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About 72 hours ago, I got into a fender bender. Accidentally lightly backed into a car larger than mine (a pickup or a suv).
I panicked for a minute, and split, went home. After kicking myself for acting like a retard, I called the insurance company the next day and reported that my car had been hit overnight.
It's been three days or so since the accident. I went back to the restaurant where it happened yesterday, and they said they didn't know a thing about it. Considering that, I'm not sure the other guy filed a report with the cops,...
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self-bump, because I have really bad anxiety issues and need some kind of peace of mind
You deserve this anxiety for being a little bitch and not doing the right thing
>>17331546
Can someone just tell me what the likelihood of the cops showing up at this point is?
Last Friday I lost my voice at work. I continued the day the best I could and went to the doctor Saturday taking the day off. I was diagnosed with laryngitis and given 20mg of prednisone 2x a day for 5 days. I had a cold which was a contributing factor. I went back to work Sunday even though my voice wasn't better because we're short staffed. I am off every Monday and Tuesday and tried to rest my voice the best I could. Monday I consumed 2 pints of beer.
I returned to work today and the more I started speaking the worse my voice got and I left at noon. My job...
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I still have a cough and congestion and have been taking dayquil/nyquil 3x a day as well as flonaise.
>>17331515
>how can I shorten this problem
>refuses to rest his voice
I think we can see what's going wrong here
>>17331527
I can't take multiple days off work to heal my voice, that's not really an option. I work on comission, if I don't sell I don't get paid. I'm using paid sick days now to suppliment this bullshit.
What will you do if you saw random girl try to suicide
Join her
>>17331507
Tell her that it would be extremely painful
Ask for sex before she jumps. If she refuses, wait for her body to wash up
Taxidermy is easier than most people thinl
I've been mentally ill since seven years, currently in my 20s.
I've simply lost all motivation, and I feel less and less for every passing year. I've even been to the phsyc-place (live-in), twice.
Both lasting for a few months. First time, I tried to kill myself, ended up on the ER - then forced to that place.
Second time was "willingly", as I felt how I do now.
Difference - I don't feel like going anymore.
There's no point to it. I've recieved all sorts of treatments, from drugs to electroconvulsive therapy, didn't help. More so, I feel like a real vegetable.
I have a huge distrust for the people there in general, and some doesn't even seem to care. It's just their job.
I'm not feeling depressed because of anything currently in my life. I have a good life.
It's just my retarded illnesses fucking with me, and they will continue to do so for the rest of my life.
I just feel so... Tired. Can I keep this up? I don't want to.
Nothing in life feels rewarding anymore. Why should I go through so much pain, without gain?
A part of me wants help. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I'm sick of it.
Perhaps I should start with illegal drugs, since I'm already eating pills like snacks, which doesn't seem to help.
I just want it to go away.
>Help.
You need a night at a good restaurant. You're probably just down because you don't eat much/haven't eaten today
>>17331544
This is probably a shitty advice but for me, the best thing was to accept it as a game rule. Started being cynical, hating on people and generally trolling around. I could either kill myself or go on doing useless shit, it will end one day either way
Talked to a girl. We hit t off well. She's smiling and laughing. I ask her to hang out sometime. She says yes, offers her number.
I text, no response.
I call, no response.
Wait a few hours.
Call one more time, leave a message saying "hi, - call me when you're available."
It's been a few days and she hasn't called back.
What do?
wait more
She met someone or was just fucking with you.
>>17331465
Remove the number, that won't go anywhere or at the very least the ball is on her end.
Let's say your father is a teacher and he's fucking his former student, ~35 years younger than him (and 3 years younger than you). He is divorced with your mom. How would you behave?
No, I'm not a student sleeping with former teacher. Not yet.
BTW. Sorry for my terrible English.
Why would it bother you? Maybe he's happy with her. Do you know how she behaves or what her personality is? Or maybe they where lonly and hit it off.
I'm really curious about this story. Tell it, op.
Don't be jealous anon.
Let your papa get inside those sweet sugar walls and leave nothing but the nuts hanging out.
Hey /adv/, any polylinguals here?
I am fluent in Spanish and English, but as I'll be a political science major and wanting to be involved with politics, what are some good languages to learn? Italian looks very easy, but I feel it wouldn't be as important as Russian or Ukranian.
Also, do you guys have tips for learning more than one language at a time?
Thank you.
Mandarin and Arabic. Russian looks to be more attractive these days, too. Maybe Farsi.
I would avoid taking two languages that are similar on at once. When I was learning french and spanish I would often find myself using french words when speaking spanish and vice versa. Luckily I was still understood most of the time.
I'd look into Russian, Arabic and Mandarin.
>>17331961
I'll highly consider Mandarin, but likely, it'll be Russian. Arabic is far too complicated for me currently
Do you have any experience with those?
>>17331971
I agree, but I notice there are a lot of words that look the same in the Romantic languages
please
WTB that fedora oneitis pillow?
>>17331402
yes please!
I asked here at 4chan about motivation and the answer was: you've got it the other way around, you start with something so small taht you don't really need any motivation and you use the good feeling of progress as motivation to do more
I'm looking to apply for a part-time librarian in my college. I don't even have any expeirences from working at library. Has anyone ever work for your college library? If so what was the experience? How good is the payment?
The pay is going to be lousy. There are a lot of college students willing to work for very little money, and colleges take advantage of that.
It sounds like fun, though.
You don't necessarily need previous experience working in a library, you just need to show that you can do the job
Asking how much it pays is stupid, obviously it's going to vary from school to school and you should check at yours.
And is there even a vacancy available?
I just want to do it so I can bang hot college chicks
I'm really fucking stressed right now.
I've got a shit tonne of work to do.
but every time I try to do anything I get chest pains.
I'm exhausted and either can't get to sleep or can't stop falling asleep.
Every day I get so little done which means I'm falling further behind and then more stress.
Deadlines are looming.
I want to get work done but I keep having meltdowns when I push myself.
What can I do to get work done?
I'm going to the doctor tomorrow see if I can get some drugs or something.
I tried therapy before for anxiety and shit but this is a whole different color of shit.
It's been going on all year, getting worse and worse.
I thought it was getting better a couple of weeks ago, but then I took the weekend off to relax and that just let me see how fucked I was, when on Monday I got back to work and it was like I was punched in the chest.
No build up, just instantly back to pain and panic.
Anyone?
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I've never been this stressed.
My undergrad wasn't this bad, work was never this bad.
Im male 28, i was born with a hideous birthmark on the side of my face, ive since had it lasered off and have a normal face now
as you can imagine, this birthmark destroyed my confidence growing up and made dating hard, really hard, i didnt have a real date till i was 24
ive only dated a few girls and it hasnt gone well, i have no idea what im doing and i have no experiance
some freinds told me that its normal to kiss at the end of a first date so on my next date i just went in and stole a kiss from her at the end of the night, it felt weird and wrong, she...
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bump spider
>>17331343
Does there a scar where the laser removal?
>>17331390
nope its all cleared, i actually look ok now
I was just wondering if my close friends were actually as close as I thought,so firstly they do add me to group chats and stuff but never to social outings, also they never bother messaging me unless I message them first and even then they take long times to reply and leave me on read ,a few of them also give me the cold shoulder some days and act like I'm not there and finally they like to joke around and push each other but when ever they do or make jokes about each other they never talk to me or bother involving me,If they don't seem like good friends any advice...
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My best guess is they just treat you as a "backup". Or they are just bored of you and probably if you left them they wouldn't even bother that much. The good thing is that at least you got someone to talk to.
>>17331315
Part of getting older. It probably isn't you. People will drop old friends like they get rid of an old pair of jeans - pretty seldom there is much hesitation.
I made the mistake of obsessing over it when it happened to me, but it's not worth that. Trust me. Find other things to do and you'll feel better.
>>17332189
Partially agree.
Yes, you shouldn't obsess over it. People are free to make their own choices as to how close a friend they consider you to be, and you can't force them into anything.
But equally, if you fail to attract or keep high-quality friendships, it probably is you. Some people are extremely likeable and enjoyable to be with, and I don't mean in the stereotypical "popular and shit on everyone below you" kind of way. There are ways to make yourself a better person and...
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Hi /adv/, my boyfriend's mom is a bit of a two-faced liar and I'm not sure how to navigate it. Specifically, I'm not sure if I should be mentioning any of this to my boyfriend himself.
The lying/two-facedness usually comes in the form of telling me/him X, but telling others (like my parents) Y. I'm only aware of it because my parents tell me what she says. There hasn't been anything particularly offensive, but I'm just having a hard time believing anything she says now. And it just bothers me when people aren't honest, you know?
My...
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>>17331297
>My boyfriend doesn't know about this
Talk with your boyfriend about it before asking us for help.
>>17331297
Most women are.
Avoid the mother at all costs, explain to your boyfriend the issue and plan on you and your bf to stop seeing his mom
im getting my own place soon. this will be the first time ill be living on my own
i need a list of things i NEED. like. i just bought a water filter. i have a mattress to sleep on. what are some ESSENTIALS and possibly just things thatll make me enjoy my living space.. like.. a lamp
>>17331291
when if irst moved out all i really had was my bed, my computer and some dishes. thats it.
have a skillet and a small pot, and have a plate with some silverware. you dont NEED much else. you slowly start to buy more as you go.
bath towell is of course necessary.
>>17331291
>i need a list of things i NEED. like. i just bought a water filter
why do you need a water filter ? you should probably post where you are from.
toilet paper, laundry detergent, dish soap, shampoo, body wash, toothpaste, toothbrush..as for your fridge (you don't want to spend your money on delivery; you must learn to cook!) eggs, milk, olive oil, deli meat, bread, mayo, ketchup, salt, pepper, bananas, spinach, yogurt, cereal, pasta, pasta sauce and assortments of fresh fruit and veggies if you can afford it. Don't forget clean socks, towels and your laptop. These are ESSENTIALS!!
How do I accept the fact that I will never have sex. Something that 99% of people do. Something that is required to reach self-actualization, and something that I will be shit on for not doing.
>Inb4 go back to /r9k/
So you're telling me that going to the most toxic and angry board on this website will be able to help me with this? Fuck off.
>Inb4 sex doesn't matter
Says the person that has already done it, and could get it again if they felt like it. Plus you know that you're bullshitting...
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Just wait. I was later than most. For a long time I was the shy girl who couldn't talk to anybody and absolutely nobody talked to me. Come to find out that really a lot of people had been hitting on me without me noticing, I was so awkward with people that I literally didn't understand flirting at all. In the end it came down to finding a similar group of friends and growing close.
Sorry for the generic twisty not so good advice
>>17331252
>Something that is required to reach self-actualization
Priests, Buddhist monks, and many taoists abstained from sex completely. They were extremely actualized and found great meaning and purpose.
>>17331301
I am none of those things though.
