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My boyfriend always likes to spend like 3 hours watching wrestling a few nights a week.
I'm fine with this because it's his "me" time like other guys play vidya or whatever
But when I'm at his house and he's watching it for hours I get really bored, what can I do to entertain myself while he watches?
You can catch up on reading or any other hobby really.
You have hobbies, right?
watch it with him; wrestling is super fun; and there is just as much fun for women involved too!
It's all theatrical, everyone knows its fake- but its like going to see a band with fun themes. Its great to just get caught up in the goofy stories.
>>17325166
Sometimes I watch a wee bit but it doesn't interest me that much and this is dumb but I find the violence kinda disturbing
>>17325165
I don't really read...and yeah I do have hobbies but because he likes to watch from like 9-12 at night I can't really go out and do them so I just sit around being bored
Talking to a co-worker about this thing that happened with a friend of my friend's who was attracted(was told "she wanted to ride your face".) to me. Said co-worker says that some other co-worker felt the same way. Find out it was someone who I also thought was attractive. Said co-worker told the other co-worker, & with the other co-worker saying, "oh that's going to make things funny next time we see each other," from Said co-worker.
See other co-worker the next day & she says hey to me first & I reciprocate it. Then the day after I talk to her in her area of work on my lunch break. We just talk about just things in life. It all was pretty honest talk. I even say I feel that we're on the same wave lengths with a lot of things. Ask what she wants to be in life.
We go back & forth on what she wants to be. I ask of her boyfriend's aspirations in life. She mentions of the things that he isn't doing shit. She then tries to think of a word to further describe him.
I guess a few words until I nailed it. "Potential" was what she was looking for with her eyes opening when looking at me. Later that night she added me over facebook. Added her back the next day. Now it's some casual conversation at work, she always says hey to me when she passes by.
This happened over last week. Might see her again tomorrow. Into this girl that has a boyfriend. This happened. Am I thinking too much into this? What do I do?
Jesus dude this is way to complicated with said coworker and shit being used over and over. You should revise this summary with use of fake names to help clear things out.
>>17325157
>Talking to a co-worker about this thing that happened with a friend of my friend's who was attracted(was told "she wanted to ride your face".) to me. Said co-worker says that some other co-worker felt the same way. Find out it was someone who I also thought was attractive. Said co-worker told the other co-worker, & with the other co-worker saying, "oh that's going to make things funny next time we see each other," from Said co-worker.
I have no fucking clue what you're talking about.
But I do see myself in the same situation with someone I've known for a couple of years now, she also just got a boyfriend or the closest thing to it.
So I've always been able to cut off people really easily. No matter how deep my relationship is with them or how long we've known each other, everyone has always been a little expendable to me. Not that I don't appreciate them or anything, but its just really easy for me to cut off people after I've had a major falling out with them or even in the early stages of a relationship forming if they get flaky at all. I think that I possibly don't care about others as much as they care about me. Is this a bad thing? Can I fix it? Is what I'm doing a defense mechanism so I don't get hurt or something?
Why can I get to know someone, learn all of their secrets, get really close with them and then cut them off as if we are total strangers?
>>17325100
I don't know if I can properly answer this question as I do the exact same thing. Aside from maybe 2-3 people in my life, I don't really emotionally invest in others. But my childhood never really had stability. I moved around a lot, was a little weird (somewhat of a social outcast because I was a tomboy), had two close friends ditch me, and had to cut off family members because of abuse. In my case, I definitely would say it's a defense mechanism. It's something I'm working on though, and I'm trying to learn how to give people the benefit of the doubt if something goes wrong. Another big thing is that I don't really "let people in." I'm always the person others turn to for advice, because I had to grow up so quickly and I've made it through a long string of bad situations. But I never vent to others. I never talk about my own problems because they seem way out there, and more severe, than the problems of others. Not that talking about it would help anyway, I tend to solve stuff on my own after reflecting. But when you don't allow yourself to be vulnerable, you have a permanent wall around you. You're guarded. People can find that intimidating and most aren't interested in breaking it down.
>>17325100
You're not in tune with your emotions or you're completely disconnected from them. If you take an MMPI test I bet you're most likely a really strong T(hinking) type personality. Do you have any empathy at all towards them or are you just indifferent?
Completely cutting someone off that has emotionally invested in you, with little to no warning, is a cruel thing to do. If you were close with them then the least you can do is communicate with them.
How do you know that you just suck and the people only pretended to be you're friend and we're relieved when you never talked to them again?
How do I get Twitter followers?
Forreal all the ones I have are bots and shitty bands and YouTubers that dont retweet my stuff
I know it's a dumb thing to want but plz help
Tweet actually interesting stuff and follow people you know irl.
>>17325096
None of my freinds are active on social media and I'm pretty sure I would get more RTs/likes if I got more exposure
That's the problem with the younger generation. You have no real goals. Everyone young person wants to be some famous personality because they see these people getting attention or money from their opinion. The thing is, these people wouldn't have a decent perspective on things if they only sat around twiddling on their cell phones all day like millenials. You have to go out and explore the world and fucking do something. Then when the world has chiseled and reshaped you're sheltered mind into something useful, will you have an opinion that people give a shit about.
How do I 100% over my girlfriends past?
We've been dating almost 6 months and I feel like I still am not over it completely. I'm 19 she is almost 18. She's done 5 guys before me. One more but they didn't have sex, just fingerbanging.
Me? She's the only girl I've ever been with. I was homeschooled all throughout my high school life so I never got out there until I had a job and a car to meet girls.
I managed to pretty much let it go almost entirely by telling myself that women like sex too and if I had the chance, I would have fucked dozens of girls. Not to mention I went on several dates before her and failed at 'winning' over those girls.
its up to you if shes worth her past brah
like if you keep bringing it up shell find 5 more guys who wont judge" her
>>17325027
Dude, I didn't judge her in the beginning because I didn't really care. I just wanted a girlfriend to have frequent sex with. Then I caught feels for her. That's when I started caring because I fucking hate it that other guys have had flings with her and shit even though I would do the same thing with other girls if I had the chance.
She liked me in the beginning because I didn't judge her past. Then when it became clear that I did judge her past, she didn't mind. She's puts up with my bullshit like no other girl and I love that.
>>17325034
She can do a million times better than you
I have done something that ended up in newspapers and I ended up losing my job, losing the respect of many around me and losing even friendships.
All because of deeper problems I suffered as an individual and the things I believed as a result of that suffering. I've delved into hatred, anger and sought vengeance. For that I have suffered. I've hurt my girlfriend, my family, my church and many other people who were also in the process of hurting.
I quite frankly took beliefs that many would call 'edgy' and manifested them into reality. Of which caused so much suffering and in turn made me suffer.
I want to talk about what lead me to believe in Fascism.
What made me have the view of God that I do, I believe in him but I believe he is vengeful and angry with us.
What caused me to hate so many and identify myself with characters like D-Fens from Falling Down, with Walter White from Breaking Bad.
What I did caused me to leave my city and I'm now crashing at a friends house out in the middle of bumfuck nowhere with 150mbps internet. My girlfriend has suffered especially but sticks by me.
If anyone wants to talk about it, I appreciate it so much. I need help and it doesn't seem I can find it through public or even church means. My pastor barely talks with me and the therapists around are far too expensive for someone like me.
>>17325011
Prolonged usage of imageboards will turn you into a completely different person.
All you can do is apologize and go on from there. Or you can remove everyone from your past life and move on.
The choice is yours.
>>17325011
>bumfuck nowhere
>150mbps internet
lol what?
anyway, if you wanna share, we'll read it.
as with any fuckup, it'll always help to direct your focus towards improving the situation rather than mourning your loss.
>>17325032
I've been apologizing. I realize that I'm at a crossroads in my life in which I must decide that I take a more positive path or a far more negative one. The only reason I didn't leave the fucking state was because of my girlfriend and how much I love her.
>>17325033
>anyway, if you wanna share, we'll read it.
I don't want to share too many details but I basically went out and pissed a very large group of people in the heart of my city. Said large group of people took pictures of me and my girlfriend and spread them on facebook for a time. It's all stopped now but her family, my family and my workplace caught wind of it and reacted very negatively.
I didn't do anything illegal mind you.
I just expressed a very unpopular opinion.
In a very nasty way.
I've just been apoligizing left and right. I'm not sure what else to do besides work on changing myself as well.
/adv/ I just turned down this girl that seemed really into me and she wanted to fuck but i have a girlfriend that I'm really into, but I don't feel good about turning the girl down.
Is this normal? Why do i feel bad?
u did the right thing if you care about your girlfriend so fuck your feelings.
>>17325006
Go fuck your girl, that'll make you remember why you refused the other one.
>>17325006
I had something vaguely similar happen and didn't get involved either. We made the right choice but it's hard, especially if the girl who's keen on you is really cool.
>hate being alone
>hate socializing
what do, /adv/?
stop judging things negatively.
>>17325004
Bump, i feel the same
ok first of all because you post on /adv/ I know you inherently don't want to except advice but listen up for once in your GOD DAMN LIFE.
You don't hate social situations you are just unfamiliar with them. You have been alone for a while. You know what it feels like. The slow pang of isolation is a yearning to socialize. Every part of loneliness has been explored but you are so comfortable with it you decide to stick with it.
But I get anxiety when I am around people! Yes, just like everyone else but this is a tiny hurdle. Maybe you have more severe anxiety, but it can be worked through, people have done it before; You're not special.
But other people are annoying/assholes/uninteresting! No fuck you, there are 7 billion people just hanging around. If you don't like some one you don't have to socialize with them.
Once you start to get a handle on just being around people, not only will you enjoy socializing, but you will also enjoy being alone and introspective.
also stop fucking frog posting you autistic retard
I just want my brother to envy my money, but he's got that hair. Why can't I have hair and money and him nothing?
Women prefer money
>>17324978
this isn't about women. I want my brother to stop acting like he's better than me when he lives in a fucking trailer with his girlfriend. meanwhile I have a 3 bedroom house and a lexus.
>>17324983
owning a lexus isnt cool anymore. everybody has moved on to the toyota 86/subaru brz dude.
your brother will not envy you no matter how much money you got. he knows he dont need money to be happy. sure you are crying in your mansion, but he is happy as a pig in shit in his squaller and thats something you cant buy and he knows it.
I feel aimless.
Ever since my ex betrayed me and I left her, I've just been on a hedonistic binge of meaningless sex with awful women.
I met one girl that I actually connected with and she ended up living on another continent to me.
My only aspiration is music and although I want to improve, I don't know where to start with guitar and singing.
I want to obtain a nice relaxing job at a record store but don't know how.
I'm failing my uni course.
Don't know if I want to study next year.
Someone well adjusted please help me figure some shit out
You have autism and need a therapist to help you cope
are you good at guitar and singing? would people pay to hear you? If you answered yes to both those questions then a career in music might be right for you.
>>17325002
I think I do have some mild autism, yes.
>>17325007
They already do pay me to play but I don't feel good enough
It's almost as if I feel like I'm lying to everyone about how good I am and they're going to find out one day so I need to be actually good before that happens.
Shoulld I give my long distance relationshop ex-girlfriend closure? I can't fucking sleep at night after just having vanished. It has been eight months. I need to sleep.
What do you think, get it over with
>>17324923
Why did you vanish?
talk to her but tell her you just want closure and that you don't want to rekindle your relationship.
Should i tell me sister i got herpes?
well
are u fucking ur sister
>>17324940
Beat me to it
>>17324940
Were married as is tradition
How do I get my hair to look like this
Forgot to add that I have a similar cowlick in the front
Does your face have the shape for the haircut? Are you attractive? If yes to all of the above just go to a barbershop and show them the picture.
>get a long top undercut
>part it asymmetrically 90/10 (back on the tiny side, the the left on the wide side)
>cut off the bang/side overhang
How do you give presentations? I get up in front of even a small audience and I get light headed and my mind goes blank its really embarrassing. I want to become an accountant but know ill probably have to give presentations. So how do I do it?
How prepared are you for it? Do you practice in the mirror or in front of a couple of friends?
>inb4 I don't have any friends
Confidence.
Are you insecure in anyway? Are you overweight? Go to the gym. Are you socially awkward? Meet new people. It's all about confidence. Even shooting a gun can give you confidence. Go to a boxing gym and learn how to fight. Confidence bro. All about confidence.
>>17324884
yeah I don't really have friends but I practice and put it on note cards and my voice gets all shaky. I like stay up all night before speaking practicing.
How can I become a dragon?
A fuck load of drugs
LSD & Spyro for PS1
>>17324861
>>17324865
I mean really become one.
