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I feel like I'm attractive enough looking. I've been complimented many times before, being told I'm good looking/cute/handsome by both men/women. At the very most I'd consider myself an 8, on average a 7. But other than a few times before, I've never had any girl outright come up and hit on me.
I've been told I'm not very approachable at first, because I come across very reserved and on constant defense. I asked if they meant shy, and they said "No, you don't seem shy, just like you don't want anyone to fuck with you. A lot of the times you look indifferent, like you don't give a shit what happens around you.". I would like to say I'm a nice enough guy because once people get to know me I'm usually the one to make everyone laugh/talk.
Being told I was reserved was a shock to me, as I've never put much thought into it. I've had two or three women ask me out before, but that was after knowing me a while. What I'm asking about, as this will be my first year as a full time college student, is what things make you comfortable enough to approach a guy with more than friendly intent, when you've NEVER had any interaction with him before?
>nb4 "Why don't you just ask out a girl."
I rarely take notice in women. Doesn't mean I'm not attracted to them, but I just never get that many romantic feelings for women. I wouldn't ask out a girl unless I knew I liked her, but I also wouldn't mind giving it a shot if some girl saw something that I didn't.
It's much rarer for a girl to approach a guy it just doesn't happen as often. Not that it never does but you're better off initiating because that's what is expected
>>17339457
And then why do Females yell about equal rights :/
>>17339459
Just because they want equal rights doesn't mean they want to use them.
They just want all the rights, all of them.
And then they'll just sit on them like a dragon guarding its gold.
Hey guys,
I would like to record a POV video of me writing, what type of camera could I use for this? I believe the best way would be to attach it to me head. Any suggestions on what to buy?
just get a gopro like anynone else
>>17339417
Record while you have sex too ;)
>>17339445
if im just sitting down is it necessary to get a gopro? or is there a cheaper alternative that would do the same job?
so I'm a student at university. I study latin and english and im gonna be a teacher one day. thats all fine and dandy and i enjoy it, but there is actually something else i like to do and im not sure if thats actually a good idea or if im just delusional.
sumerian is an ancient language. the first one to ever be written down. i really love that language and i spend a lot of time thinking about it.
i really want to write a textbook for people to study it with.
i read up on linguistics to be able to understand the grammar and i read up on didactics to be able to make it as easy as possible, but there really is no infrastructure for people like me, who dabble outside of their discipline. when i talk to people about it, they act mildly interested but nobody really gives a shit. i really want to do it but its also such a colossal amount of work...
should i go for it or should i just keep dreaming?
>>17339407
Do what you like man, in the end its what only matters, being happy doing what you like.
If it fails you will learn a lesson and keep on with your life so you are not really losing anything.
>>17339407
Professor writing here.
You're right in thinking academia is structured so that everyone is pigeonholed and stepping outside your specialty is suspected.
But there are ways around it. Say you become a Latin teacher and continue your person interest in Sumerian. You might be able to convince a university classics department to offer a course in the language, with you as visiting or adjunct professor.
Meanwhile, through your experience as a teacher you can figure out what publishers are most likely to be interested in a Sumerian book, and send them a proposal. If they see a real hole in the market, they won't care what your day job is.
>>17339407
Holy shit do not study dead languages. I'm an English teacher. Don't do it. It's a waste.
Yo /adv/
How much money would you guys typically have on you whenever you would head out?? I would think to bring only enough for half a tank of gas and maybe 5 or so bucks for food along with whatever amount the price of the item you headed out to purchase would be
( that is if you even had the intention of buying something before heading out ) also general survival thread, post what you carry with you while out don't be shy ;-)
I keep $20 folded up in the corner of my wallet for emergencies. When I'm out of town I place it in my sock instead because I'm a paranoid fuck
>>17339395
This is why God created credit cards and ATMs.
>>17339395
Every time I leave the house I religiously check that I have my keys, wallet, fags and lighter, and my phone - if those things aren't in my pockets, I won't set foot outside the door.
Usually keep £100 ($130 US) in my wallet. For me, that amount is the sweet spot between having enough cash that it's worthwhile carrying it while still being little enough that it's not a big deal if I lose my wallet or whatever. There's also about £20 in various coins in the ashtray of my car (I don't use it as an ashtray though) in case I need some change, but I don't often use cash for much. I also carry my fuelcard (I travel a lot for work, so my employer pays for all my diesel), my debit card (which I only use 3-4 times a month, just to draw cash from the ATM), my AMEX card (use that to pay for everything I can, has a good cashback deal and because I pay the balance in full each month I don't get charged interest) which has a limit of £20,000, two visa credit cards to cover me at places that don't take AMEX (it isn't widley accepted here) with a combined limit of about £7,000 which are both on joint accounts with my wife, and a mastercard credit card that I use once in a blue moon just to keep the account active.
Other than that there's a couple of photo's of my wife in there, one of the kids when they were little, half a dozen of my business cards, and a Canadian $50 note which was left over from our holiday there about 18 years ago that I keep meaning to exchange for proper money but never get round to.
How do you heroically masturbate?
find a semen starved succubus and jerk off on her
then you'd be saving a life
other than that idk
Do it for the children.
>>17339352
With bravery, and might.
So here's what you do;
>Without masturbating, go a few months working on arm strength and grip strength.
>Get a 'utility belt' (A fanny pack with a hole cut into it..., for your 'batarang').
>Whenever you see a crime happening, run into the nearest phonebooth, and unzip the fanny pack, unleashing your super-identity, the 'Wanton wrangler'.
>Run out, gripping your lighting rod as hard as you can, in an attempt to shock any villains in proximity.
>Furiously masturbate over the wretched villains and leave them 'webbed' to something for the police to find.
>This must be how you fight your arch-nemisis, Anita Sakastico, and another of a blue haired ogre henchwomen.
NOw this post may sound silly, but as I read through it, I would pay to read this as a comic.
So /adv/ i'm in need of a haircut, the last time i got one i looked good for around a month and then my hair started looking like shit, i look like a monk or something.
What haircut should i get? pic related is a picture from around 3 weeks ago, censored because paranoid.
Also, i'm going trough hair recovery therapy and i have a bald spot on the top of my head (not that noticeable right now but i'm still insecure about it)
4 on top 2 or 3 on sides. Also man, you look fine. Cant see your face but you look handsome enough.
Dont stress too much. Even if you have a bald spot try not to give a fuck. Rather than using rogaine or taking fin, exercise and slowly start cutting it shorter and shorter. Fighting nature is a slippery slope. Easier to just go with the flow if you can, man.
>>17339543
Thanks, i havent used a buzz cut since pre-school, i don't think i can pull it off right now.
I'm using finasteride and Minoxidil, also i go to a dermothologist to get mesoteraphy and a stimulation session, its working out but i know sooner or later i'll have to give up and just let it fall, its just hard to accept it when you started balding at 19(i'm 23 right now).
But yeah, i'm starting to lift so that may give me the confidense boost to just say fuck it and shave my head.
And i hide my face just because i know people who browse this website and i'm kinda ashamed of asking for advice in an anonymous board.
You need to cut your hair relatively often if you have a short haircut. Once a month or so.
Try to mention to your hairdresser that you want a haircut that covers your bald spot and a haircut that is easy to maintain.
My crush (who officially sees me as just a friend [she literally said it to my face]) invited me to join her for 10 days of vacation in the dominican republic. FYI: She asked a lot of her other friends. I just happened to be the one daring enough to say yes.
Background story is as follows: I was out with my sis when we met her. She's a faint acquaintance of my sister and we met that evening. That was about 2 years ago. She literally told me from the get go that I'm just "bro" material. Recently we talked about stuff she likes about boys (looks etc.) and it got to the point where she re-iterated that I'm just not her type as it seems. We hung out at her place. I left sunday and returned the next friday with a completely changed look (haircut, contacts etc). Since then it seems like I have sparked some sort of interest. She's making an effort to establich casual physical contact for example putting her hand on my legs or hand when talking to me etc.
This very sudden vacation thing seems like the one and ONLY chance for me to set things straight. We're gonna share a double room fyi.
Any tips on how to play my cards right?
TL;DR: Unexpected vacation with my crush.
10 days just her and me in the dominican republic. How do I get this right?
P.S.: Sorry for my convoluted writing style
I'd say you've already played your cards pretty well. Unless if there's anything specific you think you have a problem with, I think you need to just keep conversations going with her and don't piss her off or whatever. Good luck anon
>>17339340
>We're gonna share a double room
Gonna be painful if you make a move and get rejected while on that vacation. Two people's vacation is then ruined.
OP here.
I think it mainly has to do with me lacking confidence when establishing physical contact. But I think it's looking bright. Normally we just hug when saying goodbye. Last time we parted ways I added a kiss on the cheek. Got a photo from her in underwear that same day á la "I'm chilling in the sun". Dunno if I'm kinda limiting myself with the cheek kissing itself or if I should just see it as a step further.
>Go to a sorta party get-together on Wednesday
>See girl I met about a year ago at a dance party
>Formally meet again, talk to her a bit through the night
>Give her my number and she seems super happy about it
>Texts me her number in the morning
>Make small talk through the day, she asks about my social media accounts, adds me, invites me to a vegan potluck (tomorrow) through Facebook
>Click maybe
Should I go? Yeah she seems like she is digging me a bit, and I am planning on asking her out, but I also don't want to seem like some anxious puppy dog.
>pic kinda related
>>17339329
Being vegan is a redflag.
>>17339368
Yeah I agree, most vegans are crazy cunts. However, she might be normal even though she likes vegan food from time to time.
Wtf is a "potluck" btw?
>>17339385
A bunch of people each bring a dish or meal or food item and you get to eat food from different people
To op: vegans are insane attention whores, do you really want to deal with that
Good morning lads
/fit/ here, I've been thinking about tattoos for the past three years and o finally decided I'm gonna start next week. I asked /fa/ but they couldn't provide much assistance.
I found my first one which is pic related and it's going to be a part of my sleeve, but it's quite tough to find similar characters drawn in this way, as I have a fascination with religious themes but mainly characters from old children's books
The Wind In The Willows drawings are quite good, but it's quite tough to research into it.
Anybody can help into how to find similar shit? Children's books with drawings in the same style?
Cheers lads
I apologize for my English, it's not my native tongue and I just woke up
>>17339308
maybe find out the name of the artist that did the illustrations, find out when the books were published as that particular drawing style might be reflected in other similar works published around that time.
Ask /ic/ instead of /fa/.
Prepare yourself for a lot of criticism tho.
There's a friend of mine who I completely fucking failed at wooing because I was too beta to act on her signs
When I finally did via text she didn't outright reject me, mainly because I added "but if not that's cool I hope we can still be friends" to the end of it
her response was roughly "Oh sorry for taking so long to answer everything's been so busy but of course I hope we can still be friends!"
This was in April
I thought I'd be over it by now but its just been plaguing me more and fucking more and I can't get her out of my mind. Probably because we still talk as friends, but this is seriously starting to destroy my mental health I feel. There are some nights where the only way I can fall asleep is thinking about us hanging out and doing mundane shit.
Then tonight I finally decide to finish this show she's been egging me to get through since January. Turns out the moral of the last two episodes is how timing plays such a heavy part in love. I wanted to simultaneously breakdown and smash my laptop at the end
Is it a terrible idea to try and pursue her again? Tomorrow we and two other friends are hanging out and while I don't think its the right time to burst out with something like this, would it be wrong to start acting flirtatious with her again?
If no, how the hell do I get over this? I feel like this is the single biggest failure in my life. She's not a 10/10 or anything but her personality is one of the greatest I've ever seen in another human and to think I've pushed something so rare out of my life makes me sick
My advice is to just give it up op. If you can handle being friends then you shouldn't hangout or talk to her. You were the one who said you were cool with being friends but you obviously aren't.
>>17339317
I said this out of being a coward at the time and thought it was a safe way to keep her in my life
This was a mistake
Is there really no okay way to go about pursuing again, like extra light flirting or whatever, that won't make me seem like a desperate creep?
I just can't really deal with failing myself in such an extreme way, it almost causes me physical pain at times
I don't think it's a terrible idea to try and pursue her again
But yeah take it slow and don't burst out with all these feelings, just play it as cool as possible and see where things go
How close were you guys? What's changed about her life since she was sending you signs?
>be 22 y/o introvert
>don't use social media
>people never pay me much attention
>only have 2 close friends who are both charismatic extroverts
>win lottery
>tell only them
>buy car and some homes
>move them in
>their friends start spending more time at mine
>eventually people notice my car, houses, lifestyle
>when questioned just say "I live life" and they "don't want to know" where the money came from
>slowly their friends start to engage with me more
>guys and girls
>sit in my room alone with the door closed while they're outside together laughing knowing the only reason they chose to further engage with me is because they see opportunity
life was simpler before this
Are you me? None of that is a problem, it's human nature stop being a pessimist.
>>17339297
>win lottery
>tell only them
>buy car and some homes
>move them in
>their friends start spending more time at mine
You probably thought you were being nice, but telling friends about your money and moving them in was a huge mistake. It's imperative that you keep these things quiet because you're only setting yourself up for failure. These people are out to use you.
You should travel and meet people who don't know you or your wealth, travel like the average man and experience the world. Just get average rooms in nice hotels in fun cities (I like Hong Kong, London and Shanghai).
I wouldn't think too much about the friends of your friends, some may legitimately like you and some may be leeches but you will soon be able to pick the good from the bad by the questions they ask and how they treat you.
I've been very wealthy for 6 years now and I've learnt my lessons the hard way, my biggest piece of advice is find a good financial planner and accountant who can keep you in line if you make bad decisions.
What am I doing wrong here?
>start new medical residency a few of months ago
>attracted to one of my new resident-mates
>she's very talkative with me, we seem to enjoy each other's company quite a bit
>have a lot in common, not just career wise
>fast forward a month or so, ask her out, she agrees, good times were had
>go out a couple more times, tell each other we really like each other, but she is concerned with dating a coworker
>my response something along the lines of "it's not like we are breaking any rules or anything, I really like you, you like me, I think it's worth a chance." Tells me she needs some time to make her decision
>couple of days later "I don't think I'm ready to have a serious relationship with someone I work with".
>sadfrog.gif
>I figure something else may have happened, but don't probe. I can respect her decision.
>time to move on, talk to her less as a result, which I feel is completely normal and appropriate
> few weeks later she asks me "are we okay? You've seemed really distant the last two weeks. I miss our chats".
>me: "why wouldn't we be okay and what are you talking about? I see you and talk to you almost every single day at work haha!"
>walk away and get back to the stack of notes I have to type up
Why does this always inevitably happen? Where after a relationship in the making fails for whatever reason and I cut back on the amount of interaction I have with the girl and then they complain that things are not the same as they were before.
This is a completely appropriate and reasonable response on my part. It can honestly be that they just miss the attention. So why does this happen?
>>17339295
From expierence op I understand. This happened to me twice. Once with a girl. I talked to her everyday and asked her out. She said no but made no attempt to ever start the conversations so I just didn't bother either. She soon got boyfriend then who was one of me friends. She got mad at the fact I didn't talk to her. It pissed me off that she had gone out with my friend instead. But I didn't see the point in talking to her. Most of my friends I don't shower in memes and love. Il talk to them if I need to talk to them. Then the second girl was a right slag. I asked her out and waited two weeks for a response. All the while she wanted me to buy her cigarettes and alchohol which I didn't. She eventually said no as she was friends with benefiting someone else the entire time. I didn't bother with her anymore.
Regardless op if girls expect you too shower them with attention when they do something shitty in response fuck off. That's not how it works. I can accept a rejection and still talk to the person. That's fine. But don't expect me to happy as fuck after a rejection.
>>17339295
>>she's very talkative with me, we seem to enjoy each other's company quite a bit
definitely finds you physically attractive to some degree. a bit of eye candy.
>>go out a couple more times, tell each other we really like each other, but she is concerned with dating a coworker
weighing out the investment. seeing where this lifestyle is taking her. letting you know on some level where she is at with this Guy Friend of hers. the reality is she has been keeping her true perspective/feelings internal while you have revealed yours. this is your power level.
>>my response something along the lines of "it's not like we are breaking any rules or anything, I really like you, you like me, I think it's worth a chance." Tells me she needs some time to make her decision
ya blew it i don't need to read any more. you should have not cared about shit from the jump. that's how you invest smart time in her so she wants you long tern - while you still want her, but you can stay mentally prepared for defeats in life, so you can then tackle situations with that mentality and end up coming out on top like an underdog. you fear something and need to talk so much. withdraw.
>>couple of days later "I don't think I'm ready to have a serious relationship with someone I work with".
>>sadfrog.gif
flowing it may have been better than controlling it with conversation. all her co-worker friends know her side too so you lose on multiple levels by default.
>> few weeks later she asks me "are we okay? You've seemed really distant the last two weeks. I miss our chats".
>>me: "why wouldn't we be okay and what are you talking about? I see you and talk to you almost every single day at work haha!"
not good bro. she is interpreting it as you are trying to make a statement more than play it off.
>This is a completely appropriate and reasonable response on my part. It can honestly be that they just miss the attention. So why does this happen?
because they miss the attention.
>>17339684
hey anon at least this all happened with teen girls. adult girls are worse but pretty much the same.
People How do you not care about the world?
Do what ever you feel like.
Love Someone, Say it
hate Someone, Say it
Fight for your Self respect
Don't care about the consequences, Everything in world will find peace eventually
Just Do it and Do it Today
Go an hug a Friend who might be pissed at you
Live and Feel life in every breath you take
Get over your addiction, have a healthy life so that you can enjoy it.
There is no tomorrow
Today is the day
Now is the time
Just Do it :)
>>17339280
Don't care about the consequences
Did you take some E boy?
>>17339281
Ofcourse not, I just figured out that Life is so short that Nothing would matter after I am done here.
If it has to go to shit it will go to shit
If it has to work it will work
Simple as that
So if your heart tells you to do it just take the leap of faith and Go ahead
[Ofcourse I meant for Good things, If you think of hurting someone, Eventually you will be the one who will be hurt]
>>17339280
Ok Op, I was really hope you would post one day. Can you date me?
Any advice for regaining motivation to study / work hard?
I used to study 30 - 50 hours a week easily, but my GF cheated and left me on my birthday. I feel over it and just want to move on, but I just don't want to do anything and I can't focus myself to do anything. I feel...foggy in my brain. My doctor told me to try Adderall, and it makes me focus but not on studying, more like watching youtube for hours.
Thanks!
You have seen the truth about life. That working hard does not get you or let you keep things that matter to you (aka true love). Not sure what will motivate you. I guess do what makes you happy. Attracting gold diggers means nothing in the end anyways.
This might seem selfish, but just think about how in the long run, your life will be much better than her's and anyone else she gets with probably. When shit like this happens, this may seem sad but, I just get motivated to better myself, and to make my life better than there's, make them wish they still had you I guess or let them know they missed out or whatever.
>>17339337
Women rarely ever regret not being with someone over their success. Only time they do is if they get dumped and their looks fade. What a shitty reason to exist, just to prove shitty people that they made the wrong choice lol.
How do I cum with no hands
concentrate
really hard
Use your mind!
Concentrate anon!
put something in your ass
