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how do you cope with a wasted education because you wanted to be a rapper when you were 14 and now regret it
Blame your parents?
They should support your dreams, but at the same time give you a foundation.
You don't just "quit school to become a rapper", like what the actual fuck. Shit, why not finish school to learn important production skills pertaining to creating music? A lot of rappers know their way around a computer, at the very least so they can synth their own beats.
In any case, you probably don't sound very old...people at age 40 get a high school education through special programs, and even OLDER people go to college. It's never...
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>>17339671
You make up for lost time. A year of well-chosen courses in a community college will make up for all you didn't get in high school, and then you'll be on even footing with everyone else.
Make an album.
>Been going through a rough patch these last two months
>Call me friends to ask them out, just to try and get some respite from my troubles.
>They all say they're busy, which I understand and dont push any further
>Last night one of them calls me up, invites me out
>We hit up a bar
>A friend of my friend text, they end up exchanging messages while were talking
>That...
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find better friends
>>17339668
Did you ever come out and say something like
> I have been having a really shitty time and I really need a friend right now.
?
People are dense and distracted. You have to lay it out for them.
>>17339687
And where is the guarantee it wont happen again?
>>17339691
no, because I really dont want to talk about that and my friend can really annoying trying to dig into these things.
I'll admit it was partly my fault for not telling them, but inviting me out and then texting infront of my face, and ditching me is an asshole thing to do no matter the circumstances.
Easy question guys:
Next Wednesday I have an annual exam at the OB/GYN. It's nothing I haven't experienced before, but what I REALLY wanted to do was talk to the nurse about birth control, now that I've gotten sexually active.
How do I make sure this opportunity doesn't slip out of my hands? Do I tell her first thing "I need to talk to you about something at the end of the exam" or do I wait till the exam is over and tell her I'd like to talk?
See, the receptionist noticed I was due for an annual exam so she just scheduled...
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>>17339656
When the nurse or medical assistant takes your vitals, before you see the doc, just tell them you want to discuss birth control options. If your doc is running a tight ship, he or she will as you. (Sometimes they make you fill out a form, which asks if you have anything you want to discuss)
When you see the doc, just make sure to ask before they leave. Itsnot hard, they won't make you feel weird,or judge you. If you're an adult you have to lean to advocate for yourself. Pursue your self interests!! The...
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>>17339670
ILL TRY MY BEST, THANK YOU
>>17339656
There is a good chance they'll bring it up themselves.
FUCKING CAPTCHA I LOST ALL I'VE WROTTEN HERE GOES AGAIN
Need help fixing my sleep schedule, now i'm really writing feeling like crap. It's 6:32 am and I woke up at 3:20 pm.
Tried staying up all day yesterday in order to fall sleep at 9-10 pm (so I could wake up between 6-10 am naturally) but it was impossible for me to keep my head up before 3:00 pm.
Sorry for the bad grammar but i lost all the post I had written.
When I fuck up my sleep schedule that bad I usually go to bed whenever I feel like that and sleep for 3-4 hours. Then I nap for 20-45 minutes every time I feel like I can't do it anymore, and go to bed definitely at 11 PM.
No coffee, no energy drinks.
From tomorrow start having a healthy sleeping schedule. Go to bed always at the same time, wake up at the same time, don't take coffee/energy drinks in the afternoon, no screens in the bedroom, relaxing activities one hour before bed.
>>17339647
Thank you so much
>>17339636
I just recently had to do this with my baby. She was on the same schedule.
I took her to the lake, to party with my family, and there was no place to nap. We just hung out with family all day, and swam in the lake and ate hot dogs. When we got home she passed out all night.
You have to GO OUT AND DO SHIT ALL DAY SO YOU DONT SLEEP LIKE A LAZY ASS.
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For girls: My gf wants me to be friendlier with her friends and there's a lesbian couple that wants to do sort of double dates stuff with us. What are some good things to do?
>>17339626
Go out for dinner, go out for a drink, go to a concert, go to minigolf or stuff like that, movies, have dinner at your place and play games. Depends on what they like.
When I go out for dates with my best friend and her boyfriend we usually go to the movies or have dinner at our place.
For other girls:
How do I know if I'm being strung along? I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now but he doesn't want to become exclusive. I just got out of a long (5+ year) relationship so I'm not really sure how dating works anymore. I'd think that by 3 months he should know whether or not he wants to be a couple, right? We're pretty much a couple except for the label, so I don't understand this apprehension. Is this 3+ month thing normal, am I being too impatient? Please help, I am socially retarded and don't know how dating works.
So I've been cheating on my boyfriend well over a month with my personal trainer; he wanted to just get coffee but we ended up fucking in his truck.
After a week of daily sex I've been feeling uncomfortable doing it, but my personal trainer (let's call him Mike), has photos of me naked and he always jokes around that he will show my boyfriend.
I love my boyfriend and he is very loyal and sweet, and I am too scared to cut off ties with Mike only because he will show pics to my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is very busy, he works part time and has a night time class and comes to our apartment at around 7. Should I just tell him everything, I don't know what to do. I really want to break it off with Mike but I'm scared, he's a very big guy and he's always into rough sex I'm scared he might beat up my boyfriend.
Let your boyfriend go you harlot. Stay with Mike, deceitful, corrupt people deserve each other.
>>17339615
But I'm not attractive to him, it's just sex.
>>17339617
Why would that matter? You cheated, you betrayed his trust and chose someone else, you made a decision, now tell him and let him go.
Im always thirsty even after drinking lots of water. I dont urinate that much per day(4-5 times?) despite drinking my 2 liter bottle twice a day.
My medication says dry mouth but here I am awake at 4 a.m. now since 11 p.m. because of a terrible headache and thirst. When I drink water the headache starts to go away so I'm thinking I might be dehydrated?
What do I do? Im out of my state and wont return until at least 12 hours from now.
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>>17339594
What medication? What are you taking it for?
Are you overweight? What are your eating habits? Do you consume alcohol?
My first guess is diabetes, but I need more info.
Anti depressants mostly, i kinda have poor eating habits that have been getting tons worse. I was going to get tested for diabetes but got really scared.
Oh also i am overweight but i dont drink alcohol
Smiling just doesn’t feel natural to me. Whenever i try to smile, i get a creepy, disturbing expression that makes me look like a rapist. How do i fix this?
Stop watching anime
laugh, smile like that
>>17339593
So don't smile.
Sup everyone, im looking for a flat for studying this year and i found this one that is near and has a good price, problem is i would have to share it with 3 girls, im 20 and they are like 23, 24 and 25.
Im not really sure if this would be a good or a bad experience, can anyone share their stories if they been through this?
pls help.
You'll be fine. If you're a dude, don't try and get romantic or sexual with them, just treat them as if they were dudes. I lived with 3 women during my time at University and there were 4 things that pissed me off:
1. They spend a long time in the shower
2. Sync'd periods means they're all bitchy at the same time
3. Messy/slobs
4. Loud moaning
Other than that it was perfectly fine and honestly having multiple women around is great for having someone to talk to.
Go for it.
>If you're a dude, don't try and get romantic or sexual with them, just treat them as if they were dudes
Best advice.
Having platonic female friends is the quickest way to meet a lot of females.
i recently found out my girlfriend was raped at age 6. i guess the memories are coming back to her and eating away at her. is there any way i can make her feel better or support her?
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OP here, forgot to mentioned it happened all the time when she was six and one more time when she was 12. it was her cousin that she had to face anytime she visits family.
Damaged af
I would bail if I were you
>>17339574
i love her too much to do that
How do I stop my panic attacks.
whenever I feel pressure or in a confronting situation or when I eel very embarrassed I freak out and often pass out.
it's really embarrassing where it happened at work when my boss was telling me off about something.
Now I feel like I'm a real pussy. and everyone sees me as such that I can't handle a bit of confrontation
Like I don't want my boss to feel like they have to treat me differently cos of it. they were just being firm about something I fucked up on. wasn't being a cunt about it or...
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>>17339541
also what makes it worse is that I'm a dude
>>17339541
Go to a psychiatrist.
Meds and therapy. That's the only way I got past my panic attacks.
I've had this issue since i've started browsing here,
I have a nice group of friends but they don't like that I browse 4chan. They browse Reddit constantly, I don't resort to namecalling the site, I just state that I don't like the layout and the system of posting. They don't really like the forum and Imageboard style, I don't completely know but it has to do with age and a common understanding of 4chan.
I just want to be passive about it, but it's getting worse. When I bring up a joke, they say it's cancerous or too old, stating a need to be updated with references. It's always passive, like when I tell that I did something unrelated to the site, they namecall me as cancerous.
The only thing that actually made me full uncomfortable was this
>Over at friends house
>Got done with college for the year and here to have some fun to start summer
>Show something I liked
>I'm here to show you the light one of my friends says
>Something was supposed to load, just shows google
>Laugh it off
>It was supposed to be reddit
I don't know what to do, I don't want to distance myself from them because besides this, they are great people.
>>17339495
Cut them out of your life, like the cancerous cunts they are.
But seriously if you're letting some website decide your friendships then you better take a good look at yourself, and suggest the same to them. I find it silly.
reddit isn't that great, but it's a great way to keep up with the shit people are talking about / things going on around the world. Just lurk if you want to socialise, it's pretty fucking easy.
They sound like dicks though if they're lording the fact that they reddit over you.
>>17339495
I think they just want to get you on board because they want to share their experience there with you. If they are great people like you said.
And if they are, just decline and tell therm again you don't like the site. If they keep insisting they may not be as great people as you say and basically this: >>17339512
Hi /adv/, I think I fucked up bigtime.
>25 M, New gf of 1 month. Things going great til 1 week ago.
>I told her I love her b/c I fucking do. She doesn't say it back straight away. Later she says she doesn't think I love her, she thinks I love the idea of her but not her. She thinks I don't like her enough or something, some super insecurity issues.
>I love the shit out of her but she says it so much she makes me question myself. I accidentally tell her a story about...
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To be fair, i do think you love the idea of her more than HER. you can't know her in and out after a month. That's just not possible. And since you only know fractions of her, you can't "decide" if you might be capable to love her when you discover the things about her you don't know yet. I think she has a point. Also, everybody gets hurt. If you aren't willing to be vulnerable again, you HAVE intimacy issues and might not be capable of love at this point.
>>17339497
I should clarify. We were friends and talked to each other for like 6 months before getting together. We know a lot about each other. I had a crush on her for pretty much the whole time but didn't act because I didn't think dating was a great idea (she doesn't live in my city, we'd have to travel to see each other, I would constantly worry about her and be a mess etc.) but we ended up talking about our feelings and dated anyway. Now we're together and I can't shake these feelings...
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What does it mean to be a good person? What is common to everyone who does good?
They can be selfless if called for
>>17339474
A few criteria come to mind.
First, they generally don't want to hurt anyone if they can avoid it.
Second, they would be willing to help someone who was down if they had the means.
Lastly, their moral code is good by default and not just good because they are avoiding social/legal repercussions. (This may even mean breaking a law in order to help someone.)
>>17339474
A bit of selflessness plays a part. Doing the right thing even when it's annoying, a lot of work and sometimes even against their own best interest.
Knowing that everyone's personal moral code is different and that you shouldn't impose your belief on others. Being open to being wrong but not letting it stop you from doing what you think is right.
Not holding grudges but also not being stupid. Understand who you are dealing with and how to deal with them without hurting them, others or...
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Has anyone witnessed the moment when a pretty woman's looks fade and she realizes that people only treated her that way because of her beauty?
I am right now.
It's so satisfying when they were really cunty and we're relying soley on their looks for the longest time, and they slowly but surely realize they were always shitty people and everyone begins to leave them.
>>17339503
I saw it hit a woman's face one time at a dinner after being ignored because a younger prettier girl was dominating a room. Every time she tried to give her useless opinion that people only indulged in before, because of her looks. She was ignored, I mean guys didn't even look at her. For the rest of the night she stared at her food and looked like she wanted to cry.
>>17339455
I hate to break it to you, but a lot of good looking people are also nice people.
Once their looks fade, they're still nice people.
Yes, they have everything.
