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I'm 19 years old, and I'm unemployed. I'm currently attending full time summer classes, and they take all of my time. I was suspended during the spring due to a low GPA, so I'm trying to dedicate all of my time this semester to my school so that I'm not expelled, as that would be the next step.
My parents were aware of this, and despite trying for half a year to get a job during the spring, it didn't happen. My parents are convinced it's my fault. They constantly call me a free loader even though I've told them countless times I'm...
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>>17334474
Oh, forgot to add that I'm afraid that if I leave, the abusive comments will fall to my younger brother and sister instead, and I don't feel that they should have to endure that sort of thing.
>>17334474
You sound just like me. I Just turned 18 and have no college acceptances or job ( I quit my last one). Well one thing I'm currently doing is spamming job applications in hopes that I can get contacted for an interview.
>>17334474
Leave, but keep in touch as much as possible with the younger siblings without sounding over bearing to make sure the parents haven't taken their verbal or physical abuse to the next level.
What are you studying? Is it a sure thing you get a job after you get a degree?
Have you look at all places with a help wanted sign anywhere are just the places that seem best for you?
>As for the OP pic, I who the girls are on the left and right but who's the girl in the middle?
I think my parents fucked me up. I'm hesitant to call it abuse because I've never really been hit and I always had my needs taken care of, but at the same time, I'm aware that my perspective might be a bit skewed. What I definitely do know, however, is that it wasn't a healthy environment.
My only memories of my father are him screaming at me for the tiniest offenses. Like when I wouldn't eat mushrooms (I've always hated them) and he'd yell at me at full volume for about twenty minutes while I'd cry and try to eat it and suppress...
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>>17334422
She'd never hug me, she'd always make fun of me from the earliest age and I've never had any support from her. I was top of the class - I still am, even now at my university - and that still wouldn't be enough for her, she'd say that it wasn't because I was smart, but because everyone else in my class was stupid. As I got older and started standing up for myself (I wasn't the type to cry, I only got more defiant and belligerent each time), she'd call me arrogant and full of...
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>>17334425
Guys approach me relatively often because I hold together well on the surface and I seem really confident/outgoing (I don't show a sign of weakness, ever), but I always chase them away because I'm just too much of a coward for this.
I know I'm rambling, but this is the first time I've ever put this into words. Does anyone have a similar experience? How do I begin to love myself?
Pic unrelated.
>>17334422
stop blaming your parents. we are virtually the same, right down to the mushroom issue. my dad never yelled at me for not eating mushrooms, but hed yell at me for not eating lasagna. id literally throw it up after trying to swallow some and he would tell me im being a drama queen, a sissy, an attention whore, etc.
everyone has parent issues. stop saying THEY fucked you up.
>Aged 26.
>Graduated from Imperial college with a 2.5-3 GPA.
>Would very much like to get into financial markets.
>Currently a payroll administrator.
I've tried many brokerage firms, but I've not been able to get anywhere. Any advice?
>financial markets
What do you mean?
What kind of jobs are you looking for?
You need experience and a proper degree to have some of those types of jobs.
>>17334641
I really don't mind a broker position, but some type of analyst position is another thing I'd like to work towards. I really just want to get my foot in the industry somehow.
I'm afraid I don't have any experience in the industry, but I do have a maths degree.
Hey /adv/,
So I need some help figuring out whether this is even worth dealing with or not. I matched with a Thai girl on tinder that's doing a work program here in America that seems like a qt3.14 and started talking to her a bit. Conversation seems pretty one sided but that could partially be caused by half the stuff I say getting lost in translation. We've talked about meeting up and looking at some of the local architecture this weekend (she studies architecture in uni). However, she doesn't have a car so I'd have to pick her up and she insists...
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Take her friends, she's already asked you twice and won't let her guard down based on your insistence.
Consider it a fun experience and be outcome- independent. It'll increase your chances to get a proper first date, as long as you come off as fun and proper. Maybe her friends are more into you, who knows how the universe provides?
>>17334402
Ask to bring one of your friends as well so you have someone to talk to incase it gets awkward.
My guess is that she doesn't want to get in a car with someone she met online in case you may potentially rape/harm etc. aka stranger danger.
>>17334455
All of this..
>someone refered to me as their friend today
>paniced and got flustered
How can you tell when you've made friends with someone?
when they want something off you
>>17334398
Depends on where you are. Here in America some people say they're friends with others after one conversation
When hanging out together just kind of happens by default.
When you feel like yourself around them.
I'm bisexual. I just got out of a gay relationship. I only went after fem guys which led me to date my bf. I have a crush on this girl, but with my past I'm afraid a lot of girls won't date me. How do I navigate this? Also, to any girls on here, would you date a bisexual guy who was the top in the relationship?
>>17334395
That's tough man, speaking from experience.
You've officially got gay and straight people labelling you now. You have to know her view on lgbt, first and foremost. After, ask her out. If she questions who you've slept with in the future, be honest.
>>17334395
Doesn't bother me, my boyfriend was with a guy before me. It's actually a hot thought of him with another guy.
I don't see why this would be a problem with this girl unless she was immature. I wouldn't worry about it.
>>17334395
in my experience, no one has to know your sexuality. if its very very common knowledge you date dudes shes bound to find out, so let her know when you feel comfortable.
i think the key is to make it seem like its no big deal. if its a big deal to you its going to be ab ig deal to others.
Hey guys
Id really like to get an honest advice from you. I would advise someone else on an issue like this one, but im kinda out of my mind whenever i think about it and i feel like i need to ask someone about this. And lets say im not able to ask friends for such an advice.
Almost a year ago i broke up with this girl i was with for two and a half years. It wasnt just any kind of a girl, she was somebody really special to me.
She had this opportunity to go somewhere, and our life paths just went different ways so we broke up in the end (long story but this...
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and shamelessly self bumping
tldr
>>17334502
thank you
Hello,
I met a wonderful woman online in a game nearly 2 years ago. This woman I did not think much of her at first but she gradually became more and more interested into me, being around me, wanting me. She is married and has two kids and lives in canada, is pretty allround sick and can only work halfway jobs at best, needs medical attention for her heart and such.
Anyway, she was totally into me all the time and I had a relationship with someone else but got dumped and then I was her best friend for awhile until it got serious. This was about about end summer/winter...
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The big problem is that her man has all the cards in his hands: He maks the money, he has the insurance, about 20k debts are all in her name cause he went bankrupt once already. She might not be able to work a normal job to support us. And then there is the distance and because she is not in the EU moving is very very tough for either of us. I cannot marry her because she is married so going this way sucks majorly too. And packing my things and just moving is tough but I do not even know how it will go on as I do not know what she gotta decide on. Before she left she said that...
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K
She left her man and a kid begging to come back to meet some guy she met on an online game.
Now, to be that guy, what do you thik she will do to you? How long will it take her to find another guy. Because it sounds like when she does she'll just drop it all and go meet them.
People don't change. We are computers running a cyclical code and you are the next target.
Are olfactory hallucinations a thing?
I keep smelling chocolate milk at the most random places and situations.
Huh. I had one day at work were I kept smelling donuts, but there were none around. I didnt even particularly want a donut.
>>17334361
Maybe we both have brain cancer.
They are a thing. I've mostly heard of it associated with stuff like epilepsy, but unless you're prone to seizures or have a brain tumor it's probably nothing.
Asked anyone else if they've noticed anything? Weird perfume or vape flavor seems possible.
How does one have passion instead of being an apathetic 2smart4u faggot like I've been for years
>>17334322
Yeah
desperate bump
>>17334322
passion is intrinsic. people dont go out like 'IM GONNA TRY TO BE PASSIONATE'. think about relationships. people dont TRY. they find something that makes them passionate.
if you cant actually be passionate, then its just called motivation or work ethic.
Well, here it goes. I'm finally going to be honest even if I come off as an asshole.
Since 15, I wanted to be a "player/manwhore" type. I was inept with girls in high school. Lost my virginity at 21. Second girl I had sex with is my current girlfriend of 4 years. I was her second sex partner as well. She lost her virginity at 16 to a guy who is the type of guy I wanted to be. I learned all the mistakes I made from asking questions about their relationship. In one year, at 23/24 I've had sex with 5 other girls on the side. She knows I've cheated,...
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>>17334265
Now I just small talk my way into girls pants, I am whatever they want me to be, so I don't reveal myself to anyone anymore. Do I really want to throw this away so I can small talk 100 girls, so 20 might be interested in me, and 5 might be willing to sleep with me? I'm almost 30. I'm too old to reclaim my high school days. But I just genuinely like fucking, sexting, and slutting around.
I hate the thought that if I leave her, I will be an old man being a whore and won't have any real...
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Leave her, she deserves much better than you.
>>17334285
I realize this too. I truly do love her and I want her to be happy. I just hold her back. I want her to have a family and have the solid loving family unit she has always desired. I just want to see her happy.
I probably can't offer that to her on the time frame she wants it.
I just don't know how to deal with my anxieties of being alone. I can't see myself going from sleeping next to her every night for the past 3 years, to occasionally having a stranger sleep in my bed, and sleeping...
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What do I do if my life is so shit I literally can't be alive. I have problems with my family so just giving up to die alone in a basement isn't even an option.
I literally have no social life. Everyone I meet or talk to hates me I have no idea why. People are really put off by me and avoid me I have no idea why. Now I'm just fucked because being socially recluse for so long fucked with my head and I can't have any type of friendship or relationship.
I have literally no girls in my life at all and I hate myself so much I would never want to...
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If you can definitely try therapy.
I knew a pretty hot girl who liked balding men. Maybe try working out some. I got a stupid tattoo and before that I was a stud so I understand how life can go to shit in an instant.
>>17334277
but its all in my head. I just have to work on it.
My heart breaks for my friend she's just always unhappy and sad I feel so helpless in a guy and I've known her for ever I just don't know what to do
>>17334436
Bruh, a savage :^XXX
hey /adv/ so I've been sexting this guy for a few weeks now and he wants to meet up for NSA sex. I agreed and now I have changed my mind.
He knows my full name and lives locally, I don't want to meet him, but I'm scared that if I say no he will try and spread my nudes.
How do I cancel the hookup without sounding like a bitch?
You fucked this one up. Now you can only hope he's not a bitter asshole. What's the reason you are backing out of it?
>>17334208
Spread the nudes yourself, then he has no ammo against you, might as well start here.
>>17334213
Also, you might want to give him a reason and not just ghost on him. I'd lean more against "i changed my
Mind about this whole nsa thing" instead of "you are creeping me out". Make sure to not hook up with another guy right away. That might piss him off
