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i haven't had sex in 5 months, broke it off with the last woman I was dating. seriously considering just getting a hooker cause tinder isn't really working out and i'm lonely and really trying not to be sad.
the truth is i really don't have much to offer a woman. i don't have the support of my parents, i live alone in a dingy basement apartment. i'm graduating from my last year of engineering this year. i smoke too much weed. i've pretty much been working all the time since i was 16 or so but I don't have a car or anything like...
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>>17332478
I would consider dating you now if I knew you but would be put off by the hooker scenario if that happened so think about that
What's so wrong with just jacking off to internet porn?
>>17332478
This thread has potential for a shitfest. I'll be lurking.
Sorry if this is the wrong board and if it's a stupid question because I'm not exactly sure where is is suppose to go.( bear with me this is a long story)
Well I wanted to know if it's normal to have a black spot in memory, possibly near the time you were born. I was talking to a family member about it and she said I sounded crazy.
This is kind of hard to explain but I'm going to try. Basically it was a point where it felt like I was in a black void for 2-3 years. No, I don't mean black void like something on /x/ I mean a somewhat mental...
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Guess it wasn't that long of a story really.
>>17332466
OP the average human adult doesn't have any memories earlier than age 4 yes that is extremely normal did you not go to grade school or something
Well yeah I know that. I was curious if it's normal to remember being in a black void just patiently waiting for 4 years.
How do I get over my fear of asking women out? I'm fine talking with them, can hold a fairly decent conversation, I just can't ask them out.
Id like to think I'm a fairly confident person, above average looks, good job, well above average intelligence; kind of faced rejection and felt like an outcast my whole life though.
Even if they show genuine interest in me, and I know they are single, I can't get myself to the point to ask for a number.
>Man up and do it.
I've tried, god have i tried, I just...
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>>17332462
>Haven't been single my entire life
>relationship of 4 1/2 years
You shouldn't be asking women out at 4 years old
>>17332479
Funny you should joke about that, First time i told a girl i liked her i was 5, she laughed, told all her friends, i became a joke, and is probably the reason i have this problem 17 years later, because i literately haven't asked a girl out since.
>>17332462
>Even if they show genuine interest in me
Try to realize that at that point, it's almost your duty to ask them out, and they'll feel bad if you don't.
That's what helped me at least, probably since i don't like bothering people (also a childhood thing).
If she does something to make it clear she likes me and wants me to ask her out, then i'm not bothering her, so it's fine.
Good luck.
I've been considering buying a fucking tablet so I can join the rest of the human race on shit like kik and tindr or whatever it's called just so I can meet people. I'd go out and walk around, but the town is small as fuck.
I've tried okcupid and craigslist here, but everyone's a biblethumper. You know, the kind that fucking have jesus in their about me section.
Do you actually not own a smartphone or something?
>>17332461
use an emulator on pc
>>17332461
Oh I should of asked, are my chances at finding people better on kik or tindr than they are using online websites? I only ask since I stopped paying attention to things like tablets and other weird devices back in high school when they made like the third iteration of the ipod back when limewire was still a thing.
So I really like this girl at my high school, and I'm pretty sure she likes me too, but I just broke up with her best friend a couple weeks ago. I really don't wanna hurt their friendship, but I really like her. What do? Pic is my political compass bc y not.
>>17332449
Just go for her anyway
>>17332465
Above *******^
>>17332538
Sounds like you're perfect for each other
>Someone I know wants to set me up with a friend of hers
>I have terrible social anxiety when it comes to women
>don't know who her friend is or what she's like. all I know is that she thinks I'm cute.
>never dated before and I don't even like talking about it to my parents. I just try to avoid the topic.
So what should I do? Should I tell her I'd like to meet her friend? How do I overcome this fear of talking to my...
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>>17332434
>So what should I do? Should I tell her I'd like to meet her friend?
Yes if you want to. You've really got nothing to lose. If there's no chemistry, you'll just have an awkward conversation with a stranger then go both go home. So what?
>How do I overcome this fear of talking to my parents about it?
Why talk about your parents about it at all?
>What if I meet this girl and I'm just not interested...
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>>17332444
>Why talk about your parents about it at all?
If I go out they're going to ask me where I'm going. Then I'll have to talk about it. I'm not gonna lie to them.
>>17332457
Well then tell them the truth, it might be a little awkward, but they're your parents and they're gonna be proud (unless your female and they're homophobic).
I can't see them ever judging you badly for dating, as I said in my other post. It's just gonna be an awkward conversation for you. Life is full of them for us betas.
You've just gotta go for it if you're ever gonna have a chance at being happy.
Hey /adv/ question. When a allergy clinic does a blood test would they inform you if you have a STD or STI?
>>17332419
If they're testing for it. Havent you ever watched House?
>>17332419
Probably not. They are doing an allergy test, not testing for any sexually transmitted diseases.
>>17332419
No, they only test allergies
How do I motivate/encourage a depressed person to do something when their own willpower isn't enough?
Force then until they pick up the pace.
>>17332387
them*
>>17332374
Are you the guy who made a post similar to this about their father?
I am a pussy faggot, let's get that out of the way. I have come to terms with the fact that I am not a hard worker.
Started my first real job two days ago, at a landscaping place. Thought it was going to be from 7 to 3, turned out to be from 7 to 5:30. My back kills, my legs hurt, and my pasty white skin is burned from head to toe. Planning on calling in to quit tomorrow.
What do you guys think?
If you enjoy being a pussy faggot and wanna stay that way for the rest of your life, then go ahead, quit.
>>17332351
Wow. That's probably the best advice I'll get, right off the bat. Thanks.
As far as I know, I would enjoy a solid 9 to 5 job that doesn't require elemental exposure and lifting 24 foot metal ladders more than the trades. Not to mention this is just a summer job before I go to school in the fall.
The first week at any new job blows, no matter what it is. Everyone gets overwhelmed, you have to let yourself adapt and get used to it.
Your body will eventually get used to the work. For now, stop being a little bitch and wear sunscreen
Are niggers and fags really oppressed? I've been alive somewhere between 13-18.1 years and I've never seen anyone use nigger or fag as a hateful insult towards actual Africans or LGBTQ people.
>>17332335
Niggers confuse racism with class-ism. Fags are just hated by alot of people, but not really "oppressed"
Of course they're not oppressed, those niggers are just being faggots about it.
it's more to do with a few concepts known as the "glass ceiling", the "glass floor" and the "cycle of poverty"
You can search them in Wikipedia and that will kinda give you a run down of why certain groups are oppressed. Black ppl were slaves, because of the cycle of poverty they never really reached the middle class and because of glass ceilings it's much harder for them to succeed in their careers. While some white ppl have glass floors where they just kinda never have to do much to be successful.
It's stuff you get to...
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I am stuck in a pretty rough situation. I am really stuck on one girl who doesn't even like me. Thats fine.. my problem is that I am stuck and can't really see the beauty in other women because they don't really compare.
I want freedom from this fucking curse but I just can't not give a shit about women. I don't like hurting people, I don't like manipulating or doing dramatic shit.
However, my friend was telling me that if you get stuck on girl and then get unstuck from her, you are just going to get stuck on a different one.
He...
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>>17332326
>the only way to be free, is to just shit on women all the time
Do this with life and you'll be A-OK
OP is a beta fag
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>>17332326
OP you need to understand that all women are going to abuse you in some format, you just might not be savy towards it.
Know yourself, and take care of #1
>>17332326
Yes but not figuratively
She'll see you pulling your boxers off expecting you too whip out your throbbing red rocket but instead turn around and shit on her face. It'll be hilarious. She'll think it's a great prank p
So how do you actually get a gf?
>ask them fairly quickly
>I don't know you, you just like me for my looks, you just want sex, etc etc
>ask later
>I see you as a friend, you were hiding your feelings from me?, why did you wait so long, etc etc
Is it really all just Rules 1 and 2?
No one really knows
Anyone who has a GF is either an:
>aggressive extrovert type A personality narcissist
>some chucklefuck who got extremely lucky, i.e., happened to be in the right place in the right time
Men are fucked in today's society.
>>17332317
As soon as you meet them make it apparent that you like them, shit, tell them they look beautiful. Go on a date with them, see where it goes. And there, you have a girlfriend. You have to be confident and firm with your feelings towards them, don't fuck about and make them think you are just trying to be friends because guess where that leads you
>>17332334
Honestly this.
>>17332341
Not this, don't take advice from virgins OP.
Just be yourself and don't let these females hold you down. Just talk to them, often times you don't even need to flirt or compliment. If anything just ask them to hang, do something that doesn't involve money (beach, park, netflix+chill) so you don't have to A) Spend on them or B) Make them feel obligated to spend anything. You then have protected...
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How do I stop sounding like a retard when I talk? I keep fumbling my words despite knowing English for over a decade.
I don't know what's wrong with me.
>>17332260
What is your native language?
>>17332260
I think i have this issue, and I think it's because I try to rush through my sentences. I have all of my thoughts in my mind already, and I just went to get them out. However, I usually feel like the person I'm talking to might be getting bored or already know what I'm talking about, so I try talk faster and get to the point. It's probably a horrible habit. So, I would say to just chill out, speak slowly, and practice enunciating.
>>17332282
Serbian
Had a job where the shift before me would regularly never finish their shift, leaving me with an extra hour of work a day. I quit as a result, yet now the boss is saying I'm fired for not putting in two weeks. I'm thinking about calling HR, is there anything they can do about this? I told multiple supervisors about what was happening over 3 months, they didn't hold up their end until I had an hour conversation with them before quitting which was basically "no one can leave until the work is done". That doesn't take back my time, should I get a lawyer?
>>17332245
If you didn't comply with the minimum notice period in your contract, then you're in the wrong. Just because they did something wrong doesn't make what you did okay.
>>17332251
and vice versa
>>17332262
Of course. But the fact that OP did something wrong remains
I feel like nothing ever makes my girlfriend happy. Like she'll always ruminate her way into being unsatisfied with everything. What do.
Depressed people have cycles of depression. She'll be normal for a while and then depressed for a while. She's just always going to be this way. It's your decision whether you want a person like that in your life or not. But if you decide that you do -
learn up on behavioral treatment for depression.
When she's feeling down remove your expectations of her.
the thing she likely wants to do most is curl up in bed with all the blankets. Do it with her.
Encourage her to be easy on herself - the worst part about being depressed is the crushing guilt...
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>>17332233
get a new girlfriend
>>17332233
women are only happy when they're unhappy.
dump her and find a new bitch.
