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The past few weeks, without any real reason that I can think of, I've felt an enormously strong pull to Judaism.
I was raised Christian, Christian private schools through my youth, married by a Christian pastor, but I haven't directly practiced since my youth and I have a ton of doubts about Christianity as an organized religion. While the LGBTQ movement has annoyed me due to the constant bombardment of "look at me, I'm proud', I hate Christianity's views on those people. I hate how I'm told that I'm nothing but sin, and how my life should be nothing more than to sing praises to the lord. I feel like the religion is meant to break me down, rather than raise me up. I've had pastors tell me to just "speak in tongues" to feel "closer to God," which is just absurd. I just haven't had a good experience with the -organized- part of Christianity, nor some of the doctrine.
Then I look at Judaism. No New Testament, which is where most of my issues arise. Reform Jewish temples with female Rabbis that openly welcome any creed, color, or gender. A focus on accepting others and helping everyone instead of judging and hating and accusing of sin constantly. But, then there's the Shabbat, which seems to be absurdly restrictive to the point where I couldn't function as the father figure in my family one day a week. This is something that, if I started to go to a local temple and started to immerse myself in the faith, I'd want my wife to feel welcome or to be unaffected. I wouldn't want to be completely useless one day out of the week, though I'm 100% okay with the idea of "no work" for a day, even if it's paying bills, for example. I also have a son at 20 months old and need to figure out if he will have any religious influences growing up, though I won't put him through the same private school forced bullshit I dealt with.
Anyone here a Jew? Would anyone have some insight to share with me?
>>17333780
>Would anyone have some insight to share with me?
THE GOYIM KNOW.
SHUT IT DOWN.
>>17333786
I honestly completely forgot about the goyim shit on 4chan, and I've been coming here since 2006. I have no clue why I thought I'd get any legitimate answers, holy shit I'm dumb sometimes hahahaha
I can't even blame you for shitposting in this instance.
>>17333797
Fuck, stop being reasonable, you're making me feel bad for trying to shit up your thread now.
I can't even offer any help, as I know literally nothing about religion.
Short introduction: I'm 20 years old and this girl is 21. She's Turkish but not religious or traditional (although conservative concerning relationships)
4 months ago I met a girl on some language exchange site. She was from Turkey and went to study in my country (Belgium), so naturally, she'd ask me a few questions here and there about how things would work in this country.
We eventually really hit it off and I said to her that when she came here we would have a date. She said yes, and in-between the period of that happening and her arrival in Belgium, we talked often and about many of things, often until 6 in the morning (weekends only though, as I'm in college). I would say that on average, we'd talk 25 hours a week, from April until the 24th of June.
You might be asking why the latter date is specific, well, our first moment where we were physically together was around the 16th of June. We hit it off, did some stuff at her flat, and I slept over. After that I realized I caught feelings for her, but I didn't mind, as we really got along well and from all the women I've talked with, she was easily in my top 3 concerning personality and being easy-going.
Our second date was a little less fortunate, only a week after, I decided that she could come over to my flat, which was 40ish kilometers away from hers.
Now mind you, I have a roommate, and this roommate has a brother with a girlfriend. He often has sex with his girlfriend at our flat. Bad luck dictated that he left an empty condom wrapper next to MY bed (so not my roommate's). The turkish girl and I did some stuff on my bed, and shortly after, while she was browsing through the trinkets on a table next to my bed (I collect rocks and petty archeological artefacts), she found the empty condom wrapper.
Needless to say the smile on her face quickly dissipated and she asked "are there any trains left back to *her city* at this hour?"
>>17333767
CONT:
I've been trying to explain the situation to her that night, from 11PM to 4AM, I was trying to tell what I think happened and later was confirmed by my roommate's sibling to be true. She slept on the guest bed and I slept in my own, sobbing and coming back every 20 minutes to see how she was doing and to try again explaining my thoughts.
I got my roommate and his brother to come forward about their incompetence (they didn't even notice me about the sex stuff while I told them clearly I'd have a girl over at our appartment), even wrote her a letter.
All to no avail...
I'm at wit's end and I'd like a last advice on what to do before I decide enough is enough and continue moving on. This girl really meant a lot to me and I've only met 1-2 other people aking as close to compatible my personality and future goals as her.
>>17333767
Bump please
you barely know each other, only met twice and in the second she already start pissing you with bullshit from your sex life, not like you cheated on her.
now, she may be right (and she's half right) but you better start thinking this and tell to her to let her know what she's doing, eventually will forget this.
if she starts this way...
This girl i like recently became single angain and i took her out and she kissed me on that first meet up. Now, less then a week later im texting her from morning to night trying to push it further, am i being too much? Should i just let everything take its course itself? I feel like im a bit annoying.
>>17333679
no girls like when you absolutely shower them with attention, she just doesn't wanna seem easy at this point
so subtly pull back a bit, start being "busy" and not relentlessly blowing up her phone etc and watch her panic
>>17333733
This. Back off and give her some room to breathe. Show her you have a life outside of her.
>>17333679
Offer to meet up on the weekend and say you'll contact her near the time to make sure you're still meeting up. Just don't smother her and let her have time to think about
My bf's mom is a hardcore lesbian. While I've been in his house (and usually when he's not around), she has:
>walked around braless multiple times so I can see her nipples
>"accidentally" barged in the bathroom while I was taking a bath
>walked around in revealing/small clothes
>sat in front of me in yoga pants with no panties
>" accidentally" kissing me on the mouth when it was supposed to be in the cheek
>etc etc etc
And the list goes on. She is very agressive behind her son's back. I don't know what to do. I'm currently staying a week here and he's just left to work and I don't wanna leave the room. What do I do?
Pic related, she reminds me of Jennifer from the Sopranos.
>>17333637
Sounds like you've been checking her out.
>Can't stop looking at her tits and nipples when she goes around braless
>Leave the door to the bathroom unlocked in hope she'll walk in and see me in the nude.
>She wearing these revealing clothes to tease me.
>She sat in front of me of me and if i twisted my head the right way I could tell she wasn't wearing panties.
>She accidentally kissed me on the mouth and I can't stop thinking about it.
Tell her your strictly dickly unless you want to become/are a scissor sister.
If you bf doesn't want to hear about it or doesn't believe you I suggest you move on
>>17333652
You know some yoga pants are basically transparent on a sunny day right?
Hello /adv/
I want to fuck my girlfriend without condom on the last day of her menstruation. I googled this and some sources warn for pregnancy because sperm cells can be alive during an early ovulation.
Question: How big is the chance my gf will become pregnant if I will cum inside of her during her last day of menstruation?
She doesn't use the pill by the way.
Pic related: the Red Sea. And it looks surprisingly similar to a vagina too
Calendar planning is a very risky method not sponsored by /adv/ Planned Parenthood ™
>>17333610
I know it is a risky method. But is it still risky on the last day of menstruation?
>>17333610
The trojan people say it has the same percentile rate as using condoms.
That's what the book in the box said anyway
How real is the concept of "passion" ? Have you found something that you are genuinely passionate about?
Yes.
>>17333584
Can I ask what it is?
Someone told me no, it isn't real. You just enjoy what you're good at. Or if you're shit at it, if you work at it and see improvement, you'll enjoy it too. Do it more and you'll enjoy it enough to call it a passion. Success is the biggest motivator, and lack of success is the biggest discouragement.
I've got an interview for McDonald's tonight. What should I do? I just applied and got a call so I'm going in blind. What questions will they ask? This is my first job.
is this a joke. cause I've seen actually semi retarded people working at mcdonald's
>>17333559
Order qualifiers for McDonald's job consideration:
Show up.
Have a pulse.
Don't be drunk or high.
Order winners for McDonald's job consideration:
Be trainable.
Be available to work shifts at times they need a person to work.
That's it.
Show up. Be alive. Don't be drunk or high. Say, "I am trainable. I am available for work on the following days, at the following times:"
If, after that, you don't get the job, it's because they don't need people for those shifts.
When I was hired at a McD's they said, 'Sit down, fill this out, congrats you're hired'
Hell, I signed a paper saying that it doesn't matter if I do drugs just don't do it there
Hey /adv/
A friend of mine who's a girl commented on a photo of my friend and I on Facebook and said "cute, I mean your friend John not you". Wtf is the point of this??
She knows John will see it and she wants his d in her v. Don't worry about it, unless you're ugly af she probably just doesn't want to fuck friends
>>17333533
go to one of her phones, find one of her mom/dad .. say "cute, I meant your mom Betsy not you"
kek
>>17333533
2 reasons. One or the other. Maybe both.
Reason one.
She's a dumb bitch who has no concept of the impact of her words. She isn't intentionally being a bitch.
Reason two.
Judging by how you reacted you have feelings for her. I don't know, you may not. Either way, it rubbed you the wrong way. This may have been intentional to remind you where you sit on the friendzone bus
I discovered he was looking at pictures of kids and masturbating. Not illegal pictures, pictures of kids doing normal things, having happy lives. He says he's attracted to the concept of vulnerability and being taken care of. Kids represent this concept the best. Says he's never looked at illegal content and has no desire to.
/adv/, is this bs? I believe he has no desire to harm anybody, but cannot separate the concepts of 'wanking' and 'pics of kids', no matter the context. Surely the act alone sexualises them. Can you wank to these images and not sexualise them?!
Help me adv, I feel so stupid
Well, just because he is jerking it doesn't mean he's raping kids.
But it's still a bit unnerving to say the least.
If I was told that by my husband of 7 years I don't know how I'd feel. If it was my bf of 2 or 3 it would be a deal breaker.
Good luck
>>17333532
Masterbating is a sexual act so yes your BF is a pedo and needs help asap before he moves on to the real thing
>>17333532
Pic related.
>>17333549
This ..
I don't know what advice to give here. These "fantasies" can be progressive and lead to acts. I'd suggest telling an authority figure in your life.
Best college pen under 30 €. Go!
>>17333466
Get knifed you stupid normalfag
>>17333466
Maybe not "high quality" but I've always preferred my Cross pen. Got a silver Cross set from my parents when I graduated from high school 40+ years ago and still use them daily.
What are the pros and cons of nofap? I heard some stories about your life suddenly changing for the better after like two weeks or some shit. Now I don't really believe that, but I'm still curious what the benefits are. Also, how to actually go through with it.
If you don't mind the cringe, lurk in /r/NoFap, but the stories are usually out of proportion most of the time, the tips on how to survive are good tho
It didn't change my life or anything, I just feel more energy, it's much easier to get out of the bed in the morning and the memory is much better, focus as well
I think the reason why this works for me is that after fap I feel good like I just fullfilled my purpose and now I can just chill, I don't feel like doing anything and generally, everything is just meh
The biggest mistake I encountered in some people is making fapping too big of a problem, if you can't stop why beat yourself down, just fap, jesus
I have nofapped for 6 weeks due to surgery, and i had the complete opposite experience from everyone else.
I couldn't think of anything other than sex, and my mind became more and more kinky.
I did a lot of the suggested tips and tricks like cold shower etc. but at the end of the day i still just wanted to nut and stop thinking of sex for a minute.
The point of the story is that i don't think there's anything to gain from nofap except if you're literally damaged in the head from fapping 5 times and watching hours of porn each day.
It's not magically going to change your life, but it might give you some foundation to build an improved confidence when it comes to dealing with women. Basically, if you combine nofap with the attitude that no woman, no matter the rate, has the power over you to make you want to fap to the thought of her, and instead of seeing her as a sexual object, you can just talk to her like any other person, since talking isn't going to lead anywhere - you'll have less pressure in yourself and it's something that can ease you into a more confident perspective in the whole dating/pickup game, as it'll free up time in the interaction schedule for gaining experience, without the risk of being rejected.
Also, what the other poster said, you'll have more energy. There's such a thing as orgasm hangover.
Hello. Just wondering if anyone knows the the title of the book that focuses on positive mental reframing techniques that has been posted here quite a bit. Much appreciated
>>17333454
Mein Kampf
Anything more you remember about it? This description fits a few.
>>17333459
Someone made the pdf it wasn't an actual book. Might have been nlp techniques but not 100% sure
How do I get over the fact that my girlfriend will fuck other guys after we do/if we do break up. I'm only 20 and I was her first. The main issue is that there are one or two guys I know that she'd likely fuck and I can't stand thinking about that. Them just waiting around for their chance. What do?
>>17333448
Go fuck those guys homo
>>17333448
Have you considered the fact that you yourself will be pounding someone else's hairy slit? Why does it matter to you who is fucking your ex by then? If it matters that much don't let her go.
Murder
I just broke up with a girl I was seeing off and on for seven months. It was a very stressful time for me; others and even herself claim that she was emotionally abusive towards me.
Minor things, that in my head played out as me being a pussy or just sensitive, were actually major indicators of abuse. As a result, I'm left feeling really hollow. I poured a lot of emotional energy, time and effort into trying to make this girl as comfortable and as happy as possible. How do I recover or feel like I can invest in others or even just function?
The situation has revealed a lot of depression and anxiety on my end, usually showing itself as anger issues or emotional instability. I just want to feel normal, not broken, tired or sad that couldn't be the person I needed to be for this specific girl.
>>17333409
When you realize you've set unreasonable and unrealistic standards for your emotional state you'll feel better
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VrFV5r8cs0
>>17333409
>sad that couldn't be the person I needed to be for this specific girl.
What sort of person do you think you needed to be anon? What do you think you could have done to make her not an abusive person? Why are you the only one who needed to be a certain way for it to work? Why didn't she need to be less emotionally abusive?
You can't be responsible for how someone else feels and what they want. You can't be a good enough person to just MAKE someone else want to be good too. You need to let go of that.
>>17333447
There's a lot to it. Essentially she's struggling with her sexual identity; at the very least bisexual but more than likely a lesbian.
Recognizing that she needed to figure this out, I would break it off and she would reinitiate our romance through various means: telling me to come over and fuck her, telling me she's made a mistake disregarding our chemistry, telling me she loved me. at one point she told me she was considering suicide and needed me for support. All of these instances had a backlash of "I cannot commit to you. I told you I can't do a relationship and I want women". I was often made to feel that I was in the wrong and that I was subtlely manipulating her to my wants. I have a biased perspective, but more often than not I bent over backwards to accommodate her.
You make strong valid points, but I cannot help but I was the one in the wrong; I was the bad fit and should have left her to her own devices.
I didn't think I could fix her by being good enough, I thought I could fix her by showing that compassion others still exists. I just got taken advantage of though.
What is the best way to learn how to play piano for free ?
I own an old 88 keys electronic piano and I've always wanted to be able to play it
The thing is piano lessons are often expensive so I can't really learn with a teacher. I've also browsed several "free websites" or watched videos that are actually not free after a few lessons...
>>17333405
Memorize the keys
Then start hitting them to the rhythm your heart desires
Youtube
Fourms
Etc
>>17333405
Learn to read and play sheet music.
Start with simple nursery rhymes
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