotely interested in. It's not so much about attractiveness (though I do have kinda high standards), but mainly that when I talk to the majority of girls all they can talk about is their jobs and stories of their basic ass friends. It's just so boring. I want to find a girl I can talk to about philosophy and science and life, not work and partying. But I simply cannot find any, whether I'm at uni or on tinder, or in a club or a café... Do you guys have any tips on where I can meet these kinds of women? I just...
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Good fucking luck.
You don't need a woman to be happy.
1) Hang out in libraries
2) Talk to a lot of girls
You'll find her in the next 4 months if you're persistent
How do you know if a women is serious about you or thinks of you as a fall back plan? dating a women atm but she sometimes say stuff like "i might never find love until im like 40". i dont know if i am just being insecure, and this is typical behavior by women. thanks.
>>17330092
bump
>>17330108
>4 minute bump
Lel
Also women do have plan b,c,d,e,f guys
She's making it very clear she doesn't love you so don't be a dummy and fall for her. If you had attractive girls hitting on you regularly like boys do to her, you wouldn't be iooking at her as the clear #1 either bc you'd have lots of good options that are constantly coming up
Does my ex want me back/should I pursue this?
I was with this girl from 9th grade through till we started college. 4ish years. We ended up going to the same college, though we would have gone to it separately if we'd heard about it. We didn't get together much after college started because we were both caught up in the novelty of hanging out with new people, and we were already at the point where we were comfortable spending some time apart.
Later she started showing less affection, and eventually broke up with me and started dating someone new. Now that I look back I suspect cheating, but I never asked. It was a really bad breakup, happened in October.
I cut off contact in October and didn't even want to text again until sometime in April. I had a nice little mutual rebound relationship from November to March.
I think the breakup was much needed, and I've improved a lot as a person and made tons of friends that I probably wouldn't otherwise have made. The rebound didn't work out in the end but I learned a bit more about how relationships should work.
We texted once in April and it's been radio silence from then until 3ish weeks ago when she texts me about a souvenir I gave her and an inside joke about it.
If she's grown and changed like I have in this first year of college then I'd consider getting back with her, and if I'm reading her right, she's thinking the same. Pic is some subtle evidence, supported further by the amount of time we spend texting. I think I have a good read on her, I've known her for a long time. It's either that or she's trying really hard to build a friendship back up instead of a relationship. I can't tell.
Additionally, I don't know what her current relationship status is. I figure if she's comfortable texting me late into the night then it isn't like she's hanging out with the guy she dumped me for originally. I'd frankly prefer not to ask about it and just progress things without asking, in case that relationship still exists but is falling apart.
Please send help. Should I get back with her? Does she seem to want to get back together?
i get uncomfortable reading texts like that.
try to be upfront or something i dont know, i felt like posting a response cuz i read all that bullshit
>>17330076
Before anything else.
Flat out ask her if she ever cheated on you. Even if you want to pursue this, you need to know the truth now before it's too late. If she did, you have your answer.
tl;dr
>tickling nostril from hell, watery eyed, interview tomorrow, cant take it anymore
I have a job interview tomorrow and my fucking right nostril is driving me insane. It's slightly runny (not such a bit problem), tickles all the time, I seriously for the life of me can't keep a normal face, sneeze a lot and am heavily watery eyed constantly it's ridiculous and pathetic. How am I going to present myself this way tomorrow when I need to keep a fucking napkin on my face all the time?
I don't know what's...
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Sounds like you have an allergy to something
Or there's heavy amounts of mold in the air.
>>17330085
what do
>>17330100
Get allergy medication from the store
I went on a camping trip with some friends, and my friend's girlfriend brought her friend along. She is very fat and not very pretty (almond shaped eyes, really big lips for her face, always looks like shes pouting, hair only down to her chin... way too short for my liking.) Well the first night she was kicked out of the girl's tent for snoring... I found her outside sleeping on a cot and told her she could come into my tent. She did and we stayed up talking... the next night she slept in my tent again and this time things escalated and she gave me a handjob. The last...
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>>17330059
you're using her. she's letting you, but just because someone lets you do something doesn't mean you should. do the classy thing and turn her loose.
>>17330059
bump for interest
>>17330059
Is there a question here or are you just bragging?
