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This has been going on for a while, every time I cum I have this uninterested mindset. I wouldn't call it boredom, it's this weird thing where If I'm masturbating to something I find really hot, the moment I cum there's this thing in the back of my head telling me that it's not all that hot. How can I change this? I'll elaborate if you need more info.
uh....
This sounds like porn induced erectile dysfunction. Despite the name it mainly affects the brain. Google to learn more about it but there is a good chance you have it.
In a nutshell: Cut the porn, gradually cut out the masturbation, and find a way to keep your mind off it.
>>17331794
Funny coincidence. I jack it about 5 times a week or so, not twice a day. Is that my problem? I didn't think I jerked off that much.
If you lose your virginity to rape and never have sex again in your whole life and that was your only sexual encounter, does that make you as bad as being a virgin?
Also to give this thread more relevance since that question can be an opinion, how do you deal with this situation as a guy going into a relationship? Should you tell your partner that you have an abusive past and never had sex outside of that and to start things slow or would it be better to just say your a virgin or just nothing at all?
>>17331780
If you're still that hung up about sex you should probably sort your shit out with a therapist before getting a boyfriend.
>>17331787
LOL thanks,
While I am bisexual, largely because I was abused, I was referring to a relationship with a women.
>>17331780
I would probably stay away because she's likely fucked up in the head from the rape. Not her fault, but I'm not a martyr.
Hi, I'm 47 years old and I'm a virgin. Throughout my adulthood I have been depressed about being a virgin. But that's coming to an end! I've been just getting into PUA and I can't believe how stupid I was for thinking that just because I was ugly and short or old meant that I can't have sex with beautiful girls. I have a degree already, but starting in Spring I am re-enrolling in college. I'm going to shave my head and wear sunglasses and sit in the back of the class. I'm no longer a nerd like I was in my 20s. I'm going to be one...
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>>17331745
If you do this try not to be 47.
>>17331745
>pic related
Okay so I really need some advise because I don't know who to turn to and this is a really difficult situation
britfags would be better as they know the laws and ect
>get extreme anxiety and agoraphobia
>have to move back home to recover and get therapy
>have abusive mother who's personality is volatile
>super nice switches to unimaginable rage
>family road trip coming up
>fuck...
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Or if I should just gtfo as soon as possible
>>17331721
how old are you
Can you learn to not hate fat people
>running a cash register at a fast food joint
>a whole family of obese people walk in
>they try to make eye contact when they walk in (like they're human) but I can't even look at them
Why are we programmed to hate fat people? Is this wrong?
>>17331717
No anon, it is the only way. Fat people are like drug addicts in my book. They have no self control and are happy in their misery. Let them die slowly and smile at that thought each time they eat another burger.
>>17331730
Honey you can compare fatal withdraws to not eating ten hamburgers per sitting. Go to school or something
>>17331717
Fuck fat people.
/adv/, I don't know what I'm doing with my life.
I'm majoring in political science and really want to be involved with politics, but right now, there's too many options at hand. Should I take the pre-law track? Should I go to business school? Should I instead major in something else like economics?
I'm just not sure where to even begin a political career once I'm out of college, let alone how I'll build up a sort of credibility.
Anyone have advice? I saw a similar thread yesterday but that wasn't quite the same...
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why would we know what you want better than yourself
dude do what you want; and if you dont know what you want then it doesn't matter what you do.
Anything that isn't stem in college is just a way for them to milk money from retards. HF with a shit tier job
>>17331729
>>17331741
But as I said, I want a career within politics or international affairs. STEM is obviously not my route, and I just want to know what my best path is from now
I was wondering if there is a link of Daredevil''s (2003) Original Cut, I've been looking for it for a while now but all I keep finding is the Directors Cut, I know this really odd seeing how the Directors cut is better but I need the original one, If you're able to help thanks!
>>17331707
I might have that, Anon. I'll check. But why?
>>17331736
Long Story...
>>17331731
Yeah whoops
I am a man, born a boy and raised in the north of England. My main interests/hobbies are Video Games, Bodybuilding and Rugby. I always struggled in academics due to lack of focus or interest, but I always maintained a position in the middle of the pack. Happy to be mediocre, I currently manage a medium-sized retail chain branch in my local town. Not the best but comfortable.
I am average, I would say.
I am also half-Chinese, a fact which has tainted every aspect of my life and left my achievements either unnoticed, or recognized in a back-handed way.
Mini background: Mum met Dad etc and they started a family, but Dads main interest was permanent residence in the UK. My parents divorced and Mum took my siblings and I far away from Dad. As such, I have no link or sentiment for Chinese culture.
Chinese Art? Music? History? Politics? Culture? Not really bothered. My life has never included these things and so I do not identify with them. When I think of myself and my traits, being half-Chinese is incidental and does not reflect in my personality or identity.
The world, however, sees me as the Chinese guy. They say I'm an academic failure [for a Chinese guy], a good laugh [for a Chinese guy], pretty strong [for a Chinese guy]. People have on occasion stopped me in the street to ask "when are you going, you know, home?". People interrupt me mid-sentence to compliment my English, and ask me how many languages I speak. People stop me to comment on my beard, as of course no Chinese guy can grow facial hair.
When I work hard to achieve something, my efforts are minimized to the point where achievements are simply unrecognized or taken for granted. I either achieved something only because I'm half-Chinese, or what I've achieved is so un-Chinese that there are no words that apply.
I have only shared this sentiment with a few close friends and Mum. When I told Mum, she found me a therapist, hoping that a professional could assuage my hangup and I would stop talking about it.
My therapist fed me Tublrisms; I should "do me". I should embrace my culture...
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People will never truly understand you because there is no benefit for them. Just remember to love yourself, and believe there is a better tomorrow. Be happy and kind to others, and you will find yourself in a better place.
>>17331704
Kill your biological father.
It is the only way.
After several interviews and zero solid offers I'm starting to think my problem is my personality. I tested as INTJ, and even though the field I picked is supposedly safe for introverts I feel like my personality type is hurting me. How should I be normie as possible in interviews?
I tried drinking coffee and meditating beforehand.
>I'm starting to think my problem is my personality
Well yeah, if your entire personality is 'introvert' then you don't really have a personality to begin with. Employers don't want someone with no personality
>>17331712
>Employers don't want someone with no personality
Actually, they want someone who's competent at what they're supposed to be doing. So unless he's applying for a leadership position, or something with a media presence, or customer service that goes beyond ringing shit up on a cash register or answering support tickets, then having "no personality" shouldn't matter.
>>17331835
Someone with no personality isn't going to be good at working in a team, or talking to people. Someone with no personality will bring the atmosphere of the workplace down and perhaps make others uncomfortable. There are plenty of people who are competent enough to do jobs, why would they choose someone like OP over someone with a personality?
Happiness seems impossible. I'm 30, never been in a real relationship. In love with someone but we can't be together, been in love once before but it didn't work out. I hate a lot of people and the world depresses me. What I have going for me is a decent income and a few good friends.
Am I fucked? Have you ever felt like you'll never be happy? What can I do?
Why can't you be with her? Maybe she could help you
Be happy for what you have.
Same situation. No matter how social I am and out in public there are two girls, one that I love but cannot be with and one where it didn't work out, that could fill this emptiness in my being. Every week is a total crawl to go out and get nothing in return and no results.
Hi /adv/
So I have a butt problem I'm tall and kinda thin but my butt doesn't suit my body ~ height 6'4 and weight 163lbs
Any advice to make my butt thinner it really ruins my looks :(
You have a nice ass and are thin and tall, what's the problem?
>>17331650
It doesn't suit my body it is bigger than it should be I think
>>17331650
And I am a boy in case you thought I'm a girl
I need some advice and this is one of the few places I know where to go for it.
So my gf is polyamorous while I am not and because her feelings for others had been bothering her for a while I decided to let her date others but I don't actually really feel comfortable with it. It hurts to see someone I loved for so long and who actually helped build me up and love me go on and love someone else. And my thoughts and emotions are having a fun time with jealousy and anxiety.
One reoccurring thought in my head is "She's not yours anymore and you shouldn't be doing the things you did with her anymore" and with that I guess I haven't been trying to do anything sexual with her and I feel a bit sad and try not to do anything too romantic with her and I don't because I feel like she's not mine and that I don't deserve to be with her. Another thought is "You're just a glorified friend" and one other is "She's replacing you". I feel that if I don't do romantic or sexual things she's going to just replace me but I already do feel replaced. I love her a lot and I'm afraid my emotions and thoughts are going to make me push myself away from her.
I don't want to seem controlling or anything like that and I certainly don't want to fuck it up or abuse her but I just don't really like knowing that the one I love is out with another person or persons. It hurts so much and I know that we're probably really incompatible but I want so desperately to make things work. I also feel like my thoughts and feelings are taking quite a toll on my emotional health and self esteem. I feel like a selfish monster for wanting her to myself and I feel like I'm so undeserving of her love. I should be happy because I have her and I'm still in a relationship with her but I just can't be knowing and feeling like she's not mine.
Many have told me that we should break up and many have called me a cuck but I just really want advice on how I can make things work.
What can I do?
>>17331640
Paragraphs, motherfucker, paragraphs.
This is the absolute worst board to ask questions about anything concerning a non-monogamous relationship.
This board is populated with:
1. A bunch of wounded, angry males who feel a lot of anxiety over self-percieved shortcomings in their romantic life and sex life, and who are boiling with venom in an attempt to conceal it.
2. A bunch of insecure virgin males who feel a lot of anxiety about being virgins in a world where their worth feels tied to...
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if it doesnt give you dignity then dont do it.
she wont change for you.
dont willingly lead yourself into a life of unhappiness and shame
>>17331676
Not really. His last thread had genuine advice from a lot of people, but he doesn't want to leave her.
They just seem fundamentally incompatible. He can't change her, and I doubt he can force his feelings/values to change. That will only lead to failure.
OP, the only way to possibly go about this is to sit down with her and tell her all of this honestly. Tell her everything here that you've told us. And then you both have to try and find a compromise that leaves both of you happy.
My partner wanks at least twice a day everyday. This has been going on for the two years I've been with him. More recently, he hasn't been able to stay hard or come when we fuck and fool around etc. This means close to all sexual activities I try with him that are in any way spontaneous end with 'I'm sorry I already came twice today' and a promise that he won't wank tomorrow to be ready (ruining the allure of 'spontaneous'). Is this normal fucking behaviour for guys? I really want to tear into him about it but I'm an absolute pussy...
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>>17331601
I read something very similar to this except it ended with the boyfriend breaking up with his girlfriend because she was a fat lazy fuck who couldn't bother getting in shape and that was a major turn-off for him so he just stopped fucking her.
So OP (and not that I'm trying to put you down or anything, but) are you a fat and lazy fuck who has recently become totally undesirable to your partner? Is there a reason you can think of as to why he would rather jerk it than fuck you?
>Is this normal fucking behaviour for guys?
I've heard of men who are in comfortable relationships with their female partner but sometimes they just prefer their own hand for a quickie than having to actually fuck another human being. It's the convenience and comfort of it all.
>It's pretty much already started to ruin this relationship so I'm open to everyone's ideas on how to deal with this shit.
have you tried talking with your partner about it
how about mandating that the two of you have absolutely no sexy-times and absolutely NO MASTURBATING FOR THE BOTH OF YOU for a full week?
If he considers fapping better than sex with you then that's a problem that needs to be addressed
>>17331610
I'm pretty much the opposite of a fat lazy fuck, luckily. I run every day (something he says he'll always do with me but never does) and whatever I want in my current stage of life I usually work my ass off to get. He's always saying how sexy and gorgeous I am. I don't think the problem is me physically, though my attitude about sex now is a little snarky due to all this.
I honestly think he may be one of those people and for awhile I was content with it. Now I'm not. He's shown...
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My friend went to AX and grabbed me this picture. In order to ensure it did not get damaged it was rolled up and put into a poster tube. What do I do to properly hang it?
In the trash
Acquire poster frame
>>17331580
>anime
kill yourself
I think I damaged my sexuality with drugs and fucked up porn. How can I restore myself to healthy sexual expression
Join a kink community. Go down that rabbit hole
>>17331548
Go clean, from both hard drugs and all porn. If you can stay totally clean for a few months, your psyche should more or less reset itself in that regard.
>>17331554
I've tried, but I know that this degrading sexual malaise I've found myself in isn't really me. I don't want to hurt and degrade myself anymore, and I'm tired of feeling guilt and shame about myself.
>>17331557
I've tried, but it's difficult to reign in my sexual urges. I need someway to overcome these desires in a healthy way
