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Everything up until Sunday was normal. On Monday she stopped talking to me, messaging "I love you" like usual. I thought was weird, so I text her and she replied so fucking. weird; like if I was an absolute nobody.
I knew that was not how she talks to me (like normal), so I askeD
-What's happening? Is there anything wrong?
She lied -No :) Everything's ok.
I asked again. She told me -No, there's nothing wrong. I love you. Good night.
But I still kept asking until she sent me a "it doesn't matter", [broken heart emoticon]", etc.
Okai. The next day I kept asking, and still nothing. She told me she wants to talk to me. Okai, I asked her when and where. And up to this day she hasn't replied to that question.
And its weird because yesterday I insisted a lot and she told me something like
"I wanted to tell you since a lot of time. In fact I wanted to tell you on friday, but I didn't knew how to said it and there wasn't enough time. I love. I'm sorry you're this worried". Also to add she acted a bit strange too. We usually kiss, but that day neither of us kissed each other.
My first/stupid thought was "Are you pregnant?" and of course not. But I mean, what's soooooo important and time consuming to talk that up this day she hasn't fucking told me when and where she wants to talk to me?!
And to add. she keeps saying to me "I love you". I don't know if I still love her since the only thing I told her that I want in this relationship was communication, sincerity; no secrets, no lying.
>>17334345
btw sorry for my horrible english grammar
>>17334345
Sounds like she cheated on you, bro.
It's pretty much either that, that she wants to fuck someone else but hasn't yet (but will) or a serious illness.
Given the circumstances, I would bet on her having cheated on you.
Just try to get to the bottom of it without making accusations, and hopefully she'll be honest with you.
I would recommend you start planning your "nope the fuck out" moment, though.
>>17334345
this shit happens with girls and it's one of those things that really can destroy a man. be prepared, you'll suffer anyway
Everywhere I turn, some black idiot is being inconsiderate, selfish, lazy, dangerous, and stupid; especially when they're given a job or almost always when they're given a driver's license.
Why do they even stay here if they break every law out of protest because it's something 'whitey' does? How long can they keep just blaming whites for everything? How is that acceptable, but when I point out dumb shit niggers do, everyone flips out because I said one of the forbidden words according to my white privilege.
Dont think, judge and talk about them as niggas.
Think and talk about them as inconsiderate, selfish, lazy, dangerous, and stupid people.
As long as you are able to see these qualities on whites too, people will not be in a position to call you racist.
Now, you have to choose your words well when expressing an opinion... people are eager to attack a rayciss. Be smart.
>>17334262
This.
I live in an area that is 90% white. I see a black person maybe three times a year. Pockets of whites around here have taken the mantle of stupid, trashy and obnoxious. Trash is trash and comes in all colors.
You can't. I wasn't a racist before I worked in a ghetto.
My ex gf stole like $200 worth of video games and sold them to gamestop. Will gamestop just give me the games back or do I have to go through the legal process to get them back?
What is the proper course of action here?
>>17334224
Cut your losses probably. You know gamestop only have like 10 dollars for all the games. I guess it wouldnt hurt to call them up and inquire.
>>17334224
Did you already confront her about the games? Did you do so over the phone and record the conversation?
If not, whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy not?
Gamestop can't accept stolen property, but yeah, you'll probably have to get the law involved. It's not going to require going to court or anything, though. It's going to be an officer going to her house and telling her, "you stole your ex's property and sold it. You can't do that, it's illegal. Get him his property back or make things right with him or he'll file a theft report and you'll be arrested. Have a nice day."
>>17334253
I was gonna sell them to fund my PS4 purchase but now I just don't know what to do. I barely get any hours at work and I don't even enjoy living in my apartment because it's shared living space.
>>17334239
Yeah I should cut my losses.
So I told my gf I was into bondage and we tried some rope stuff, teasing, orgasm denial etc. She was into it, more than I expected. Later she asked me what kind of porn I watch. I told her mostly bondage stuff and she said she wants to watch some with me. Only thing is, the porn I watch isn't the gentle domination and control that we were doing together. It's more of the "damsel gets abducted and molested" variety. I also watch some shibari stuff but I think she'd find that kind of boring. I'd rather not freak her out when she's just starting to get interested, so which route should I go there? Not asking for links to NSFW sites but are there any good sources for gentler, more intimate bondage videos?
Have you tried typing soft core bdsm in the search bar at any porn site?
What I would do is go on pornhub, find the type of video that you can still get off on, but that your gf won't be freaked out by, and following the source of the video to more similar content.
>>17334201
Just tell her beforehand that it's more rapey than the stuff you've done and reiterate she's not in danger when you two have sex. She'll be more creeped out if you act all coy about it then it suddenly comes to light when you watch porn.
On the other hand, don't try to soften it up for her sake (she should be comfortable and accepting of what you're into), and don't say "it's just a fantasy/fetish", because that implies you wouldn't want to try harder stuff given the chance.
It may be awkward at first, but be brave - as they say, honesty is the best policy.
I'm 29. I have a degree, I have a job. I have a girlfriend.
I don't wont to be romantically involved with just one person for my whole life. I don't want to have a family. I don't want to fucking work another day of my fucking life anymore. I don't see a fucking purpose in much anything except enjoying art and nature - because I'm aware that I'll be dead in a few years, just like everyone else.
One thing that I would like to do is to create something that I would be proud of, but as an artist I'm a complete amateur and don't have much skill, and generally I am completely at loss as to how to get sth like that started.
What the fuck is wrong with me, /adv/?
All of this is making me super-anxious, just writing this is making my heart pound. All my friends, coworkers and family consider me to be, more or less, a well balanced individual, was never diagnosed with any type of mental disorder or anything like that.
>One thing that I would like to do is to create something that I would be proud of.
Then figure out what that could be, and try it.
>>17334090
I don't know OP.
On a side note, consider making this thread your good deed for the day, because you just made me believe that normalfags can be miserable as well.
>>17334115
Ok, did you do sth like that yourself? Care to share any personal experiences?
I desperately need your help, how should I cut my hair and what color should I dye them?
pic related
>>17333962
Since you are an inbred that can't rotate a fucking picture all the advice I can give you is to fucking kll yourself.
Dyeing hair is for homosexuals and attention whore girls. Also you look like your going to cry.
>>17333962
work on your picture orientation skills first friendo, then we can discuss about the other thing
Let's have a thread on breaking down the topic of nice guys.
The word "nice" seems to have become one of the most villianized terms in the English language, and is a kiss of death no matter what when it's applied to a guy. Not just for women but men as well. it usually goes like this-
>Girl - He seems like a nice guy but I would never go out with him.
or
>Guy - He seems like a nice guy but I would never chill with him outside of class or work.
Nice in people's minds implies that there is no challenge or that there's nothing interesting about you. Worse case people think you are awkward or a creeper. I'm not saying you should be mean or a jerk, but people should figure out the difference between being a dick and being confident and maybe a little aggressive. Save your "niceness" for your grandparents or work at an old people home, they'll eat that shit up.
Any thoughts?
Yes. Stop letting /r9k/ poison your mind. Being nice is a good trait. Being nice and confident makes a guy attractive. Women don't like assholes. People who claim to be nice usually aren't.
>>17333904
Nice is great as long as it is not the only thing you have going for you.
You can be nice AND smart, funny, charismatic, generous, wise, whatever.
If you're just a nice guy, and you don't have any other qualities, you're boring as fuck and people get tired of you.
There is nothing bad about being nice. There is a lot bad about not being anything other than nice.
I'd prefer dating an interesting asshole than a boring nice guy, but I'd pick an interesting nice guy over everyone else.
>>17333927
Well, there goes what was left of me self esteem.
so a girl i dated very briefly from work found out about a fake facebook profile i was using to stalk her. Being the idiot i am i had my family members who share a distinct last name as friends on the account so she knows it was me. Im gonna be off the next two weeks but im thinking of just switching jobs in this time. I see no better way in dealing with this situation. thoughts?
.....
>>17333816
Hahaha you're a fucking creeper lmao idiot. Switch jobs now because word is gonna get around your job that you're a creeper
I have a pen pal in Japan that I've spoken to for years. We were platonic for a long time, but lately I think we've developed some feelings for each other but have never out right mentioned them. She wanted me to visit and stay with her during Christmas break last year and told me Christmas is more about couples than family and gifts there. She also lives alone. I was unable to visit her because I had no job and still don't. I didn't have one then because I've been trying to focus on school, but now I decided fuck it and have been trying to get a job but with no luck. I applied at several places, some entry level cashier jobs and still nothing. How can I raise money to visit her? I need about $2,000. I have spoken about her before on other boards so if this sounds familiar, hey it's me again. She is the sweetest thing and I would love to meet her please help.
Pic somewhat related. It's her dog she drew for me on my birthday a long time ago.
>>17333145
Sell your body.
Write that you want to visit her on a wish card and hang it on bamboo you faggot. It's Tanabata after all, the one day when Orihime and Hikoboshi can meet.
>>17333938
I have bamboo growing in my backyard.
A few anons said to make some crowd fund and post it on reddit and imgur, but it seems like every site gets rid of any posts like that. It also seems like something looked down upon unless it's to pay off a medical emergency or something.
Hello y'all. Just give me a honest opinion about my body. Click the link to see some pictures of me
http://imgur.com/a/yqtpQ
Thanks!
8/10
I would definitely take you
to the gym
Yes. Please stop eating.
My girlfriend is going to a music festival for 2 days where people camp in tents and listen to music. Two men are going and three girls including her. She has told me multiple times that they are just friends from work (all are coworkers) and that I shouldn't worry.
Should I worry?
Yep.
See
>>17332207
>Should I worry?
Only if your not in to your girlfriend being in a tent drug orgy at a music festival
Otherwise your fine cuck
Can you guys give me some advice regarding my ex fiance, whom I still love and want to be with?
I used to have no job, no car, no college education, and wasn't living up to my goals. I had a crisis and grew more and more depressed and neglected the last thing I had in the process. I eventually made the irrational decision to break up with her, because I felt she needed someone better than me, but I now only felt alone and without help, she was the only friend I had. She was obviously devastated but less than a week later I begged and pleaded her to take me back and what I said was a mistake. She eventually agreed, but probably because I was now focusing more on getting my life back on track than our relationship, she just didn't feel the same.
The past two months have been real rocky for us, the most disputes we've ever had in our years together happened here. Eventually it culminated to us giving each other some space for a week. At the end of this, she suddenly texted me saying that she decided we shouldn't be together anymore and that she didn't want me to respond because it would make her only feel worse. She blocked my number and social media outlets, so I cannot contact her.
Ever since this, I've felt so utterly broken. I've NEVER felt this bad in my life. I feel I fucked up really hard. I can't sleep much anymore, and I've cried more than I think I have in my entire life. None of her friends will obviously speak for me, trying to talk to her directly is out of the question.
Cont
I don't want to move on. This is the woman I wanted to spend my life with, and should never have said what I did. I've decided that it's time I fixed myself to show her how much I've changed, but my question is, when should I show her, or even how? She won't talk to me. I have a car now, and am obtaining a better paying job. I'm getting fit and losing weight. Should I wait a month or two, buy her the flowers she likes the most and show up at her door with my new car, wearing the name tag to my new well-paying job? How can I maximize my chances of getting her to speak to me again?
The job I'm getting will send me to Miami for 3 weeks of orientation. After I've certified for the job and come home, I'll have not spoken to her or her friends for a month and a half. Could this silence potentially be long enough of a wait before reattempting contact with her?
You dun fucked up son
I don't have a brother or dad to talk to about this so 4chan's a good second option, right?
I'm 21 and my dick don't work like it used to. I can't get hard from sexual thoughts anymore, not even from just seeing naked women. The only time I get hard it when I'm being intimate with someone and even then I have to focus on keeping it because I can lose it fast. During sex I usually last 15-30 minutes and just lose my erection without climaxing. I'm on Prozac, which has sexual dysfunction as a pretty common side effect, but I've taken it for years and this only started about 6 months ago. Before you ask, yes I'm willing to ask my doctor but I got to wait for my next checkup date.
Bump
Guys I'm running low on expand dong memes to bump the thread
>>17331771
it happens sooner or later with or without meds. maybe ask your doctor to change it to vilazodone with bupropion as an enhancer and get your dick hard as diamonds again like me
Hey anons. I have a problem. Every "relationship" I have been in has basically been the girl only wants to fuck. Now I know this sounds great for most guys, but i'm a lonely guy and I just want some companionship. Why do girls keep using me for sex? Do I have terrible luck or am I just forever a beta? Pic related (is me)
I have a theory that the more beautiful a woman(or man, for that matter) is, the more she will be controlled by her instincts(fucking). So my advice would be to not necessarily go for the blonde chicks you can get laid with and instead look out for girls that doesn't necessarily scream sex. But what do I know, I only fuck when i'm drunk and lucky and rarely talk to girls sober.
>>17331336
Well actually I don't go for the super hot preppy bitches anyway, but good theory. :)
>>17331292
Haha you don't look like any girl would fuck you
/b/ was no help so I guess I'll come here. Haven't posted here before. Sorry.
>Be me
>like 12 or some shit
>loner kid with no friends
>playing Maplestory
>complete scrub
>find high level person one day
>super nice
>stay around them and chat
>add them
>start talking to them whenever I can
>become really close friends
>find out she's 5 years older
>only friend I can rely on
>only friend that doesn't talk shit or make fun of me
>fastforward 2 years
>fighting with her boyfriend
>they end up breaking up
cont.
ad block stopped me from posting
>says she liked me
>being 14 and alone, I tell her I liked her too
>"internet date" on maplestory for like 2 years
>starts going afk for 2 hours and then disappearing on random days
>sometimes doesn't come on at all
>comes back
>stays for a few months
>back to our old ways
>literally spend hours a day just sitting on Maplestory, chatting to each other
>genuinely seems like she wants to be there for me as much as she can
>end up getting her 2 games on steam totalling like 80 us
>while later she comes on every once in a while. Few weeks or so
>comes back a year or 2 later
>says she's sorry for being gone for so long
>doesn't explain herself when i ask
>disappears the same day
>comes back a few months ago
>ask her to prove she is who she says she is
>never seen her outside of pictures
>tries to set up webcam
>says it's not working
>ask her to screenshare
>screenshares
>goes to camera settings
>has manycam
>camera spoofing program
>confront her about it
>says she thought it was a driver or something to make it work
>says she'll work on it later
>disappears shortly after ending the call
>haven't heard from her since
It's been 8 years since I met her. About 6 since she was on regularly. We shared a lot of good moments together so it's really hard for me to let go, even if I believe they were fake all along. I'm now 20 with severe depression and anxiety and thinking of them or even listening to something resembling the music causes me to feel like complete shit. Anyone got any advice? Should I take their word on it and believe they were who they said they were or should I just stop chasing it and let it go? If the latter, any tips on how?
