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My gf has very low libido or something.
I took her virginity about three months ago, before that she had never done ANYTHING, and I took it all away in a day. Since then we have sex, if I'm lucky, once a week or once every two weeks. Sometimes three weeks or a month go by without any sex.
Another thing that bothers me is that she has way less stamina than me, I've never been able to finish while we're doing it because she asks me to stop. She also doesn't give blowjobs and seems uninterested in learning and doesn't give handjobs. It feels...
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Talk to her. Also, r8k, take note. That's what happens when you finally get your
>virgin gf
not that i'm implying you sought her out for her hymen, op. Just pointing it out
>>17335065
I've talked to her about the bj thing, specially because she loves making me go down on her, but like I said, she doesn't seem interested. She tried it once, she was using too much teeth, I asked for a bit less, she became embarassed/a bit irritated and said she didn't wanna do it anymore.
I also pointed out the sex frequency to her yesterday and she said there's nothing she could do because "that's life." I get the feeling sometimes she just brushes me off.
OP, She has no passion for you.
I recommend you either stop watching the game and hanging out with the boys and start getting more intimate with or Put some start cooking her foods with a heavy libido-boosting diet.
Chicks with no libido boggle me.
I need advice
I just started working at Walmart. No more than a week ago and best buy called me for an interview just now.
I have the graveyard shift at Walmart and is closer to my house. I'm a cashier.
Best buy is a little farther and I'll be getting hours during day time.
What should I do? I'm conflicted because best buy is fucking best buy and I love electronics and I'm a super geek so I'll love it there because of what I'll be selling.
>>17334993
Go to the Best Buy interview and see how it pans out. Get a job offer and then think it over.
I worked at both. Best buy for 2 years and Walmart currently. Best buy fucking sucks. If you enjoy electronics, avoid it. You'd think you get to help customers learn and explore electronics as you help them with important decisions but you don't. I hope you enjoy selling credit cards all day every day, because the entire job is a commission-less used car salesman job. It's not about helping the customers, it's about selling. They will track and hound you 2-5 times a day about various sales. Transactions per hour, credit card sign ups, warranty attach rates,...
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Also feel free to ask me questions about best buy. Worked in the computers department for two years.
Will try to respond in a timely manner
Besides a car, a taxi, a bike or a train, how do I relocate myself 8 km from point A to point B under an hour and without tiring myself out, on a friday night after 10 pm in an area with no bus traffic?
>>17334852
Helicopter, obviously.
OP, why do you insist on ruling out obvious solutions to your problem?
>>17334852
Sky bucket, obviously.
>>17334863
>>17334873
Can y'all please be serious
I'd really like to get drunk in safe company tomorrow and alone at home is 100% not that.
So I got a tattoo of a cross on my right arm and I feel like I ruined my life. I'm getting fatter and I don't have a job and not sure if I would be able to hold one because of how much it bugs me. I wanted a relationship and kids now I feel like I will forever be a loner somebody cast to the outskirts of society. I did this because I felt like if others were going to hell because they had a tattoo then so would I and I feel like that's where I'm headed. I used bad logic and got a bad result. I felt as though I should martyr myself as a Christian for all those...
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>Christian
>Bad logic
Don't worry, you're not alone there.
Besides, that law isn't meant to be followed anymore thanks to good ol' Jesus.
All this from a little extra pigmentation under your skin?
Good behavior is the path to follow to make things go well but there's one thing Christians should know: you don't need a god to tell you what is good and what's not, you know what you have to do, and you don't need a god to forgive you, if you fucked up get up and fix your mistakes, god doesn't give a fuck about your life, that's a problem of yours
What the fuck guys.
My gf got her hair cut today, very similar to pic related but a little longer. She is an engineering student so I'm used to her acting a little masculine but this is full dyke mode. She's a devout Christian, dresses modestly etc so I still always thought of her as feminine. but this outweighs all that. When I asked her why she says she likes how little effort it takes to take care of.
I'm not going to dump her, but in my mind I already think of her now as a pseudo dyke and very masculine. I always thought she was pretty but...
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>>17334806
OP you sound like an asshole.
Some girls just really like having short hair.
>can look cute
>is practical
>>17334867
Why? Does their gf like it? I agree with you it can look cute on like 1% of women but let's get real, it screams "I want to be a man"
>Girls, when you cut your hair short do you really just not give a fuck? Is short hair on girls like the neckbeard for women?
nah, someitimes it's purely aesthetic. but she should atleast have warned you. try to see the bright side. now you can finally live out your homosex fantasies.
>be me, 22
>currently living with parents + saving up to move out
>tense relationship with father
>if he has advice/a suggestion, etc. does not listen to my opinion and eventually becomes belligerent if I don't agree
>this applies to everything, from minor things like where towels are placed to car repairs
>also has a habit of being extremely long-winded, so will start talking about something...
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basic generation gap.
in our society people are not allowed to fully develop into a whole person but are barely allowed to get some technical competence and then go work as a slave to keep this absurd industry running. of course this will frustrate them inside, and the family is one of many compensatory spaces for this. in the long run it is the most effective. so, instead of actually putting themselves together as persons before starting a relationship, they go into them to fill this void. when a marriage fails at this, because the partner is in the same attempt, offspring...
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Its hard but move out. I was lucky enough to be moving together with my BF which made it easier (not for my mum who is still giving me grief about practically every day since I moved 7 years ago)
I used to post of another forum about feeling shit, my mum emotionally manipulating me and making my anxiety/ depression worse which screwed up my development as a working adult. She loves me loads but constantly asked/ yelled at my why I was unhappy all the time and I was fat, not into fashion like she was, not dating, not applying for jobs she suggested which where above and beyond...
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>>17334961
Amazing. Very well put.
Hey /adv/, I'm transgender and decided to go full time living and dressing as a female a month ago. Strangers read me as cis female, but my friends who knew me pre-transition still basically treat me as a guy (except for when they feign acceptance in order to not come across as a bigot). I'm not exactly sure what to do about this because on the one hand, my gender identity is somewhat important to me, but on the other hand I like a lot of other things about my friends and feel like I would be doing something anti-social if I cut ties with them.
I already posted...
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>>17334705
If they really are your friends then it's just something that'll take time for them to adjust to. They don't mean it as disrespect but rather out of habit. If it's really THAT important for you and it's been awhile then maybe cutting ties is what's best for you to move on with your new life.
>>17334705
>kind of wanted to get a more normie perspective
you are mentally ill, and catering to this behavior will only reinforce your delusion. perhaps you should consider the possibility that your friends are not, in fact, bigoted and want you to get the help you need.
you will no doubt find this perspective to be offensive and/or unpleasant, but this is the reality of the situation. some people are accepting of this sort of thing, others are not.
this is new to them, and new to the world, so it takes time to adjust. outside of your referring to your preferred gender identity, what arent they doing to treat you the way you want to be treated?
Western females are just public urinals being used by different dirtbags. The idea that it is possible to form a relationship with them is ridiculous. Similarly, dating is a thing of the past. This is because Western females are all sluts trying to increase their slut status among other sluts. Therefore they want to be f***ed by high status men. It follows that perceived high status men will have sluts constantly throwing themselves at them, so they won’t have to date to get sex – they can just take their chosen slut home or to a convenient location to f**k right away. Hence...
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>>17334665
So what kind of advice are you looking for?
>>17334665
>[islamic REEEEEEEing intensifies]
>>17334675
Not islamic, just one who isn't a degenerate.
Also, islamic culture is superior, there aren't obvious sluts, the cheaters are punished and women have no rights. Better this than western degeneracy.
How do I stop speaking "formally"?
I had a talk with a childhood friend about some problems I have had in getting to know people. He said that my issue is because in how I speak: its too formal.
For context I never use slang or cuss and he believed that from other people's view, it comes across as being 'on guard' and people would gradually drift away from me.
Truth is that I actually am due a fairly long history of being bullied in hobbies and school, but the speech mannerisms wasn't actually the intention.
Any advice?
Be yourself.
Don't change who you are because your friend complained.
Maybe you need to look harder for the friends you seek.
>>17334599
Well that kind of co-incides with another problem: I am 26, boring and nerdy. I have spent most of my life invested in games which made my already stunted social skills a bit greater. I can talk for ages about say games, academic things (I love Psychology for example and Philosophy). Small talk is something I struggle with bar the rare ocassion my mind is on the ball.
I am not in the best position to look for friends however and really, being myself hasn't helped in the past. I was the class clown in...
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Last bump.
So, I got a book published. It's not really a biggie and I'd prefer not to give additional info because doxing shit, but I have a question:
Is there a way to increase positive amazon reviews? Buying them is a hassle, illegal and expensive, so is there a better way?
>>17334504
post your book here, and we'll all give it great ratings, m8 no problem.
>>17334504
Did you get the book published or did you self-publish?
If the former, your publisher should have already sent out pre-release copies to various magazines for review. That doesn't mean they'll read/review them, it's just a start.
If the later... Good luck.
If you have physical copies, setting up a reading at your local book store would probably be a pretty good idea.
Like anon asked, self published or did you go through some agency? I'm about to self publish something I wrote. Would like to hear your experience.
You can give copies to people in exchange for reviews, use beta readers, shill it, etc. Just don't ask /lit/.
> The gym is not a hobby
> You shouldn't say/put down going to the gym as one of your hobbies.
Why?
Thats a bit weird, isnt it?
>>17334468
I think working out in general sounds more normal.
Bitches love it when I say I run charity 5ks around town
>>17334468
the gym is a noun, sometimes a proper noun. hobbies are activities which means generally they are going to fall under the category of verbs. so while "my hobby is the gym" makes you sound ugh ugha caveman, "my hobby is working out" is the correct way of getting across the same message.
then again, everyone leaves out "to be" these days, i.e "needs to be cleaned" turns into "needs cleaned" so things could change and nouns could be hobbies. i.e. "my hobby...
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I'm 19 and I haven't had sex yet, but I really want to. I've told my bf of 1 year that I feel ready for it. He has already had sex before. I know it will hurt to begin with, and we have lube and condoms on hand. Is there anything you anons can tell me, what should I expect, how long will the pain last, will sex effect my period? I'm open to all suggestions, but I'm not a complete bimbo about sex I know the obvious things.
First time will be Shit as fuck, that he has had it before is a plus for you though. Also never do missionary with the guy on top, shit sucks.
>Will sex effect my period?
Only if you get pregnant.
>>17335555
>Also never do missionary with the guy on top, shit sucks.
Pic related
>>17334426
Don't do it!!!
Should I really REALLY risk a prison life JUST to defend and preserve myself?
The chances of me getting attacked are unlikely but its still possible and when I do get attacked, I'm either fucked royally, I turn into a berserker overlord and bathe in blood, become spitroast, or die to death, or become a vegetable.
I'm especially vulnerable now since my legs been aching, physiotherapy starts later this month.
tl;dr how to defend myself without going to prison?
>>17334399
bumper
By not using more violence than necessary to create an opportunity to run away, or cause the assailant to.
Painu vittuun täältä jonne ja mene mussuttamaan isällesi.
So last night I was having sex with my fuck buddy, and everything seemed business as usual. This morning she texts me and is asking me about something I said the previous night. I had no idea what she was talking about, and she said she heard me say "I love you" when in reality I said I love your pussy or some shit like that. I told her this and joked around with her about it, but now she's acting weird and her responses have been really serious and pretty much just yes/no answers.
What should I do? I know what I said, but it seems like she doesn't...
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>>17334387
Does she want to become more than just your fuck doll?
If she does, then you gotta work out for yourself what you want.
If she does not, just leave it.
>>17334393
I'm certain that she doesn't want anything more. I'm just going to leave it alone I guess.
>>17334387
>>17334810
>"pussy", two syllables, sounds nothing like "you"
>her brain wants to hear one thing and so she goes with it because it makes her emotionally happy even if it mentally hurts her more.
>sounds like she is 24 and american.
i've had social situations like this happen with female co-workers. they think i said something or made...
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I love my girlfriend and all but eh. I don't really see her that much. She's not the greatest girlfriend but she isn't a bad person either. I kind of want to cheat. If I could do it and get away with it, should I?
inb4 shaming
why not just break up with her if you aren't done with sleeping around? you can prevent a lot of drama and heartbreak.
Leave her if you want to fuck others. The guilt will catch up with you.
>>17334379
Might as well end it. Cheating on her could harm your rep
