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I guess I need some advice.
I feel like the fucking service desk guy of the world.
>Everyday parents want to complain to me about how mean and disrespectful her coworkers are.
>Friends come to me to tell me about their big ass problems. Nothing else. Just to complain.
>My significant other complains to me for hours about how bad the world is and pressures me for answers
>They start unloading their frustration on me with passive-agressive remarks sometimes
> Feel the duty to always respond in a patient and calm manner.
This has been going for years. I always end up feeling drained. And it all keeps adding up. I end up feeling real tense most of the time and my stomach feels odd.
But these people come to me for help. I can't turn them away. If one can help, one must help. They are my friends and family and they need my help, some of them are in really bad places and I cannot blame them, but fuck I feel like I'm gonna break at this rate.
What do I do? Am I just being a pussy?
Maybe I'm just venting out.
>>17336533
OP, my GF wants to break up with me, but I love her, I'm so fucking sad, man. What should I do?
>>17336538
Why does she want to break up with you, if I might ask?
>>17336533
Once you start feeling drained, take some time for yourself to recoup. The best way you can offer help to the ones you love is first by taking care of yourself.
So I'm staying at my boyfriend's place right now. He is playing Overwatch, I am playing Pokemon/tooling around on his laptop (with permission).
I went to go start a thread on 4chan, realized I would need to use a picture to start a thread, and it automatically opened to SO MUCH PORN. Rationally I know that every man on Earth likes porn, but the thing is...these girls don't look like me. At all.
I'm fat. None of his porn pictures have fat girls. Is he settling? Should I just dump him right now? He's fucking settling. I hate myself.
>>17336510
why dont you just lose some weight
>>>/fit/
read the sticky then gtfo
Or you could go down in weight, feel better and see that he is settling and THEN dump him.
you look better and can move on to a better man, that doesnt play games all day long. (unless its his job)
manchild are bad, never go for them
>>17336510
Girlll you need to chill everybody have dreams. I'm sure he isn't everything in your porn folder. Just fucking talk to him about it, be open and don't let this shit boil up inside you
My father is over 40 years old, and still acts like a damn child. When he is harmed or breathes in something like deodorant spray or body spray he acts like a child and starts fake choking and coughing and shit. Whenever he gets mad, he makes everything into an argument, yells at everyone. I really don't know what to do with such a fucking child. I sprayed bugs in my livingroom because the house is fucking infested because he leaves the only window without a screen open and they fly in all the time. I sprayed twice to kill this huge swarm next to the lamp in the corner and he wakes up from me talking loud, gets mad about waking up, and is now saying the whole living room was sprayed, that he has it in his mouth from across the entire room, that he was choking from across the entire room from two sprays. Thoughts anyone?
>>17336507
Move out or deal with it. Bottom line is you're living in a place for free and probably getting food/utilities and sometimes that requires dealing with a little bullshit.
Don't be a faggot and move out if you don't like it. If you are living in someone's house, you have to tolerate their shit.
>>17336507
>>>17336507
>Move out or deal with it. Bottom line is you're living in a place for free and probably getting food/utilities and sometimes that requires dealing with a little bullshit.
This. But OP is probably 14 or something
yo im only 19 years old, but im really worried about my little sister, whos 16. my mom (who is an icu nurse herself, which is quite ironic) refuses to take my sister to a therapist i think she really needs. my sister shows some of the super obvious signs of depression, and i hear her crying a lot in her room, not to mention her eyes look sad and dead. what can i do to help her? i cant drive yet because i havent been able to make enough to afford driving lessons (even thoigh our family is pretty well off), so i cant drive her to a doctors office. my dad wont be any help either, since hes such a huge narcissist he probably wont believe that my sister is struggling (ive been through worse than that! and im the only one who kniws anythig and i know she cant be feeling that way)
talking helps, a smile and a wave to keep her noticed. ask about her life, what her biggest dream is or was and just take your time for her.
make her go for a walk with you, save money and get her treats. be the best sibling
>>17336523
she doesnt really like to go out much or anything, but ill definitely try doing nice things for her
thanks for the advice anon
A. Nurses are often control freak narcissists with low IQs and sycophantic to authority figures, therefore it's likely your mom is probably bullying your sister and doesn't want to be exposed... and she probably enjoys her suffering.
B. Studies show that psychotherapy, therapy and psychiatry only benefit 15% if the population that sees them, including those diagnosed mentally ill.
C. She's in highschool, so just a place a call to the school and ask to speak to the guidance counselor, since you're a concerned brother
D. Don't blame this shit on genetic or chemical imbalances, the APA no long holds those views as of 2014, but it's going to take awhile before the propaganda train stops.
E. Just talk to your sister as well.
Where can I get an email account that doesn't require a phone number? I don't have a phone and gmail is demanding a number.
>>17336466
You don't necessarily have to put a phone number.are you baiting.
>>17336474
Then how do I get past this screen?
so u dont have a second junk e-mail? that way u dont need to enter number, just once a year verify it functioning
Is there any feasible way to purge myself of degenerate fetishes?
I jerk off about once a day, sometimes twice to things I'm not proud of, the only of which I'm willing to admit to is BBW/SSBBW stuff and pregnancy, the rest I'll leave to the imagination. The way my tastes are going I'll never be able to get my dick work to get laid and I just feel like a creep liking what I like. The worst part is I'm not ugly or socially inept and know I could totally get to a point where I could get laid but I'm too afraid of not being able to perform just because my dick is so conditioned to my degenerate tastes and also I get nervous as fuck. This has happened on 3 separate occasions and am still a virgin because of it. I've practically given up on dating entirely to avoid feeling that shitty ever again
I just want to be able to date a normal girl and fuck her normally when the time comes, really
Simple, just stop watching porn
>>17336468
There's no way that it can be that simple
How long do I stop looking at porn?
Does that also mean not fapping?
In that case, how long do I not fap?
How do I stop looking at porn?
Don't get me wrong I'll try it but I'm just worried I'll be ridding myself of a means of enjoyment just for something that has a chance of not working
Spend your time in better hobbies, that's how you stop fapping.
Too much free time = too much fapping
i'm wasting my vacations. what should i do?
i have no friends btw
>>17336428
Think about what is interesting to you, and take a day and explore it. Make yourself do it - don't sit at the computer all day, don't even turn it on until you get back from your activity
>>17336428
Find some. Write a book. Work out. Play videogames. Live.
>>17336428
Get a fucking job. Don't fucking waste all your time playing games.
Should I try to get back with my ex? It's been a year, and everything was ok between us.
No. Getting back together is just a meme.
>>17336440
first post best post
>>17336426
>>17336440
It never works out. You could try some risky-biscuits friends with benefits thing with her and inevitably get feelings if you're feeling like making a bad decision. It's what I did and I've got some good memories and major regrets.
Probably going to lose my virginity tomorrow. Fucking scared as shit. Anyone have advice? 20m by the way.
Don't do something autistic and mess it up for yourself. Also, be prepared to not perform as well as you'd want
>>17336393
>Without knowing if you're a dude or a chick.
Don't boost or lie and say you've been with other people when you haven't.
Don't expect it too last very long it's not like porn, it can be much more awkward then that. If it's as good you might see in porn then kudos to you.
Stick her with the pointy end.
Can the no-contact rule still work if you tell your ex-significant other that you're going to do it/your reasons for doing it?
>girlfriend breaks up with me
>says she still loves me but doesn't deserve me or love, that she deserves to be alone for hurting people in the past, thinks she'll hurt me in the long run
>tell her that as much as I'd like to be friends right away, I'd have feelings for her
>want to give her time to think, establish no contact rule, but tell her my reason for doing it is because I want to one day get back together and that when I'm done with the period of taking a break for myself we can be friends, potentially, but it'll hurt and I'll still have returning to our relationship in mind
>she says she'll wait for me
Did I fuck up or could this potentially work if I give her time?
>>17336385
nice filename op
>>17336390
It's relevant to the question
One and only bump
Why is it so hard to make friends?
I have -0. And still counting. Backwards.
eh I think for some people its easier than others I don't have any friends anymore. I developed schizophrenia and weirded all my old friends out. I still haven't made any new ones. Its hard when your life's a mess. But for the time being my parents are keeping me company.
Just come to terms with having no friends and avert your attention elsewhere. Don't slump around on the internet all day, learn a skill or read books. I was the same way until I did this and people suddenly popped into my life when I wasn't expecting it, it did take a while though.
Is there anything about you that is likable? I mean, would you be friends with someone just like you?
I've fallen in love my best friend. The thing is she's a lesbian. She's told me she had feelings for me before. Should I still go after her? And if not how will I get over her?
Well if she had feelings for you before its possible she could have them again.
If she's bisexual then it's not so bad to go for it, depending on the details, I guess.
But if she's an all out lesbian, then first try to imagine what it would be like if a gay guy were pursuing you, and if you'd consider hooking up with him, assuming your straight.
>>17336340
Is that pussy good?
How do you guys go about approaching people in public? I plan on going to a musical venu alone and I'm not the best at it. I'm not one of those friendless types in fact I have quite a few, the thing is it's either been people making the first move on me or through friends of friends. Never quite done it myself.
>>17336333
Bump for same question
Just say something simple at first like "hey nice shirt" and try to hold a light conversation from there.
Just say "hi", and talk about something with relation to the context. If he/she is worth, they'll have a conversation with you without problem, and if everything wents ok, you can get their numbers, so you can invite them to hangout someday. Just try, you won't lose anything.
About a month ago I was feeling really shitty, so on a whim I booked a flight to the US Virgin Islands for next week. I didn't really think anything of it at the time other than a get away. Well, now I feel nervous. Ive traveled a bunch before, but never by myself. I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice for me. I have nothing planned for when I get there other than my hotel.
What do you do as a solo traveler? And what is there to do on Saint Thomas for single people?
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=what+is+there+to+do+on+Saint+Thomas+for+single+people
I dunno I usually just relax but ive only gone camping alone. I enjoy the tranquility of nature and try to feel what solitude is like.
I'm not sure how the virgin islands would be for meeting people, isn't it full of rich white families? Anyways, just enjoy the scenery and visit all of the touristy spots. Go drinking and dancing. If you see cool people don't be nervous chat them up, solo travel can get a bit lonely so it's nice to make friends.
so my relationship of 3 years ended. We are both pretty emotional over it. There was a pregnancy scare and I sorta blew up. I wasn't really getting cooperation from this girl. Things really started to fall apart 4 months ago.
We both still want to hangout and do stuff together. Is this a good sign we're going to get back together?
I love her. it feels over. I think we both want to see what else is out there. but fuck I want her back. maybe it's just the thought of being single again that scares me. But I honestly had alot of feelings for her and I loved/love her.
any advice>?
well I dunno maybe some time jacking off alone is what you need if your not ready to get someone pregnant.
>>17336294
>shes in school debt 45 000
>she has no full time job just part time
>im not ready
>shes not ready
I blew up cause I felt I wasn't getting cooperation from her. I was patient and waiting for her to apply herself more and seek full time work. I pregnancy scare just freak me out.
I'm in a similar situation and it's really scary, we are trying to make it work though. We're spending a little more time apart and working at ourselves as individuals and being less dependent on each other. If you really love her work towards being healthy rather than just giving up.
