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Had to put my cat to sleep yesterday.
Really feel like I need to do something to honor her but I have no idea what.
Pretty fuckin torn over it. What do?
I'm sorry for your loss OP,
You can volunteer at an cat shelter. Or make a little memorial for kitty if you would like.
Eat cheese while crying about how dairy was her favourite food
Make a nice homemade headstone for your kitty as long as it's made with love
I know definitely that I'm not alone, and that many others share my sentiment.
How do you handle day to day living with the terrible things that have been happening this past week, in both America and in foreign nations? I wouldn't say that I get overly emotional, but I would say that I almost cried this morning for the officers harmed and killed in the Dallas shooting?
I can't help but feel grief for those unjustly harmed, whether they be black or white, cop or not. Everyone deserves the right to life. And there's the added fact of race relations. Fuck man, I have a wide assortment of friends who are all genuinely good people, some Native American, black, Indian, etc.
There are people who genuinely believe that black people deserve to be all killed, or that whites are the genuine spawn of the devil. I don't want any of my friends or family to get hurt because of the actions of the ignorant.
I'm sure I sound like a pussy and what not, but I have always been empathetic for othere, and sometimes I wish I could be more callous.
How do you deal with the realities of life?
>How do you handle day to day living with the terrible things that have been happening this past week
This is actually the first I hear about it. I guess not living in America has something to do with it, but I also avoid cesspools like reddit and /b/. Maybe staying away from the media could be good for you.
I feel fucking thankful I live in Canada. Americans behave like children, you're like a bunch of uncivilized savage monkeys that have advanced technology. I used to think America was like a bunch of people all holding guns to each others heads but with no one firing. Now everyone's going nuts. You guys are going to tear each other up from the inside out.
>>17337329
Shit really is going crazy this year.
How do I start conversation with this girl on the bus?
Been a while since someone's caught my eye...
/adv/ please?
>>17337195
who the fuck marks their chest up like that? What a shame
>>17337200
Who the fuck cares?
>>17337200
According to the stretch marks most likely trashy single moms.
Who pays for the meal? Do I make it clear before walking into restaurant, or before joining the line in the canteen?
>you took a girl to a canteen
You were already dead
>>17337194
>the line in the canteen?
Everyone pays for themselves. It's a business meal, man. Unless your meals are covered by the company.
My girlfriend and I usually pay separately unless I'm treating her, which happens every month or two
Would a company ever lie to you about the reason you were fired for? I was told 'financial difficulties', kinda hard believing it since they hired 5 new employees in the last 3 months.
If your boss is a pussy, he'll say something like that to avoid a confrontation.
It's to your advantage, really: "laid off" looks better than "fired."
>>17337187
I've lied to people about why they've been let go plenty of times, probably more often than not. Thing is, wearing a tie and getting paid more doesn't change the fact that I'm a regular person the same as you. It's a lot less stressful to come up with a line about downsizing or restructuring than it is to turn round to a guy who you know full well uses the money you give him every friday to support his wife and kids and say "look mate, your work is too slow and I'm not going to get my bonus unless we finish on time, so get your tools and fuck off".
>>17337196
I was assigned minimal work in the past 2-3 months, so I was browsing the web for 4+ hours a day because there was nothing to do. I took that up with my manager a few times.
On the one hand it could be because of financial difficulties, on the other they could have seen me as not working; although never got a single remark or disciplined about it.
How do I make sure I don't run out of stuff to talk to my bf about!?
>>17337182
you're the gf, you don't have to do anything since you could always move on to someone else. Its his job to find stuff to talk about.
>>17337199
No. Just No. Ive dumped lots of girls because they were bland as curry shit.
>>17337182
How long have you two been together for? You don't constantly have to be talking to each other you know
So I'm a 19yr old male. I won't say where I'm from so that I don't bring bias into your opinion. I moved from my home country to the Southern US when I was 8yrs old (Atlanta, Georgia) for two years and then moved to Dublin Ireland where I've been living for eight years.
People sometimes tell me that I sound completely American where a few guys I know used to mock my accent saying it was foreign. What do you think it is and if it is really bad how do I change it?
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0snArkkssP2
>>17337148
Dunno, you read too "official." Like it was for school or something. You need to upload normal conversation, your pace is too by the books.
>>17337148
Interesting. It's like a mix of American, Irish and London accent.
I'm in the same position op, or was. I moved when I was 5 years old to the UK, accent was British, then moved to US where it changed to American rather quickly but still has a twinge of foreign people pick up on.
I decided to just focus on sounding american because I want to talk normally and not raise attention for my accent, good or bad. I just listened to and imitated American accents and read books out loud. Worked pretty quickly. The good news is that foreigners generally are great at changing their accent, dunno why but my accent always changes wherever I go.
Honestly, it doesn't sound that bad. Kind of pleasant, actually, It's quite subtle, but you can tell it's there. Not bad, by any means. I don't think it's worth the effort to change it.
Going into 2nd year at university and still no major and am pretty lost in what I should do
I was originally planning on doing comp sci at the local community college because it's something I enjoy and spend a lot of my free time fiddling with computers, but I ended up getting a full ride scholarship that covers all my classes and housing at the best school in the state. Needless to say I am vastly underqualified for CS because I just went to a shitty public school in a rural area whereas my school imports people who went to private academies all over the world. I'm not the best at math either, which severely limits my options. Comp sci is completely off the table as a major. No amount of studying is going to get me in at this institution. I'm not being self deprecating, but that's just the reality here
I've found that 4chan typically isnt the best place to ask about this as I normally get the response that I should just drop out if I cant get into electrical engineering or something of that nature.
Worst part is I'm completely unsure of what I want to do in life. My counselor and I were discussing something called geographic information systems which sounded interesting and I'm checking it out in the fall, but I feel like I'll be locking myself into a very specific field for life if I do that. My current backup plan is to just do polsci or something else if that doesnt work out...
Also another thing that you'll all probably scorn me for is that I kind of just want to live on the road and vagabond for a bit after school. I've never left my region of the United States in my entire life and I want to see the world, or at least more of it than I have. It seems like if I was to choose something like GIS then I would be locked in at a company right after graduation
I dont need to make a lucrative 6 figure income, but I want to shoot for a career I enjoy and brings in around $50k
Any ideas of possible majors or roads to take here? Any and all advice is appreciated
Stop watching animu
>>17337120
>No amount of studying is going to get me in at this institution. I'm not being self deprecating, but that's just the reality here
Is this just what you assume or has your academic advisor told you this? Really everything you said to us you should be asking him/her. They're in a much better position to give you realistic and personalized advice
So what other interests do you have besides tinkering with computers a bit? You expressed some interest in political science, do you closely follow world affairs?
19yrs here.
Yeah, It's my first time I'm flying with a plane. I know where I will submit my luggage, but what do I need to do next? I'm scared that I could be lost somewhere and not finding the right place I need to go. I'm so nervous. It makes me so uncomfortable when I think about it.
>>17337071
At every step there is someone telling you where to go next, and your ticket/boarding pass will tell you which gate to wait at.
>>17337071
Scream "ALLAH HU AKBAR" at the top of your lungs.
>>17337084
Alright, I will carefully listen to that, also I should ask some people when they fly with the same plane as me.
>>17337088
I'm a little scared about that too, sigh. thats so sad
How do I get rid of a libido? My gf isn't into sex at all, but I have a nigh uncontrollable sex drive. Somehow, I don't think the urge to self-mutilate will help.
>>17337007
cringe
Just jerk off like literally everybody else. Jesus Fucking Christ.
Break up with her immediately.
Seriously. Not a joke answer. Cut that bitch off.
>tried to take another shot at school
>couldn't go first week because i was sick so i did all my work at home
>show up to class
>have an autistic meltdown there AGAIN for the 2nd time
there's no hope is there? im never going to get better.
are there any fellow ASD anons that went through the same shit and overcame it?
im seriously considering laying my neck across the railway tracks. i dont want to live on disability for the rest of my life. i feel sick. it never ends.
>>17336989
>have an autistic meltdown there AGAIN for the 2nd time
Elaborate, what exactly happened?
>>17336994
>Elaborate, what exactly happened?
I pissed my pants and started REEEEEEEing.
>>17336994
>>17336994
>>17336994
>am moderately autistic, yet considered "high functioning"
>have arrangement with the teachers where i can work in a quiet room and follow a routine
>if i break the routine i dont feel real and almost like im tripping on LSD
>get to class
>totally different teacher
>im ok with this
>she leads me to other room
>whatsgoingon.png
>new room
>wtf
>just tells me to go sit by a computer and doesn't give me any further instructions
>ok...
>try to do some of the work i didn't complete
>cant focus at all, something feels wrong
>florecent lights driving me mad
>blinding me
>can hear them
>some normie has his radio blasting loud music
>try to ignore it
>its just getting louder and deeper in my ears
>literally blocking ears with my fingers at this point
>*ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ* *HISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS*
>im losing it
>shaking and sweating
>know whats coming because it happened last time
>pack all my shit away and run out of the class room
>teachers didnt see me so no one tried to stop me
>suddenly im outside
>loud and moving busy CBD
>trying to find my way back to car
>some junky starts saying shit to me but it just sounds like a garbled mess
>he puts his hands up and backs away
>find car
>junky waiting outside
>garbles more gibberish
>get into car and do my stimming to calm myself
>car feels like its wobbling because car parking lot
>making me more sick
>fight back the tears
>fall into depressive state again (had been going good for months)
>want to cry but i hold it back
>feel paranoid the whole time something is coming to get me so i start banging metal pole on the bar of my seat
thats it. i freaked the fuck out again. im never going to be able to function in normal society. im going to be trapped in this room until im dead. my whole life has been wasted already.
I feel the lowest I have ever felt. I struggled to write that first sentence because I do not even know where to begin. I am physically and mentally breaking down due to my inability to cope with my life.
This is also the first time I have been unable to give even a brief explanation of what I would like advice on. I guess I would like advice on how to stop myself from ruining my life and then killing myself.
I know this is a lot to ask, but I would really like a person (even more than one, if I can...), even if it is only for a short period, and try to help me. This is my most desperate request for help and I really hope that somebody would be here for me, because I do not have anybody else.
Have you thought about repenting for your sins and joining the Sparrows?
>>17336976
being cute absolves you of sin so back off from lancel
>>17336979
You speak the truth.
All hail Queen Cersei.
Hello /adv/,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now, and everything seems good. He is an out-going person, well-rounded, educated, happy, and has a stable career.
We've read several threads regarding masturbation for men in regards to porn and such. After abstaining from both for well over a month, he is still having issues ejaculating without some kind of MMA choke hold on his penis. We have ruled out porn.
He was busy leading up to his career, no time for dating, just masturbating for the release. We have tried a lot of advice in various threads here but sometimes the thread gets derailed with unrelated advice.
Hopefully, you all can help. We're happy together and not seeking relationship advice, just advice with this matter. When I say "white knuckle death grip" required for him to orgasm, it's no joke. He has abstained from porn, then porn and masturbation, and is still having trouble.
Is there a chance he could have damaged any nerves with this style of masturbation? Do any of you have any experiences you could share that helped you overcome such an ordeal? Should he simply wait much longer than a month?
Thanks for your time, anons.
Let the guy masturbate how he likes, jesus woman.
>>17336898
How long has he been doing it? Could take a year, honestly.
But it's unlikely that he's permanently damaged anything (the vascular supply is more fragile than the nerves so most guys don't get to that point: popping a blood vessel in your dick is a terrifying wake-up call).
He should probably abstain permanently from squeezing while masturbating, but he shouldn't abstain from masturbation in general, that's counterproductive.
Get him to masturbate without gripping: men have come up with a huge variety of ways to pleasure themselves over the years, and he should go make use of the rest of them.
The goal is for him to be able to cum normally and routinely without gripping tightly, so he has to practice that, both on his own and with you especially.
And remind him that the mental part of this is extremely important. If he still has trouble, looking up Tantric material can help.
>>17336924
She's asking because I am unable to orgasm without a choking (literally) my chicken. Thanks for your sound advice, anon. Now take your ass back to /r9k/.
i do a ton of coke. why do i have the primal urge to fuck trannys and/or kill the homeless/myself
Probably because you do a ton of coke
probably because you do coke to keep down some other issues that need your attention.
That sounds pretty normal. I wouldn't worry about it.
HOW RESPOND?
Last message was me asking how her nighr was.
Literally my first time on a dating app. Does she want me to pick her up? I have work in the morning
Help pls
>i'm having trouble just sitting
tell her to use lube next time
but yeah, offer to do something
>>17336829
Need sleep like right now, have to wake up to work soon
>>17336831
tell her you know something more interesting to do tomorrow evening
