>>17330954

unfortunately a great deal of motivation is instrinsic. you have it or you dont. we can give tips or tricks but its up to you to implement those little tips and tricks. and if ur too lazy to stick with the gym, chances are you are too lazy to stick with much else.

but assuming you have some here you go.

you gotta decide if ur cutting or bulking. most people bulk first, cut later. considering you were once more muscular, id imagine the muscles still there just covered in fat. so if i were you id work out to work those muscles, but also cut in the diet.

take one of your meals a day, and switch it out for veggies. you'd be surprised how many calories that cuts out. one meal. you still get your delicious dinner, but if you had a lunch that was like 500 or more calories, its now much less. have half a tablespoon of butter (50 calories) and as many veggies as you like, steamed, no olive oil or any of that. just veggies and butter. its delicious. asparagus and greenbeans and spinach is the best mix imo.

after that, replace the fucking soda with water. i know boo hoo you're addicted, but there is no trick to this. ask whoever you live with to not let you drink soda. dont have it in the house. dont buy it. just stay the fuck away. drinks are an easy way to cut calories cuz you can just have water but you still get your delicious meals.

if you live alone, its up to you kiddo. some people will suggest nasty ass water mixes that give it flavor, but i think just having cold fresh water is the best way.

>>17330986

take a look at what your junk food is, and simply cuti t in half. would you normally eat six cookies? eat three. follow up with some strawberries. would you normally eat two poptarts for breakfast? cut one out, and eat a banana instead. the only dessert you need to avoid at all cost is ice cream. way too many calories

instead, get your favorite berries, and ONE spoonful of cold greek vanilla yogurt. youd be surprise how much you can spread one spoonful across. think of your yogury as a 'syrup'....
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Lmao, are you me OP? I do this shit all the time, it's pretty fun and girls seem to like it too. I've been doing it for years though holy shit. I don't think that'll change unless I have a relationship irl.

>>17330943
At this point go cold turkey. Give your modem (and smartphone maybe) to a person you trust for a weekend. Work through what you feel and why you go to ERP.

Is it loneliness? Are you dissatisfied? Do you use it to cope?

I dis this too, a lot. I feel like my ERP addiction is because of lack of self respect and too much time. I've also noticed I tend to do more masochistic and depraving things when my own life is a mess.

I deleted all my accounts that allowed me to ERP and cut contact with roleplayers. Now I'm posting shit like this on 4chan instead, but one step at a time.... I've downloaded self-disciplinary apps, I got 7 goals I need to do each day. Which basically is get up early, take a walk, eat breakfast, work for at least 3–4 hours, etc.

>>17330919
You're a fucking kid.
Get out of your relationship.
If you can't be with the other guy, find someone else.

Open yourself to Christ.

Attend church services(Protestant churches with an appropriate life group for your age range is the best way to start if you've never been to church or followed Christ).

Pray to God for comfort and guidance.

>>17330919
sounds like a fucked situation. you're gonna get your ass blasted by the rest so let's skip that and get to the good stuff

i'm assuming you actually want to solve your problems rather than just leave them be and unfortunately you can't do that if you're dead so suicide is off the list. sucks to face your fuck ups huh?

here's my proposal:
-drop both guys
-do not run away, manage finances with original guy and keep going to class
-apologize for your actions and cope...
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>>17330904

what you are essentially asking is

>am i required to fall in love with any girl who shows me interest?

the answer is no. you are not required. love isn't just 'well you're objectively good' otherwise women would settle all the fucking time.

love and romance is about chemistry. attraction is part of that, personality is too, but there is an intrinsic unknown quality... almost like literal chemistry. just the way you two react to one another

i...
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>>17330904
>Is this normal?
Yes, for Chad Thundercock

>>17330929
>>17330904
But is it wrong to prefer the girl who might not inspire passion but provides a more stable relationship? Seems like that would be the smarter choice in the end.

>>17330899
Why did you post this here instead of texting your friend.

Are you a bot or just retarded

>>17330899

sounds to me like you are experiencing stress because you know you are growing up.

in early highschool you could spend your whole summer sitting aorund in your room just playing vide ogames with your best friend.

and it'd be the best summer evar. now im guessing you're a senior or even in college and are aware that the sun is setting on your childhood and you feel more pressure to make these last moments count. you're doing what you've always done but its not enough.

are...
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>>17330910
I just finished my first year of college, I was in a bad relationship so I didn't socialize much. I made one friend.

>the sun is setting on your childhood and you feel more pressure to make these last moments count. you're doing what you've always done but its not enough.

Kinda. I'm also kinda stressed that I may of set my career path on something that I may be simply "growing out of" on my way to adulthood (I took programming because of my...
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>>17330888
your dude's cool with it so stop worrying about it.

doesn't matter what we think. you feel like you made a mistake and learned from it, can anyone ask for anything more?

>>17330923
You're right anon, thanks, I appreciate it

>>17330888
I'd be pissed if my girlfriend was cybering dudes online.

I'd be more pissed if the dudes she cybered online were sending her dick pics.

He's probably a cuck, maybe you should mention how it's bigger than his dick

>>17330881
You should be asking her.

>>17330881
>I feel like im thrusting into her wrong or my dick isn't sliding in and out of her enough or something.

>he actually thinks penetration will give a girl an orgasm

eat her out you pussy
or at least learn how to rub her clit correctly

not all girls have orgasms from penetration

have you tried asking her what she likes?

>>17330871

>this website sucks
>surely other websites would have different kinds of people
>fuck reddit tho

ur choices are tumblr, reddit, 4chan, or a more specialized forum.

>>17330871
What are you looking for exactly? What keeps you in here?

>>17330893
I honestly don't even know why I am here anymore. I go through phases where I browse a board a lot, then I transition to another board. Right now I have been on /pol/ a lot lately and its been an absolute shit show. I'm also not entirely sure what I'm looking for. I guess a website that won't punish me for having an unpopular opinion would be a nice start.

>>17330790

How the hell could anyone take rejection other than negatively?

She had a crush on you and got her heart broken. Give her time to get over it. Perhaps she will, perhaps she won't. At least give her some time, but if you don't hear from her at all and it bugs you, you can eventually ask if you guys are alright.

Even tho you didn't, she might have taken it as "I don't feel attracted to you because you're ugly".

>>17330807
Well, she is overweight. Otherwise she could be decent looking.

>>17330773
>>>/int/

>>17330773
I'm a Pole, and let me tell you brother, there are moments when I feel similarly about my country, but then I remember it's my motherland.

What I think about Russians? Given our historical past it's hard for me to be objective. My grandfather, who was captured and forced into tsar's army, used to say that one Russian is a golden man, but a pack of Russians is no better than a pack of feral dogs. I'm sure loads of things have changed since. What I suppose is a prevalent stereotype regarding...
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>>17330833
thanks for the contribution man. Any specific suggestions about Polish literature? I find the idea of believing in fate extremely displeasing, and would like to understand more how a country or a population can come to that.

Regarding Polish people: I grew up in Italy, so I don't know if I'm objective because Poland is very far from us so we don't get a lot of immigration, which would surely lower our perception of immigrants (most of the time, poorer people immigrate, and they are less desirable...
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op here. i've considered getting back on adhd medication, mindfulness meditation, cleaning, going out with friends. I always come back here

>>17330727
Uh...you sound really manic and hyper... Are you bi polar by any chance? Anyways, just stay away from that girl for your own good and just chill out. Drink a beer and paint a picture.

>>17330895
I've never really suspected that. I'm hyper because I'm kind of scared of my future i think

>>17330717

sit him down privately and talk with him. explain that while its not something that can physically hurt you, it is something you dwell on often. its not that you didnt have a mother, its that you have this constant reminder that your life is missing something everyone else has. just ask him to not make those sort of jokes again.

if he calls you a baby or anything like that hes pretty rude desu and should just be ignored from then on out.

>>17330717
tell him that it put you in a shitty mood because it's a really touchy subject.

>>17330728
>>17330729
I've told him that it's shitty and I've stopped talking to him since.
It happened 2 days ago and it still really fucking hurts. When I did talk to him about it I just feel like he didn't get it.

>>17330688
Erm... I don't know where the fuck the desu came from?

>>17330688
Lol only a 6ft penis? you couldnt even pleasure a child with that. I bet your dick doesnt even hang out of your pantleg! Hahaha 10ft master race here. I have to run it up through my shirt, sling it over my shoulder and tuck it in to my ass so it doesnt flop out.

>>17330694
Get a load of this newfag. Smh desu senpai

>>17330655
Why not?

>>17330655

>i want to kill myself
>but not if it requires going outside
>for reasons

fuck you you dont want to kill yourself.

>>17330662
I don't want to 'cause trouble to strangers

>>17330579
Yeah most people meet their partner through their peer group. Ask her stuff when you meet, most people love to talk about themselves. Don't go full sleaze "you are so beautiful", if you want to give a compliment say something about how that dress looks very nice on her.
Your number one question can be "so, how do you know X (= friend that set you up)"

Here is a list of questions / topics that you can talk about:
1: work. where does she work, what does she do.
2: after work,...
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Does this friend know you? It might be strange to text someone who didn't know their number was given out or if they don't know the person texting them.

>>17330616
No, she doesn't know me. I'm her friend's boyfriend's friend.