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Hey I need some help here. I have 3 really close friends and I would trust them with anything. You know the kind of people who would help you hide a body. On the other hand I would much rather just be alone. It's not like they are annoying it's just I prefer being by my self. I work by my self and its great not talking to anyone for like 7 hours, it's peaceful. So what should I do guys?
>>17337557
tell them you want to explore your inner gayness and they should understand if theyre your real friends, not criminal friends.
>>17337557
Just dont talk to them every day, it's not required of you.
But be aware that being "Alone" got benefits as well as some disadvantages, get a job where you need to be alone if you want to.
>>17337557
what do you need help with? i think the issue here is you are suggesting that you would be 100% happy not talking to nayone ever again and not having friends. i doubt it.
im very much an introvert, in the traditional sense. i recharge with alone time. i had a busy month last month so this month I've only gone out once so far. i need to relax and read and write and just not be leaving my apartment in order to regain myself.
but after two weeks of this ill probably want to go out again. and i already waqnted to hang out one night this week (last night).
it is normal to want both. its okay to say 'hey ill see you guys saturday' and then just not talk to them until saturday.
I like my bf but he is too nice. like, he always does stuff for me, and takes away my individuality. I used to like it when he done stuff for me but now its boring, and he doesent turn me on. i have had sex with a few people on tinder but they where stranger so it wasnt really cheating. and all my bf does is play video games. its boring. where do i meet real men?
1/10
needs more subtlety
The company I worked at for 15 years is closing down and it has been some time since I last created a CV/resume, so I was wondering if anybody had any tips.
Use Comic Sans font.
>>17337534
Oh jesus just ignore infographics like this, they're a pile of wank.
I used to be a headhunter. CVs we like are neat, simple, and easy to read and in a sensible order. Avoid bullshitty things like everything in that infographic, they mean nothing on a CV written by yourself. Only use one or two if highly, highly relevant to the job. Even then try and avoid because they're just so vague and even the biggiest aspie can write that he "works well with others"...
>>17337631
I took this infographic as something to refer to and imply etc when writing. Like not actually writing the stuff on here word for word.
So I've just had my first check and I felt no joy. I smiled because they gave it to me in person but it was a fake smile.
Is there something wrong with me ?
>>17337520
Not rly? It's just money after all.
>>17337520
because you dont know what to spend it on
i used to have a buy list when i was waiting for my first check i was excited.
What is even the problem here?
I want to kill someone. The thought of hurting someone excites me beyond anything else. I've been killing animals since I was a kid. I started faking relationships for sex and then ending them abruptly when they think I'm perfect because I enjoy hurting them emotionally. I'm sick of always pretending to be someone good. I only have one person I can act myself around. I need a healthier way to entertain myself any suggestions?
>>17337512
Rather unusually, might I suggest self harm?
>>17337513
Stopped a couple months ago
>>17337512
oooh aren't you edgy thinking you're all special and shit. Stop being an attention whoring faggot. You're not smarter than everyone else. You're just some degenerate on an anime image board like the rest of us.
I'm 24. What should I do when I run into people I used to go to high school with, or their parents, on the street?
I mean they all probably have a degree and a solid job by now (I know a bunch of them do). I've been depressed and suicidal for the last few years, I have no job and doing pretty bad in university. My life is kind of a wreck. And when I meet these people they ask me "hey how's life been" and all that crap. I tried to cut contact with everyone from high school after I finished it but I can still randomly run into them on the street.
>>17337448
>I can still randomly run into them on the street.
Use the sidewalk instead of the street
>>17337448
Do you feel the pressure to impress your ex-acquaintances?
>>17337472
I don't know if I deep down want to impress them. I just don't like having to explain why my life isn't exactly good, or give them the chance to feel pity for me.
what rap do white people listen to?
Normal rap that any other person do. Ya dip
Presuming that white people don't listen to the same music.
Will Smith
https://youtu.be/VzHBq00fT4I
What kind of a picture and description do girls like on Tinder?
>>17337393
All Tinder is there is to collect men like Pokémon.
Always depends but from my experiences the down to earth ones attract the most.
Picture should feel welcoming and safe. You should be smiling but a friendly pleasing smile not full rapeface or silly (these are only allowed as your other pictures and only when there's a cute animal in your arms or you're posing with). Camera angled and head slightly tilted to the side does wonders for this when you have a good light smile. Try to avoid ab shots, I AM DRNIKNG TEH ALCOHOELZ or the "Oh man I got caught pulling a funny face while wearing my best suit with a book and a glass of wine, now everybody's gonna think i'm the most sophisticated cunt on the block" pictures.
Profile-wise, be chill. State your big passion like "I'm all about music, I'm a sound designer by career and I DJ/play in a band in my free time". Then state some hobbies and conversation hooks like "I also really enjoy travel, DIY and cooking especially. What's your favourite dish?".
Could also state what you're looking for if you can word it nicely like "I'm an honest and drama-free guy, simply looking for someone who feels the same". You can even claim to have some terrible jokes, good self-depricating humour is pretty attractive. Like my chubby friend has a profile pic of him and his brother's dog and he tends to open up with something like "Just so we're not confused, I'm the human, not the dog" and he gets a good icebreaker laugh.
>>17337393
we like muscular arms and a fish tank in the back
I have a friend and I really like her. I have a crush on her, but I don't think that's the point, because I'm really happu being her friend. However, I have kind of an anxiety crisis everytime I think she may be with someone else. Just now I heard she went to college to check some scores and was seen with a roommate and I'm already really nervous, even though we went to the movies the day before. What can I do to stop this? I too have a lot of friends and I know that we should hang with many people but it makes me feel so sad to know that maybe she feels more confortable with other people
So you'd rather she derive no enjoyment from being with anyone except you?
You are not "really happy being her friend"
You want more.
You can lie to yourself but you can't lie to us, anon
>>17337372
no... I think I'm just afraid of being left
>>17337373
yeah, maybe you're right but I try to lie to myself everyday so I don't just lose my mind
so I think my boyfriend has like a fetish for really short girls.
pic related, he just liked the pic on Instagram. all the girls I've know he dated were really short. his ex was like under 5 feet, the last girl I knew he dated was like 5'2, I see him look at realy short girls. I just have a feeling. he's told me I'm the perfect height, but I feel like he's just masking it, idk. I'm 5'5" i know I'm not that tall, but I'm not really a short girl or a really short girl. it makes me insecure bc everytime I see a girl that's like 5'3" I get jealous and insecure... and I've never acted like that before. the feeling goes away for a while then soemrjinf makes it resurface (this pic he just liked... seems weird right? he's obviously thinking about short girls getting mad...and thinks it's cute.. )
what should I do?? I know it's ridiculous but I'm considering breaking up with him, I should feel beautiful not insecure, by something as dumb as height .. when I'm a perfectly fine normal height -_-
>>17337291
>making assumptions like you can read his mind
>projecting negative bullshit with no proof
>blaming your own insecurities on nonsense
Sounds like you've got bigger problems than your boyfriend likes short chicks.
How tall is your boyfriend? If it's 6' or better, NEWSFLASH, YOU ARE A SHORT GIRL. Hell, even if he's 5'9" you're still a short girl. Stop fucking comparing yourself to other people. Insecurity is really unattractive and the only one bringing it on is you.
> I know it's ridiculous but I'm considering breaking up with him, I should feel beautiful not insecure, by something as dumb as height
This is entirely a personal problem. When you boil it down, you're ass pained because he dated some girls in the past and liked a stupid meme on instagram.
Either talk to him about your insecurities, or get over it on your own. This is a great example of a woman making a mountain out of a mole hill. It's not like you're fucking tall to begin with.
Are you 16?
Hello /adv/
>asked a girl out today
>she said yes
>wasn't expecting that desu
Got a few hours left
The thing is I am kinda social awkward and just the fact that I made her say yes is a big deal for me
Any advice?
I'm afraid I will run out of things to talk real quick and that my mind won't work properly because of the excitement
Would like to hear some common fails people do so I won't do the same thing
Don't overthink it. Don't plan it too much. You want to have fun on a date and make sure she has a good time too.
>>17337285
This. Just go and try to have fun. When in doubt, ask about her. Hobbies, favorite stuff, family, friends, a girl will literally talk for hours about anything if you find something she's interested in. And then if you manage to find something you both have an interest in, you'll even be able to contribute to the conversation.
It's really easy anon, just don't try too hard.
>>17337295
This, except not only when in doubt. Always, and with every woman on the planet. Just get her to talk as much as possible. Ask follow up questions, like it's a conversation - not an interview. With the right things to say you can spend hours on the same topic, but make sure it doesn't spiral into negative ranting, if that happens just offer her a kind brush off and change the conversation topic to something you can both be excited about.
now i have been lurking for a while now without posting stuff, but now it happend to me, i got a crush on someone, just like most of you guys.
The thing is, im renting out a room in my appartment for a girl staying in my contry while she is studying (she might stay afterwards). She have been here for a while now and i cant really help my feelings but i have begun to get more feelings for her than just friends.
We do all kind of stuff together, watch movies, make dinner and go out for coffee/something else. I have no clue what so ever how she feels about me, if she just sees me as a friend/landlord or maybe something more. Like most of you, i have trouble how to tell her that i like and thinks she is cute, the fear is that things between us will become really really awkward if i pour out my heart and tell how i feel, and she have none of that feelings.
How do i open up? how do i tell her.
Excuse me for the bad gramma, english is not my mother tounge.
-Cheers from Denmark. btw, i take any form of advice/ your experiance with this. thanks.
TLDR: Im landlord, i have crush on girl who lives in my place, should i tell her? how do i tell her?
Pic not related.
>>17337265
well anon there's a risk to every decision you want to make. if you tell her you love her there is a possibility that she might reject you but there is a possibility that she likes you. it all depends on you on what choices you wanna make. if your too afraid to ask her out why not find out if she likes you or not by how she acts when your with her? idk if this could help you but ill gladly give you an advice anon
Don't tell her that you love her or about all your feelings. That's just weird unless things in Denmark are way different. The most important thing is to keep things LIGHT AND CASUAL with no pressure to her. She's in an awkward situation where she might think that rejecting you will make her living arrangements awkward or so bad that she'll have to move. So, don't come on strongly. Just make an offer to take her out on something that is more like a date. If she says yes to something like that, while you're out on the date try to further advance things with compliments or non-creepy physical contact.
Though, I think due to how the situation is, I wouldn't even start anything to begin with. Things can just get too weird.
>>17337580
I agree with this, the more you open up, the more control the crush has over you. You don't want them to be able to manipulate you emotionally. And you are not supposed to appear emotionally vulnerable or like you need them. These are generally unattractive traits.
I agree, try to be casual, flirt, show some interest. If you notice something that tells you your crush may like you back, ask them out. Appear chill and not like you are obsessing.
Why do parts of my body hurt randomly?
It gets especially concerning when it's my abdomen/testicles
>>17337261
Probably just normal aches and pains. Are you overweight? If you are, it usually puts stress on tendons/bones. If it's unbearable pain, see a doctor.
>>17337261
Source of image?
>>17337644
A show from the 90s called All That.
It had Amanda Bynes.
Are significant personality changes possible without using drugs?
Yep. Anything you'd particularly want to change?
Of course anon. But it requires willpower.
I'd recommand reading Prometheus Rising of Robert Anton Wilson. It may look and sound like mumbo jumbo but it's a very interesting book depicting a map of how our brain and minds function, and how we can change our own situation. Really helped me go through harsh times.
Really this book is mental toolbox. I'd advise you to get into earstern practises such as yoga and stuff like that but the book would explain it way better than I would.
Godspeed for whatever the fuck you're trying to change anon.
>>17337257
Coming out of extreme emotional pain or the death of a loved one
MY PC is a built from 2012
3rd generation i5
Z77 mitx Mainboard
7950 OC Graphics (perfect for Full HD gaming)
using a 4k Monitor now though, so I think about upgrading cheaply
I didnt buy into the 970, because it didnt yet have enough power for real 4k Gaming,
Now I think about getting an 8GB AMD RX 480, because its fast and lies in my budget of 300€
You guys think that would work? I dont need perfect graphics settings, but want to be able to play the newer games in 4k resolution, had to use 1080p for Metro 2033 last light so far
>>17337245
4k fag
Have you though of maybe waiting until shit gets actually optimised?
>>17337249
because it needs less space and power than the dual monitor setup i used before and still offers double the resolution, which is great for browsing and multitasking, im more on the desktop as i game
>>17337245
Man for having a pc already you don't seem to know jack
No the 480 won't do 4k 60 fps maxed out
Fuck a gtx 1080 can't even do it
Maybe the 1080 ti or and vega can
If not then you're gonna have to wait a year and a half for nvidia Volta or and navi the other gen in 2018
