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Hey guys, I have an issue
I am
>super into anime and manga
>kind of submissive sexually
>generally a nervous, sensitive, touchy-feely guy
But I'm also
>6'0
>fit
>chaddy in mannerisms because I went to a lad/10 uni and learned it to blend in
So basically what I'm worried about is that I'm not attracting the types of people I want to be friends/romantic...
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I try to never post this, but
>just b urself :^)
>>17333000
your fellow weirdos haven't seen you geek out enough to believe you're not a dudebro yet.
If you want a mate with similar interests, you just need more patience and exposure.
act like that guy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErOqVN3hbxo
When do you have the
>Don't talk to cops
Talk with your kids? What age? I suppose it makes a difference depending on the gender and race?
>>17332997
If you have to have that talk, you shouldn't be having kids.
My uncle's a cop. When do you think he did it?
>>17332997
Why not try reaching your kids to respect cops instead? Otherwise you're setting them up to be dindus
>>17333007
I've read plenty of comments by sons and daughters of cops who say the same thing. Don't talk to the cops. There is a very famous YouTube video of a defense lawyer giving a lecture to a bunch of law students, followed up by a career cop agreeing with, don't fucking talk to cops, you have literally nothing to gain if they are investigating a crime. My aunt and uncle are both cops, they're good people, but if someone close to me went missing, I would tell them LAWYER PLEASE!
Im full of hatred and rage now all because of my neighbour and his fucking Sons. Are Complete Assholes with only me.
I wish i could beat them but ill end up in Jail and my family will be happy to forget me and let me rot in there.
What do you suggest me.
Im writing this on my phone. Excuse the grammar.
>>17332985
They can only mess with you if you let them. Let it go, don't let them mess with your inner peace - even if your family hates you for whatever reason. Anger passes, but love for others doesn't - if they see you not reacting, they might stop, you will start to stop caring and never rage over their treatment of you ever again.
Small acts of anonymous urban terrorism that can't be traced back to you.
Slowly and patiently make their lives hell
Small acts that combine to large fuckotry.
>>17332985
Could you please explain the situation?
I am planning to be a professional jazz musician after I graduate from high school. Because I live in CA, I would pretty much have to live in LA to make this happen.
I have a friend who's family owns a house in Compton, and I have the opporitunity to live with two of my friends (also both dedicated artists)
I have 2 questions:
Is LA really a good place to pursue an art career?
and
Is Compton really as dangerous as people make it sound?
I live in LA and I'm also a musician.
1. Yes. LA is one of the best places in the country to pursue an arts career. There's a huge amount of musicians, venues, and there's a few music institutions here like the prestigious Colburn School of Music.
2. Compton is still dangerous, but not as bad as it used to be in the 90s. Popular culture has made it seem like a fucking warzone 24/7, but the area is actually not that bad. It depends where in Compton your friend lives. There's still gang violence, but it's all about being cautious, aware,...
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>>17332996
Ok, thank you.
As a jazz bassist (attending either USC or Cal State Northridge) is it possible to make a legitimate living from it?
Everybody uses the LA Times crime map:
http://maps.latimes.com/crime
Is it possible for me to make a Facebook again without inevitably hating it?
I think I've had Facebook probably 8 times now, and I usually end up deleting it completely out of frustration.
I always end up seeing the retarded shit my friends post and it makes me question my friendships with them. I don't think I'm a scholar or anything, but man people take social media seriously.
I hate to say it though, not having it has put a huge dent in my social life, but I do have huge problems with Facebook and their privacy policies, and the whole...
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>>17332914
Do what I do, have one but make sure not to read your wall. Only use it to appease people or message. Facebook is trash and the people that enjoy it are usually kind of trash. Not to say I don't love some of those people, they just happen to find retarded shit funny that is repeated by everyone else with that faggot ass laughing emoticon. I always get a urge to kill myself reading through it. So simple, just don't read or participate.
>>17332933
The main reason I want it is because my social life is close to death. People don't text or call anymore, rarely anyway. And when they text it's over Facebook messenger.
I guess I could make an account and only download the messenger app?
>>17332950
That's probably the best way to go desu. No matter what the fb feed is cancer.
Smoking weed for the first time. Any general advice? I plan on listening to Pink Floyd and Hendrix. I need visual stimulants too
Dude fuck that go outside and do something fun with some homies trust
>>17332908
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqT0iFZifgw
Here you go
>>17332920
Not gonna show my friends some 10 hour weeb shit while we get high kek
Is it better to make more money in a job where you get no respect, or make less money in a job where people respect you?
>>17332904
Why do you give a shit about what your coworkers think of you? They're coworkers
That's completely up to you. There are perks to having your coworkers like you. It means you can get lots of good references if you pursue a higher paying gig. Being appreciated is just nice in itself. I'd have to be making an awful lot of money to work somewhere with people I don't get along with.
>>17332973
Not really a matter of liking--they like me, but every day is like having to prove I belong there and am able to do my job. Feeling a bit raw about it today, but I am curious what people think in general. For one thing, I don't think it's possible to get any kind of promotion or whatever without being respected, right?
25M
I got sick and tired of being single so I decided to actually do something about it. Asked a girl to go run with me and we ran around a college campus today (she's a grad student). Afterwards we went to her place and talked and ate ice cream and said bye. I wasn't nervous or anything during it all but wish I coulda said some things better. It went ok tho.
So what am I supposed to do now? I'm going to ask her to run with me again next week but I'm entirely unsure as to how to escalate this casual running buddy relationship to a more serious...
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Off to a good start imo. Wish i could give you advice. Best luck to you
>>17332884
>busy with her studies
No chance faggot.
>>17332975
Some people are actually busy and this could work in his favor if he can figure out how to navigate around her schedule
I finally got a gf and found out i cum too fast. I found the only way i can stop cumming so early is to tighten my abs and think of sick shit and i was able to last 10-15mins but this just ruins the whole experience of sex for me.
Now i've never done kegels before so maybe this could be an option but i go to the gym everyday and my abs were pretty sore after sex so maybe i was already doing the delaying orgasm thing.
>>17332875
i have issues with premature ejaculation or at least what i perceive to be PE.
i can't fuck straight on for longer than, like, a minute. i have to fuck, take a short breather (5-10s), go back at it, etc. it sucks that i have to break up the rhythm so much and i feel guilty about it for my gf.
i share your sentiment with the whole "think about something disgusting" so you can last longer thing. like, why the fuck would i want to be intimate with my gf and then completely transport myself...
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>>17332875
>>17332875
have more sex
you're not in the moment
you need to be comfortable
if your girlfriend's not a bitch you could talk to her about not feeling fully immersed in the whole thing yet and that it might take some time for you to get used to it
trust me, once you both make the moment as relaxed and chilled out as possible, then you'll be fine
the trick is to not be thinking about cumming btu rather just enjoying the sex
don't go into sex worrying about when you're going to cum, just enjoy it, spend a lot of time on foreplay, and chill, it's impossible to "not think about it" i know, but once you're fully relaxed the problems will disappear
>>17332907
continued:
the way i like to think about it, is that if she makes you feel ike it doesn't matter when you cum, then you're much more likely to just last
in all honesty these tricks you're gonna hear like "work on your pelvic floor muscles" and "put your mind somewhere else" and "focus on your breathing" are quick and incomplete fixes
with most people it's an issue of not being fully immersed in the moment and worrying too much about when they're gonna finish from the getgo
I read something awhile back (could be complete bullshit) about it being a fight or flight response where if yhou're too panicked about it, your body would make you cum as fast as possible, supposedly so you could escape danger faster or whatever, some shit to do with ancestors having to watch their back out in the wild or something when procreating
But yeah, talk to your girlfriend about it, make sure she understands, both of you need to make an environment where you're completely comfortable with finishing early, too late, not making her cum, etc.
How does one get a job in this current situation? Just a tiny lil problem I'd like to share in case anyone else is feeling unfortunate or down, but I'm also much appreciated if anyone cares to share some advice.
>26
>live with my parents, two siblings
>never had a job, nor been to college
>don't know how to write a resume, cover letter, who or how do I speak to about job openings
>online researching is...
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Sounds like you are just unwilling to try
>>17332799
>>17332797
Agreed. Stop being a lazy cunt. If you are wanting to go out and participate in society don't fucking half-ass it like this because it's a waste of your time. You might as well do something more worth your time than a 9-5 if you're this fucking lazy.
Literally all you have to do to get a job is sell yourself. If you can't do that, you're fucked. If you can't learn how to do that, you are unwilling at best.
I'd recommend looking into either trade school or the military.
If that's a little much, get CDL and start driving for a living.
Which branch of the military will fuck me over the least.
>joining the military
I'm sorry.
>>17332749
I know I'm gonna get fucked by Uncle Sam. The problem is that compared to my current situation it seems a lot comfier.
>>17332741
study the fuck out of an ASVAB book and score well. Get a job in the Chair Force that that is in demand on the outside. Do your time, likely under 10 years, and use your skills and certifications to find work outside. For the love of god, don't join army or marines so you can dig trenches and doggie paddle onto beachheads for a living. not a soul will want you when you get out and you'll wind up working at a pizza place for minimum wage, telling the 17 year olds there about your time in the military.
Has anyone else here made a really bad decision while being in a bad place emotionally?
Do you regret the decision?
If you did how did you fix it?
I recently made a terrible decision in a state of anger and deep self pity that has completely ruined my life and potentially the rest of it.
>>17332723
I don't know. I told both my parents fuck you, separately .
You're going to have to be more specific about what happened .
>>17332739
I broke up with my long term gf. I was drunk and angry and it was over something that was my fault but I was putting the blame on her. It's been a week and my anger turned to self pity and now it's all clear I have realised I've made a huge mistake. We were together 4 years and I can't believe I've done something so stupid in the heat of the moment. I'm not even sure how to approach it, a mutual friend told me that she said she is in such a happy place since the breakup so I need to tread carefully.
What did you do?
Hey, what's up everyone. Hope you're doing well tonight .
I got some trouble fantasizing . No, not of the ambitious kind , of which I have many , I mean the sexual kind . I'm on nofap, and it's been going really well especially for someone who doesn't exactly fit into the introverted awkward stereotype that most people on this website are, but I feel like I'm not maximizing my gains .
When I go to sleep, like soon, instead of looking at porn or fapping, and especially these summer days where I don't really see anyone that often...
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>What can I do to remove these sexual thoughts easier from my head ?
Are you trying to become a fucking monk?
Nothing wrong about fantasizing
>>17332750
Fantasizing makes my dick hard.
Which makes me want to masturbate,
But I'm on NoFap, so.
>>17332808
NoFap is a fucking scam. You want to fap? Go fucking fap
Porn is where the problems at
So I just found out that my girlfriend has a fuck list on her computer that contains a list of every guy she's ever had sex with. Would advice look?
I know the password to her computer.
She wouldn't go into any details after telling me about the fuck list. She made an interesting comment about how she'd show me after we got married. I laughed in her face.
I have conflicted feelings. On one hand, I don't particularly care about who she's had sex with. The real info I'm after are her dick # and any comments she wrote about guys...
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>I'm not insecure, I promise!
>if you care about fucking "pure" people
go right ahead. If she isn't, you dump her, if not, then you continue living as if it never happened
>if you don't
don't look
>>17332696
It's not that I care about her purity.
It's that I care if she lied to my face.
Hey guys. Vets are 0 help and google has not really been promising. My Great Dane has had this for a while now (not too sure how long but it's been a bit). Healing has not been successful with medication, treatment, etc and it has been X-Rayed, tested and is not a cancer. My other dog has had these for 3 years with no successful treatment.
Pic related. My Great Dane is unable to walk properly due to the pain and is not as active as she once was since this came up. Kinda saddening to look at seeing she is my favourite. Miss when she would jump on my shoulders :;(.
>>17332686
If 2 of your animals have the same problem, something is wrong with your fucking yard/environment. Holy shit. Do you live on top of a garbage heap? Maybe have a wastewater runoff creek in your yard?
Jesus Christ. If one vet wasn't helpful, you have a shit vet. When a person gets sick and a doctor can't help, they don't just go home and say "oh well." They go get a second opinion from another doctor.
Take both of your animals to a NEW vet. Not just any vet, but a vet that is...
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>>17332699
This
>>17332699
To be fair they have been to every vet within 50km and still nothing so we are resorting to home treatment. On both of them we have spent $25,000 (one has soaked up $15,000). THe home has no problem. Been checked over by professionals and it has been said we are clear from anything bad. One dog sits in the synthetic grass pen we made and the Great Dane sits in the grass.
I treat the great dane 2-3 times a week as I am never usually home. The other dog and other times are tended to by my mum.
