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Anxiety fag here. I used to only anxiouskt think of my family getting hurt, but it changed. For the past couple of months, when I try to fap, I anxiously think of horrifying things I don't want to fap to and thus lose my boner (i.e. fat hairy men, kids, gore). Im not into that stuff. Im Only into bbws and pregs. Perhaps it was from me exploring to many red boards here that I think of these uncomfortable images. Help?
>>17340633
Pls help. I wanna get these images out of my head. It makes me go limp.
>>17340633
Bump
>>17340633
Exposure therapy anon, you need to look at nothing but gore and fat men until you get over this. Don't look at kids, that's fucked up, fucking pervert.
How do I stop worrying over things I say in a conversation? When I was younger I said a lot of things without thinking which came back to bite me in the ass hard. Since then I've become very doubtful of myself and always overthink conversations?
For example two days ago I was talking to my boss who I am on extremely friendly terms with and we're both quite open and relatively informal. Despite reassurances in a previous conversations and after I even said what I said (I don't expect the company to keep me on after 6 months), I am now paranoid over if that...
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Anyone?
Personally I get high at the end of the day and think about things I've said to people throughout the day and what I may regret or should have worded differently. Then the next day I do the same and see if I improved over the day before. Unless I said something really shitty I don't spend more than half an hour doing this. Confine this observation to a period in your evening. There's no point thinking about it all day.
>>17340714
Thanks for the advice anon. Don't do drugs myself but I'll try to rationalize thinking about it less. Its just something which has been with me for many years and I get really anxious about perhaps damaging a relationship. I fear rejection so much.
like it says on the title
>itt: cheaters and ex-cheaters
>how/why
>experiences?
> did you get found out?
>did you change and if so, how?
>emotional affairs??
> advice for other cheaters/cheatees
>>17340615
>itt: cheaters and ex-cheaters
inb4 REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>17340632
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>17340637
Well fuck, guess I'll just go jump off a bridge then.
Guys, i need advice.
Im currently doing the Camino of Santiago on bicycld. I decided to do it just because i tought it would be interesting.
I started in France and im already 140km in. Crossed the pyrenees, went through roads with 40 deegres celsius on my head...
Thing is, i can make it with enough time and riding only during morning but i really want to give up. I had a heat stroke yesterday and im really shaken.
What im afraid is to have to live with this failure. To reach a moment in life where i had to rise to the challenge and chicken out.. And then i think...
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If you think you can handle the regret you'll occasionally feel about going through so much already and then giving up, do it. You'll probably sleep much easier knowing you kept going in the face of adversity. That's what it's all about.
>I'm ready to wake up in a hospital anyway
Might as well do it. No ragrets.
What're some successful ways you've messaged girls (or girls, been messaged) on OkCupid? I've had some success myself in the past, but I stopped using the app for a while because there weren't any girls of value.
Now, someone I'm highly interested in just signed up a few days ago. Before she starts getting swamped with messages, I want to give this my best shot.
So, stories?
Hey baby are you an archaeologist? Cause I gotta bone for your to examine
>>17340579
Let your ass be my gasmask, baby shake your shit machine on my face.
>>17340579
Do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package.
Hey I'm in the process of becoming a police officer and one of the questions asks have you ever viewed or accessed CP, im too nervous to lie about it I have viewed CP on /b/, ive never willingly pursued CP but i used to browse /b/. Even if i say yes and explain normies dont understand how 4chan works. Unsure what to do, scared about polygraph any advice?
Im under the notion that they will catch any attempt to cheat and i by no means want to cheat. But im stumped here.
You're an idiot if you would even consider telling the truth on that and should not become a police officer.
>>17340576
Am an ethnic minority(slav :^)) so theyll hire my dumbass but how do i even lie about such thing then?
>>17340571
Just say you haven't, I get your thought processes but you've never once went to a website just to look at child porn so say no.
If they do polygraph you though you kinda fucked yourself by being this nervous about it, not sure how to help you with that.
My friend was recently fired for commiting some heroic actions,that saved the possibly saved the lives of a couple of other people, and the company he worked for just brushed him aside and fired him for these actions. How do i get someone to cover this for him? cause it seems like no one cares..
>>17340487
Could you be a bit less specific? All this useful info you're giving us is a bit too much to take in at once.
>>17340487
We're his actions really as heroic as he said they were? Or you think they are?
Regardless of how heroic they may have seemed if he broke colony policy they can fire him.
>>17340507
Company, not colony. Damn autocorrect
My friend is gonna try and set up a girl for me.
Hes talked a bit with her, at least more than i have, and he immediately said that id be a good fit for her. Ive talked to her a little bit too and from what i can tell shes great, but my friend has a lot more opprotunity to talk to her. He said hes going to "work his magic" and get me set up.
Is this ever a good idea? I want to ask her out myself but i have little opprotunity to do so. I could go out of my way but it might seem desperate.so i guess i dont see a huge issue with my friend setting me up.
Bamp again
Well if you have trouble just contacting her and talking to her now, do you expect that to change after you go out? Because if you still don't talk to her afterwards, it'll never go anywhere. Either way eventually you won't have your friend arranging this sort of thing for you, so maybe you might as well start doing it yourself from the get go.
>>17341014
Its difficult for me to do that, though. I have little opprotunity whereas my friend has none
How does /adv/ get over post-rejection depression? It's only been a day and I feel like shit.
>>17340398
I usually just an hero.
>>17340429
What? What does that mean? Like, suck it up and be a hero or something?
>>17340439
>https://encyclopediadramatica.se/An_hero
My best friend cheated on my other best friend last night and she doesn't know. What do
Tell the cheater they must come clean or you will.
That's a tough situation... Let's look at this situation from what could happen. Well. If you tell her, you'd be ruining your relationship with your other best friend and well it's none of your business but then again, she deserves to know and chances are he'll probably do it again if she never knows. I know most will say to stay out of it, but she deserves to know. Place yourself in her shoes. That's what I would do.
>>17340333
I've been in that situation before. I caught one of my best friends fucking my other best friend's gf (who also happened to be his own gf's best friend). I told him he had to come clean or I would have no choice but to tell them.
His gf has since forgiven him, he lost an extremely good friend and he and his gf who he fucked ended up breaking up. But I still hang out with the guy and he understands the ultimatum I gave him and actually thanked me for giving him the opportunity to do it.
>one chance at life
>probably have to plead guilty to DUI 1st offense, it can never be expunged
FUUUUUUUUUUCK
>get pulled over for speeding but otherwise driving fine, no accident, swerving, etc
>but I've had a six pack over the course of a few hours and someone spilled an almost full beer on my shirt, making me reek of beer
>cop at the checkpoint says I smell like alcohol
>ace...
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I mean for fucks fucking sake how are 2 fucking 17 year olds children they were with me in the fucking car because they were taking me to a drug dealers house to buy weed, they aren't fucking innocent 12 year old babes
Every other sane and reasonable state has the age for minor in these type cases as less than 16, 15, or 14 often with the requirement the driver be over 21 to be charged
This is bullshit and I want to kill the prosecutor. I want to splatter his daughters guts all over my windshield to show his ugly, dead end career neckbeard ass the real meaning...
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>>17340323
The prosecutor is using a scare tactic on you, that's all. If you passed the field sobriety test, but refused a chemical test, then the most that would come from this is license suspension in the state of Tennessee.
If the only evidence is circumstantial, and there is no actual proof of you being intoxicated beyond the limit set for drivers under the age of 21 in your area, then I think you're fine. The prosecuting attorney has circumstantial evidence (officer testimony), but you have evidence debunking...
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>>17340323
If I were you I wouldn't plead guilty to the DUI charge. They want to charge you for it but don't have enough evidence, so they're turning to threatening. Without the DUI charge they don't have shit.
I live in NY, there's a warped tour concert going on right now. I went like 3/4 years ago and it was pretty fun
It's supposed to on/off rain today, but I heard from Facebook people that there's a lot of people there anyway, as is to be expected
I feel bad because I had no idea it was coming up - don't get me wrong, in not into a single band there, I dont like emo music, but I love emo sluts. I want to go so bad and just hook up like the first time I went, but I'm getting older, 21, and it's hard for me to justify spending 60$ on something...
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>>17340308
>going to social events literally just to try and score easy crazy girls
Wow, hows your depression?
money is an illusion
go out
>>17340322
What's wrong with that?
I have crippling anxiety, I'm not assertive at all, and I have no clear path in life. Would joining the US military be the best or worst decision I make? I graduated high school several months ago and haven't been able to find a job, so I'm running out of options.
God no. Especially not if you have anxiety.
We're all aware of the ill social consequences of technology as it relates directly to it's social availability. Anxiety is no longer limited in it's scope or even a geographical region.
Anxiety is normal. We all have it.
Debilitating anxiety is normal too especially in this day and age. There is help.
Behavioural practices, medications, support groups...after all when you meet others like you you'll see anxiety is prevalent and many have it.
Perhaps you should consider furthering your studies, take a minute for yourself.
The military is highly stressful and anxiety perpetuating.
You don't want to be a grunt do you, a number, a tool? I don't think so otherwise you would not have taken the time to ask.
Help is readily available and accessible but you must seek it out.
Take a moment, lean on your supports, before you make that decision.
If you are comfortable once you have support and those you trust are too then decide but not before, please.
>>17340428
I do some self help stuff to cope with everyday situations, but when I'm in distress and having an attack it is meaningless. What I really want is just to be able to survive and be productive, but since I don't have any skills it seems like I have to work a dead end part time job, or join the military and the military has far better benefits though that's no reason to join and is also a factor weighing on my decision.
Im still trying after 5 years to forget and move on from a girl I have feelings for online.
Shes in a relationship but I don't know if it will last, we still tall often and she still thinks I'm a friend.
I don't believe I can move on, she is not a model person but to me she is the personality I've always been looking for and it's hard for me to accept other people instead.
>>17340219
>after 5 years
wow
just wow.
you could've gotten married, had a kid, graduated college and started a career in the time you've been waiting on someone you've never met.
good job in derailing your life, stalker.
Honestly you need to move on. There's so much in life youre missing out on because youre wasting it worrying about her. Go out and live, and i guarantee that youll meet a far more outstanding girl.
My sister is a gender-queer tumblrfag who dresses in two different ways, tomboy and girlish. I am a straight male and have a skinny body with feminine attributes, and I've been having thoughts about being or dressing up as a girl. Part of me thinks it's just my horniness but another part of me thinks it's my identity. I've no intention to commit any sexual acts with the same sex, but the thoughts still linger. I think that my sister is my way into becoming a quasi-girl, and I think that she'd probably be open to it. Probably. How do I convince her to...
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Explore new things, you should be able to live how you'd like.
Also, I didn't focus on the actual questions but tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you're interested in trying this new thing but you aren't sure how to start it. Before telling her, make sure you're able to tell her this and that she's going to take it seriously.
>>17340174
You are retarded and on your way to make yourself more unhinged than you already are. Try to ground yourself in reality instead of chasing after made-up bullshit.
