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how do i break up with my boyfriend?
ive met a cute boy and pretty much dont feel anything anymore for my (to be) ex-boyfriend :\
I dont want to make him feel bad because he'll probably cry and feel bad because of our break-up.
No trolls please.
how do i break up with my boyfriend?
I don't want to be in a relationship anymore.. It's not you, it's me..
I've met someone I want to fuck more than you.
Sorry.
Bye.
Dont feel bad about making him hurt because that's unavoidable, despite what you say.
>>17337788
Tell him you're being a vapid cunt and got bored of him
He'll understand
How do I stop being such a goddamn flake?
Step 1: stop rooting for the lakers
Step 2: either acquire willpower or stop writing checks you can't cash
>>17337712
I don't watch blacksgetball. And the problem is I make plans, then when the day comes, I don't feel like it anymore. It could be anything from feeling sick, to feeling depressed, to simply not feeling like it. This even happens with close friends.
>>17337721
If what you want is to stop flaking, then just stop making plans.
Otherwise get someone to force you to go out.
Like get a friend to come over and force you out of your house
For quite a while now I have been feeling depressed about life in general as I've always wanted an academic future maybe in software programming or some sub field of physics. I feel that academics do not make up life, and that relationships and friendships don't either because the ones you know and trust now will almost always end.
I want to have some positive things said at the moment I feel life is pointless.
Don't be edgelords and just say 'Kill yourself' because you think it's funny.
Inb4: Kill Yourself
>>17337689
meditate
>>17337719
How would meditating help?
>>17337689
Logistically, life is meaningless.
Whatever makes you happy, is what makes life worth living. Academics, relationships, friendships–these are all very viable reasons to enjoy life and make it meaningful.
>the ones you know and trust now will almost always end
Nothing in life is permanent. All material possessions you own are essentially borrowed, everyone in your life will eventually pass. Either accept this fact of life and enjoy things while they last, or continue...
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I saw some weird shit at EDC, granted this is my second festival. People would dance to the beat or just listen to shit. There was a rhythm with people. I couldn't resist myself. At times I did shit that felt sort of natural without thought. Like at times I would drift from the group of 12 of us and be able to find them out of 180,000 people. I would just walk randomly. I then almost had a "feeling" knowing where my group was when I got lost. I found them and they were like "where the fuck have you been!?" I just didn't feel in control and shit...
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/x/ is down in the basement
>>17337670
I always drift to that girl that is fucking any guy that can crawl on and she's purring like a kitten as everyone waits their turn
>>17337670
lol
first time doing drugs, huh kiddo?
How to fat girls find their bfs? I know and see all the times kinds of fat girls smart, stupid,ugly and mean land bfs fit,ugly, nerdy and jocky and I just dont get it how it hapoens. Like what do i have to do to find a bf being a fat cow??
>>17337666
Because having a vagina means you have dating on babby mode. Being fat doesn't matter because dudes are thirsty enough to hit that.
>>17337666
When I was fat, I attracted guys because
>I was actually nice to be with
>I shared their interests
>I was willing to do whatever in bed
>I actually pursued them
Then I lost weight.
>>17337674
Yeah but hiw come all the fat bitches have bfs but i don't?? What do you gotta do?
Hello /adv. I need some help to prepare myself for a future job. I want to work as a software engineer or in a very closely related field.
I only know two computer languages so far : Html and Python.
I am willing to dedicate myself to learning. I am currently in college studying a different field, but it is extremely easy and I also have no job at the moment, so I can spend a lot of time on learning this summer as well as next year.
My question is : what other language and/or skills do I need to learn to make sure I can get a job?
>>17337663
Learn a web dev tech stack. Some backend framework like RoR or Django since you already know Python. JavaScript and a modern frontend framework like Angular or React. Pick up CSS along the way and make some browser games or a cool website. Learn the basics of source control, use GitHub to host your projects. Read up on relational databases and know how to write complex queries. Understand the basics of data structures and complexity and common algorithms, you shouldn't be afraid of math. Be familiar with operating...
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>>17337858
Well.... Jesus. Do you think I can do all that until next summer if I devote at least 2-3 hours a day?
>>17337877
Probably not but you can always learn and try to switch careers later.
Hey Folks, I hope everyone is doing Great!
Today for the first time in my life I am standing at a point where I am so confused, Can't even talk to someone about how I feel. Does being nice always help. For my life till now I have been nice and helpful towards everyone. Even the ones who are rude towards me. I help without expecting anything in return. But now I feel that I've wasted everything. Feels like I'm a loser. Losing Motivation to help and be the nice guy.
I know that I can't become an asshole, people hate that. I always tell myself,...
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>>17337659
Bump
>>17337676
What?
the problem with you (and a lot of guys, particularly on 4chan) is that you think the world is made up of 'nice guys' and 'assholes'.
human interaction is a lot more complex than that. we aren't chads vs. betas.
being 'nice' is not the same as being a push over or being someones bitch. being nice simply means your default mode is kindness. when someone acts in such a way that doesn't warrant kindness, you simply ignore them if you can, or respond if you feel you have to. its not 'being an asshole' to retaliate to...
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Alright so I'm thinking about getting a tat of a playing card but i don't know whether to get it really big or regular size. Any /adv/ice
>>17337658
regular size is better.
>>17337658
how red neck are you
>>17337778
Actually im black
So there's this girl I've been going out with the last few weeks, nothing serious yet tho which is kind of my problem. (just in case I'm 22, never dated before) The thing is I'm kind of afraid of
dating, not just her but in general, I like her and I enjoy spending time with her, but I have no idea how being in a relationship works, how frequently are you supposed to talk to her, get together, go out etc. I assume I'm not supposed to talk to her every day, right? The thing is when you are in a relationship it's something constant , every day you...
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>>17337637
dont worry man. things are weird and rough and hard to figure out. but thats because were meant to figure it out for ourselves.
I dont believe in texting more than casually. like sending a funny pic or a funny little note about the day. checking in. i dont believe in long texting conversations each day. why bother? other people like that.
the point is you are supposed to find that out for yourself.
now heres a thing op. this girl isnt the girl you are going to marry. i know that sounds surprising...
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>>17337656
That's I good point I hadn't thought about, I mean I know most likely I wouldn't marry this girl but I didn't think that because of that this would be a good oportunity to learn. That's actually good advice, thanks
>>17337696
no problem man. i know no one wants to think of what they are doing as just a learning opportunity but 99% of the time it is in some way or another. that doesnt mean you cant enjoy it for al lthe same reasons. something isn't beautiful because it lasts.
Where can I find a good EQ test?
Eq?
>>>>>/mu/
>>17337668
It's like an IQ test, but for emotions. Think of it as Tumblr's alternative measure of intelligence for those who lack traditional patriarchy-defined high IQ's.
What should i expect when i go into the army? I would say i am prepared for anything,but i dont know what "anythings" i will encounter in the army.i am a typical white male with not so typical religious veiw points. Will it be like highschool,except worse or should i expect any better?i should probably note i am a loner and i prefer it that way.will that mentality get in the way of things?do i need to learn to lie a good lie?
I'm currently enlisted in the navy so my experience might be wildly different from yours. Basic was shitty while it lasted, but if you do what you're told its not hard, you just don't want to be there. Make sure you can do the pushups, sit ups, meet the run time etc. Don't shoot for minimal standards, because it'll be easier if you just prep yourself for harder physical challenges. Once you get out people tend to ease up on you. In the navy rank isn't really taken too seriously as far as NCOs go. I'm assuming the army is different in where...
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>>17337675
Thanks for that.
>>17337675
what r8 m8?
Where can I find a good looking but emotional trainwreck girl that won't mind me being a loser with no career ahead of me but would like me for my barely existent artistic talent?
>>17337607
starbucks. girls with those exact qualities all hang out at starbucks.
dont you get the 'where to find girls' weekly newsletter?
>>17337607
There's literally thousands of girls like that.
Substance abuse support groups
Hardly know anyone there.
Is it better to come early and get to know people before shit gets down or come in later and join in
Leaving in 15 mins if the former
If you know some people, go when there is at least a good chance that they'll be there so you have some kind of safety net. Showing up too early is usually awkward.
>>17337597
what if the people you don't know are the ones who will be doing all the fun stuff
>>17337591
no come in late and meet people after. if u go early ur gonna stand around with ur hand on ur elbow and have a cheesy smile. and bring a beer when u late
Hey guys, i need your advice. 1 1/2 years ago i met my now ex-girlfriend and we were really happy together. After 7-8 months into our relationship i got depression and lost all my motivation and emotions for anything. I basically gave 0 fucks about her anymore and told me multiple times she isn't happy how our relationship is going to (by the time i had the depression i was unaware i was depressed, i just thought that is how i am). Now 5-6 months after our break-up i went to the doctor and told him that i felt very weak and had no apetite etc. After 2 more appointments...
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>>17337583
TLDR: I'm starting to miss my ex-gf after i realised it was my fault we broke up. Texted her that i wanna talk and she told me to never text her again and blocked me. Gonna see her Monday in school for the last time and don't know if i should talk to her and confess that i wanna try it again
No, don't try to talk to her again. She's done and just wants to let you go now. You need to get yourself together and try to beat your depression before you start trying to date again. You're clinging to her because you remember being happy with her, so you think if you have her back, you can be happy again. That's not how it will work out. You're just going to keep being depressed and drag her down again.
Maybe someday down the line you'll meet again when you have your shit together, but for now, just work on yourself. That way when someone...
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>>17337583
Your fault for giving 0 fucks about her.
And depression is a weak excuse.
Any males here have experience with hair dye?
I have thick brown hair that hangs sort of like pic related and I don't really like it, it doesn't look like it has texture to it because of the dark color. I'm really pale and wanted to try being blonde or something, but I'm undecided and a bit afraid.
Try spiking your hair first. Then think about adding highlights, maybe?
>>17337570
I want to decolour my hair for some reaso n. I know it would look terrible and i would regret it but this thought comes around sometimes.
Also, i think it would be a plus for the people who actually like people who aren't afraid of trying new things, and i minus for almost everyone else.
>>17337570
I had green hair and red hair before, respectively.
If it turns out shit you can just shave it.
It will grow back, mate.
