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tl;dr 25 years old, married 3+ years, baby on way and made redundant at career-type job. Going for worker retraining at local community college. Any advice?
Hi /adv/, like the tl;dr says I'm at a crossroads for my life.
My wife and I have been married for 3 years and together for 6. We recently found out we're expecting our first. At 25 this seems like a good time, however I recently lost my management position and all the benefits that went with it. Instead of taking unemployment I took a part time job at night. Knowing that this isn't a career I went to the local community college and found out that I'm eligible for paid worker retraining. They have a Cybersecurity 2 year course I would be able to take for basically free. Knowing that is a good field now and in the near future I plan on taking that course.
What should I expect from a Cybersecurity course? What about being a new father working part time and going to college full time? I am nervous but it's exciting to be growing.
Pic unrelated, I'm in WA though.
>>17335968
Married at 22? You dumb motherfucker.
>>17335974
>t. I've literally never seen a vagina
>>17335968
so have you looked at management positions elsewhere?
does your wife have a higher earning potential?
do you own a house?
I have schizophrenia. My parents take my SSI and use it for rent. I hardly have any fun. What can I do to move out as soon as possible so that I can attend school and possibly work too independently? I've told the psych clinic where I get medication from about what happens my parents deny me money and then I have shouting fights with them. It feels like I'm being abused. They threaten with police and incarceration when I demand my money. Then they lie to the doctor and say I'd spend it wrongly and thereby ruin my life unintendedly. What should I do? I'm frustrated.
>>17335955
get a voice recorder or leave a camera/webcam on in the room when they're threatening you.
Talk to the police, tell them you'd like to be emancipated if you're a minor, or start living independently if you're an adult.
Get a restraining order taken out against them if necessary.
If you're under 18 and they are using it on RENT then they have that right. Sorry.
Are the payments made out to you or are they in your parents name?
I'm over 18. I walked out this evening. What should I do now so that I can get public housing?
/adv/ please help me, how do I forget about her.
Only time, my friend.
>>17336092
This
Time heals all wounds
Pic related
What degrees are the best to get and can guarantee a job?
What degrees are literally fucking worthless? I mean, barely getting a job and a decent income worthless. Like art degree worthless.
Like, whats the basic consensus
engineering, nursing, and teaching for jobs. also accounting
liberal arts for nojobs, stuff like history or political science
>>17335930
>What degrees are the best to get and can guarantee a job?
Probably STEM, finance/economics, medicine etc
>What degrees are literally fucking worthless? I mean, barely getting a job and a decent income worthless. Like art degree worthless.
Any kind of social studies like gender studies, history, etc
>Like, whats the basic consensus
China will be the superpower nr 1 in future
>>17335949
nah Hillary will find an excuse to nuke china.
Why is it that I can shrug off words but someone simply deliberately avoiding eyecontact while talking to me pisses me off?
How do I get over this?
>>17335915
Help
>>17335915
>How do I get over this?
By realizing that some people are just autistic and avoid eye contact with everyone by default.
It was even bad with photos of people at the start, for me.
I've managed to push through it, but many people haven't yet.
Just keep in mind it's nothing to do with you specifically, it's something wrong with them.
they're just trying to keep their eye virginity op
Minimum that the IFC demands is 2.5 but does your gpa factor into the frat guys decision to let you in or not or is it just 2.5 or higher and your good
i heard frat guys get all the pussy
>>17335932
Your not me
>>17335909
Frats frequently have unspoken upper limits to GPAs because they don't want their house to get the impression of being too brainy.
Since you evidently missed the third grade class on the difference between YOUR and YOU'RE, you would seem to be in no danger there.
Two nights ago I had to evacuate my apartment because of a fire. That all turned out okay, but I didn't sleep that night and now my sleep schedule is all wonky. On top of that, I haven't eaten since dinner on Tuesday. I'm not even feeling hungry. Should I just see how long I can go without food? Will I gain powers if I do that?
Oh, I should add that I didn't eat yesterday but I did drink a fifth of Jim Beam. That has calories in it, so I guess it'd be a lie to say I haven't eaten *anything*.
>>17335898
No your stomach will eat your fat , which won't help you lose weight at all harming your body organs...
Either buy canned soup with vegetables drink water and try to sleep or seek medical help
Eat a fucking sandwich.
Fuck sake, decades of telling people to not starve themselves hasn't work because people are too vain and stupid to follow up on it.
hey /adv/
some friends and I were chilling out and one of them brought a vape pen that we all used basically all night. it's gay as hell but I had never smoked or vaped before so hey why not. I'm pretty scared that I'll get cancer, so can anyone shed some light to help lessen my burden? thanks.
>>17335880
You really ought to go see a doctor...
>>17335887
for real or are you just fuckin with me
>>17335888
for real dude. you haven't built up a tolerance.
Myself and my boyfriend are learning Chinese as we wish to move to China sometime next year. We have had a few trial tutors as we want to pick the most suitable one, but my boyfriend is having some troubles and he's saying he wants to take it slower, as I on the other want to do 5 lessons per week (like going to school.)
I feel like my boyfriend is holding me back and he said he's going to give up if I practice in my spare time, or read things without him, and I really don't want him to, the few tutors we've had so far have praised me a lot and even said things like "maybe you can learn off name here." We will be going at our own pace regardless, I don't know how to approach him with this as I want so badly to push myself and be fluent in Chinese conversation within a year.
I love my boyfriend, a lot, so do I just go at his pace or do I explain to him that i would like to do more and hope he can understand? Although he said he'd give up if I got too far ahead. I'm also scared if I go too slow and don't study enough I'll forget things.
>>17335869
Try to compromise with him, if he doesn't want to go 5 days a week maybe convince him to go 4 days instead
Your boyfriend sucks.
>>17336048
I think you're right, I should respect him and try and compromise more.
>>17336055
He doesn't suck, we all learn at our own pace, some are slower than others that is just the way we are. I don't want him to get burnt out or bored of it because I'm pushing too much on him.
I need your help because I am balding and I act fucking weird about that.
All started last summer when I cut my hair short (down to 5mm). Somehow it looked weird, but I didn't care at first. The next day I felt like the whole college made fun of me, because somehow I had an ugly head shape. That fucking hurt me and I begann to take photos of me and compare them with photos from the internet and not only did I found out that my skull is indeed ugly shaped, but also that I am balding :(
>but anon you have many options about that
No. The drugs to stop hairloss fuck up your hormones, hairtransplantation is expensive and you will still need to take the fuckings drugs, a toupee might be an option, but if people find that out they will laugh again (and it is expensive). So the only realistic option left is to embrace the bald look and is driving me crazy.
>looking up bald/shaved people on the internet and can only imagine that I will look like pic related
>try to move and fix my hair so that I can see how my headshape looks like. I often do that for several hours because I try to convince myself that it is not that ugly
>I want to shave my head only to see what I would look like in some years, but I never did. Instead I cut it again to 5mm this easter.
That is some shit that I'm doing. I think I need psychological help about that, but I am afraid to go there. Also I am thinking about shaving now for summer, but then again I am afraid that my head is indeed ugly.
The only good thing is that I still have enough hair on my head, but I don't know for how long. Maybe 5 to 10 years before I go completly bald when I look at my relatives.
So what now?
DWAI anon. Just keep going until you get to the point of no return, then you shave it all off.
Meanwhile, focus on getting fit and developing personality.
Psychologist might work too.
I am not sure what this post is about. If you don't want to take drugs the proccess of balding just won't be slowed down. If you do, it will be slowed down. If the only option for you is going bald, then accept it, go bald and move on.
>>17335890
>DWAI
What that?
>focus on getting fit
Pretty fit already, but more can't hurt
>and developing a personality
Well... I post on /r9k/
>psychologist might work
I already wrote that I'm afraid to go there. Maybe they say I have some serious issues about my hairloss
TLDR: snorted a load of cocaine and don't know how to feel about it
so basically i woke up yesterday hungover as fuck with two friends at my place, and the two youngest of us soon realized we've snorted cocaine that the third one gave to us which we can't remember too well. we had a heavy night out, but after going to my place he later on pulled out a small bag of cocaine and introduced us to it. normally i'm really anti-drug and have sweared all my life that i would never try any drug at all. i was just so fucking drunk i stopped caring and did it, before the third guy did it as well. the guy with the cocaine is also a close friend of mine, but hes a couple years older. i really cant believe what i've done, seeing as this goes against all my morals. i kinda feel really dirty, shameful and lowlife, like i have no control of my life and dont even know what ive become any more. after the first guy went me and the third guy threw away a pack of cocaine worth 150$ into a forest far away from me, just because we didnt know what to do with it but we would never snort it again. how do i process this shit and what am i to think/do?
>>17335855
Damn trigger, where can I find coke
First, you get over yourself and accept that you have done coke. It doesn't change who the fuck you are. Also alcohol is a drug.
Alcohol is the actual gateway drug. This wouldn't have happened if you were high. Now you know.
anyone have any idea of how to quit 4chan? i spend way too much time here, many hours a day. is there some way to block the site somehow? thanks
Make a thread saying you are 12 years old, get b&
>>17337156
Not okay but is in the somewhere you can has to be burnt without having to go through that's the trouble
I masturbate like every hour.my penis is so turned on like everyday. If I look a picture of a girl.. my penis goes.. "time to masturbate jimmy". I like find the nearest bathroom and jezz all over the toliet. Its so engaging that I touch my penis when watching a movie or lying in bed. just wank, wank, and wank, 24/7, non stop on the dock. I lay in my bed and jezz everyday. Sometimes I forget to clean up snd just leave it there, my poor sons snd daughters.
If I jezz in a tissue and throw it in the bin, does that mean im disgracing my children. My people in my 6 inches erected penis, are they ok? Do they just die out in the bin? What happens if a person gets it and its a girl and uses it as a period thing. What if my jerking jezz comes to life... and I dont know about a son I never had.
I love my penis but.. erections everyday? I seriously wank every day, 5 times a day... and when jezz, I just keep flapping and still touch my bilbo when I jerked already. How much is too much jerking? Why is my bilbo so turned on? Do I need to smack it and smack it till its not turned on? But still it might get a penis fragile. I dont know how much it too much? Please tell me if I jezz so much, and use my hand so much. My arms like a freaken gun, its like got muscle everywhere.
Please tell me how much is too much?
ah to be 13 again
>>17337161
fuck those times, I didn't want to be ruled by my emotions and impulses.
>>17335843
Try limiting yourself to twice a day, or find a horny girl so is no limit.
>>17335843
Does he know he's a comedic genius?
>meet this qt conservative at uni a year ago
>started dating a few months ago
>she asks me this
Do I tell her I browse a Japanese anime image board all day?
Nothing to be ashamed of, if you have the same viewpoints it won't be a huge deal.
Tell her you frequent a Taiwanese Basket Weaving forum. It'll all make sense.
Okay /adv/ story time
>have BF of five years
>we're very close. Tell each other everything.
>his father passed away last September.
>he's already had bad depression, but his dad's death made it worse.
>today I don't hear from him after a couple of hours
>no big deal, probably sleeping in
>I get a pic message from him
>it's a selfie of him in another city
>I get mad and ask why he didn't tell me, he knows how I worry.
>it just seems shady to me that he would skip town and not tell me
>I get very mad at him, tell him I'm freaking out.
>he says "I just wanted to feel happy. Feel like I don't have depression"
>he then starts pulling the "I'm a grown man I can go where I want" card
>which is true, he's adult with free will. But it was so out of character. He never leaves the house unless he has to, let alone go three hours out of town.
>I just wish he told me before he went. He also told me "I didn't tell you because I didn't know I was going"
>Uhhh what?
This for real was enough for me to consider breaking up or at least separating from him. What should I do though? I don't want to sound hasty.
>>17335796
Sounds pretty selfish to not tell your loved ones and let them worry. If it's totally out of character, I'd consider breaking up with him too.
I think you have mental problems honestly. Worrying so much about your boyfriend leaving town for a few hours is just insane. You don't help his depression. You are childish, emotionally abusive and inmature.
>>17335796
>>17335815
eh I've been there. you get depressed and just need to do something.
one time i got in my car and just drove till i got tired of driving and then came home.
i don't think hes cheating, mostly he just sounds overwhelmed with life.
